How to educate rebellious high school girls?

It should be said that most children will have a period of rebellion, parents should communicate more with their children, understand their children's ideas more, and do not impose their own ideas on their children.

During the rebellious period, it is normal to show disobedience, on the one hand, children in the rebellious period will show great disgust with their parents' orders. Try to speak in a consultative tone with your child.

On the other hand, you should think about whether the parents' requirements are reasonable, and don't force your children to do what you don't want to do, if others force you to do things you don't want to do, you will also show disobedience.

The handling of disobedience should also be divided into situations:

If there are general problems, it can be done by the child's wishes, otherwise too many restrictions will inhibit the child's natural development.

For safety and conduct issues, we should set rules for him, pay attention to principles, and let him know what not to do and what the consequences are. Disciplining him is not about not making mistakes, but about letting him know that he is responsible for his actions.

Usually pay attention to the words and deeds of parents, set an example, many children's behaviors are a reflection of parents. Parents are well-behaved, and the children who are exposed to them must be upright.

For children who are in the rebellious period, parents should use these methods to educate them.

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I think it's essential to know your child first, that's the basics. Many parents feel that they know their children very well, but in fact, understanding their children has to go to the inner world of their children. Know what their interests are, know what they desire, and more importantly, know what they care about most.

After knowing this, you have to understand, to experience, to make friends with your own children, and when he and you become friends who talk about everything, many problems will be solved. Parents also know how to educate and influence their children according to their nature. For girls, you should communicate more emotionally, actively talk to them, chat, even if it is a little thing that doesn't matter, you will learn from it what girls need more in adolescence.

Knowing what they need, parents can help guide her to get what she wants independently. In this way, when they grow up, they will understand that they have to strive for everything themselves, and not rely on one person, especially those men who are not very personable.

My daughter hates the teacher and the school.

1. Establish a correct view of love. Instill and educate children with correct love and sexual concepts, and give children correct guidance to prevent children from falling in love and being hurt too early.

2.Be your child's friend. Get along with each other in the way of friends, communicate more, give her personal space, don't have the concept of superiors and subordinates, don't scold and blame, the rebellious psychology in the rebellious period will only become more and more rebellious against you, and you must have appropriate praise and encouragement.

3.Listen to your child's opinions and ideas. Children generally have their own ideas, when she expresses them, parents should listen in time, the right can be absorbed, and the wrong can be corrected in time, so that the child feels your respect for her, and the child will grow up healthy and happy.

4.If the parents really have no choice, send the professional school to take care of it, and the children of friends will be sent to Zhi'en special training for a period of time, and the children will change a lot and be more sensible

My child asked if there was such a situation, and when I asked, I knew how to communicate with my child.

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Many parents do everything for their children out of the protection of their children, so that children gradually lose their independence. Some parents rarely talk to their children because of their busy work, but set some strict rules to restrict their children's behavior, children only feel indifference and no warmth, only control and no freedom, coupled with the lack of communication with parents, it is easy to produce rebellious psychology and rebellious behavior. Weifan Psychological Counseling is willing to provide you with professional and effective consulting services.

1. Respect children. Don't always make things difficult for your child's shortcomings, and don't always compare your child with other children. When contacting children, try to focus on daily chat topics to reduce the resistance of children in Jeongju to their parents.

2. Empathy. Everyone has come from the rebellious period of adolescence, so in the face of children's incomprehensible behavior, you might as well empathize and think about why this is happening. After having empathy, the tease book will understand the child and find out the crux of the problem.

3. Do not start from learning. Communicating with children, do not open and close their mouths about academic performance, which will only make children feel stressed and doubt the motivation of parents to communicate. When communicating, parents can start with family affairs and talk about business after their children's emotions have stabilized.

4. Parents should use reason to control their feelings, and be able to deal with things calmly without being impatient or impatient. In daily life, students are consciously cultivated to be self-reliant, let them do their own things, and gradually eliminate their dependence.

5. Understand Shanhong's behavior, and help them solve problems and free them from depression and loneliness.

Parents guide from these aspects:

1. If parents want to get the effect of doing more and more in educating their children, they must first let themselves gain the trust of their children. When children trust us, they will believe everything we say, and they will naturally not rebel. But we need to trust each other.

Parents should believe that their children are excellent, and when they make mistakes, do not blindly blame, but patiently teach them ways and means of doing things. In this way, children will be given more love and confidence, and they will become better.

2. Usually, we should have a positive and optimistic attitude towards our children and show them our beautiful image. No matter how unsatisfactory our work and life are, no matter how bad our mood is, we can't show it in front of them. Such a family and such an environment are the most conducive to the growth of children.

3. When the child has signs of abnormality, we should communicate with him as soon as possible, which will also shorten the distance between us and the child's heart. Of course, different communication styles will have different effects, so we must pay attention to the way of communication, and at the same time we must learn to empathize, so that we will not look at children's behavior one-sidedly.

4. We also have to remember one thing: you can't spoil your child too much, even if it's the only child in the family. Because doting will make children form a self-centered mind, thinking that they are the most important, so that they can accept the tolerance of others as a matter of course.

5. When children encounter any problems or obstacles in the process of growing up, we should provide them with solutions in a timely manner, and encourage and guide them out of the predicament. Don't put too much pressure on them.

6. The biggest contradiction between us and children is their learning. When children are not learning well, we don't complain and don't blame. Nowadays, children study very hard, and they are facing pressure from parents, schools, classmates, etc., and generally do not study hard.

At this time, parents can look at their children's other strengths and try to make them develop holistically in all aspects.

7. Try to achieve "three more" and "three less": more consultation and less orders, more guidance and less reprimand, more friends and less snooping on "privacy".

1. Parents should reflect on their words and deeds and be qualified parents. When there is a communication barrier between parents and children, parents should first reflect on themselves and whether they have inappropriate language and manners in their lives that hinder further communication between children and you. Here you can refer to the "Ten Good Habits of Good Parents" proposed by teacher Yu Yu and Gu Xiaoming, a family education instructor, as a model for learning.

2. Guarantee the time for communication and provide equal communication space. Parents should not use busyness as an excuse to neglect communication with their children. Most of the parents of high school students have entered the development period or peak period of their careers, and they are the backbone or leaders of the unit.

They are busy with work and socializing after work, and have no more time to spend on their children, especially some parents think that they can no longer tutor their children academically, so they leave all the responsibility for educating their children to schools and teachers.

3. Master the methods of communication, and broaden the words or problems of communication. Communication with children is a science, and it is necessary for parents to master certain communication methods. Parents should carefully observe and study their children, children have different psychological development characteristics at different ages, and the education must be carried out according to the characteristics of children's psychosomatic development.

Change "I speak" to "I listen" and listen carefully to the children's voices. When listening, you should maintain a high degree of concentration, let the child feel your attention and respect, express affirmation through language, gaze or posture to the child's reasonable point, do not rush to correct the child's wrong views, do not interrupt the child's speech, and understand the child's prejudice or misunderstanding due to the child's limited age and ability to express his or her inner thoughts accurately.

1. Observe and communicate. It is to observe the way her daughter communicates with herself. In many cases, parents have to go beyond their role and look at the problem of their daughter's rebellion from the perspective of a third party.

2. Keep calm when you carry and sell. Impatient parents should remind themselves to stay calm and wait for their children to calm down before communicating.

3. Find hidden files for advice. When disciplining children, sometimes it is necessary to seek the opinions of others to broaden one's mind. It is best to communicate with your child's teacher to understand how your child is doing in school.

4. Open yourself. When parents find that their children's interests are affecting their homework, do not ban them immediately, and it is better to know more about the situation.