How to solve the problem of self doubt

There will be many moments of self-doubt in life, and the secret to coping with it is actually very simple, four words "be patient".

What should I do if the new product marketing shelf is set up and there is no traffic? Be patient and try a few more different methods. What should I do if I have so much work that I feel like I can never finish it?

Be patient and deal with the important things first. What should I do if I am not inspired to write an article? Be patient, comb through the notes in your phone memos, and find inspiration.

A job that can't be done all the time, there is an urge to do something perfunctory. Be patient and finish the parts that you can easily handle first. When I'm stuck in traffic, have insomnia, or even feel constipated, I mutter these four words:

Be patient. >< such as Xue Zhiqian and Wang Baoqiang's public relations series. I don't think these articles are really very nutritious, except for making people think that my PR skills are awesome, and they don't help their lives. On the contrary, not many people read the tome articles that I wrote with my scalp.

In fact, these things can bring a lot of tangible changes to everyone's work and life. But why is it that no one reads hard goods articles, most people still lack patience. Even though the overall quality of my readers is already a notch or two higher than the average person's cognitive level, there are still quite a few people who lack patience.

Patience doesn't really require you to improve much.

Just remind yourself to be "patient" and many things can be done much better. It can also overcome a state of self-doubt.

First of all, you should tell yourself that it is not your own problem. Everyone is born with a blank slate, and those so-called shortcomings are nothing more than acquired habits. At the same time, do not blame your mother, your birth has caused her great suffering, and as for the genetic problems of your personality, it seems that the current level of medicine does not fully prove anything.

Since the shortcomings are acquired, there must be a way to correct them. And in your current situation, it may be because of problems in relationships and friendships that will cause a series of reactions. There are gains and losses, so when you lose, you also gain something.

It's just that temporary damage blocks your view. Learn to let go, go with the flow, I believe that you will definitely get out of the misunderstandings of life, and you should smile when you live. ：）

Sometimes, we are already this person, but we don't like this person, we may have some flaws in our personality, maybe we are easy to be jealous, maybe we will revenge, maybe we will be cautious, we can't control this emotion, because we are probably already such a person, but in our head there is always someone telling us that this is very bad, but when we encounter things, we may still be jealous and stingy.

What can we do? In fact, we may have known what to do, but our emotions strongly affect our behavior, and we can't break through it, so we can only make ourselves more avoidant.

In fact, many times in life, the enemy you have to face is yourself, not others.

Ay! You have a similar personality to my ex-wife! That's what she looks like!

But her parents passed away 5 years ago, she had several boyfriends before me, she was married (I was unmarried) I didn't care about anything, betrayed all my relatives around me, friends, and we got married after living with her for 2 years! But six months after that, we got divorced! Ay!

I deeply hurt my relatives, friends, and more importantly my family! Parents, sisters! Ay!

Looking back, I really regret it! Shan: "Really made me !!

I advise you to see a psychiatrist soon! Or you will hurt everyone around you |!!

Ay! I wish you a speedy "**".

Don't denigrate yourself, you need to build self-confidence, believe in yourself, you will always be the best. The ancients said: If people are not born to know, who can be free from confusion?

A person must believe in himself and affirm himself in everything he does, why does Nike put on the slogan "Just Do It"? Because in 1972, the CEO of Nike worked hard to open this company, and the dangers did not overwhelm him, he believed in himself, affirmed himself in everything he did, and there was nothing in the world that could not be done, so I was afraid that you would doubt yourself if you didn't do it. Go for it!

Complaining is just pouring water into your own shoes to make the road harder. The best way to take revenge on others is to live more wonderful than others.

Are you a Scorpio? Be sure to reply to me, I have the same question as you.

Self-doubt and self-denial is a kind of weak person psychology, the so-called weak person psychology, simply described, can be interpreted as a kind of overly devaluing self-ability or emphasizing personal feelings, always feeling that they should be understood and taken care of.

Individuals with this perception often do not consider their own efforts and rarely care about the feelings of others, but only blindly emphasize their own inadequacy and try to defer primary responsibility.

People with the psychology of the weak will only act according to their own thinking patterns, will not empathize, and will not take the initiative to take responsibility, but like a marionette, waiting for others to give instructions, and then they can justifiably shift the responsibility to others. And such people often have a glass heart that shatters when touched. This is a kind of subconscious that can't accept different opinions, and the slightest criticism or a few words will immediately show a very hurt look.

Self-denying personality traits:

1. One is the pursuit of perfection. Since he was a child, his parents did not let him make mistakes, which caused him to be cautious all the time, and if he made a little mistake, he blamed himself very much, felt defeated, and could not bear the consequences of this failure.

2. The second is that he has not received encouragement from his parents since he was a child, but he has been constantly attacking, and this kind of child will continue to apologize to others when he grows up, constantly deny himself, and have no independent thoughts, for fear that he will do something wrong and offend the people around him.

Mistakes at work made me lose confidence in myself. But fortunately, as long as you work hard to reflect and fill in the gaps, problems can always be avoided and your ability will always improve.

This is followed by the handling of family relationships. I feel that some words of gratitude are just unspeakable, and the idea of caring is not in place, and I always put myself first. I can't give the same feedback to my loved ones who have been good to me.

The most fundamental thing is that it comes from emotional blows. Several times I felt that I could have the sweet and stable love I wanted again. In the end, I found that everything was in vain, and I was coarse and self-moved, and there could be no result.

For many reasons, I fell into self-doubt, among which feelings had the greatest impact.

At one point, I wanted to go crazy. Escape from reality, escape from your unsatisfactory self.

But what can be done about escaping, in the end, it is not a matter of facing it alone. Don't rely on anyone, no one can help you, refuse external things, and think independently.

So what should Nian Zhen do?

I want to say: if you are cynical, the world will play with you.

What you are, what will happen in the end.

We have completed the past and formed our present self, which cannot be changed.

But the future self is built by us now.

Just like the above, if you continue, your work may eventually improve, and your relatives may eventually become estranged.

But if you want to have a good relationship, you must put your mind to it.

The arrival of beauty must be directly proportional to the hard work paid.

Learning: No pain, no gain.

Work: a reward for hard work.

Feelings: A piece of sincerity is waiting for a sincere feeling.

That's pretty much it. Don't look at the bad self in front of you, extremely depressed, extremely embarrassed. Learn to forge a good path before you produce a result. In order to meet the future and a better self.

Summary. You have to have confidence in yourself, refrain from this situation, don't think too much about everything, talk to friends, go outside for a walk, and see a psychiatrist if necessary.

Self-doubt is a form of anxiety.

I let myself accept my cranky thoughts and tolerate and forgive myself. But at the same time, I think that this idea of mine is essentially to protect myself, to form a kind of protective barrier. I feel that this forgiveness of myself is actually lying to myself, and I am very confused about what is wrong with me, whether I am drilling the horns or not.

You have to have confidence in yourself, refrain from this situation, don't think too much about everything, talk to friends, go outside for a walk, and see a psychiatrist if necessary.

Serious need**.

I didn't study some time ago, but I didn't pay attention. Today, when I suddenly enter the study, I will think about the experience and methods I summarized before, and for a moment I feel as if I am using these methods to protect myself, as if I still can't do the experience of the summary, I am very confused, and I feel that I am drilling the horns.

This should find the source of the disease.

Whether it's a stressful study or something else depends on what's going on on with you.

In this case, go to a psychiatrist, open your heart, and talk about it.

You can't adjust to this situation by yourself, so you have to communicate more with your friends and parents.

Self-regulation must be self-controlled.

But every time I don't study very easily, it's okay, that is, as long as I'm studying and watching the study **, if I think crankily, I can't accept myself, I will fall into a tangle, I feel that all my previous experience is fake, it is the way I use to protect myself and study well, I feel that I don't accept myself in essence, I feel that my so-called tolerance of myself is fake, I don't know how to concentrate, play up the spirit of learning. It's too sleepy.

Or is it caused by learning.

You can consult a counsellor to mediate the situation.

Accept yourself and exercise restraint with yourself.

You still have to get out on your own.

Do what you love and talk to your friends.

Talk to a counselor.

The counselor will have a way to deal with it and enlighten you.

In the past, whenever I wanted to do something, I often had self-doubts, doubting whether it would work out, whether there would be rebuttals, whether there would be criticism, whether there would be ridicule, even if it was one of them, I would be very nervous, and I often fell into such self-doubts, which made me very confused.

After self-doubt, when I plucked up the courage to do it, I found that there were no doubts and voices of doubt, only some questions that were not clear about the problem, and the imaginary thunder and rainstorm, whether to die or live, all appeared.

Others don't care about you so much, as long as you do well, usually no one will blame, after all, there are very few such people, people want to maintain their own image, compassion and judgment, gentle and educated to people, can point out problems in good faith without embarrassment.

For the rough accusations, there are even rarer, occasionally, just like buying a lottery ticket, waiting for a thousand years. Of course, this kind of thing depends on the circle you are in, what kind of people you are, what kind of words you will say, you will have a bottom in your heart.

Don't worry too much about what you're doing, you should worry about when you don't try anything.

It's an opportunity to learn when others raise objections, and how can you become better without objections?

Different opinions can enrich people's material library, just like the Antarctic and Arctic mountains are all available, but in opposite directions, people have created a compass. When two opposite things come together, it becomes Taijitu, what a great idea.

Appropriate skepticism is normal, excessive skepticism, you should adjust it in time, don't let it affect your judgment.

Ways to address concerns:

1. Take a fresh look at the things that cause doubts. Pay attention to which situations raise doubts. Then try to look at it another way.

For example: **When you can't get through, when there are more and more doubts, we have to think that maybe they are in a meeting, and it is inconvenient to answer**. Just because you're missing doesn't mean they're bad.

2. When troubles arise, try to stop imagining. Doubt can interfere with life and weaken our concentration. It is a good choice to stop yourself in time and distract yourself from other things, such as reading books and running.

3. Ask yourself if there is evidence to support it. If a particular spring feast is constantly disturbing us, the auspicious grip may be a sign of our instinctive "trouble". Look for evidence before we act.

4. If your suspicions are real, make up your mind. It's normal to have doubts in a relationship, but your partner often lies, cheats on you, or is unreliable, which could be a sign that you should leave. Healthy relationships should not be unduly controlled, deceitful, disloyal.

If they can't respect you, then the relationship may not be the best relationship for you.

5. Talk to a psychologist. If you're unsure of your concerns, contacting a psychologist and talking to a professional can help clear your mind.