Why don t I miss him anymore, but I can t let go?

Four people encountered in a person's life.

The first is yourself, the second is the person you love the most, the third is the person who loves you the most, and the fourth is the person you spend your life with. First of all, you will meet the person you love the most, and then experience the feeling of love, because you understand the feeling of being loved, so you can find the person who loves you the most, when you have experienced loving and being loved, and learned to love, you will know what you need, and you will find the most suitable person for you, who can get along for a lifetime, but very sadly, in real life, these three people are usually not the same person, the one you love the most, often does not choose you, and the one who loves you the most is often not your favorite, the longest, It's not the one you love the most or the one who loves you the most, it's just the person who appeared at the most suitable time. How many people will you be in someone else's life?

No one deliberately wants to change his mind, he really loves you when he loves you, but he really doesn't love you when he doesn't love you, he can't pretend not to love you when he loves you, and similarly, he can't pretend to love you when he doesn't love you.

When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him, if you don't love him anymore, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem, if you still love him, you should want him to live happily, hope that he can be with the person he really loves, and will never stop him, if you prevent him from getting real happiness, it means that you don't love him anymore, and if you don't love him anymore, what right do you have to accuse him of changing his mind?

Love is not possession, you like the moon, it is impossible to take the moon down and put it in the basin, but the light of the moon can still shine into your room.

In other words, if you love someone, you can also have it in another way, so that the lover becomes your eternal memory of life.

If you really love someone, you have to love him as he is, love his good and his bad, love his good and love his shortcomings.

You must not want him to become what you want to be because you love him, if you can't change it, you won't love him, you can't tell the reason for really loving someone, you just know that no matter when and where, good or bad, you want this person to accompany you, the real feeling is that the two can stay together in the most difficult time, that is, there is no slightest requirement.

After all, feelings must be given, not only obtained, separation is an inevitable test, if your relationship is not stable enough, you have to admit defeat, true love will not turn into resentment.

It's like driving a car, and you hit the brakes, but the car is still moving forward.

That's inertia.

Time can be forgotten. Love him and bless him.

Sometimes if you think about it simply, it might not be so bad!

Ha, I've forgotten a boy I had a crush on in junior high school, it's been n years! But now I still haven't had a boyfriend, I don't know why, are I waiting for him?? I don't know, because I don't have any news about him at all, and I don't know at all that he's in **, in which city, in **......

Unforgettable. Time.

Bless. You are.

There is only one thing I want to say, a passive breakup hurts you more than an active breakup.

This is purely from your point of view.

If it were me, I would never be with someone who doesn't like foreign trade and personality, no matter how much he touches me.

Loneliness is not living alone, but having no color.

You are alone now because no one understands you.

I was single for 2 years, during which I was not lonely, I had friends, confidants, rich spare time, my pursuit of life and ideals, and the girls who chased me moved me, but I didn't agree to any of them, until I met someone I liked.

Let it go, it's better to experience a short-term or long-term pain than a lifetime.

Although I have not experienced what happened to you, I know how serious and deep you are sending this statement! I think the main problem between you is the lack of effective communication, and then the way of communication is not right, resulting in both parties not being able to accept each other with an open mind, let alone compromising with each other! Also, you have to admit that he doesn't love you enough, you can understand that he doesn't love you enough!

Judging from the long river of life, I think it is the best choice for you to leave him! Girls, you must draw your own bottom line, show your own standards, and let the other party know that you must not go out of line! Hope you are happy!

Don't rush when you quarrel, you can talk calmly, if you really feel that he doesn't understand you, doesn't understand you, and you also feel wronged, you can separate a little time. Don't spend too much energy on him, you can try to do something else. It's just my thoughts, the two people who go upstairs are saying very well, you can take some that you find useful to try.

I wish you happiness !!

I think your world shouldn't be the only one, you can try to expand your circle, be better to yourself, girls still have to be self-reliant, don't put all your eyes on each other, you can do what you want to do, enrich yourself, whether it's learning or life, divert your attention, and slowly get better, maybe it's too familiar, lack of distance, let him see more of your shining points, regain the initiative, if you still want to be with him, you might as well give it a try, Don't leave your pleasure to him, decide for yourself!

I can see that you have psychological problems, some concepts should be changed, I have a few good ways, if you can do one of them, you can harvest your love.

First, the change of thinking, bad men are taught by bad women, and the favored man thinks that he is a woman.

Second, the material basis, if the two of you are not the kind of rich people, it is estimated that the probability of being together will be much lower.

3. Inner needs, maybe you still haven't really understood your boyfriend's real inner world, and some things have to be borne by both of you.

Fourth, the demand changes, a thing has been owned for a long time, may not be cherished, you can try to change the boyfriend to try, can you adapt.

5. Think about what you've gotten him over the years, and what you've got; What he has changed, and what you have changed; What he did for you, and what you did for him.

Try to let go of your arrogance and coax him, after all, we've been together for a long time, and you have to empathize and see what he thinks

What happened to the landlord, I and my object are like this this year, we have been talking for three years, and when I think of something bad he did, I want to beat him up, and I want to break up, but I am unwilling, and I think it is too cheap to beat him to death.

Dear, you're really a little stupid. is so stupid that she forgets herself, no matter what she is in the relationship, a woman should be a little more kind to herself. Don't put your hopes in the other person.

Knowing that he can't give you happiness and still plunging into it, you are really stupid to the point that there is no cure ......I know I can't do it, I really don't know what to say.

Even if you can really marry him later, but you are making a lot of noise, your parents will not bless you, and the people around you are also watching jokes, so why bother ......

I don't want to scold you, because I understand that you give your sincere emotions in this relationship, but he doesn't have to, and in his eyes you are just a game. You think you can't forget, but it's not, it's just not long enough. You can't bear the torment and pain of leaving, so you return to him.

Because once some habits are formed, it will be difficult to change them. But it's not impossible, it's just that you have to endure the pain in your heart.

I just want to tell you that your actions are morally impermissible. If he continues to indulge in this, he will only ruin himself, and he will not be responsible. So be strong and leave completely.

Learn to endure pain and learn to eat the bitter fruits of your own sowing. If you want to forget, maybe you can try to travel or talk to friends, or you can go back to your parents for a while and spend some time in peace. There's no need to deliberately forget, it's just a reminder to remember again and again.

Bury him deep in your heart, this crazy love is an experience in your life, and it will be incomplete if you forget it, so learn to be relieved and learn to look down, maybe it's better. Remember, be strong no matter what, and learn to endure pain. Don't soberly watch yourself sinking, get out!

Good luck!

Leave decisively.

This man is so irresponsible.

Don't give the rest of your life to such a man.

I also want to pedal two boats.

And even if you are married, it is not approved by both parents.

Give your child the right guidance.

Don't let your child be exposed to this harsh environment.

Find a good dad for your child.

Find yourself a good husband.

Little sister, compared to my grandfather's experience, you are weak.

If grandpa's emotional history leaks, the floor will also be shaken open.

Let's not talk about grandpa, let's give you advice first.

Looked at your experience.

Start by giving up.

What should I do if I fall in love with someone I shouldn't love, but I want to let go but I can't do it? What should I do if I fall in love with someone I shouldn't love, but I want to let go but I can't do it? What should I do if I fall in love with someone I shouldn't love, but I want to let go but I can't do it?

Personally, I think that this kind of thing should be explained clearly when you know his wife, and continue without you.

What he said to the comrades above is very reasonable.

Let me add one more point.

People have to learn to adapt to their environment.

Instead of waiting for circumstances to change for you to adapt.

The so-called survival of the fittest.

Furthermore, love is not the whole of life.

You're still very young.

You still have a lot to fight for, work for.

If you think that your love still has room for redemption, you can do one last struggle, it's really not good, pull down!!

Chinese women are bound by thousands of years of feudal thinking.

So emotionally vulnerable, even vulnerable.

That's why you're in pain today!

I deeply sympathize with your experiences.

But I don't want to see your haggard expressions.

What's so great about a hairstylist.

Isn't it just for celebrities!

Go. In my opinion, there are a lot of celebrities who are rubbish.

So in today's chaotic showbiz, it's hard not to be bad, listening to your tone, you seem to be a little reluctant to him.

Except for your 8 years of love.

You seem to be a little attached to his position today.

It's just that today's achievements have brought you all pain.

And you endure it silently.

So I don't think such a person is worth being sad about him.

You don't have to accommodate him.

Find yourself and reopen your own life To be a strong person in life, you don't have to worry about thinking about life in more than ten years.

Maybe by that time you have already started a family and are happy.

And he is still busy running around for the star.

And he may have lost himself early in the miasma.

I think if this were the case in a few decades, you would have sighed at the right decision you made today.

People are like this, thirty years in Hedong, thirty years in Hexi.

Find someone who suits you.

Find a space that suits your life.

Good things don't turn away from you because of your downfall.

A better tomorrow will embrace you because of your strength.

May you get out of the quagmire soon.

Find your own piece of the sky.

Be happy, the sun will rise for you tomorrow.

Miss, I sympathize with you too! But what's the use of wasting your share like this?

I saw you post the same thing at night!

You ask him directly for the best choice

When there is no continuation, it will be disturbed.

Stop thinking about continuing with him and change for him.

Because you have seen his change, and now you need to change for him who is unrecognizable!

Pack it up, work hard, and find the next safe haven!

Heaven bless you.

Fragile man and tolerant woman.

Bless your love

Sympathy.

It's hard to say anything! But it's certain that he's changed, and he's not the same person he used to be! You have to be strong!

Try to let him know your uneasiness and let him understand your feelings! People sometimes encounter a lot of helplessness in their lives, either accept or change, I hope you can be responsible for yourself! Talk to him with an understanding and tolerant heart!

Don't always be cranky, make your life a little more colorful! Have fun! Happiness!

Happy New Year's Day!

Eight years!

At 16 years old, he's your first love.

Perhaps, in retrospect, it feels like a lifetime.

Eight years of affection were diluted in the space of a year.

First love can't match the excitement of the outside world.

That's how life is.

Many things that you didn't think about before are happening now, even if you don't want to believe it, but it's happening.

Life is like a play, and drama is like life.

Life is still like this, but I don't know about feelings.

At 24 years old, you are still young and have a long way to go.

If you can't let go, maybe you only have these eight years left in your life.

Of course, if he can wake up, he will eventually return all your happiness.

If you can't, let yourself go.

Everything is in your own hands, in your thoughts.

Grasp your own youth, your own life.

Bless you, friend.