How to convince the elderly and their children to live? Urgent!!

Updated on society 2024-05-29
38 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Two people who have been together for two years must have a certain relationship. If it were me, I wouldn't be reluctant. But they will be separated.

    It must have been a choice made by oneself. Don't regret it, don't regret it. Reluctance is inevitable.

    In fact, even if you are able to be together again, I don't think you will be so happy that you will **. Because one, your home is not a place. Two.

    Other people's old people don't like you. What's the use of two people falling in love again? After all, you must consider getting married and having children in the future.

    How to live. The old man doesn't agree with you associating with him now. In the future, even if he marries into his family, he can only be angry with others.

    Why don't you let yourself be happy with him for the rest of your life. Or do you want to make a fresh start yourself? If he loves you very much in his heart.

    I'm sure he'll convince his old man to stay with you. And he didn't. The choice is to separate.

    I think it's right to separate such an unstable love. At least it will hurt you a lot better now than it will hurt later. Answer: Actually, people have feelings.

    You are understandably so. In fact, you should know it very well in your own heart. Coupled with what I've said, I think you should have some conclusions.

    It's up to you to decide whether it's right or wrong. If you still want to let yourself continue to suffer like this, then you can choose the current result. If you don't want to be sad and painful like this, then you have to be decisive.

    Cut out everything you can get in touch with him. Re-select a new start. You have to know that you are not children now.

    Think far away. Later life. Face both parents.

    Don't speak coldly. If you can bear it, you can continue to try to be with him like this. But what I want to tell you is that if you do this, it may bring you a lifetime of pain.

    I'm not bad**, why don't you let yourself hold your head up and live? There are many ways to reject him. See if you really don't want to contact him.

    I really want to get myself out of the pain.

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  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Everyone's ideas are different, there is no need to force the old man to be with whom, the important thing is to make the old man happy, she likes to let him be in **, as long as he is happy and happy. Perhaps, as a child, I hope that the old man will be with him, so that he can honor the old man. However, the elderly also has their own ideas, so respect their own choices

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    You have to know what he wants, and everything goes according to him.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Nowadays, when the elderly die of their other half, they will find another person to live with them, and they do not like to move in with their children. I think this situation should be quite normal now, basically everywhere this situation, many old people around me, just like this, they basically find another person to live with. There are many people who are very puzzled, why would you rather live with someone else than live with your own children when you have a son and a daughter?

    I think there are two reasons for this.

    One of the reasons was that the old man was reluctant to leave the place he was familiar withBecause children are generally struggling in big cities, no one wants to move back to the countryside for the sake of the elderly. Because the children also have their own families, he has his own children to take care of, he also has his own work to do, if he comes back to take care of the elderly, what will their family do? Who earns them money?

    What do they spend?

    Of course, another reason is out of the old man's love for the child, because the old man actually understands that the child has his own family, and the child actually has a lot to do, and he can't just take care of him as an old man, so in order not to cause trouble to the child, he will find another one to live with, so that the two can take care of each other as long as they can move, and they don't have to disturb their own children. It's not that the old man doesn't want to embarrass his children, and he wants his children to earn more money.

    So I think it's really not easy for people to get old, when you are young, you have to think about your children, and when you are old, you have to think about your children, it's really hard for a lifetime.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Children are given material security, but lack of time to accompany them, young children are mostly accompanied by work or family, little companionship of their parents, the elderly often feel very lonely, eager for love, but it is precisely this that children can not make up for with money.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    1: The living habits of the elderly are different from those of their children, and they would rather find someone to live with when the elderly can support themselves; 2. Children are busy and have little time to spend with the elderly, while their partners often accompany them; Three: The elderly live a comfortable life by themselves, and there will be nagging when they live with their children.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    First of all, I am afraid of troublesome children, living with my daughter-in-law or son-in-law, and I am afraid of affecting their relationship due to various reasons.

    Women add to the chaos, after all, children have their own families to take care of. Secondly, in the hearts of the elderly, it is not their own "home", which will produce the feeling of being under the fence and uncomfortable. Again, my heart is not steady, I am not free, and I can't come by how I like it.

    Therefore, most of the elderly prefer to live alone or with a partner or go to a nursing home, and live a down-to-earth and good mood.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    This may be the problem of the generation gap, if you don't understand each other, it's better to find someone who understands to live, young people can't understand it, and the old people should let them be! As long as they're happy.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    The key is that there is a generation gap between the two generations, the old people can't keep up with the trend of the times, and the young people are unwilling to accept the reality, so the widowed old people have to find a partner.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    The main reason is that there is a generation gap between the two generations, the concepts are different, there are many contradictions together, and they are unhappy.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Personally, I think most people are like this, how comfortable and convenient it is to live by themselves.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    It's best to find your relatives, preferably the same generation or older than your parents, you have to convince the lobbyist first, and then let the lobbyist convince your parents.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    This is more difficult, you can have a meeting with your lover, the two of them don't want to live with the old people to say better, and then you can tell the old people what you think, the stubborn old people are more annoying, I think they won't want to be annoying, if you show your attitude, you often go to see it during the New Year's holidays, and it will slowly ease.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    It's good not to live with the elderly, to avoid a lot of bad things, the old people affect the relationship between husband and wife, really, why do the old people have to live with me young people, how to say, don't live with the elderly, it's not easy to say, what to do, I'm unhappy every day, and I don't even want to go home.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    You said that your way of life is different from theirs, and you are afraid of disturbing them, so you just live separately, and you go back to see them once a day, and if you have children, you will bring them back regularly. It may be that the elderly want to be with their children.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    This question is really a bit troublesome, how can you say that you don't let your old people come to live at home? I think the most effective way, just say that their health is not good, the family lives more, it will affect their own rest, not good for their own health, to tell the elderly such a reason, I think they will understand, not to say that the world is pitiful parents, parents love their children, parents prefer their children, good health, happy life.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Two generations, two generations of thoughts, two generations of values, outlook on life, living together can only destroy the relationship! The smallening of the family is a natural law, and the family is like this, in order to maintain the family relationship of the two generations!

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Everyone needs their own activity space, so they don't have to live so far apart, and they have something to take care of.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    Don't think about it that complicated. You buy a small high-rise. The kind around the seventh floor.。。 Just buy the top floor. They live as they like, and they go back on their own after a while. Because they can't bear to climb the stairs.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    In this case, if your husband's parents have a place to live at home but want to live with you, you can ask your husband to come forward and convince your parents. If the elderly really don't have a place to live, it feels very inconvenient to live together. It might be better if you don't rent a house for them, or you rent a house to live in.

    In fact, nowadays, children generally have to live with the elderly, so they can eat without worrying. It's nice to feel like yours feeling very independent. Let my husband talk to them well, but I can't do it, I can only rent a house for them to live in first.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    Make your point of view. Each lives in its own space. Don't bother each other.

    Not too far apart. It is convenient to take care of each other. When it comes to educating children, the low level of education of in-laws will affect the healthy development of children.

    Tell your husband your reasons and get his understanding and support.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    Find out why the old man has to live with you. For example: Are you afraid that no one will find out if you are sick? Are you afraid that you or your children will have no one to take care of you?

    It is much easier to understand the cause and then solve the heart disease.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    There is a generation gap and different lifestyles, so as to avoid affecting the relationship between the two!

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    How do you say this situation The thinking of the two generations is different, it may be that the old people want to be close to their children, grandchildren or granddaughters, after all, there are many people in the older generation who like these, you can first discuss with your other half, make sure that the two people are okay, so as not to have contradictions, the two people are sure that there is no problem, and then you can call the old man to sit down and talk about his own situation in his heart, of course, he euphemistically said the situation, saying that if you really want to rent a house in the community, it is close The effect is all the same. Anyway, the best thing to do is to sit down and talk about it, or find a house nearby for them to live in, and if you say it strongly, it will definitely not work.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    There is an object.

    I have children. I'm busy with work...

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    If you want the elderly to help take care of the children and not live together, you need economic strength. Otherwise, don't think like that.

    The elderly and the young live together, because of their different living habits and life philosophies, it is inevitable that there will be conflicts, so if you can, it is better to live separately. This is what young people want most: they want the elderly to help with their children, but they don't want to live together.

    After having a child, I drove to pick up my mother-in-law every morning and took the child, and then sent it back after work.

    It is best if people have the conditions to live separately.

    Because most of the elderly want to live with their children, of course, there are a few exceptions for the elderly, who want to have their own life. This is not under discussion.

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  27. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Put the children in the hometown with their parents, and they can bring them back to play on weekends.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    I don't know what your current situation is, how old the child is, I suggest as a person who has come over, it is best to bring the child by himself, most of the elderly will spoil the child, which is very important for the child's future character development.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Just say it, the old man will definitely help you bring it.

    But you need to make sure that you can afford the following.

    1: The way of education has been iterated for several generations, and the thinking of the elderly cannot keep up with the trend of the times, which will cause your children to fall behind in the way of thinking.

    2: Backwardness of lifestyle, backwardness of habits, etc.

    3: The child is estranged.

    4: Connivance under the intergenerational relationship.

    5: The elderly are physically and mentally insufficient, which may lead to negligence accidents.

    6: I won't talk about anything else, I'm scared when I think about it.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    The old man can bring it if he wants to, and you can't help it if you don't want to.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    Hello friends! I think the old man's personality is incompatible, understandable, but as a child, you must persuade the old man, act as a peacemaker between the two elders, try to reconcile, let the old man reconcile, live in harmony, don't add fuel to the fire, I think we should persuade peace, can't let them separate, after all, they have lived for half a lifetime, together are good for the children and the elderly, I hope my answer can help you, thank you!

  32. Anonymous users2024-01-11

    The two old people are over 70 years old, even if their personalities are incompatible, both of them have been through ups and downs for so many years, they should support each other and enjoy a good life in the future.

  33. Anonymous users2024-01-10

    If you can't get together and quarrel all day, you can separate them. If it is a lifetime of quarrelling, this is how the two old men live, and the noisy ones will go with the flow!

  34. Anonymous users2024-01-09

    They are all so big, why are they separated, there is a stalk among them, there are thorns, for sure, from young to now, there must be one person who sits wrong or something, and the other person refuses to let go, they are all over seventy, you ask them, how much time is left to be angry, why not spend their old age with a good attitude, and enjoy the filial piety of their children.

  35. Anonymous users2024-01-08

    If you really can't get along, then you can live separately, and you can go to your children's side, and you are all so old.

  36. Anonymous users2024-01-07

    Children don't need to be too involved in this problem, they all live together, after so many years, their living habits are also very well understood, since they can be together, it will be good after so many years.

  37. Anonymous users2024-01-06

    The two old men are in their 70s and their personalities are incompatible, how should they be honored as daughters? Alas, this is a lifelong temper, and it is not easy to change, how to honor them? How can you be filial? Don't treat them badly.

  38. Anonymous users2024-01-05

    As children, first of all, we should do more ideological work for the elderly, tell them that they are now in their old age, they should learn to enjoy life, and stop making a big fuss because of each other.

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