If you open up the third child, do you dare to have another one?

The third child will never be born, because the age is not allowed, the energy is not allowed, the economy is not allowed, 01 gave birth to a son, at that time has not let go of the second child, so I have not dared to have a second child, afraid of a huge fine, and afraid that there is not so much money to raise another child. My children were taken care of by myself from pregnancy to birth to growth, and my in-laws didn't help, so I couldn't go out to work and take care of the children at home professionally. Fortunately, the second child gave birth to a daughter, and now the daughter is in the first grade of primary school, and the son is in high school, and the brother and sister have a good relationship.

My son dotes on his sister very much, and when he goes out to play, his sister can't walk, so he lets his sister sit on his shoulder. He tries to satisfy whatever toys and snacks his sister wants. All kinds of spoiling, his classmates said that he was "sister control".

But I'm really tired.

Raw, must be born! My husband has three brothers and sisters, there is a sister-in-law on the top, and a sister-in-law on the bottom, and my husband is the second. In the first year of marriage, my mother-in-law fell ill with high blood pressure and became seriously ill, and the eldest sister-in-law paid for it, and the sister-in-law served.

The next year, my mother-in-law fell ill again, we paid for it, my sister-in-law served, and my sister-in-law's family was nervous, so I didn't pay for it, but I contacted many doctors. In the third year, the mother-in-law fell ill again, and the sister-in-law directly took her mother-in-law to her side (married to Shenzhen, we are in Shanxi) to **, and the sister-in-law did the handover locally. Therefore, I think that as long as my physical condition allows, I can give birth to a few children.

To be honest, I am currently in pain in the second child, more than 40 days, crying every day, drinking milk, feeding, changing diapers, doing confinement, my wife is cold and hot wind, my mother is not in good health and forcibly helps the second child, my father helps cook and kill chickens, Dabao always cries in the middle of the night to find my mother, Dabao is sick, my mother is sick, my wife is sick, my father is sick, I am also sick, I am sick, I know this, I really don't want to have a second child, the whole family is restless by Erbao, not to mention the third child, it is really unthinkable. If there is no mom and dad in the middle of the hand, it's really sad, time, energy, money is a big expense, three children, who loves to give birth to whom, it is impossible to have three children in this life, I really don't know how my parents brought up my three brothers back then.

At present, there are two daughters, the little girl has just been full moon, and I thought that two children in this life would be enough, and I would never move the idea of having three children. But recently, it has been a little shaken, and it is also counting on the opening of the third child. One is the two daughters, who have not been able to have both children and daughters, which is somewhat regrettable.

The second is that the pressure from the in-laws is too great, and the family atmosphere is delicate and heavy because of the second child or daughter, so I have to compromise a little and tell the old man that there is still hope, so tired. The third is that the age is also very embarrassing, it is still possible to let go early, and if it is three or four years later, it will definitely not be able to give birth, so I still hope that the third child will be released as soon as possible, at least it can be trained early. Two daughters and one son is my ideal number of children, but when I think of fighting for three sons for a son, I feel a little sad and look down on myself, but what to do, it's really sad.

My husband and I are independent, when we got married, we have thought about it, there is no big problem to two, but just got married and my mother-in-law urged me to have a child, but after I was born, I didn't help to see, I experienced taking care of my own child, I don't plan to have it anymore, the child was sick and hospitalized when he was seven months old, and I had to give him physical cooling at night, and he didn't look for anyone else during the day as long as his mother, I slept four hours a day is a very cool thing, and then the son grew up, and the in-laws once mentioned the matter of having a second child, I said that the last time I studied a good job, I don't plan to have it again in this life, I really want me to be 30 can give birth, why wait until nearly 40 years old to regenerate, although there is no shortage of houses in the family, but there is a boy is not only a problem of the house, I have two sons in the neighborhood, two sons and two children, alas, the aunt who is tired every day says that she is tired, and she doesn't dare not look at it, otherwise the daughter-in-law only has opinions, besides, when you can work at the age of 40, you can work 43, but look at the current recruitment information, is there more than 35?

I won't have a third child! 74 years, daughter was born in November 2001, on the issue of whether to have a second child has been undecided, 16 years to see a lot of classmates are preparing for a second child, my wife wavered, plus my mother expressed support, said that the body is okay can help with the child, also began to prepare, i7 years in November son was born, very happy, excited, we just caught the tail of letting go of the second child at this age. Now my son is a little more than a year old, very skinny, but very happy!

In life, because of the second child, Dabao suffered too many grievances. The second child often cries and gets upset, and Dabao wants me to accompany him, so he loses his temper with the boss. Once Dabao used self-formation sentences in his homework, Dabao wrote that since he had a younger brother, his mother never accompanied me to have fun anymore.

Immediately sad. Now some people are urging me to have another daughter. I said no, I can't afford to gamble, if it's a son again, my husband will be exhausted.

In fact, I regretted having a second child in my heart. It is enough to have one, it is enough to love him well, educate him, and make him a healthy, happy, and capable person to support himself.

The most important thing is not to give birth to a few, but to be able to raise a few. In today's society, we are all under so much pressure in our own lives, and it will be difficult to have so many children. So I didn't dare.

After the news of the opening of the third child appeared, it was hotly searched by the majority of netizens, and everyone talked about it and quarreled a lot.

Some people can't help but complain, thinking that this is a high-level decision-making that takes care of themselves, and they don't care about the pressure of young people now, and they don't pay attention to protecting women's rights and interests.

Some people think: Ten or twenty years ago, there were many people with great strength, and the more children were born, the better, and there were even many old people who gave birth to five or six children in a row in order to have a boy. At that time, I didn't just pull the children up, why can't I do it now?

Netizens in the other part of the article**1 think: Now it is not like the original, advocating more children and grandchildren and more luck, and now people feel that they live well and live easily, after all, the pursuit of education, diet and so on is different from before.

In the past, the children were just full of food and drink, and the others were in a state of free-range Kai quiet, but now, even if they only give birth to one child, their parents will have to break their hearts, where will they have the energy to give birth to three?

Article**2 The opening of the three-child policy and the pressure brought by the three-child policy are really all on the young people born in the 90s?

Let's see what the numbers say.

Starting from this year, the post-90s generation is mostly concentrated in 22 and 31 years old, and young people in this age group have reached the age of marriage and childbirth, and the post-90s generation who got married early have even given birth to a second child.

Therefore, in this case, after the three-child policy is opened, the people who will have three children are basically families with two children, most of whom are post-90s, because the post-90s age group is suitable for childbearing.

In fact, even if the third child is not opened, there are three children who are late in life, not to mention that the three-child policy now takes care of a lot, and Shenheng must have a life.

It's that you don't dare to work hard, and you will get as much as you get in return. Only those who have the ability in society do not become salarymen.

If you don't seep into it, it won't attract me to have a third child.

The third child is open, and not many people are willing to have a third child or even a second child. It is important to have children and grandchildren, but the young parents of the post-80s and 90s generation are under a lot of pressure. There are three reasons for this.

Pregnancy starts prenatal check-up needs money, baby needs money, education funds, daily life, no place can leave money, and the price is much higher than wages, even the daily life of a family can not be guaranteed, in the countryside many families are not even satisfied with the place to live, a family of three is crammed into a room of less than 30 square meters, there are still many such families in the countryside. The proportion of rural areas is relatively high.

2.Having more children will affect the relationship between husband and wife. 3 children, then it must be the mother who quits her job to take care of the children, and only the father works alone.

Every day, two adults are like a war, they can't understand each other, and the mother wants the father to take a look at the child, and the father says that he is very tired after a day of work; leads to quarrels every day, so children are destined to not grow up healthily in such an environment, and they are easy to divorce, compared to the current divorce rate, there are few people who want to get married.

3.There is no freedom at all. 3 children, it's okay to go around the child every day, go out, no, the child looks for his mother; Eat a meal, I haven't had a good meal since I had a child; Take a bath, the child cries, and the family says you wash for so long.

These 3 reasons are enough to break the heart of the third child, and many postpartum depressions come little by little! Unless the child is born, there is no need to worry about the cost of childbirth, and there is no need for the mother to bring it herself. In short, it is to have money, then everything is not a problem.

I remember that when the two children were fully released, many 40-year-old post-70s mothers around me hurriedly prepared for pregnancy and gave birth to a second child, and they acted very quickly, while the relative post-80s and post-90s acted slower, because they still had time to consider whether to have a child.

This time, the country liberalized the three-child policy, which may be aimed at the post-80s generation who are about to lose their fertility, because the youngest post-80s generation is also 32 years old. The post-80s generation is now basically stable in economic conditions, and the desire to have one more child is stronger in their ideology. Like me, a post-80s generation who likes children, has been looking forward to the country's opening of "three children".

The three-child policy is liberalized, which people will actively respond to the country's call to have a baby? Most of these types of people, not necessarily the post-80s and 90s, are likely to be willing to have three children.

The first type: people with good genes are willing to have three children.

Would someone choose to have more children because of their genetically excellent? The answer is yes, there was once a treasure tease mother on the Internet Mountain because her husband's genes were good and her IQ was as high as 140, so she gave birth to 7 children in a row in 13 years. When someone questioned whether their family was very rich, the mother said that the living conditions of her family were average, and it was also stressful to raise so many children, mainly because her husband's husband had a high IQ, and if she had fewer children, then her husband's good genes would be wasted.

In fact, there are such examples in real life, Dabao and Erbao are smart and cute, parents feel that they can have another child, and it is also a very happy thing to have three excellent children at home.

The second type: people from wealthy families are more willing to have three children.

In fact, there is no parent who does not like their children. If the economic conditions allow, it is estimated that most people will be willing to have a second or third child. Thirdly, the "poor" are also keen to have children.

In the past, there was such a passage circulating on the Internet, "Moderately prosperous families are reluctant to have a second child, but the poor are desperate to have a third child." "The reasons for this phenomenon are complex, and part of the reason may be that the desire to change one's life is placed on the child. More children and more labor force may change the family situation.

When a child has a future, it can also bring hope to the family. Some people also feel that there is no pressure to raise children, what I eat, the children eat, anyway, one or two are raised the same, and there is such a mentality.