Will you be disappointed in your family? What should I do?

I will be disappointed because I have something to expect.

The closer we are to the people, the easier it is for us to expect them, for example, parents tend to expect their children to succeed in school, children always expect their parents to give them more understanding or better care, etc. When reality doesn't meet expectations, a sense of disappointment arises. Disappointment with family members often arises around us, and this disappointment is often accompanied by negative emotions such as resentment and sadness, which can be uncomfortable.

Some people will say that in this case, don't expect anything from your family, so you won't be disappointed.

This is logically true, but emotionally, it is difficult to do.

I think it's natural and normal for family members to have expectations, and the presence of these expectations is also an important factor for us to feel and enjoy intimacy, so we don't have to suppress expectations.

What we need to do is to clarify what kind of demands we want in our hearts that are actually reflected in this expectation, and what happens to your family in reality cannot meet your expectations.

The love of parents for their children undoubtedly wishes them well. But as a parent, if it's for the sake of the child, can you really be happy? When did you really get down with your parents?

5,000, this is the one with the most complaints. Knowing that, there is such a question and answer. When did you really get down with your parents?

Nearly 5,000 people, and most of the comments were 'prosecutions' of parents. The most talked about is being kidnapped by the self-righteous "love" for your parents, and this "I'm all for you" fills all aspects of life. The love of parents is real, but so are the grievances of children.

I have seen such a trivial incident in the community, a girl had an argument with her little friend, and her mother listened to sympathy, indiscriminately treated the girl as a scolding. But it was clear that the little friend made a mistake first, and the girl didn't even have a chance to explain, and was criticized by her mother, only to see the girl crying aggrievedly. The parent next to her explained the situation to the mother, but the mother still showed no remorse.

The mouth also said that it was for the girl. Mom's words are always right, and criticism is also due. This kind of thing happens occasionally in life, and in the extremely harsh, one netizen shared his story.

When I was a child, I did well in exams, so I wanted to buy a beautiful dress. **A bit expensive, my mother didn't buy it for me. It is said that he doesn't hate how expensive clothes are, but he can't cultivate a comparative mentality.

It's all for you.

But obviously, the house is rich, and mom always buys thousands of dollars for cosmetics, so why not be willing to buy a dress and choose a good name for you? Writer Zhang Xun said: "We sometimes unconsciously restrict our children, even in the name of love, because love is too great."

When a child makes a mistake, the original intention of parents is to love their child. I hope that my child will correct his mistakes and become better. But often the way of love is not right, and it is difficult for children to accept.

Parents always warn their children in a sober and scolding way, but rarely solve the problem from the child's point of view. There is nothing inherently wrong with "love", but the wrong way is often very harmful to children. Listen to your child's thoughts before educating them.

It is important to respect the child and communicate well. Although children are still young, they also have their own thinking, and they may not be as mature as adults, but parents cannot blindly deny their children, they can only assert that they are right, and children can only obey their own arrangements. This parent-child relationship can be worrisome.

If parents only do their best for their children, they should listen to their children's opinions, respect their views, and choose the safest method, so that children will be more willing to accept it. A little more affirmation for the child, a little less comparison.

In fact, when I was partying with others, everyone else was carrying brand-name bags and was particularly rich, at that time, I felt that they were also friends, and suddenly opened a big gap, mainly because my parents did not work hard, so it would lead to a particularly big gap and a little disappointed.

For example, when my parents were urging me to get married, I was very disappointed in my parents, and I felt that my parents didn't understand me and didn't understand my own mind.

I don't have such a time. Because my parents are very good to me, I have always been proud of them and will not be disappointed.

They kept forcing me to do things I didn't like, I felt very depressed, and they never listened to me.

In "Ode to Joy", Fan Shengmei's parents are still endlessly pampered in the face of her brother who has not learned countless things, squeezing the salary in Fan Shengmei's hands, buying a house for her brother to support the family, and repaying a high loan. They didn't think about how their daughter lived in the bustling city of Shanghai, earning a small salary, not daring to buy the bags that the cheaters liked, not daring to buy expensive clothes, or even daring to change jobs, because they did not dare to face the window period of not having a job. Because they gave their son too much love, Bu Lu forgot that his daughter also needed love.

They gave her pampering in the name of her parents, but they exchanged the former pampering for the later demand again and again.

If you think about the future, you will be more disappointed. For me, the best filial piety of my parents is to accompany me. You have your own ideals and career, and I have my little love and big world.

Count down to 4 days to go home, even if you are disappointed in your parents, be patient and be there for you. Maybe it will make me physically and mentally exhausted and I won't be treated well. I would too, because they are my unique parents.

Very tired and sleepy, always infinitely consumes the patience and care of others, and does not know how to cherish and be grateful, until others are disappointed or even cold. This is especially true for parents.

When I grew up, after I got married, I wanted to communicate with my mother a few times, and every time I talked to me, I couldn't do without verbal violence, but the result of each communication was that she had a big fight with me, saying that she had a low level of education, couldn't speak, was not as good as you, who made you read well and have knowledge. You see whoever is good and you go to whoever is good, and what you deserve to die, you shouldn't live or something. After communicating a few times, I decisively gave up communication, and I never dared to mention such words again.

The family conditions are average, and the annual income of the parents is about 12 13W. This year, my dad suddenly had to buy a car and paid the full amount of 20w in one go. For so many years, my parents didn't have any savings at all, and this year they gave my parents the money for my engagement and all my savings to buy a car.

The wedding room, the decoration of the wedding room and most of the color TVs are paid by the parents-in-law and the fiancé. Last time, my dad said that he would add a TV to the wedding room at the end of the year, and a few days ago he also said that I should figure it out by myself. My fiancé paid for it himself and said it was bought by my family.

Since I was a child, I was a relatively obedient and sensible child, and I knew how to help my parents with housework when I was very young, and people in the village praised me as a good child.

When I started school, my grades were very good, and I became what other parents called "someone else's child". My parents have never been in charge of my studies, and I know that I have to work hard to be able to succeed in the future, so I have been working hard to be admitted to university and walk out of the mountains. At that time, I also became the pride of my parents, and my parents felt that their faces were bright.

But some of my behaviors after graduation disappointed my parents, and that was my marital problems. At that time, I had the opportunity to stay in the provincial capital after graduating from college, and I also had the opportunity to work in a better place, but at that time I was in love, and my love partner parents were particularly disliked.

My boyfriend was my middle school classmate, and after graduating from high school, he didn't go to school, but chose to join the army, and he was still in the army when we were in love, and he was just an ordinary big soldier. At that time, my parents were very disagreeable with the matter between me and him, and they thought that when I went to college, I should go out into the outside world and find a better life for myself. If we get married, he will face a series of problems in the future, such as being discharged from the army, finding a new job, and so on, and his life will not be settled at all.

I understood my parents' hard work, all for my own good, but at that time, I recognized him as a person. Therefore, after graduating from university, I resolutely chose to return to my current small county. At first, my parents strongly disagreed, but seeing that I was determined, my parents finally agreed to our marriage.

In this way, we got married, and at first life was very difficult, my husband's job was unstable, and he did not have any technical expertise, no house or car, and life was very difficult.

In the past few years, my job has been stable, my life has improved, and my parents have not been so indifferent to my performance. In fact, I understand that it was my persistence that disappointed my parents!

When have you really been disappointed in your parents, in fact, Liang Sheng was disappointed in his parents, all of them were when he was disappointed that he didn't understand his parents, in fact, they were all very simple and not so pretentious, and the complicated ones were because your parents might have an aversion to you to educate you, so it was not an important issue.

When you encounter difficulties and are most helpless, they don't help you.

When I told my secret as a joke to the whole family.

When you don't trust me.

I was eating out, and my parents said I was drinking or hanging out with my fox friends.

The things that I worked hard to do well were not recognized, and I was said not to do my job.

When I point fingers at me and don't admit myself.

What was promised to the child was not done.

Parents promised their children, but they did not materialize.

Are you disappointed in your parents?

I was disappointed in my family of origin.

I was disappointed with my parents.

So I never dared to think about relying on anyone.

Because of Chongliangzao, I know that no one will be my dependence.

No one will help me solve the problem.

So much so that when I encounter anything with a scumbag, I don't dare to tell others, I carry it myself, because I know that even if I say it, no one will help me, and I am afraid that after being rejected, I will be even more disappointed.

So I have low self-esteem, I am insecure, I am not confident.

At 27 years old, I still don't trust everyone.

There is no expectation, even fear, of starting a family of their own.

I was disappointed in the whole world, so I thought about leaving.

Talk to them about one thing and don't understand.

What should parents do when they are disappointed in themselves?

When we are disappointed in ourselves, if our parents are also very disappointed in ourselves, then we can prove that we are indeed very failures.

Therefore, in order to alleviate such a situation, we should do the following:

1. Adjust your status.

When our mood has been in a low period, we must adjust our state in time, otherwise after a long time, we will become more and more unmotivated, and even when we are doing a lot of things to fight filial piety, we will lack confidence in ourselves, so in such a situation, only after we adjust our mentality, we can better face ourselves, so as to make ourselves better and better.

2. Correct in time.

When we are very disappointed in ourselves, we don't need to be too sad, but more to let ourselves find our own shortcomings in time, and correct them in time, so that even if we are still disappointed in ourselves, but as long as we work hard step by step, we will usher in a better self, so we must not be afraid to face our own shortcomings, but more courageously to overcome our shortcomings.

The above points are some of my personal opinions, and I hope it can be helpful to you in selling cherry blossoms. At the same time, we can also communicate more with our parents, maybe there will be a great change in ourselves, because in many cases, parents are the people who know us best, although we now make them feel very disappointed, but they also want us to become better and better, so we can communicate with our parents, to let ourselves constantly adjust ourselves, so as to make ourselves more and more successful, I hope everyone can pay attention, and such a concept, Then go to the specific implementation, see what the effect is, and then we will make corresponding adjustments.