What s the most aggrieved thing you ve ever encountered at work?

Over the past 20 years, I have experienced several leaders, and the most aggrieved thing is that leaders often hand over the most difficult work to you, and always reward others with the greatest honor. In other words, it is you who work hard to plant trees and water them, and it is someone else who picks and tastes them easily. This kind of thing, isn't it very aggrieved.

Let's talk about what actually happened.

That was many years ago, when I was in a mid-level position in the unit. Because the ability is okay, and I am young and promising, the unit leader always likes to hand over some work that others are unwilling to take over, and the leader says, "I can rest assured that I will leave it to you." Out of respect for the leader and gratitude for the leader's trust, I often readily agree.

At that time, the unit had an innovative topic, because the workload was huge and it needed to take certain risks, and other leaders of the unit used it to excuse themselves. At this time, the leaders naturally thought of me, talked to me one after another, and repeatedly emphasized the importance of this topic. I couldn't put it off, and I also wanted to take the opportunity to exercise, so I agreed.

At that time, in addition to sending two additional assistants, a team member was also arranged to serve as the leader of the research group.

As soon as the project was approved, I led two assistants to start intense work. In the process of research, we go deep into the grassroots and the front line of work, collect materials and materials extensively, sort them out by category, and scientifically analyze and summarize. For months, almost all of his weekend rest was sacrificed, and sometimes he had to work late into the night.

Of course, the leaders of the research group are not completely idle, and will inquire about the progress from time to time and express condolences on behalf of the leaders.

After months of hard work, the research project was finally completed and reported. After being recommended step by step, it was finally established as a provincial excellent project, and a project certificate was issued. The project was awarded for the project, which naturally won honor for the school, and the unit leaders were also commended by their superiors.

It should be noted that the "project host" on the provincial project certificate is naturally the team member.

But the matter is not over, in the evaluation of the model in accordance with the provisions of the unit, for the unit to make outstanding contributions, can be given the title of municipal model, myself and all colleagues believe that the municipal model honor belongs to me. When the list of municipal model winners was finally announced, my name did not appear, but the names of the team members and the leader of the research group were impressive.

I really couldn't accept this fact, so I went to the leader to ask for an explanation. The attitude of the leader was very gentle, saying that the team member was about to retire, and there was no merit and hard work, and besides, he "participated" in the research of the subject, and he should be honored. You are still young, and there are many opportunities, not this time, the leader finally said.

This is the "grievance" I experienced, if it were you, would you feel wronged?

The most aggrieved thing is that in a small company, each person who works is one person doing six or seven positions of work, only taking 3,000 yuan (coordinates of the imperial capital), and he has to face a supervisor who doesn't know anything every day. Once, I took two days off in a month, one day at a time, and was asked if I had gone out to interview other units. In the end, everyone in the department couldn't stand it and left en masse.

1. Take a long-term view.

The farther you look, the clearer your goal, the less you will be trapped by a small grievance in front of you.

2. Divert attention and turn grievances into internal motivation.

The first reaction of the aggrieved Di is not to resign, but how to avoid the same grievance next time. Find a solution, or avoid it in advance, or improve the vulnerability, in short, think with the purpose of solving the problem.

3. Learn to communicate.

Everyone looks at problems from a different perspective, and good communication helps to bring Yunbi closer to each other. If you look at other people's ideas in another person's shoes, you should also be able to express your own thoughts, so as not to cause unnecessary misunderstandings.

In other words, the salary you earn includes not only the work you actually do, but also the grievances and unfair treatment you need. The performance of a bad person to integrate into society is to learn to adjust his mentality in the face of grievances, know what he should care about, what he doesn't need, and the grievances, sadness, and complaints after being wronged are actually a waste of his time, so it is better to spend this time doing something that can make him happy to alleviate.

Patience, of course. No one in society is used to you, and it is normal to be wronged.

Yes, especially in the past, when I was wronged at work, I would be uncomfortable for a few days. Sometimes I cry secretly. Later, I understood that I should not take things home with me, let alone affect my mood. I gradually adjusted my mindset in the following ways.

Distract yourself from thinking about these things. I want to have fun.

Listen to a song. Listening to a good song will make you feel better.

Going out to exercise and sweating can also make you feel better.

Let the mood of work be diluted by the scenery on the side of the road on the way to work, leaving the clouds light and the breeze.

As a professional person, I am on the line at two o'clock every day, home and company, and I come in the morning with melancholy and return with exhaustion in the afternoon. Often because of the work of the day before yesterday, to the next morning, full of boredom of work, there is a kind of cut off from work, completely empty themselves, carefree return to nature; I often complain and mourn because of the dissatisfaction and pressure of the day's work, and I feel a sense of cynicism. And these emotions either make themselves complacent because of the bad mood of the day, or bring harmony and dissatisfaction to the family because of the emotions of the day, and even give the feeling of the child:

Mom or Dad is a tantrum monster.

Emotions can not only affect a person's state of mind, but can even infect the entire family. If you abandon the beauty of harmony because of emotions, you must not. In fact, the commuting trip is regarded as a kind of travel, shuttling between the busy traffic every day, and feeling the different experiences brought by time or person.

Perhaps along the way, different people gathered in the same place at different times, and different people's clothing set off an abnormal scenery, allowing you to understand the true meaning of life; Perhaps along the way, the big trees swaying in the wind and the endless fields filled with blue sea and blue sky make people feel refreshed; Maybe along the way, mixed in the sea of people, let yourself be deeply trapped, and feel that all living beings are actually just a drop in the ocean, why bother with some things.

On the way from work, take up the time to vent your emotions due to unsatisfactory work with a book or e-book, and turn your emotions into motivation for reading and improvement.

Books are a good thing, reading or listening to a book is like taking a boat to get the tide at the peak of knowledge, and appreciate the thrilling, dangerous, strange and difficult circumstances. You can enjoy the great rivers and mountains in the world without leaving home, and feel the artistic conception of suddenly coming like a night of spring breeze and thousands of trees and pear blossoms. You can also wander in the dreamlike adventure, explore the mysteries, feel the touching deeds as if you were there, and inspire people to move forward.

By reading or listening to books, constantly digging for the mineral of knowledge, panning for gold in the sand. By reading or listening to books, let the power of knowledge break through trivialities and give people a clear and impurity-free brain.

Although work is not easy, it is only a carrier in life, and does not represent the whole life. In the sense of the power of these emotions, why not take the early work as a spice of life, find fun in the work, release the pressure brought by it in the journey of work, and return yourself to an innocent life.