Why isn t your life happy? Why is my life so unhappy?

Feel sorry for people who are not good to you, and be good to others without a bottom line.

People who can really be happy are people who can resist this nature and manage their desires according to their own situation, one is to struggle in the world with greed that is slightly higher than their own ability, and some people think that desire and ability match the best, this point of view I think is too static, ability will change dynamically, and will change in the direction you want, so a little higher, not only can drive your own changes, but also can generally maintain a relatively peaceful state of mind, probably to ensure the balance of development and happiness, It's a perfect situation. It's a bit difficult, but it's just as good to be able to set a big vision and goal and then achieve it gradually, which will make life fulfilling and worthwhile. On the other hand, you can be a person with a pure heart and few desires and stay away from the world, such as being an indifferent monk, or doing what you like to do in a research institution and ignoring the hustle and bustle of the outside world.

But there are very few people who can resist nature, so most people are not happy.

I think happiness is a matter of mentality, and the same standard of living is different in the eyes of different people. And the feeling of happiness depends largely on the comparison, there is no harm without comparison, there is no happiness without comparison, in the past, the information was not smooth, we are a small farmer economy, our neighbors may be at the same level as us, the difference in living standards is not large, and the sense of happiness may not feel how bad, but okay. Because most of us are the same, we are unhappy compared to our own past.

Maybe it's because of human desire. Never satisfied. Now that the needs are satisfied, you will want better and more, so more and more people start to complain about their lives and feel unhappy. That's it.

Because most people rely on external things for happiness, but rarely take a serious look at their hearts. I don't know what I really want and what kind of person I want to be. Or they know what they want, but they are bound by the environment and worldly concepts, and they dare not pursue it boldly.

I slowly understood why I was unhappy, because I always expected a result, read a book and expect it to make me profound, running and swimming expecting it to make me lose weight, sending a text message expecting it to be replied to, expecting good expectations for others to be reciprocated, writing a story about a mood and expecting to be noticed and comforted, participating in an event in anticipation of a fulfilling and enriching experience, these preset expectations if realized, breathe a sigh of relief, if not realized, self-pity. But when I was a child, it was the same me, I spent an afternoon watching ants move, waiting for the stones to bloom, I didn't expect the results when I was a child, and I didn't discount when I cried and laughed when I was a child.

I still remember living at my grandfather's house when I was a child, he always got up early in the morning to go to the market to sell eggs, and when we got up, he slowly pushed the black and dilapidated tricycle back to the house, but the grandfather in my memory always had a smile on his face. Grandpa always brings us good food, always looking forward to those little surprises, very simple and happy. But when I grow up, I need to take on the life of my parents and children, so I feel more and more unhappy and busy.

After some small desires are satisfied, new big desires continue to emerge, so that the happiness of small desires after being satisfied is diluted by big desires. Similarly, today I got a monthly salary of 2k, but I will work hard towards a monthly salary of 5k, which could have been a very high 2k, because the goal of 5k exists, it will become more hi.

Before a person worked outside for two or three years, although the salary was high, unhappy, whenever night fell, an inexplicable sense of loneliness followed, at the beginning you can also use the chicken soup for the soul to comfort yourself, after a long time, it will be useless, the homesickness is getting deeper and deeper, so, this year I will go back to my hometown, the family is reunited, full of happiness!

The main thing is that life is very difficult now, and there is no income, so I will control my expenses and buy things very rationallyLife is not easy, and we are eager to meet warm-hearted people.

At home, it is good to have a warm-hearted lover who thinks of you in everything, speaks in a measured manner, and never makes you angry;

In the unit, there is a warm-hearted group that does not care about everything, does not laugh or speak, and never quarrels with you, how good;

Outside, there is a group of warm-hearted scumbags, there are people to help them in everything, everyone is kind, and they never blush with you, how good. If there is such an opportunity, I am afraid that he will be the happiest person in the world. I would like to be such a talker, and I don't think anyone wants to.

However, looking back at myself, is he a person who thinks about his lover in everything at home? I always want my lover to treat myself well, but do I treat my lover well! The ancients said that respecting each other is like a guest, do you treat your lover as a guest?

Perhaps, it was okay when I got married for a while, but after a long time, my lover's face was wrinkled, not beautiful, and she was vulgar, so she got tired of it. There are frequent quarrels, and it is not pleasing to anyone who looks at them. So when you ask people to be nice to you, first you have to be nice to people.

Those who love love to return, and the love is deep when the love is true. On the contrary, complainers complain and ...... when they are upset

In the unit, you are eager to meet a group of warm-hearted groups, everyone is a group of kind, empathetic, do not care about things, the overall amount of others, smile at you every day, never quarrel with you. But have you done that? Do you give your brightest smile to your colleagues every day?

Do you think about your colleagues and leaders every day? Don't you ever take your anger out on others? If so, congratulations, you must be the most popular person and the happiest person; But the fact is that you always put your emotions on your face, one will be sunny and one will be cloudy, one will be bad, one will be that bad, and you will say right and wrong in front of your colleagues, although it is not a big deal, but it makes people feel that you are always a little wrong, colleagues are alienated from you, and the leader does not trust you, such a day can be called a good day.

Some people live happily after divorce because they are miserable and tired in their original marriage. Some people live unhappily after the divorce, because the result of their unhappiness is not caused by the original marital relationship, but by their own reasons.

When the fish live in the water key fight, they always want to see the outside world and experience the outside life, but they don't know that it is difficult to survive without the water. This is like some couples, although there will be some minor conflicts and disputes occasionally, but it does not affect their entire married life, and even in this seemingly discordant situation, in fact, they have become accustomed to each other's existence and companionship, in this case, divorce will only bring them a sense of lack psychologically, and will not be happy. Some wheat seedlings always like to grow in piles, and like to be close to their own kind, but they don't know that this is actually consuming each other and competing for each other's nutrients, which will only lead to their own and their companions not being able to grow healthily.

This is like some couples, in daily life conflicts occur one after another, two people together are either noisy or noisy, and even domestic violence will occur, although this kind of marriage is ostensibly a family, but in fact, it is consuming each other, is alienating from each other, then, in this case, divorce is also a choice to save yourself. The above two situations tell us that the probability of being happy after divorce lies in the reason for the divorce and the reason for the unhappiness in our original marital relationship.

Divorce is due to various reasons, and they are not happy in life.

Life after divorce may be better, and the chances of happiness are greater.

Here's why:

First, after the divorce, the economy is independent, and there will be no more conflicts over economic issues. There are many reasons for divorce, and some of them may be due to financial problems. When the economy is independent, the financial power will be theirs.

You can use your money however you want, and you can buy whatever you want.

Second, after the divorce, his personality can be brought into full play, and his habits of life are free. I will no longer be angry because of the difference in my three views. You can do whatever you want with your lifestyle and habits, and you don't have to look at other people's eyes.

Eat as much as you want, drink as much as you want, and take a journey that you can take as soon as you go, and you can achieve it immediately.

The third is that after the divorce, if you want to love, you will love, and your feelings may have a good home. Because I once loved, because I once hated, after all, it has passed, and there is no good ending. Now is your chance, take advantage of it!

When you meet someone who is destined, boldly go to the manuscript to accompany love! Enjoy life!

In short, after the divorce, there are many opportunities, and happiness may come to you!