The improvement of self control, how to improve self control

It's not self-control, it's a lack of action.

1. Don't let excuses fool your brain.

Every time you don't want to study, you need to be mindful of the excuses you make.

For example, when I am studying, I always like to tell myself that I will go to study after 5 minutes of "a certain sound" and another game of "king"!

Then, after the time passed, I would say to myself, "One more minute", so after one or two hours, I was a little tired from watching, and I thought, I should not rest for a while.

When you're in the same situation as me, all you need to do is tell yourself that I can play on my phone for just another 15 minutes. When the 15 minutes are up, you can say, or I'll learn for another 15 minutes.

If you are a "person who likes to be good at guessing your own subjects", it is recommended that you start with the subject you like to be good at;

If you are a person who "likes to challenge yourself", it is recommended that you start with a subject that you are not good at, so that you can say to yourself, "I don't believe in slippery, I can't finish this problem, so I won't look at my phone." ”

2. Stick to your plan and don't do it too much.

As a veteran "plan always can't stick to it", I can say that I have a lot of experience in this.

Many students are enthusiastic at the beginning of the plan, so the following situation occurs:

Today's plan is to make a math paper, an English paper, and review the mistakes made in the previous two days.

After you finish it quickly, you say to yourself, "It's so efficient today, or I'll do tomorrow's physics paper." As a result, it was 1 a.m. that day.

This lasted for 4 days, and on the 5th day, "I'm so tired, anyway, I did so much in the first two days, so let's rest today and do it tomorrow." ”

And then every day you give yourself such an excuse, so the original "transformation plan" will naturally be abandoned halfway!

How to improve your self-control.

Don't panic when you encounter something, face it calmly, and then think about the problem and eliminate external interference.

We must learn to make our own ideas, don't look for others on everything, ask other people's opinions, get rid of the psychology of inferiority, learn to be independent, and find self-confidence.

It is difficult for a person without ego to do a great career, so his life is useless. Always self-talk, motivate yourself, and tell yourself that I can do it.

Even if some tasks are not done perfectly, you should encourage yourself, you don't have to do everything perfectly, there is no perfect thing in the world, don't hold on to some mistakes in your work, and don't care too much about other people's opinions.

It is not a very easy thing to control ourselves, because there is always a struggle between reason and emotion in each of us. "Doing what you are happy to do", or adopting a desperate attitude is not really free. You should have the ability to overcome your feelings and control your own destiny.

If you allow your feelings to dominate your actions, you make yourself a slave to your feelings. If you plan to do something today, will you be able to leave the warm nest and get out of bed without hesitation? If you're going on a long trip but you're feeling tired, do you want to cancel your travel plans?

If you're doing something that is hard to overcome, do you keep doing it, or do you stop and wait and see? If you answer a question like this on paper, the answer is clear at a glance, but when you are in the middle of it and you torture yourself, I am afraid that the answer will not be so simple. The fact is that so many people are intimidated once they encounter problems in their lives and work.

It's not that they can't answer these questions simply, but that they have difficulty controlling themselves mentally. Self-control means overcoming desire. Self-control is not only about restraining desires materially, but more importantly about spiritual self-control.

So how can one develop self-control? (1) Master your own thoughts. Without the precursor of consciousness, it is impossible for people to have concrete behaviors.

To control our minds, we must understand what we want and what we can't want. And then figure out how to refuse what you can't do and force yourself to do what you need to do, which is a matter of method. Finally, weigh what you will do and what you will not do, which is the premise of building perseverance, and the transition from controlling thoughts to controlling behaviors.

2) Control the target. Goals are the core of thought, but also the guide to action. Keeping your goals under control is an important way to achieve success.

To control the goal, it is necessary to set the goal. There are long-term, medium-term, and short-term goals. Medium- and long-term goals and short-term goals are carried out at the same time, and you will know what to do, and you will be busy but not chaotic.

3) Control time. People live in space and time, space accommodates people, and time changes people. Many people don't do things well, they just don't make good use of their time.

You should make an overall arrangement of what you plan to do, taking into account your personal situation. It's not easy, and people often don't understand not only what they're doing, but also when and how long to do something. If you have a lot of things to do with your limited time, and if you do it well and your time isn't wasted, you can choose time to work, play, and rest.

When we can control time, we can change everything about ourselves. In daily life, remind yourself to be self-disciplined and consciously cultivate the spirit of self-discipline. For example, for a certain shortcoming or bad habit in your own personality, it will be better to set a time limit and focus on correcting it.

Don't pamper yourself and make excuses for yourself. Be strict with yourself, and over time, self-discipline will become a habit, a way of life, and your personality and wisdom will become more perfect.