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The heart is evil, and the slightest evil thought in the heart turns into a hurtful mouth. The left trouser pocket is filled with red beans, and the right trouser pocket is filled with black beans. If you have an evil thought, put that black bean in your jacket pocket, and take a red bean with a good thought.
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Don't think about this thing that bothers you! Just do something else and shift your mind.
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Observe with your mind what provokes your temper.
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Everyone has their own emotions and tempers, we can't blindly vent, we must learn to control it, be the master of emotions. So when our temper tantrums come up, how should we control them? Here are some ways to control your temper tantrums.
To control your temper, you can mentally suggest to yourself, take a deep breath, express your dissatisfaction, try to reflect on your own problems, and learn to empathize.
Autosuggestion. If you want to control your temper, you can do some autosuggestion, silently say "don't be angry, it's not good for your body" in your heart and say it a few more times in your heart, persist for a while, and your anger will also be a little more restrained.
Breathe deeply. Deep breathing can really solve a lot of things and is an essential skill for regulating emotions. The average person gets angry for a short time, mainly because he doesn't control his temper well at the moment of anger, which causes irreparable consequences.
So when you feel like you're going to lose your temper, you can take a few deep breaths to ease your mood.
Speak out about your grievances.
Many grumpy people always like to hold back their dissatisfaction in their hearts and not say it, and after accumulating a little bit to a certain extent, they will explode. Therefore, when you usually encounter something, you can express your opinions or dissatisfaction, and everyone can solve it together, don't always accumulate in your heart, so that things can be solved quickly, and the relationship between friends and colleagues will not be very stiff.
Learn to reflect on your own problems.
In the event of a conflict between colleagues, we should first reflect on our own problems, see if the problem lies with ourselves, dig deep into our position in this conflict, communicate with each other calmly and reasonably, and if we can't reach a consensus, we should be calm down, and reflect on the problem in the end.
Learn to empathize.
Learn to control your emotions, always remind yourself to "be calm, don't be impulsive" and deal with everything after thinking carefully, learn to empathize, and try to think from the other party's point of view, so as to be able to combine your own ideas to get a satisfactory result for both parties.
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Everyone's temper is different, some people are naturally good-tempered and always smile at people, making people feel comfortable getting along. Some people have a bitter gourd face every day, and when they encounter a little sesame seed, it makes a person feel terrible. Here's how to control your temper, I hope it can help you.
How to control your temper, how to control your temper!
1. How to control your temper?
Every time I lose my temper, the consequence is to hurt myself and others, but the matter does not work out. Therefore, we must constantly reflect on ourselves and be deeply aware of the shortcomings of irritable temper.
Sometimes they have an irritable temper that they don't have a deep understanding of, while others are more clear. You should ask relatives to help you and remind yourself.
A lot of truth needs to be read more to know. No matter how impetuous, read more books that can calm you down, cultivate your cultivation, and make your temper better.
Unable to control their irritable temper, most of the time it is because they are too demanding of life, resulting in dissatisfaction with everything and unpleasantness in everything. So, don't be too yourself and others.
Learn to handle things coldly, and when you feel like losing your temper, let yourself quickly pull away from the scene and go to another room to isolate yourself first. After a few minutes of calming down, your temper will be much better.
Temper tantrums have a lot to do with diet. If you always eat things that are easy to get angry, the liver fire will be more exuberant and impetuous. Therefore, you should pay more attention to your diet, don't eat greasy and angry things, be light and nutritious, and exercise more to release excess energy.
How to control your temper, how to control your temper!
2. Methods to control temper tantrums.
1.Withdraw first.
In general, there is always a reason why a grumpy person has a tantrum. Maybe the sesame seeds are a bit big and you'll be angry. At this time, the best thing to do is to evacuate the scene and avoid confrontation with people or things that make you angry.
2.Walk around and communicate with people.
Once you've evacuated the scene, take a walk around and chat with passers-by who can talk, even if they're only first-grade elementary school students. As for how to control your temper, maybe his or her humor will make you forget your troubles for a while. When you go back to the starting point again, you are so angry.
3.Can be unblocked.
It's best to learn to dredge the anger in your heart, don't keep it in your heart, it's easy to collapse and explode after a long time, and you may not be angry when you hide it. It may be more lethal. You can't unblock it, but there's always someone around you.
4.Call a friend.
Hit ** to your good friend. It's better to talk about your worries, even if it's just one-sided, than to have no place to vent. Pour out the depression and put happiness and calmness in it.
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So, you must learn to adjust your mentality.
One is to try to jump out of the cycle that makes you angry, stand in the other person's position, and look at the person and the problems encountered objectively. Don't be swayed by your own subjective will, because what you think is not necessarily true, and it may not be right, think about how you would deal with and face it if you were someone else.
The second is that since you don't like this person and get angry when you see him, then stay away, stay away, and try to deal with as little as possible, after all, people are not saints, and it is difficult to be calm.
The third is not to pay attention to this person, everything about him has nothing to do with you. You get angry with him, and you prove that you still care about him. When you can let go of yourself and ignore this person, then his personality and everything he does have nothing to do with you, and you will naturally not be angry.
The fourth is to learn a lesson from it, and if you encounter the same people and things in the future, you must improve your immunity, after all, your body is your own, and it is really useless to be idle.
The last thing I would like to tell the Mention is that I have met one of the worst landlords who gets angry at the sight of Slippery Orange. But it was also because of him that we did our best to buy the first house in our lives, and it was a shop, and now the value has increased several times.
Until now, I feel that we should be grateful to him, not hateful, because it is because of this very embarrassing lesson in our lives that we have tried our best to learn to fly.
So, don't get angry, everything will be the best, the problems you encounter and the people who make you angry are just a necessary process in your life.
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Hopefully, here are a few tips to help you:
1. Look at the world with a different eye. Not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone while walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day".
2. Keep yourself busy and live every minute to the fullest. When you wake up in the morning, don't fall in love with the bed, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and imagine yourself as a happy little angel ......
3. Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement. Stand up, sit or lie down in a position that you feel comfortable in.
4. Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be uniform and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel that the joints are released and the muscles are relaxed.
5. Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, and silently say "relax" in your heart whenever you exhale.
6. Focus your attention on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it.
7. Close your eyes and deliberately imagine some quiet and beautiful scenes, such as blue water, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and flowing water, etc.
8. Do some activities that are not related to the current specific matters. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc.
9. Life is easy, life is easy, but life is not easy. Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life is, I believe it is wonderful. Come on!
Finally, I wish you a happy life!
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Your good temper is a blessing to the family.
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Temper is one of the common psychological phenomena often encountered in daily life. Quite a number of young people are short-tempered and impulsive, especially when they are not accustomed to things that do not go well or they are not accustomed to, and they are often prone to anger or instigation, and sometimes they quarrel with others and say some embarrassing things, which may affect the unity among comrades or affect family harmony.
There are good and bad tempers in people. A good-tempered person will be welcomed no matter how he goes, and others like to cooperate and work with him;People with a bad temper often bring distress to themselves and others, making it difficult for others to get along with them. Surveys have found that the vast majority of young men and women make it a condition for choosing a spouse to be good-natured.
We also know from experience that if there are one or two people with bad tempers in a family or a small unit where one person lives, it will often make the family or the group ununited. Therefore, the purpose of changing bad temper is not only to eliminate personal suffering, but also to promote family harmony and strengthen collective unity.
The goodness of people's temper has a lot to do with the environment in which they live and work. Good tempers such as meekness, peace, and patience are often closely related to a harmonious and warm family environment and good upbringing; Bad tempers such as irritability, stubbornness, eccentricity, and willfulness are often related to pampering, over-spoiling, or not getting the warmth of the family, and parents being too strict. The smooth or bumpy path of an individual's life can also have a significant impact on a person's temper and character.
The country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change", which means that people's temper and character have a stable side, but it does not mean that temper and character are fixed and unchanging. We all know that some people were short-tempered when they were young, and they were as strong as an ox that did not obey their commands; But after the tempering of life, especially the loss of a bad temper, his temper gradually became calmer, and he was not so stubborn about things. So bad temper can be changed.
Of course, there are also those who do not change, and that is because he himself does not have the requirements to change his bad temper, or he has a request and does not seriously change it.
So, how can you get rid of your bad temper? First and foremost, it is important to have a good understanding of the dangers of a bad temper. In social life, we always have to contact and interact with other people, hoping to get the favor, friendship, appreciation, and cooperation of others (of course, it cannot be everyone), otherwise, we will feel lonely, lonely, lifeless, and unable to move an inch.
People's behavior is regulated and controlled by consciousness, and when we understand the harm of bad temper, we can generate a demand from our hearts to change our bad temper. Second, it is necessary to strengthen ideological cultivation. Only when we always think of others in our hearts and respect the interests and needs of others will we be warm, considerate and loving to others.
Only by always putting the interests of the collective in the first place can we not be rash and stubborn, and can we be calm and think twice when encountering problems. Finally, you must have determination and perseverance to change your bad temper, and if you can't remember it today, just be cautious, and after two days, you will still be the same. With determination and perseverance, you will definitely get rid of your bad temper.
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Make it a habit of patience and always warn yourself, but don't go too far.
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