Why it s so hard to make real friends in college

Many people feel that going to college will definitely broaden their circle of friends. But in the end, I found that there were many friends, but it was difficult to find close friends.

Why is that? I think there are objective and subjective reasons to explain this month's phenomenon. Although I went to university, at the beginning, the freshmen felt that everything would be fine when they went to college, and they didn't have to do anything, and they didn't have to worry about anything.

Later, I learned that I had a lot more to worry about when I went to college than I did in high school. Usually you have to do homework, do PPT, you have to take a lot of certificates, professional and second-degree colleges, or foreign language certificates.

As a result, you don't have a lot of time to spend with your friends, and you may go to the library alone more often to read and study.

Studying is always boring and boring, but for their future and employment, some people have to work hard to review their homework in order to go abroad and go to graduate school.

My time is very tight, so I am busy with studying every day, and I don't have time to make friends, so it is difficult to make good friends. <>

There are also some people who are always more closed off to themselves, more slow to heat, and it is difficult for them to interact with others without reservation. As a result, people will slowly begin to distance themselves from these people.

On the surface, they will say hello and greet, but they are not good friends, and the relationship is particularly cold. Maybe he is not good at talking to others, chatting, and will not take the initiative, so the chance of making close friends is low.

College is different from high school, and everyone in high school has the same goal of being admitted to university. So everyone will help and encourage each other.

However, after arriving at university, everyone has different plans and goals for employment and further education. Everyone doesn't spend a long time together, and those who go back to the dormitory after class, and those who go to eat, are always scattered, and the feelings between them will not be so deep.

As we all know, we have entered the thank you is equivalent to half a foot into the society, in the university we have to be the foundation of our own interpersonal relationships, because everyone's development prospects are different, only to know more friends in order to make their resources more abundant, for the future road at the expense of the opportunity to meet more friends.

When we run around to meet friends, we always ignore so few, and then look back at our contacts are not even a few familiar friends or friends to make friends with, why is it difficult for us to call true friends in college? Why can't friendship be unutilized? We have to question ourselves one by one.

A friend is someone who can help us, and it is the first person we think of when we ask for help, but during college, we really can't call the word "friend" anymore, because we don't call out our sincerity, and the two are not friends.

A small society is reflected in the university, everyone is not as innocent as before, making friends is a simple friendship, not with a purpose to make friends, today's universities need them to work harder to find their future resources, whether they make friends or not, they can be called friends, so that we feel very helpless and lonely in our hearts, it seems that everyone is coming with something, as long as people with more resources can make friends, it is conceivable that this university does not have the word warmth, There is a purpose in everyone's heart, and this purpose may affect the path of his future development, such a hypocritical surface of making friends is not a friend at all, just using each other, and there is no friendship between the two at all.

One of the saddest moments I've had in college is the moment of separation after graduation. After studying and living with my roommates for four years, we went to class together, went to self-study together, went to dinner together, played sports together, and played together, and had a deep relationship. Some of the students cried a lot when they were separated, which is still fresh in people's memories.

College is not as good as junior high school and high school, and at that time we will definitely know our classmates. We live in a group, work in a classroom every day, and come into contact with that group of people every day. And for such a long time, we will always know each other.

But knowing these people doesn't mean that we will get acquainted with them, everyone still has their own games. Because of the difference in personality, there is a deviation in ability. Therefore, introverts are often silently in the corner to be a quiet beautiful man.

For those who have a warm and cheerful personality, he may know all the people in the class, but there are only a few really good friends.

But when we get to college, it's different, because we only choose people who can play with them, and we don't even say hello to those who can't. Therefore, the relationship during college is a kind of spontaneous finding, and this kind of feeling will be more profound.

Some people may not even be able to name all the classmates in college, only know the ones in their dormitory and those who are more familiar with the class leaders, and they can't figure out who the others are.

Because the college period is not as close as the high school period, there is no special roll call.

Because the interests are not so important, it's good to accompany you for a while.

People's hearts are separated from their stomachs, how do you judge that others are not sincere?

We will always meet some rude people in college, using other people's things casually, and other people are very noisy or don't like to clean when they sleep, which can be very annoying. We must have certain qualities.

I think that college students are already adults, and they must have self-discipline in their behavior, perseverance in their goals, and motivation to become a better version of themselves.

To learn to give, for most students whether they are in school now or in the future into the society must know a way to survive, if you want to get it, you have to pay first, only after you pay will there be a return, just think you want to pick the fruit on the tree must first water and fertilize it, you want to get help from others IU must first help others, so that not only can leave a good impression on others, but also make us live a happy life.

To learn to see the world from the perspective of learning, there is no perfect shouting person in the world, but you can approach perfection, everyone has less time to go to school than 1 4 of life, learning textbooks know that it is not our goal but the first stage, so we have to look at the world with a long-term vision, anyone is worthy of our learning, but we must have our own subjective initiative when learning.

Use the future to guide many people now, but they think about the past, and they are always entangled by their past selves, and the next thing you need is self-confidence, you dare to do anything, and you must learn to use the future to guide the present, and the future will be bright.

Find two common means for people who agree with their three views, the first is to join the corresponding club in the freshman year, when participating in club activities, be active and cheerful, make a few more friends to meet more people, everyone chooses to join this club, it proves that they are more interested in the content taught by this club, and in the process of having fun, you can find some ideas of the other party, some views of life, if you think it is more appropriate, it is not impossible to develop into a better friend. Another way is to be in the same class as the people in the dormitory, but at the end of the day, it's about expanding your relationships.

The second is to make your three views clear, what you think, what you think is wrong, you should have an obvious idea, don't follow the clouds, others think that what others say makes sense, without their own ideas, you will never be able to make true friends if you say this, because you don't know what kind of three views you have, how can you find someone who has the same three views, you must have your own principles and bottom line, and you must have your own way of life. Friends are constantly interacting, and constantly expanding interpersonal relationships is not inherent, and carefully maintaining this emotion to accommodate other people's ideas is not a true friend.

University is a prelude to society