Reality is always too cruel, human, very realistic, and cruel

Marriage is for two people to form a family, and both families have to pay for the family.

The purpose of both parties is to set up a family, not to say that you want to marry her, she doesn't care, and she will marry you only when the conditions are enough.

My family environment is not as good as yours, anyway, it's just a sentence, marriage is a matter for both of us, and I am willing to give everything I can. Within this scope, I will listen to all your requests. But I can't exceed the requirements, and I can negotiate whether I can tie the knot or not.

Parents have given so much for your life, try to make their activities as easy and casual as possible. On the other hand, in order to get married, the relationship between your parents and your daughter-in-law is stiffened, and you will not be a person inside and outside when you get along in the future.

Now it is very strange that the woman must put herself on the weaker side of being favored, married, and accepting face.

Love still doesn't solve all problems.

I think it's time to talk to your girlfriend about your thoughts. The reluctance to bear the hard-earned money of your parents and the reluctance to give up your girlfriend should understand your pain as a man.

Love requires understanding, compromise and acceptance.

Nothing happened. That's all I have to say. Hope it helps. Good luck.

If you love, you should accept everything about you, your girlfriend should also love you, let it understand everything you are now, if she can accept it, it is the best, if she can't accept it, it is also reality.

It seems that the woman's family is more face-saving, you can discuss with your girlfriend, or you can talk about your hardships, after all, you are going to get married, you must communicate with each other, don't spoil the relationship between you for these external conditions,

Hehe, the mind of the person who said this is too low. If you don't experience the cruel reality, how can you cross the pinnacle of life. Cruelty again and again can grind your will into a "steel" will.

How do you need to learn to adapt? Only in a cruel society can talents be created! In such a society, you have to learn to adapt to everything, right?

The reality is cruel and life is boring. It's so lonely to lose someone you love the most. Hearts are always painful and broken! Don't dare to give anymore, this is love.

Keep running forward, it's just the darkness before the dawn, the dawn is ahead, I believe you will be happy soon.

How can you see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain?

No one succeeds casually

Don't be discouraged, as long as you have a good relationship, take your time to convince your parents that they will bless you. They just think too much about the happiness of their children, so they are afraid that their children will not be happy, so they keep preventing you from being with people who they think can't give you happiness.

It is cruel to you, and you can be cruel to him. Cripple for cripple.

Too cruel? Why do you still have to keep saliva pinching, do you yearn for it?

Consideration is certain, we in China pay the most attention to this aspect! But you have to do everything on your own.

Mentality??? Got it?

You are living for yourself, the reality is always cruel and hypocritical, it depends on what kind of mentality you have to face it.

1.One worry and one joy are all on fire, one glory and one withered are all dust, meditate to see through the hot and cold things, and do not dream of people for eternity. Wise people blindly look forward, wise people look backward in everything; A wise person is a person who overcomes others; A wise man is one who overcomes himself.

Mind cultivation should be based on purifying the mind, and cultivation should be based on selflessness.

2.The most terrible thing about human life should not be poverty, but helplessness. When you feel like there's no one behind you, you really feel scared. Without the courage to break out of the cocoon, where can there be flying wings. The pain of molting is the price of maturity at a young age.

3.Not disturbing the tranquility of others is compassion; Not hurting the self-esteem of others is kindness. It is good for a man to live and give his own light, and not to blow out the lamps of others.

Instead of laughing against your will, it is better to be quiet, and instead of caring about the betrayal and unkindness of others, it is better to manage your own dignity and beauty.

4.Every trauma in life is a kind of growth for us growing up, don't complain about this world, you will gradually find that it looks cruel, but it is very just. Weakness can sometimes be pitied and cherished because human beings are still moral and kind.

5.Don't make yourself afraid of other people's opinions because you care too much, no matter how good you do, there will be stupid x pointing fingers at you. The gains and losses of life are downplayed, the past is let go, the present is cherished, and the future is hoped.

If you can't get it, don't want Cong Tong, why should you wronged yourself. Let go of your baggage, forget all your worries, and spend every day happily.

6.Fulfill others, wronged yourself, and after a long time, people will treat you as a fool. Character is valued by integrity, kindness is valued by heart, sincerity is valued by sincerity, humility is valued in life, choose to be a good person, but don't be a good person, you can think I'm kind, but don't think I'm stupid.

Because everyone is not stupid, everyone is smart.

7.Someone stabs you in the chest, and in turn says you're sensitive, and you put the knife back, but he says "it's a little bit of a thing."

8.One day you will know: people's hearts can't be exchanged for people's hearts, and seriousness can't get affection. In this world, there are always people who don't appreciate affection, and there are also ungrateful hearts. Zheng Ming people and people, not all can be trusted, heart and heart, not all are willing to pay sincerity.

9.In this world, there are very few people who really help you, and there are many people who are sarcastic about you, when you have use value, you greet you with a smile, and after you have no use value, try to avoid you, people, very realistic, and very cruel.

10.Comment less on other people's affairs, review and clean up your own affairs more, do a good job of yourself, and have extra energy, and then help and care for others, and try to be good. Otherwise, you're just a good person, not a good medicine.

There is always a time when the skills are not as good as others, there is always a time when you are unwilling to be left behind, there is always a time to send people under the fence, don't be ashamed, and don't have to be inferior, we are all mortals, mixed in the **, and live an ordinary life. When you are ignored, ridiculed, criticized, and framed by others, you must learn to grasp your own rhythm, as long as your heart is not chaotic, it will be difficult for the outside world to change anything about you. Don't envy others, everyone has pain; Don't lose yourself, cheer up better than everything.

Putting the ideal thing into reality will always seem a little unsatisfactory. Isn't there such a saying: the ideal is very plump, and the reality is very skinny. Indeed, there is always something difficult to accept in reality.

The cruelest thing is that after waiting in line for two hours to buy something, I just got to myself and sold it out. The boy he likes, but he falls in love with his best friend.

When I took the college entrance examination, I was only one point away from the score line of the school I wanted to go to the most. When fresh graduates go to find a job, they say they want to have work experience, but when they change jobs after working for a few years, they only need fresh graduates.

There are many, many more, very cruel things, and each of us has experienced cruelty as well.

I remember when I was in high school, I liked one of the boys in my class. I bought a lot of colored paper, wrote his name and what he wanted to say to him on each one, and folded them into roses one by one. I bought a heart-shaped gift box, which I piled up with roses, and when I wanted to give it to him, I received a love letter from him.

I read carefully word by word, and the smile in the corners of my eyes and eyebrows could not be hidden, I thought, how can there be such a coincidental thing in this world, and the luckiest thing is that the person I like also happens to like me. I read word by word to the end and saw that my best friend's name was written on it.

I was stunned. I really don't understand, why would fate play such a trick on me? Even if he likes others, why does he like my best friend? But the reality is so cruel, my beautiful love ended before it began.

I chose to leave, and at that time there was an art student in the school, so I went to study art. When I first started studying, I was really tired, and I had to draw until 2 o'clock in the morning every day, and I painted scenes even in my dreams. Although I hadn't studied before, my teacher praised me for being very talented, and I was making very fast progress.

When I was preparing for the entrance exam, I thought I would definitely pass. As a result, when I saw the exam questions, I was stunned. What the hell is the exam question?

What are the things that are being painted? Cutting boards, stainless steel basins with koi fish, walls with oil stains, blue and white porcelain bowls with vinegar, I've never painted anything like that.

Because the study time is relatively short, there is no way to learn to draw more things, and our teacher also told us that the exam will definitely not test fish, nor will it test stainless steel things, you can rest assured to draw vegetables.

When I saw the title, I was devastated. It doesn't get any cruelder than that, I stay up late every day until two o'clock in the morning, and when I take exams, I don't test what I've learned at all.

Then I failed to go to school, and there was no way to go to art school, but fortunately, my cultural class was not bad, and I went to an ordinary university by relying on my cultural class results.

Since then, I have learned that no matter what you do, you have to be completely prepared, because you have no idea how cruel the reality will be.

The reality is so cruel that you can't imagine, there is a man who was born poor, has no father since he was a child, his mother has autism and paranoia of victimization because of divorce, the man has been desperately making money since the day he stepped into society, in order to get himself out of the current situation, he spent almost all his youth, he worked day and night. At the age of 30, he bought a duplex mansion in the center of Shanghai, and that year he married his beloved wife, who was one year younger than him, and he still worked hard after marriage, and never let his wife do any housework at home, even if he washed his feet, the man squatted down every day to help her wash. Two years later they had a baby, a boy.

The baby is healthy and lively, and the man thinks that his efforts have been rewarded, but he does not know that it is precisely because of the birth of the baby that has brought him almost a catastrophe. His wife's family is full of women, his father-in-law and mother-in-law gave birth to two daughters, and his sister gave birth to another daughter, so his father-in-law's father and his father-in-law's family are very stiff, because the father-in-law has no queen. At this time, the wife began to use her brain to let her son take her surname, to consolidate her position at home, and to compete with her sister.

But the man single-handedly supported the family, and he didn't want his son to take his wife's surname. The woman was silent after knowing the man's thoughts, and planned a shocking conspiracy. When the woman studied TOEFL behind her back and applied for a U.S. immigrant visa, when her visa came down, the woman said to the man that our family has extra money to buy another house, and the man thought, yes!

If you have money to put money in the bank, inflation is so bad, it is better to buy a house to maintain its value, but the current national policy is known to everyone, and the housing area exceeds the standard, and the purchase of houses is restricted. The woman thought of a solution for the man, we fake a divorce, and you go out of the house first. When we buy a house, we will remarry.

Women say a lot to men. The man agreed! It's just that he didn't know that the woman had already applied for a U.S. visa behind her back.

It wasn't until one day that the man was suddenly locked out of his home, and he realized his situation, at this time he only had 54 yuan on his body, money, house, car, his son flew away, and the company he opened owed hundreds of thousands of wages to employees. That's cruelty!!

Today's society is a society where money is paramount, money is what you want, you can afford to have everything, nothing is bullied and looked down upon by others if you have nothing.

I don't know, anyway, he made me understand more about how cruel reality is.