My boyfriend is always too realistic to think about problems, what should I do?

Updated on psychology 2024-06-04
31 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-11

    Your boyfriend thinks about things very realistically, and when you can't stand it a little, it's precisely because you still like that kind of illusory thing, or you live too ideally.

    When men and women fall in love, boys always want to fall in love, and they want to understand slowly if they like, but girls are easy to fall prematurely, that is, when boys feel that they are just in love, girls feel as if they should get married, so the reality of boys, some of which girls should learn, is not so much a reality, I have to say that this is a kind of rationality.

    Today's society is a fast-paced society, and people will have beauty and love hidden in their hearts, but life is very realistic. The reason is very simple, reality is not terrible at all, I am afraid that if you fantasize too much, it will be terrible. Although there are a lot less romantic people who are too realistic, in fact, realistic people know the truth of life the most.

    One of my relatives has a very high education and his family is also very rich, because he has been living in the fast-paced life of the big city for a long time, so he is very realistic, and his consideration is also very realistic, I remember once he told me about some problems in love, I was still a blank sheet of paper at the time, I didn't understand anything. He told me at the time that in some big cities, people understand one thing better, that is, love is love, and marriage is marriage. I listened to it at the time, and asked him stupidly, I said, is it okay to just like someone?

    He said that it was impossible, and sooner or later he would face reality. I may still not be able to believe in such a realistic thing, in other words, I still believe in fairy tales, but there is no way, he is many times stronger than those of us who live in illusionism. The reality of consideration is not terrible, as long as there is love and beauty flowing in the heart, remember that people who are alive in real life can live better in the future, after all, the illusory bubble will burst at the touch of a touch.

    When you feel that your boyfriend's reality makes you very anxious, you should also try to be realistic, so that you can survive in this fast pace, so you should not feel anxious, you should see the reality and continue to enrich yourself, this is the best state.

    You can actually put yourself in the shoes of your boyfriend, the more realistic he thinks, the more responsible he is about this issue? Often one thing wants to get the truth, not by relying on one point, imagining how it is, but by relying on multiple points, how cruel it is in reality.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    It is a happy thing for a girl to meet a boy who loves herself in this life, she once thought that she was the one who was forgotten by God, and then met her boyfriend, and felt that she was the happiest person in the world, I believe that many girls have the same idea as me, if your boyfriend thinks about the problem is always very realistic, what should you do as a girl, I think there are several ways to solve it.

    The first way is to talk to your boyfriend about what is in your heart. Two people living together will inevitably face a variety of problems, your boyfriend is correct in considering the problem, so that you will take a little less detours in the future, and the two of you will be more stable and perfect in dealing with problems in your future life, so that you can not only maintain the relationship between the two of you and your friends but also establish a stable circle of friends.

    You think your boyfriend is very realistic in his speech, and then you can talk to your boyfriend about it, the two of you can consider things realistically when you encounter problems, but for the two of you to live a little more naïve, so that the relationship between the two of you is more romantic, this kind of love is happy.

    The second way is to learn more things and experience some things, so that your mind will also mature. Your boyfriend has mature thinking, you should also be close to him, have the same rational thinking as your boyfriend, learn more knowledge, let your brain have enough foundation to support thinking, and then experience more things that allow you to grow.

    The third way is to learn more about your boyfriend's way of thinking.

    Talk less when dealing with problems. Since your boyfriend is mature in dealing with problems, you are the kind of girl who is very immature, so in the face of such things, you will talk less and watch more, and learn a little problem solving methods and various human feelings in this little thing.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Everyone has their own way of thinking about the problem, and then the result of thinking about it will be different. The relationship between boyfriend and girlfriend is even more so, it is normal for two people who have nothing to do with each other to come together and have their own ideas. The boyfriend thinks too realistically, which may have something to do with his upbringing and education, and he may have been hit by reality before or experienced it around him, and then deeply affected him.

    So as a girlfriend, if you know that this is the case, you have to know whether you can accept him like this, if you can tolerate him, if you can't accept it and tell him, instill some ideas in him, if he loves you, he will definitely listen to it a little bit, and he will change a little.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    My boyfriend friend used to look for him and he was a boy, usually when they were more rational, and sometimes he could be **** with him if he was close.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Wenqing is toxic, and it is better to be realistic.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Do you feel that your boyfriend thinks too realistically, why do you think he thinks too realistically, are you the only one who thinks so? Or do others think he's like that? If everyone else thinks that he is like this, then he is too realistic to consider what the problem is.

    Maybe he has experienced something, so he thinks about the problem too realistically, he may have to plan for the future, if a person's life is very smooth for him, then that person will not think about the problem so realistic. Perhaps you can try to get to know him and ask him why he thinks the way he wants to do it, and what the implications of the question will be according to his approach, whether the benefits outweigh the disadvantages or the disadvantages outweigh the advantages. Discuss if there are other ways to do it, or you can try to discuss with him and guide him that there are some things that are not so realistic.

    If he hasn't experienced anything, but he's very realistic, if it's about your future show, it's very economical for you, then you can think about what you like about him, if a guy shows it to his girlfriend like that, then what's romantic, there is no poetry and distance, the reality is to show, and to change romance is to be romantic.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    There are good and bad realities.

    The good thing is that he may be thinking about your future, and he is thinking about all aspects such as the economy. This shows that he is very mature.

    The bad side is that if it's too realistic, if your family background or your own differences are too big, it may just be a period of freshness. to the back if he thinks you are not suitable for him, then ...

    How to say it, people's hearts, feelings, this kind of thing is all pondered and observed by oneself. Sometimes casual details will always truly express a person's heart. You can feel and experience with your heart to see whether his reality is right or wrong.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    First of all, as a man, you shouldn't say that kind of thing, since you should take responsibility as a man, if he doesn't have the ability to support his family, then why did he get you, girls are spoiled from a small family, and when she grows up, she hasn't honored her parents much, she has to marry someone else, become someone else's wife, serve her parents-in-law, and modern women, are all taking care of the family and going out to work hard, if he is a man at this time, he can't take responsibility, how tragic it should be. The first parents asked him to buy a house because they wanted you to have a home in the future. Second, I think if he can't afford to buy a house, your parents won't insist on him buying it, they just want you to live with peace of mind in the future.

    Third, you can clearly tell him, I am with you, I don't want you money, I just want a place to live in, even if I don't buy a house, we are together, and my parents let you buy it, just to have peace of mind.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    First of all, this man is not right, it is very wrong to say that it is for the house, it is not what a man should say, but it may also be to vent, because sometimes it is really difficult for men, on the other hand, it depends on whether the man has his own ideas and plans, or whether he has ambition, whether he can give you a good future, if he is indeed capable and has ideas, you give him more support and care, so that the man will respect you like a guest in the future and treat you well.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    The house is the foundation of the relationship between two people, the relationship without a foundation ages very quickly, rather than getting married and having children, it is better to make trouble with him now, a woman's youth is only a few years, don't delay, no one wants the yellow-faced woman if you drag it out.

  11. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    Then you tell her if you want your child to be born without a place to live, whether it is realistic to marry you and even want a place to live, but you also work hard or contribute some money.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Oh, I also asked to buy a house, and now I ask if the house is renovated, I can't afford to buy a house, I just can't afford it, look at it, we don't have a house, but we have married a wife,, I have a house and a car, and people are not short or ugly, and they can't marry a wife I guess I haven't met someone who loves each other If you have someone who loves you, be content.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    The pressure on the man is also very great, and if he has the ability, he will naturally buy a house and a car.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If you want to get married, you must have a house to live in, you ask him to say what to do, he has a clear plan, you can wait, if not, it means that he has no plans to marry you at the moment.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    You are very realistic, you are so the idea of young people over 90, insist!

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    The man sometimes thinks too much, such as the bride price, which is a local custom, but the south always blames the woman for the responsibility

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    I don't have a house to get married now.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    As long as there is enough love, two people from all over the world will also be together.

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    It depends on what kind of life you want, if you want to live a rich life, if you don't want to be too tired, just find a rich man to marry, even if you are old and ugly, but you can have no worries about food and clothing. If you want to experience youth well, love well, find someone you love the most, live a good young time, time passes in the blink of an eye, current boyfriend, I feel that you don't love each other enough, find a boyfriend who can make you forget me, or a rich man.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    This depends on the level of your relationship, if you believe that he will have some achievements after graduation, then you will persevere, and if you are not optimistic, you will give up.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    The reality is cruel, if you really can't come together, then break up.

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    I wonder what your real problem is? If you truly love each other, there is nothing or reason for you to choose to give up, no matter what you have, you should face it together!

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Look at what the reality is. Boyfriend is not motivated. I don't go in aggressively. Divide!..

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    Cleansing has to face everything, and if it is impossible to be together, it should be broken early.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    Let's focus on reality! After all, the two are not yet mature.

  26. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    I support your idea, whether he says that you are realistic or worship money, life is always so realistic, not two romantic stories can live for a lifetime. Money is the foundation of solid love, those who say that they don't care about anything because of love, pull it down, everyone is very busy, whoever wants to live in a fairy tale world, let him live in a fairy tale world, see how long they can hold on without economic strength. I'm still saying that, without money, everything is.

  27. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Maybe boys are not so confident in emotional issues, although they can't be material in front of love, but nothing can be done without money in real life, I actually support your point of view, if the boy works hard, struggles, and finally falls down, if I am I will definitely not give up on him.

  28. Anonymous users2024-01-15

    In fact, as long as a man can think about working hard to make money for his small family, no matter how much he earns, he will always work hard, succeed best, and never give up this responsibility if he is not successful.

    You can't just think that if you don't want to do anything, you just think that if you have love, you will have bread, and this will definitely not last long.

  29. Anonymous users2024-01-14

    Your ideas are now divided. From his point of view, if you keep talking about money, it is too realistic, he may be disgusted, and then cold, but from your point of view, if he does not succeed, then you can't blame him, and you will feel upset in this way, because if he promises to give you a happy life for a lifetime, but he doesn't have a little pressure, no motivation to do it, then it is equivalent to not understanding the universe. So, if you two think something, you may have a problem expressing yourself.

    As a man, it must be stressful.

  30. Anonymous users2024-01-13

    Love is not a charcoal in the snow, one person sends warmth to another person on a cold winter night, love is the icing on the cake and evenly matched.

    Both people have their own pursuits and goals, and are able to tacitly respect and not affect each other.

    Material pursuit is the foundation of firm love, and the pursuit of upward pursuit is the foundation of long-term love.

  31. Anonymous users2024-01-12

    It's useless even if he asks you to show your attitude, because people's attitudes will change, and many people who swore by when they got married ended up getting divorced, which is normal. People's thoughts change over time, and now he says he loves you, and maybe next week he will go to another woman.

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