What should I do if my kindness to others is taken for granted?

That's how I am! I poured my heart and soul into their kindness, they told me to help if I can do my best to help him, Christmas, he asked me for Christmas gifts, I did not refuse, spent a few weeks to choose gifts, save money, and finally I chose a particularly good gift, that is, practical, and commemorative value, spent a few dollars, engraved a few words on it, carefully wrapped to her, and he, the gift is there, but he came back to see the gift before saying to me, I don't know what to buy for you, just buy something for you, When I looked at it, it was just something that could be seen everywhere on the street, which of course made my heart cold, and I bothered to prepare a gift for him, but this was all I got. After this incident, I was determined to change myself, to learn to say no to them, at first it was nothing, but then they said that I had changed, that I used to help them, but now I don't.

It shows that people's hearts are not enough to swallow elephants, a meal raises a benefactor, and a rice raises an enemy. Unreserved giving, the other party takes it for granted, treat this kind of person to stay away, let him understand that there are a few people in this world who are good to him, and how many friends can give him wholeheartedly, let him hit a wall and suffer hardships, otherwise he will not wake up.

Everything must have a certain limit, whether it is friends, family or lovers, just asking others to be good to them, and they are not good at maintaining the relationship, and they are not even willing to pay a certain price for maintaining the relationship. Then the relationship has no meaning to exist. Of course, there are some people who are still willing to be nice to this kind of person, and even willing to give everything.

If it's me, if you take my kindness to you for granted, even if you have to take it for granted, then I'm sorry you've been permanently deleted from my address book.

If others are of the same sex and take their kindness for granted and don't know how to be grateful, then they should know what to do and slowly distance themselves. If it's a couple, I don't know how to be grateful, and if it takes a long time, it is estimated that I will be tired and will slowly become estranged.

But I think that the interaction between people should be the law of mirrors, and you will give others what kind of face they give to you as they treat you. Everyone is different, making friends depends on character, some people, some things, can not be uniformly measured, treated differently, but the premise is, don't hurt friends.

This is human nature, there is a friend who is very good to everyone, others always say that he is stupid, he still does it as always, and his life is still good, which shows that sometimes the public's meaning is not necessarily right.

I think there is no need for anything else in the world except to be unconditionally good to parents, whether it is a husband and wife, a child, a friend or a relative, if she takes it for granted, then I'm sorry, and I'm too busy to serve.

If you want to continue the relationship, you can only make sacrifices and seek satisfaction from one party. When one side can't bear it, the two sides will break up completely. If it's me, be patient, and if he doesn't know it again, I'll leave. If I leave, it will be indefinite!

When you say that others take it for granted, that is when you give others too much expectation, either leave or leave, and find someone who can give you mutual dependence.

Then I will no longer be nice to you, but you yourself understand that nothing is taken for granted by others.

This group of people are the kind of people who don't know how to be grateful. Stop your actions in time, because your efforts are meaningless.

It is recommended that you don't go on like this, do what you have to do, and don't be overzealous.

The consequences of this must be very sad, in this world, in this society, in your life, except for your parents who are good to you, other people do not have to be good to you, so you don't take it for granted, many people take it for granted, feel that their parents are the best for themselves, then if you go to school, people are also the best for you, and when you go to society, people are also the best for you, in fact, this is wrong, In fact, people don't have to be the best for you, especially have a good relationship with you. Especially iron, otherwise it won't, so don't have such thoughts, it's wrong to have such thoughts, in fact, in real life, everyone has his way to go, everyone has his ideas to do, so the most important thing, I want to tell you, then you must make yourself feel that you are the best to do, in fact, life is not garbled in reality. So in normal times, don't take it for granted that others are good to you.

If you have such an idea, then you will definitely suffer in life, and you will suffer a great loss, for example, if you go to school, then you think that your classmates must be very good to you, in fact, this is impossible, and the school itself is also a competitive environment. In this competitive environment, everyone has their own ideas, do you think people can be good to you? Do you think people must be your good classmates?

I must be able to get along with you very well, in fact, this is such a thing, to this day, I think so, anyway, I don't think anything is taken for granted, except for your parents who are good to you, this is not necessarily good to you, you have to use your own way to go.

In such a situation, then life is such a thing, and many times life, then in my opinion, maybe this is the same thing. In fact, in life, everyone's thoughts may be different, but most people's thoughts are similar, so what I want to tell you is that in life, it will be like this. So don't take people for granted, you have your own things to go, and others have their own way to go.

If you want others to be really good to you, you must show your own strength and show your own value, in fact, in this society, if you are a valuable person, a glorious person, then people will naturally treat you, better, yes, we go to school, time, there is a, a girl then she is special, good, good-looking, very beautiful, then, boy, to her is very attentive to her, the whole class is very good to him, isn't this a thing, So in this society, if you can grasp this method, then I believe that others will definitely give you good, if you yourself are not popular, if you are not popular with others, then it is difficult to have a good result, at least not to achieve the result you want.

This will lead to the consequence that the other party will choose to abandon you, because your thinking is wrong, and no one has to pay for you.

This practice will lead to fewer and fewer people who are kind to you, it will make you very lonely in Zen, and many people will think that you are very selfish and will stay away from you.

This kind of training method may make the other party feel very tired, and the most serious consequence is that the other party will break up with you, and feel that it is blind to be with you, and there is no future and no result.

As a result, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment.

Wen Gu Yue Nanxi.

That day, I was buying vegetables sold on a roadside tricycle, green vegetables, looking particularly fresh, so I bought two nests.

Take it back and cook the crispy meat, it's delicious.

There was an episode where the sister who sold vegetables, an acquaintance of hers passed by, and she asked the other party to take a nest back to eat.

Actually, she was also polite and gave it to the other party to eat. But she said to her sister who sold vegetables, "Keep the small one for me, and I'll take it to soak." ”

The sister who sold vegetables said, "There is no left, the small one, I used it to make up for it." ”

After she left, the sister muttered about it again.

said that people don't say enough, I don't have to make up for it, I have to be enough!

And the sister who took the vegetables took her kindness to her for granted.

Therefore, if you receive a gift from someone else, you should be especially grateful, and remember to return the gift next time.

Jinguan City.

It has become a habit, taking it for granted, it should be so, a little unsatisfactory, thinking that the other party has a problem, never looking for the problem from itself, all inertia, self-indulgence leads to the gradual disadvantage of the development of the situation, so as to fall into the mud of pain and incomprehension, ridiculous to the same time, human weakness is exposed.

In fact, let go of the outward critical vision, find the cause and crux of everything from yourself, often self-examination and self-reflection, have reverse thinking, put yourself in the shoes of empathy, understand empathy, do everything calmly, and be inwardly aware of the pros and cons of self-words and deeds, so as to make adjustments and changes.

Like someone said:

When you first meet someone, even if he is only a little good to you, you will be grateful and want to give something in return.

But as time goes by, even if he is ten times better to you than before, you don't feel anything, you just feel that everything is as it should be.

You are like a black hole, where the other party puts all the effort and compassion into it, but you don't get a little response.

And if you remain indifferent, then, when the other person has saved up enough disappointments, it is time to leave.

In this world, there is only willingness, not taking it for granted.

We should always remind ourselves that every kindness that others treat you is hard-won, please learn to empathize, think more about each other, and don't live up to this kindness.

People's hearts are not cold for a day, don't overdraw other people's feelings and trust in you, and regret it.

Strange to say, we slowly begin to grow up as a child, become mature, and improve our thoughts and consciousness. The only thing that hasn't changed is the heart that is good to ourselves, as if no matter what, we will intentionally be kind to ourselves. The people who we deliberately protect and deliberately maintain that were once the most important in our lives are really lost with the sublimation of time.

Why? Because time has not only changed our friends, but also us. We don't think it's just that.

But we are less and less interested in our bosom friends as before, because we have less "sense of ceremony", don't underestimate this word, really, we have been friends for 15 years hand in hand, and our special feelings are ......and will tell us that it was a mistake in the end. We are still nostalgic for yesterday, that year.

We think about what we did wrong over and over again, and we can't figure it out, but such a good relationship suddenly disappears, and the person who once swore to die will not leave, just because we have made such a little mistake, and we will not forgive, because the true feelings are extinguished in the days without a sense of ceremony. Even if you are sad, you don't say it, even if you still have concerns, you don't compromise if you still have attachments. Emotional window paper is the same, and it will break when you poke it.

It's just too much to take for granted, too much to should.

Actually, I don't think anyone takes it for granted that no one is good to you, and everyone doesn't say it because they don't want to hurt the harmony, but it's actually impossible to endure it. Because there is too much no sense of ceremony, too much naturalness, too much willingness, but slowly I get tired. After walking alone for a long time, I found that I was so desperate that it was not for myself, and no one understood on the road, no one understood, it was very bitter, and I wanted to find someone to talk to my heart, but no one was.

Only then did I discover the real reality, everyone has their own path to take, and they have their own people to be responsible. Therefore, when I didn't care about my own rights, I didn't feel uncomfortable with my friends, which made a big mistake.

There's an old saying that all departures are premeditated. Therefore, cherish what you have, in fact, you are very happy to be able to have it. Don't get a lot of benefits and worry about other people's things.

This is the practice that can feel happiness the most. If you can feel happiness, you will cherish it. May everyone grasp the small fortune of the moment.