Have you ever encountered an old colleague who excludes me like this?

My personal experience is not to fight with him. First, because I haven't been in the company for a long time, I can't grasp everyone's relationship, and if you offend someone, you may anger others. The second is that people have the psychology of bullying, and I hope that newcomers will like it only if they are obedient.

If a newcomer comes soon after he or she gets into an unpleasant relationship with others or fights for his own interests excessively, even if it is right, no one else will understand. will feel that this is a calculating person. It's not good for a foothold.

Third, there is no need to fight at all. Everyone's eyes are bright. Your colleague is not as capable as you, and everyone else can see it clearly, let alone your leader.

If it were me, I would have stood still, kept my mouth shut, watched calmly, and waited for an opportunity. The most skillful person does it is to let others see him as excessive, and when others knock him down, you have to show sympathy. In this way you have won the hearts of all.

So if he goes too far, then you should induce him to go even further.

I've been to this before. Personally, I think that the reason for being rejected by others is because others know that you used to be higher than your current position, and there will be an attitude that the general manager will still come to do our work, and only you have to endure this relationship to resolve this relationship, and you must learn to take the initiative to interact with them, let them know that you don't care what others think of you, so that other people's discrimination has no place to show, and they will accept you after a long time. Don't let them see that you're upset when you're angry, turn your anger into a smile.

Give it a try. Smile and face those you don't like.

I don't think it's necessary to be polite to this kind of person.

Use the work to give him some color.

Now that you've reached the manager level, you must have a lot of team work experience, but you can't figure it out?

Hello, in interpersonal communication, I feel that it is difficult to be a good person for my colleague relationship to be poor, and I sincerely help without the respect of others. The person who spends the most time with you every day is not my loved one, nor my friend, but my colleague. He and I were face to face in the office, eating, drinking, and entertaining together.

But when we have the concept of private space, we can't ignore the reasonable social space and public space, and how to grasp the distance in the office is not so simple. Of course, it is necessary to have a good relationship with your colleagues, but it depends on what you rely on to maintain a good relationship with your colleagues and how their good feelings about you are formed. If it's just because you're a good colleague who can relieve them of a lot of burden, you can even fall victim to them when they make mistakes.

Obviously, such a good relationship is not something to be thankful for. Especially as a newcomer to the workplace, it is important to remember that colleagues do not mean that friends cannot be separated from public and private.

Keeping the right distance between me and my colleagues will make you look more beautiful. I think many newcomers in the workplace have similar difficulties: showing a smile no matter the occasion, people think you have no personality; If you respond to the needs of your colleagues, there will be a time when you can't respond because of ability or other reasons, and people will think that you are not interesting enough and alienate you; You have lent money to a colleague many times without any money, and he quickly becomes accustomed to it, and you are forced into a dilemma.

Because of my ignorance, I tell my colleagues everything, and all my colleagues collectively exclude me, what should I do? Resignation may be considered. If all the co-workers you work with are squeezing you out, I think you should find your own reasons.

Take care of yourself and learn to shut up! Ahh Training, that's called our technical background.

The holder of low-voltage electrical appliances, even if old, is still serious. Electronic device Sun Nianxiao, although young, spreads quickly, has nothing to do, and always has to ask for permission. The reason is that the child is still young.

Sometimes I'll pay for you, and I won't count when I come back. I've said this many times: for example, a company wants to promote a colleague to be a supervisor.

You and your colleagues have opportunities, and the opportunities are equal. Before the quota was formalized, he told his colleagues that the company had chosen you as its supervisor and that the company had promoted you to its supervisor. You are destined to incur jealousy and hatred from other colleagues, especially those who are older or more capable than you.

For example, the company announced for various reasons that we would not be adjusting wages this year, and we all accepted this reality. But you tell your colleague privately that the company has just set a salary for you, and the company has just given you a raise. Now everyone has a reason to complain about the company, but that's the case in the workplace.

Everyone will take their resentment of the company out on you, and everyone will be jealous and hate you.

Innocence and ignorance can hurt you. Don't talk to anyone. Remember, say less and do more.

Your personality determines your behavior, changes yourself and treats others with care.

She was pure and kind, thinking and speaking without thinking, without thinking, bringing him out and making others think she was young, elegant, and ignorant. Nature is incompetent and useless, and it is not conducive to the good deeds of others. We can only sympathize with you.

We need to get away from you. Exclusion is normal.

If you can look at it temporarily, then you don't need to rush to deal with anything, just stick to your duty, do what you need to do, find whomever you need to find, follow the steps, and do your job well. Slowly, things will take a turn for the better. Some people who have been deceived will see the truth of the matter, and some people who want to see the excitement will find that there is no excitement to see, and the so-called isolation will naturally disintegrate.

After all, they are all colleagues, and there is no deep hatred, who wants to offend another person for a long time for the sake of one person?

Everyone encounters these problems to a greater or lesser extent in the workplace. Some of them are because they are too upright, and there will be real friendship between colleagues, but some people will use some means behind their backs in order to gain a foothold in the workplace. If the other party wants to smear you and squeeze you down, you can confront him in private, save him some face, and explain your grievances clearly, or ignore them.

Lions don't turn back because a dog barks.

If you are indeed right, you are not afraid of shadows, time will give your colleagues the answer, and the colleague who says bad things about you will also be punished.

In society, when the forest is big, there are all kinds of birds, and there are many people with mixed mouths, and everyone will encounter some strange things. If this is the first time you encounter this situation, you are probably still emotional and angry. Young people, they have not experienced much, and this is understandable.

For office colleagues, especially between peers, he has no jurisdiction over you, just scold you and you back, and you don't have to give him a good look. Once or twice, he will know that you are not good at bullying, and presumably your situation will be greatly improved, remember, people are good at being bullied, and horses are good at being ridden!

What I want to say is that you can be wronged because everyone doesn't know what kind of person the other person is; You can also be angry because you have to believe that there is someone in the world who is full of malice towards you, just because of that little darkness in his heart. But don't let yourself be depressed, because they want to see you like that. We are just ordinary people, and there are many small emotions that make us real people.

You can complain to people you trust very much, and listen to others stand on the united front with yourself and scold others. Then, time will dilute everything, you will find out how worthless this person is, when facing this person, no matter how good the face is, you will never treat him sincerely, this is the greatest punishment of the kind you to him.

Connect with feelings. If you want to completely improve the relationship with your colleagues, you must find an excuse to get together with everyone, and change the cup a few times, the knots in your heart will be unraveled, and the contradictions and estrangements will disappear without a trace. It's still very cost-effective to spend a little money, buy friendship, and return to the collective!

In the event of a national policy restructuring, we will lay off employees! If it is framed according to the terms and conditions, it will not be Ming's turn to leave. However, it was in the face of this great interest that those who usually put up with him began to use their brains.

Especially those who have to go but are particularly reluctant to go. As a result, someone joined forces with the department leader to directly report the name of Dad Ming. By the time he knew about it, it was already the superior who was talking to him.

Yes, I solved it this way. 01.Get your mindset right, and it's often not your fault that you're isolated.

After finding out that they were isolated by other colleagues, the first reaction in their hearts was that they felt that they had done something wrong and offended others, so they were isolated.

However, this is not the case, many times, a group of people isolate you, the most likely reason is that there is a misunderstanding, and secondly, it is not excluded that it is because of following the trend, or being forced to choose to take sides.

I joined a brand new company after I changed jobs, but before I could join the company, the company's boss blew me up.

As soon as I arrived at the company, I was collectively excluded by my old colleagues, what do you say I did wrong? Originally, I came with the mentality of a "collaborator", but as soon as I got it, I suddenly became a "smashing field".

But if you think about it carefully, in fact, this is caused by a little misunderstanding, otherwise how could there be someone who inexplicably excludes whom?

We often say that there must be a reason for something, and this reason, more often, is due to some small misunderstandings, after all, in the workplace environment, everyone is an adult, no one is a fool, and there are still people who don't understand the truth that more things are better than less things?

Therefore, if you find yourself isolated, don't rush to hit yourself first, you must first think about whether Gao Zi has a misunderstanding that has not been resolved, which has led to a distorted view in the hearts of other colleagues.

02.Don't be aggrieved and keep your own style.

The feeling of being isolated is very uncomfortable, and in order to be able to return to the crowd, he even does not hesitate to bow down three times.

Fourth, make fun of yourself, but also let other colleagues accept yourself.

But is that really the case? To tell you the truth, this is really a big mistake!

There is an ancient Chinese saying that "those who respect themselves will always respect them", which means that people who know how to respect themselves and love themselves will be respected all the time.

If you are isolated, you will become inferior.

Fourth, become suddenly weak, which will only make others feel:

Oh, it turns out that your previous self-esteem was all faked, and if you were bullied, you were immediately weak. ”

With such thoughts, do you think they will pity you, or will they accept you again? No, they will just stay away from you, even taunt you.

Therefore, the more unprincipled you are, the harder it is to reintegrate, and the right thing to do is to keep your own style, how you usually are, and how you are now, as if it didn't happen.

That was 15 years ago, and one of the things that impressed me was when I first joined the work, and my old colleagues arranged the work for me, and I didn't want to be bullied, so after I refused, there were more and more contradictions.

In addition to the cooperative relationship between colleagues, there is also a competitive relationship between colleagues, and long-term dealings will inevitably lead to conflicts due to different work concepts or personality reasons. It may be just a matter of reproach in itself, but if you leave it alone and do not take appropriate measures to deal with it in a timely manner, it is easy to deepen conflicts and misunderstandings, worsen the problem, and even lead to the breakdown of the relationship between colleagues, and ultimately affect your career development.

As the saying goes, "Many friends have many roads, and many enemies have many walls." "Although, the vast majority of people are difficult to become friends with colleagues around them, but there are more friendships, critical moments can always help a little, and more important is actually the second half of the sentence, in the workplace, if there are too many enemies, it is easy to be isolated and excluded, which will undoubtedly make it difficult for them to move forward, and kick the iron plate everywhere in the work.

In order to avoid such a situation, it is necessary to learn how to resolve conflicts with colleagues.

When there is a conflict between colleagues, the words spoken are often offensive and threatening, and the best way to deal with these words is to ignore them, so as not to exacerbate the conflict. Although even if the contradiction is resolved, the extreme words and emotions in the quarrel often make many people linger, and there is a knot in their hearts that cannot be solved, and in the future work, this knot can easily become a "fuse" and prejudice.

Therefore, don't take the past contradictions too seriously, learn to forget, and be generous. On the one hand, it is for its own interests, not to make enemies; On the other hand, it is to avoid affecting one's work because of emotions, and then there are communication barriers due to psychological barriers.

Therefore, in the face of conflicts with colleagues, ignore them, and learn to forget that it is more beneficial to yourself, and at the same time pay attention to improving your own value, neither humble nor arrogant. Sakura Yui.