How do we raise a child who is not motivated?

How to cultivate children's self-motivation.

It is what every parent and teacher hopes that children will be self-motivated, but children's self-motivation also needs to be cultivated. So how can we cultivate children's self-motivation, this is the topic we need to discuss today, I hope to help some teachers and parents.

Cultivation of interest. If you want to have a child who is self-motivated, you must first be interested in the child, and if he feels that what he wants to learn tastes good for him, then he will naturally seek to improve.

The cultivation of a sense of superiority. If a child can feel that motivation can bring him a sense of superiority and that a sense of superiority can make him be praised by others, then he will pursue self-motivation, so praise from teachers and praise from parents is a must.

Let him feel the satisfaction that the process of progress brings to him. In fact, the process of hard work is the most important thing, because that process can bring him endless energy and satisfaction, so that he can learn a lot and understand a lot.

Look directly at the results. If he can see the good results brought by the efforts of others, then he will feel that the efforts can bring him benefits, so he will use them to seek results.

Understand the meaning. If he understands the meaning of hard work is to achieve good results, for his own greater achievements, then he will pursue progress.

Pursue self-improvement. If you get benefits and bring happiness, then the child will feel that it is good to be motivated, and the future path will continue to be pursued. In addition, now that technology is developed, I tried to use digital products to help me educate my children, and then I tried many applications called "early reading" or "learning words", but I was not very satisfied, either I need to pay a fee for the later course, or it is said to be free, but the built-in ads are frequent, which affects the learning effect.

That was until a friend recommended me a mobile app, Cat. Small; Shuai's learning, Chinese, characters, can accumulate literacy, develop a good habit of reading, and quickly adapt to the connection between young and primary. It's really a lot easier for us to be parents.

1. Discover your child's self-motivation: First of all, parents should really think from their child's point of view. When every parent who tutors homework says:

When this question is so simple that you don't know it, they use their decades of knowledge and experience to ask for a child. It is not easy to think about changing greeting socks, and it is even more difficult to understand the seemingly nonsensical behavior of children, which requires long-term communication and reflection from parents. Second, don't have a narrow definition of self-motivation.

What kind of child is considered a motivated child? Full marks in every exam, homework completed on time every day, help with housework, have your own ideals? Every child is different, and it is often blinding to define one standard.

2. Be good at discovering children's self-motivation and rewarding them. Maybe the child will tell you one day that he has discovered a big secret, which is actually a very ordinary thing, and please express your curiosity and shock from the child's point of view, and give him some encouragement to stimulate his curiosity.

3. Don't compare your child to others. No one is the same, and no one wants to be compared. Parents' mouths, "Look at who's who's child?" It is the cruelest chronic poison that eats into children's self-confidence and self-motivation.

4. Every child is born with a pair of curious eyes, and such curiosity is the driving force that pushes them forward. Parents should be good at discovering the shining points of each child, and add meditation to guide him correctly, so as not to let him become "someone else's child".

1. Grasp the child's psychology and change it carefully. We should first pay attention to grasp the psychology of children, although they are small, but they are more vanity, if we educate them from this aspect, there will be gains.

2. Affirm your child's grades. Our children, if they have some specialties and have achieved certain results, should give a positive expression in time, so that the children can build confidence.

3. Cultivate children's habits. We should pay attention to cultivating children's good habits, whether it is in life or filial piety in learning, it should be based on good habits.

4. Build children's confidence. We should build up the confidence of our children, and at all times, we should be careful not to let our children lose their confidence, and only when they have confidence can they get things done.

1. If the child can insist on reading for half an hour every day, then after a week, the parents will reward the child. Any child's progress in learning will be gradual, it is impossible to have results in one day, as a parent can not pull out the seedlings, but should grow together with the child, parents and children study together every day, can read a book together, insist on a week, if the child is very serious, then, such education is successful, the child in the process of reading, will also feel a lot of interest, may occasionally ask the father a question, or will test the father, if the father does not come up, Then the child will feel more fulfilled, and the child will fall in love with reading day by day, which is a very good state, and parents should also reward their children well, which can be material rewards or spiritual rewards.

2. If the child has a problem with the teacher during class, parents should praise the child in time. The growth of the child is bit by bit, if the parents find that the child has a problem with the teacher, this is a great progress, because their children never raised their hands before, just sit quietly in the position, no matter who is right or wrong, it is a manifestation of progress, the child has been willing to integrate into the learning, it is a thing worth being happy, parents should praise the child, let the child know that his efforts will not be in vain.

3. For children's progress in learning, parents should have a pair of eyes for discovery, and children will become more and more motivated. Sometimes children have a little interest in learning, but they can't immediately show it in learning, parents should be happy for their children, they should communicate with their children in time, and tell them that they have seen their children's progress, that is, they like learning. The more you praise your child's manuscript, the more motivated your child will be, and good children will be praised, and I believe that one day your child will become more and more motivated.

1. Guide children to set learning goals: Some children are not motivated to learn because the learning goals are not clear or the learning goals are unreasonable. Because children who do not have learning goals tend to be content with what they encounter, they are only satisfied with listening to lectures and writing homework, and do not conduct pre-class preview and after-class review at all, let alone check and fill in the gaps in current learning problems.

Children with high learning goals will lose their self-confidence in learning and give up on themselves because it is difficult to achieve their goals. Children who have too few learning goals will be complacent and unmotivated because the process of achieving their goals is too easy.

2. Establish a relationship of trust with your child: Whether it is a rebellious type, a broken can or a doting arranged child, as a repentant and repentant child, first of all, you must establish a relationship of trust with your child, so that every word you say, the child will think that you are helping him, not controlling him.

3. Help children broaden their horizons: Let children see the benefits of being positive and self-motivated. There should be a way to make children feel that learning is not so difficult, and it is not impossible to become a talent.

In this process, the most difficult thing to clear is the fixed thinking, the most difficult to overcome is inertia, and the most difficult to do is self-discipline. Therefore, patience is indispensable.

4. Change the way you praise your child: Psychologists remind us that if you want to praise your child, we should try to say as little as possible "you are so smart", because this will make the child attribute all achievements to intelligence, which is an immutable factor.