In college, I found myself still so unsociable

When we were in junior high school, we were unscrupulous and we were innocent and lively. When we get to high school, we gradually like the feeling of being a person, maybe it's just that as we grow older and mature our minds, we will have more and more thoughts, and ideas, and want to share them with others, and sometimes we don't dare to easily expose our true thoughts to everyone, which may be the pain of growing up.

Friends, not social, just a definition of yourself, just a phenomenon you see from the general surface, we don't need to be too strict with ourselves, we must be gregarious, we must become the focus of everyone's hearts, everyone's personality is different, the world is very big, very broad, we see many people on their stage, show themselves, all eyes on it. But even those who are in the spotlight sometimes can't guarantee that everyone in the world likes him, so sometimes, we retreat to the next best thing, life to live wonderfully, as long as there are people in the world who know me and understand me, I am not alone.

I have a few suggestions for your question.

1. Figure out what you really want, the kind of commander among the crowd, or just to be a member of the group that is not overlooked.

2. Find some genuine like-minded friends, even if there is only one, but also friends who are sincere in their relationship. It's not a sin to not understand basketball and famous cars, I believe you must also have what you're good at, why not find a friend who suits you, a friend you can talk to, and find a breakthrough from this place, why do you have to force yourself to understand basketball and famous cars. To understand the wonderfulness of life, first of all, we must understand our own wonderfulness, rather than following the wonderfulness of others!

3. Increase your self-confidence, which is also the most important point, if you can't be a popular person, how about it, I will be an excellent self, and I will be a proud self. Increasing self-confidence is the premise of gaining the trust of others. I'm sure you can do it!

In this world, everyone is unique!

Finally, I would like to give you a sentence: the journey of talents has been rare since the past, and there will be shortcomings if there are strengths. If the record makes up for the shortcomings, there is no one in the world; If you are short and long, there will be no one in the world who will not abandon you.

If you want to change, you have to pay sincerely! Maybe you are too lonely, so your classmates will "stay away" from you! So if you really want to make a change, you must first find someone to talk to, tell him all about your troubles, and hope to get his help.

Many people will say that the feelings of classmates are the most genuine, as long as the person you confide in can accept you, use this as a springboard, and then close the distance with other classmates through him, this is a good way! It's best that this person's popularity is better! I hope you can use your sincerity to pry open the door of friendship with others.

I think you were wrong in the first place! Do you think you can't change why you come here to ask? If you think about failure, can you succeed?

Everything that can be changed lies in the state of mind. Character is the mentality that changes habits when it grows, and habits change its personality when it grows. So change from the mindset.

The wolfskin scroll is a good book for me. Then look online for how to be positive and follow the execution. At least I've been through it earlier than you, and I've been in a lot of pain, slipping from third to 21, it's hard to understand, but if you don't change, he'll be in ...... cycle foreverSo you have to change and get out of the vicious cycle!

I used to be like that, but then I realized that I was too selfish to think that someone else should take the initiative to be my friend.

In fact, only if you are sincere and good to others, others will also be good to you, don't think about yourself in everything, think more about others, and care about others.

It's impossible for you to spend it alone, after all, people need the company of their partners in their lives, and interpersonal relationships are especially important, and if you don't have interpersonal relationships elsewhere, you will encounter a lot of setbacks.

If you want to be accepted, you are more open-minded than open-minded, let others come in, and make friends with your sincerity, and people who don't become friends with you are fools.

Life should be chic and open, don't pay too much attention to the things that you are unhappy about, maybe the problem is not as serious as you think.

Learn to care about others, pay special attention to some details, when interacting with people, think about whether it is appropriate for you to do this, sometimes your little negligence will also cause a bad impression on others, think more about others at ordinary times, prove yourself with practical actions, in your heart you have to be very confident that what you do is worthy of others, I think your friend should not be so unkind, you do what a friend should do, then it is not your fault.

Ask a counsellor to learn to change.

Actually, it's not difficult, you smile a little more at others, and over time, you will slowly integrate into this collective....Remember to smile....

Participate in group activities. Make yourself lively. Be open-minded, in fact, the people around you are very kind.

I think let's make friends and see sincerely. You don't have to worry too much. Be a little more chic.

Because everyone may have different ideas, there may be people who go to college, they have their own plans, they have their own goals, they have their own ideals, they want to fight for their dreams, and then they study wholeheartedly, and then put their minds on studying

Normal.

At university, everyone has their own life, and everyone is slowly looking for their own direction.

Some students may start their own businesses, some aspire to do academics, and some work everywhere to accumulate experience.

Learn to be alone and reduce waste.

If you can't find the right friend for a while, try to find a like-minded partner.

Your future will begin here.

In fact, it widens the gap between people.

It's not the college entrance exam, it's every day in college.

If you are always confused, life will pass slowly.

If you keep insisting on self-improvement.

You can really meet the best version of yourself.

In addition, share some things you can do alone to improve yourself, and I hope it will help you.

2. You can practice calligraphy. Having a good hand is a very plus, practicing words in your spare time, not only can you calm yourself and your words will become more and more beautiful.

3. Plan for each day. Making a list of things to do for the day and then completing them will make a fulfilling life and get rid of the loneliness you feel when you are free.

4. Exercise more. Only with a good body can we learn. Give yourself time to exercise each day, either outdoors or indoors.

You should also remember to maintain your health, eat more vegetables and fruits, drink more water, and eat less fried unhygienic food, a good body is really important, don't wait until you are sick to regret it!!

If you don't have a friend, it's a bit abnormal, and if you don't fit in with most of the others, it's also within the normal range, after all, the main purpose of college is to learn knowledge, and the secondary thing is interpersonal communication. If you do a good job in college, you will have no regrets about your four years of college when you leave campus.

It's not normal from the perspective of parents' expectations.,It's not advisable to get into the workplace and adapt to socializing with people in the future.,So,Don't count roommates.,Try to get five or six friends.。。。

It's okay, just be yourself, I personally don't fit in very well, and I don't want to go to many group activities.

It's up to the individual, some people are like that. If the popularity is better, the road may be easier after graduation.

College misfit is certainly not normal.

Only cattle and sheep are in groups, and lions and tigers are solitary.

You are destined to be unsociable in college, and the key is whether you want to fit in or not.

1.Interpersonal communication problems, some students in high school themselves are less like to talk, to the key university, there is an independent space, so they are more closed to themselves, do not like to communicate with others, plus the college course itself is more time, alone time is more, so for themselves, college students will be more cheerful, and dull will be more dull, so that the interpersonal relationship will naturally be more bleak. 2.

With the opening of the policy, the growth of the number of college students, the employment problem of college students is no longer as simple as before, and it has become a rumor that "college students abound", so it is really difficult for college students to find a job that matches their own minds, and the employment problem has become a problem. 93.The problem of the influence of values, this phenomenon is very indescribable, and it is not that the higher the education, the better the character behavior and values, but now there are many high-IQ crimes, and the main reason is also the influence of values, personal values will greatly affect the behavior and attitude of the whole person, and some people will even spread some ideas that they think they are correct but violate ethics and morals.

4.The severity of psychological problems is far beyond our imagination, and the incidence of depression is getting higher and higher, and the reason for this is the psychological problems caused by the injustice or oppression in life, school, and family, and serious psychological problems will cause many innocent lives to be lost. Therefore, both schools and society pay more attention to mental health issues.

5.Unclear about your future plans. The whole sky thinks about what he will do in the future, and he never takes practical action, even if he takes action, it is still three minutes of heat.