I especially like to think about other people s mental activities, do I have a mental illness?

It can only show that you care about what others think of you, you want to be perfect in the minds of others, you don't like to be ignored by others, and you don't like to be devalued, such a person's ideological activities are normal for some people, you won't be simply like yourself, you want to be recognized and respected by others, such people will be hurt in society, and you suspect that you have mental illness, it means that you are not a very confident person, I can try to be myself, don't care about other people's eyes, Don't think about what others think of you, just try to do your best It is appropriate to rely on other people's mental activities to improve your psychological quality and thinking rotation, which is conducive to your own better development in the group. ）

This is normal.,You know.,Psychology majors rely on this skill to eat.。。。 If this is a mental illness, then how can we be embarrassed by the psychology department...

This alone does not define whether or not there is a mental illness. If you don't let this affect your normal work life, it doesn't matter......

What is this, everyone is the same, and most artists have this preference, you have to boast that you are empathetic.

No, knowing oneself and knowing one's opponent is invincible.

Well, I think I'm thinking about what other people are going to think of you, or maybe it's thinking about it, I think.

Why do I always care so much about what other people think, do you think it's a mental illness?

1) Psychological interpretation.

There are many reasons for being too concerned about other people's opinions, and the main reason is people's sensitive and fragile character, and generally speaking, lack of self. I discussed this in detail in the article "Focusing on Other People's Thoughts". In clinical counseling, we have found that this phenomenon exists in a large number of cases:

Caring too much about other people's opinions has seriously affected their interpersonal relationships, and their psychological feelings are very conflicting and painful. At the same time, it was also found that their psychological problems were related to their relationship patterns since childhood and their lack of self-confidence. It seems that their character does not belong to themselves.

Psychologist Helen Deutsch elaborated on a personality called the Seeker Personality in "Psychoanalysis of Psychosis". She said: People of this personality seem to be entrusted to live, pandering to the outside world in order to maintain balance, until one day, some unexpected event breaks them down, even to the point of depression.

Those depressions that have been imprinted on the patient's life in the past, especially the depressions of damaged narcissism and deprivation of self-esteem, seem to suddenly come to the fore with pain, as a kind of conflicting demand for the liking of others and caring for the evaluation of others. You will find that they deliberately behave as good people on the hard road of finding to be accepted by others. To live, as if to live for the "recognition" of strangers.

I think, Helen. Deutsch's research is a wonderful illustration of why some people care so much about what others think. One more point:

In any relationship, if you try to gain the approval and acceptance of others, you will inevitably take great pains to focus on the minds of others, and you will inevitably condescend to cater to others and build relationships. Then, as a flattering defense model, the psychological motivation is not to think about the approval of others, but to defend against the harm of others, such as denial, ridicule, isolation, etc., and to guard against the deepest fear in one's own heart.

In addition, the root of the formation of personality is mainly in the past. For example, parents with neurotic personalities neglect their children mainly in the form of coercive impartiality to their children with their own thoughts and wills, in short, education that instills demands and deprives them of feelings (there is no need to dwell on the formation of personality here, because this is a big topic, and it is difficult to explain clearly).

2) Back to you.

Coming back to you, there are two consecutive questions, I wonder if you pay more attention to "why do you deliberately care about what other people think", or "is this a mental illness"? I ask this rhetorical question because experience has taught me that some people have the former question, just out of curiosity, without worry or anxiety, but worry about whether they have mental illness. Theoretically, these two issues are related, but personally, they are not.

For example, someone is very sensitive to other people's attitudes, and is always afraid of rejection when interacting, but he feels that he can bear this fear, and he doesn't care at all whether it is a mental illness or not, because he thinks that everyone has a mental illness, which is normal.

Being too considerate of other people's feelings can be understood as caring more about a person's personality and the way of doing things.

This is understandable, but learn to do it in moderation.

Do things in moderation, and you won't be entangled.

It is also recommended to read some interpersonal books on a regular basis, which is more helpful for your own growth.

You said that you used to think too much about other people's feelings and think too much about others, so from now on, think more about yourself without harming the interests of others, pay more attention to your own feelings, express your emotions more, take the initiative to express your needs to others, get support, make yourself less depressed, learn to stretch yourself, let yourself flow more smoothly, and see how it goes.

It is not right to think too much about others and not about yourself. Everyone is human, and their hearts are also fleshy. The appropriate way to do this is to make yourself comfortable while also considering the feelings of others, which is called self-interest and self-interest.

Self-interest and self-interest are commendable. Thinking too much about other people's feelings, does it have the heart to please people? In the long run, I will be uncomfortable.

Being too considerate of other people's feelings, this situation may be caused by a good boy complex in psychology, of course, there should be other factors added together, if you feel that you have to solve it, you can consider going to the psychological counseling room.

This type of people will appear in our daily life, due to some bad experiences when they were young, or because their parents are busy with work, neglect themselves and unable to bear the pressure of life or study, which may have caused a certain amount of trauma psychologically, and there are some mental illnesses. So for this group of people, in fact, they are the same as us. They are not sick, they just need more affection, or care and attention.

If we meet similar classmates or partners and friends, don't have discrimination in our hearts, use our own little strength to help them, try to make them open up, let them integrate into our own one, and let ourselves know more about them. Then try to help them as much as possible and make them happier.

People who are already present without mental illness may be under greater mental or psychological pressure. The first question that may arise may be to wonder if you have a mental illness or not. In fact, I may also attack myself verbally, and I will develop a fear and fear attitude in the surrounding environment, especially in the unfamiliar environment, and I will become more and more unconfident.

Words become scarce. Communication with friends is becoming less and less. I don't want to share any bad emotions or happy things with others.

The biggest burden in my heart is the fear that the people around me will not accept me. There is also a certain amount of anxiety about the severity of your illness. If you know that you have mental illness.

When you first learn that you have this disease, you may be a little unacceptable. But in fact, you can tell yourself from your heart that you don't have some pathological diseases, that you are the same as everyone else, actively accept, willing to speak, willing to listen, and live with a positive attitude.

The optimist will not care about these details, he will cooperate**, will be sooner**. Pessimists will create all kinds of dilemmas in their brains, and they will worry that they will be afraid that they will not be able to get out of the circle of nightmares, which will increase their psychological burden and postpone **.

If I find out that I have a mental illness, the first thing that comes to my mind is, who can help me or what kind of psychologist should I go to help me, and I can accept it, because whether you accept it or not, it is a fact.

I began to think that I was obviously a normal person, and I couldn't accept that I was a mentally ill person. But after comparing with others and reacting, they will slowly admit it.

Human health is divided into physical health and mental health, and some people say that 90% of people have mental health.

From this point of view, your psychology is also a mental illness, but it is not serious, and it does not affect your normal interpersonal interactions.

But if you don't change and correct it in the past, it may get worse and worse, and now that you have discovered this"Disease", then it is time to face it correctly and correct it.

The interaction between people is not profitable, and any interaction can be regarded as a profit that moves towards oneself. Some people say that parents' love for their children is selfless, but I don't see it that way. As the old saying goes:

Raising children to prevent old age".Isn't this just profit-driven? Even in the case of today's pension insurance, you can not have children to provide for the elderly, but there is also a beneficial relationship in it.

If you can't train your own son well, what is the face, where is the responsibility? For the sake of face, this is also the benefit that drives people to work hard.

Why don't you want to accept small favors from others? Because you are afraid that you will have to pay greater benefits in the future, you don't want to accept small favors from others. But if you think about it from another angle, if you keep giving small favors to others, will others also think like you?

If you continue to put in your efforts, maybe one day you will receive great favors from others? So, if you can give favors to others regularly, then you will definitely receive favors"Reluctant"Two words tell us that we must give up before we can get it.

It is for the above reasons that I suggest that you accept favors generously from others, and at the same time give generously to help others, so that people in society can help each other, that is"One for all, all for one"I believe that good people have good rewards, as long as you sincerely help others, you will be generous to accept the favor of others.

There are two aspects:

First, when you were young, your parents didn't let you accept other people's things. This is a habit from childhood, not a disease.

Second, it may also be a bad experience when you were a child, which makes you feel inferior, always feel that you are not good, and you don't deserve to have good things, which is a disease.