What would a self centered person think if he wasn t centered on him?

I am a lively and cheerful girl, my name is Chen Shuo, after reading this name, some people may think that I am a boy, but in fact, I am a girl with a more extroverted personality. Because my father's surname is Chen and he has a master's degree, the whole family hopes that I can also have a master's degree like my father.

I have shiny black hair and like to wear a ponytail. I had an oval face, like a small egg, and on that oval face, there were a pair of big, bright eyes, and black eyeballs in the eyes, like a black grape. My nose was high, my mouth was red, and I couldn't talk anymore, and I really liked the face my mother gave me.

I am 12 years old this year, I am the only child in the family, and I am also the "pearl of the palm" of the family.

Although I am not one of the best in my class, I am famous, and my popularity is also very good, and most of my classmates are my good friends, including my "bosom friends". Not only do I have a lot of friends, but I also have a lot of hobbies, such as: drawing, playing on the computer, swimming, playing the piano, reading, .......

As I grew older, I had more and more books in my house, and now my house is like a small library, full of books, and I have too many books of my own, and there are two cabinets. Although I am usually very frugal, I am not stingy with buying books, as long as I like practical books and they are not very expensive, I will definitely buy them immediately. Sometimes I come across a good book, and I can't buy it because ** is too expensive, I will definitely read it several times before I am willing, so every time I enter the bookstore, I have to read it for most of the day.

Gorky once said, "Books are the ladder of human progress". And I'm a firm believer:

Good books can stay with me for a lifetime. I often miss other things because of reading, so my father and mother often enlighten me and say, "You must learn to read in moderation."

For this reason, sometimes I am also very nerve-wracking, thinking about it, I made up my mind that I must learn to refrain and restrain again in the future!

This is me, a little girl who loves to read.

A self-centered person, when you are not centered on him, he will feel that your statement is wrong, and he will not approve of everything you say.

I hope that everyone revolves around him, and that he can say whatever he says, and that no one can go against his wishes.

The main manifestation of self-centeredness.

It is not difficult for us to find that there are some people who have an overly strong sense of self-centeredness, who only want to satisfy their own desires in everything, ask everyone to be their own, but ignore the needs of others, are unwilling to make any sacrifices for others, do not care about the pain and itch of others, and are manifested as selfishness and self-interest. Ask all people to be centered on Him, and want the earth to revolve around His will and obey Him. As long as they take care of the collective and do not pay attention to collective discipline, otherwise they will feel aggrieved and unbearable.

However, they are unwilling to proceed from objective reality and cannot obey others and the collective. This kind of person has a strong desire for others to respect him, but he does not know that he has to respect others as well. In short, these people are full of self in their hearts, but there is no one else, and they believe that people are not for themselves, and heaven and earth will be destroyed.

The problem lies in the fact that there is too much self-consciousness and has gone to the extreme of self-centeredness, or that individualism is serious.

When self-centered patterns of behavior begin to take root, people have difficulty dealing with relationships, they struggle to form a long-term emotional relationship, and they will eventually face the outcome they fear the most, which is that others are indifferent to them. This will lead to an increase in the number of cases of depression, because on the one hand, narcissists are obsessed with self-appreciation, which magnifies the "me" infinitely, and on the other hand, they are also very psychologically fragile.

Narcissism can cause a lot of problems, but moderate narcissism is not necessarily negative. Children should have the ability to love themselves and others, and each of us is considered precious, worthy of being loved and respected, and should also have the ability to love others. In this sense, narcissism is the basis that makes up the identity of each of us.

Good narcissism is when a person is in a relaxed relationship with himself and can love himself and others calmly, without staring impatiently at the clock or self-absorbed in the mirror. He will enrich his relationships, work efficiently, and feel joy in completing tasks rather than just for the sake of awards. In the end, he can treat his body and mind equally.

Because you live in a real life world. Everything in this world is quite objective. No, because you make any changes.

Once self-centered, it will inevitably be in tune with certain laws of this world. and some rules, contradicting each other, therefore, in the end it is still yourself who hurts.

Such people rarely consider the feelings of other people, do not handle interpersonal relationships well, have strong self-esteem, and it doesn't matter if they are not hurt, but when they are hurt, it is easy to give up on themselves, the world is so big, self-centeredness is either under the horizon or strong temperament! It's a lot of mistakes.

Because he is selfish, arbitrary, and self-righteous, he can't listen to anyone's opinion.

Because this society doesn't need too many such people who don't have strength.

Will reject other people's views, do not tolerate others, selfish.

Because it is considered to be a group creature, because the emperor was overthrown.

Of course, it is not good to be a self-centered person, such a person, self-righteous, will not be able to make good friends, all people will stay away from this kind of person, because this kind of person will not take into account the feelings of others, will not care about the happiness of others! Just take care of yourself!

There are pros and cons, self-centeredness is an independent personality, having its own judgment, having assertiveness and not following the crowd, which is a good aspect. But sometimes it can also be stubborn.

It's not good, family and friends, isn't there even no family affection?

Try again, talk to her, if you can make her change.

If that doesn't work, withdraw the fire immediately. This kind of person can force civilized people to scold people, so there is such a person next to me, she is always not satisfied, she always feels that her friends care about her enough, and when she is in a bad mood, she says that her friends are cold.

I'm just like that to her now, and I don't care as much about her as I used to, because I just can't stand it anymore.

It's not good, it's not easy to get along with people, and it's easy to have a sense of distance

In this way, you are easily isolated by other people

No, this kind of person is completely selfish.

Not good, because then you will lose a lot of friends.

The core question: Why is it so difficult for people to get rid of self-centeredness and truly understand the world from the perspective of others???

Why do people become self-centered, because of the incomplete evolution and development of the brain.

The essence of self-centeredness is that I am the center of the world's virtue. That is, everything I see is also what others see. Everything I feel is also what others feel, and my moral perspective is also someone else's perspective.

Spotlight effect: Thinking too much that others will notice you or what you are doing, thinking that the spotlight is on yourself. That is, no matter where you are, you will think that the spotlight will always be on your own virtue.

Each of us has an independent mental world, so the world you build is different from the world built by others.

Self-centered people are generally narcissistic personalities. As the name suggests, a narcissistic personality is one in which they are self-centered in all aspects of their lives, emphasizing their own interests and feelings, and ignoring the normal needs of others. This narcissistic personality can be very selfish and conceited in interpersonal interactions, and it is also easy to annoy people.