What is it like to be an only child? What does it feel like to be an only child?

I'm an only child, and I think it's good.

It's lonely, it's lonely, it's very helpless.

I'm so happy, I've never felt lonely, I've never thought about having a younger sibling.

Some people say that only children are lonely, and there was a little bit when they were young. But soon this feeling disappeared, especially when I got married later, and my feelings were completely invested in my husband and son, and I didn't have the energy to care about others at all. Anyway, I don't have any siblings, but even if I did, I didn't have the time to deal with them.

Because brothers and sisters can never be compared with husbands and sons.

Some people say that a life without experiencing the love of brothers and sisters is imperfect, but I would like to say that if you have experienced the absolute selfless love of parents for their children in a one-child family, especially the kind of one-child family with better family conditions, you will feel that the love of brothers and sisters is really nothing, and the help of brothers and sisters to you can only be a drop in the bucket compared with the help of your parents.

Due to the long-term family planning carried out in the last century, the number of children in the family is very scarce. It wasn't until 2001 that my aunt gave birth to a boy, and now I have a cousin and a little playmate. After that, it took another five or six years for uncles and aunts to get married and have children one after another, and the family was a little more lively.

Mom and Dad aren't around? It doesn't matter, I can stage a spy war drama in the room alone. One person plays four corners, one moment is a majestic policeman, one moment is a doctor, one moment is a ** bandit, and one moment is a hostage.

Self-directed and self-acted, extremely happy, I was not afraid of anything at that time, but I was most afraid of being met by my grandparents ......You know, a five-year-old kid who cried one moment, laughed maniacally, fainted in bed the next, and held a pillow and shouted, "Son, wake up!" Don't leave Mommy—".

Although there are quite a lot of children in the family nowadays, it is a pity that I was born too early, a full dozen years or even twenty years before they were born. The age difference is too big, and there is a generation gap every ten years, so there is no way to communicate. As a result, I grew up playing alone, and when I grew up, I could only play alone.

Since I was an only child, my family took care of me quite strictly. When I was in kindergarten, I liked to go out and play with my friends in the community after school, but at 6 o'clock in the evening, my grandfather would appear in front of me on time. At that time, no matter how reluctant I was to those friends, I still had to be dragged home by my grandfather to eat obediently.

Some people say that only children are selfish and immature. I would say that the question of selfishness depends on how you look at it. As an only child, I really don't care much about others (except for my parents, husband and son), but I rarely cause trouble for others, and I never take the initiative to harm others, let alone take advantage of others.

As for ripening, it is true that it is late, but it is not always unripe, but it is only late.

This only child feels very happy to live, but there are always people who speculate that we are lonely and selfish. Ah, it's just that someone looked at me with a look of pity on his face, and said that you must have been very lonely when you were a child, and no one will help you in the future, and I feel so annoyed when I hear too much.

As a second-generation only child born in the post-90s, from childhood to adulthood, the toys and dolls at home are his own brothers and sisters. Chicken legs, in addition to me at home, I still eat them, even if I don't want to eat them, there will always be a few big chicken legs in the rice bowl.

As an only child, of course, you will feel lonely. When I was a child, my dad was away from home all year round, and my mom would go to work, and I would spend 3 or 4 of my time at home alone on holidays. At this time, the loneliness will be even stronger, but I took advantage of this loneliness to read a lot of books and improve my extracurricular knowledge.

It is also a good improvement to exercise the ability to cook by yourself. I think that an only child is lonely, I am an only child, and I am very envious when I see others having brothers and sisters. Others have brothers and sisters, and they envy their only children, and they always feel that they are a collection of thousands of loves.

But with the passage of time, the parents get old, and when they have to shoulder the responsibilities of the family when they are integrated into the 421 family, they are eager to divide one person into two people. When your parents are sick, how much you want someone to talk to you and help you change hands.

There are many times when you feel overwhelmed, and you wish there was someone who could share it with you. I don't feel like I'm alone, and my parents' expectations of themselves won't be so high, after all, an only child carries the family's hopes for themselves.

Nowadays, second-child families are common, and they can reflect loneliness. Other people's children are two people playing together, the big one plays with the small one, and there is only one baby in the family, so they watch other people's children play.

I think that the so-called 100% love of an only child comes from the fact that the parents give all the resources and time to the only child, so the only child will feel very happy to himself, and because there is only one child in the family, the child is more likely to feel the love of his parents.

The social conditions of that generation were not good, and many of them ran around to be full, and when I was a child, I also felt the days when I had to eat several meals with a piece of meat dipped in soy sauce. They live in such an environment, and then raise us, develop the habit of frugality, everything is simple, and the food is also very poor, resulting in a large part of the body problems when we are now older. If the family conditions of our generation are good, there will not be much financial burden, not in terms of physical and mental financial burden, but we never know when the situation will get worse.

What it means to be an only child. You can't go to a distant place to work, you can't marry far away, and you can't do risky things easily; When climbing, avoid dangerous places; Go to the beach to play, while others are diving, wait on the shore.

Many people will encourage their parents to take them to exercise, control their diet, and have annual check-ups. Will you stick to doing well?

Compared to previous generations, the relationship between the one-child generation and their parents is more complex.

Going back and forth between love and responsibility, struggling with bonds. "There is love for parents, but there will also be selfishness". Parents are getting older, and for us, "we need to be close to them to be reassured". As an only child, think about what if you would one day bring your parents to live with you.

Vary. Loneliness is not the crux of the matter.

The issue of the only child, the only child over the age of 40, has the most say. The only child at the age of 30 has just stepped into the threshold of the right to speak.

The only child is a historical legacy of that particular era, and we can't choose, so let's face, accept, and understand! Objectively speaking, the difference between an only child and a non-only child is indeed quite large. Looking at the whole world and all mankind, China's only child in the past 30 years is the only strange thing in human history.

The accumulated problems are too serious!

When the only child grows up and needs to shoulder the responsibility of the family, when he reaches the age of "the old and the young", he realizes that our life is actually a total of thousands of loneliness.

The "high risk" of a one-child family lies in the fact that it is the most unstable "inverted triangle" structure, which means that the entire burden falls on the only child.

The middle-aged child of an only child is most afraid of hearing the news of his parents' illness, which is like a time bomb, ready to destroy a family's years of hard work and accumulation. Only children with no siblings and no way out have to bear double or triple the financial pressure.

According to statistics, at present, there are more than 42 million disabled elderly people over 60 years old in China, accounting for about the proportion of the elderly population over 60 years old, in other words, 1 in 6 elderly people in China cannot take care of themselves. According to a demographic study by Peking University, by 2030, the number of disabled elderly people in China will exceed 77.65 million, and the disabled elderly will experience an average of years of disability before they die.

What is most important in the 21st century?

Talent? No, it's a caregiver!

The monthly salary of many only children who work hard in first- and second-tier cities is just enough to pay the wages of caregivers.

I saw someone on Zhihu asking: What is it like to be an only child in one sentence? Among them, the highest praise said: I dare not be poor, I dare not get sick, I dare not marry far away, and I don't even dare to die, because my parents only have me.

It is said that thirty and stand, forty is not confused, but really standing at the fork in the road of thirty and forty years old and looking up, there are people who rely on us in life, and there is no one we can rely on. There are no siblings to discuss, friends can never empathize, children are still at the age of waiting to be fed, but the parents have already crippled their bodies.

This is the reality.

I once read a sentence: "Children who marry far away are all children lost by their parents." When it comes to this topic, we must mention "distant marriage", because this is a topic that has been mentioned repeatedly, but it will always poke people's hearts.

For only children, they dare not work and live far away from their parents, let alone marry far away. "Your dad is lying on the ground, but you're in the address book. "It's the farthest distance in the world.

The only child does not dare to be poor, because the future of this family has to be supported by one person, and he does not dare to get sick because his parents are getting old. Even if there is a younger brother and sister, they can bring us a lot of warmth, know how to guard, a responsibility, and never give up. It's a pity we didn't!

But we still have a dream, a dream ...... that will never come true

Only children enjoy a unique pampering, but when they get older, they will feel inexplicably lonely.

Not all only children are lonelier than non-only children, but most tend to be a little lonelier. The true thought of an only child is that there is no one who can help him, so he must be self-reliant.

In fact, many parents are now struggling with a question, whether to have one child or two children, because only children often have some disadvantages compared with non-only children. Most only children are actually lonely at heart, although they have their parents to accompany them, but no one can share happiness with them, and no one can leave school with them, so it is inevitable that they will feel that it will be better to have a younger brother or a younger sister. The most important thing is that some parents may be busy with work and let their children live in the grandparents' house, but although the grandparents can give their children good care, they cannot give their children more love.

And this kind of child will feel very envious when he sees that other classmates have older siblings or younger siblings, because these children can play with him. However, not all only children will be more lonely than non-only children, because some parents pay more attention to their children's education, so they will be with their children all day, except for the children to go to school, almost always with their children, so this kind of children tend to have a happier childhood.

The true portrayal of the heart of an only child is that he is alone, so no one can help him, he cannot rely on others, he must be strong. I believe that many only children will think like this, because only children know that since they have the expectations of their parents, they cannot let their parents down, so they will study hard. In addition, an only child is not like a non-only child, someone can share their own happiness or share their own responsibilities, so for an only child, from the beginning they know that they are only one person, so they will be more dependent on their parents, but they will be more independent when they become adults.

In the end, I feel that it is good for an only child to have an only child, and that a non-only child also has a happiness that an only child cannot experience, but no matter what, parents should give their children a happy childhood.