What behaviors are unacceptable to you when you are an elderly person with children?

Blindly accustomed to children.

For example, allowing your children to yell in public; The child scolds when he opens his mouth, and the old man does not blame and so on.

These behaviors are unacceptable to me, and it is strange that children who grow up in this environment are not selfish!

The elderly will use old-fashioned ideas and methods to educate their children. Sometimes we advise the elderly to keep pace with the times, learn to change with new thinking, and guide their children. But every time the old man asks you back, he says, "You don't understand anything, if my method of educating children is wrong, then how have you been brought up by me from childhood to now"!

This kind of thing is unacceptable to me and makes me speechless.

Every time my mother-in-law coaxes her child, she always says this, you have to be obedient, otherwise your mother won't want you! The child is so young that he is always scaring her, so when the old man scares the child, he can't accept it!

I can't accept my mother teaching my three-year-old nephew to memorize ancient poems in broken Mandarin, my mother wears reading glasses, and my nephew looks at the book seriously, and the two of them are quite serious, just angry and funny.

The daughter had just been born, and her mother-in-law had to tie her into rice dumplings.

Later, I had to pinch my daughter's nose again.

Now my daughter is 9 months old and she is going to give her child ice cream.

I really doubt whether she is a child's grandmother!

It's okay for my mother-in-law to take care of the children. I am also willing to accept new parenting knowledge, but when the child is young, I am not willing to give the child diapers, and when the child is older, I want to pee on the child, which I am more disgusted with. In addition, it is to pamper the child, not to see the child crying, the child will be soft-hearted when he cries, and then meet the child's various requirements, it is estimated that this is a common problem of many old people.

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Our mother-in-law is still very conscientious in taking care of her children, but sometimes she unconsciously brings a little bit of the disadvantages of their time.

The first is to unconsciously yell at the child loudly. This phenomenon is not prominent when the child is young, and the older the child, the more often he yells. Especially at present, the child is three or four years old, and he is at the age when cats and dogs are disgusted, and the child has his own ideas and wants to do everything, but the mother-in-law does not dare to let him try easily, so contradictions are inevitable.

The second is intimidation. I especially don't like this, for example, the child doesn't want to eat, and the mother-in-law says that the child will be shut out of the door and said that she will never give him food again, but in fact, the mother-in-law can't bear to do it, everything is just lip service, so the impact is actually very bad. The third is comparison, which I hated the most when I was a child, and I never thought it would be my child's turn.

There are pros and cons when the elderly take care of children, and once it is not handled well, there will be more harm than good. The elderly are prone to spoil and pamper their children, and while spoiling, they will also do a lot of things for their children. Many elderly people have a kind of compensatory psychology when facing their children, and some old people did not give their children good living conditions when they were young, so they will project all this guilt on their grandchildren's children.

This kind of pampering often becomes unprincipled accommodation and doting, and will lead to the baby growing up to be self-centered, which will affect the child's consciousness development, then the child will become a willful and selfish existence. Many elderly people think that their children are still young and can't do anything, so they will take care of everything for their children.

I believe you must have heard of the next generation, because many old people are very fond of children. While they like children, they will not feel that some mistakes should be corrected, but will condone such mistakes. For example, after a child plays with a toy, he scatters everything on the floor, and the elderly will take the trouble to help the child clean up.

When the child is hungry, he feeds the child, and when the child is thirsty, he drops water on the child's hands. They didn't think about letting their children do things on their own, they didn't think about developing their children's independence. At the same time, it will also make children lose confidence when they encounter difficulties when they grow up, and they will only let others help them, and they will not dare to try.

At the same time, I don't dare to exercise, only crying and losing my temper.

After being bound by traditional thinking, many elderly people want their children to become well-behaved and obedient, so they are a kind of indulgent education when educating their children. If a child does things in the wrong way, they will not change the child, but will let the child continue in the wrong way. They feel that children can help children take risks and be creative when they break things, and this behavior is good in the eyes of the elderly.

However, this will make the child unable to form a good moral character, so the elderly will also have a lot of accidents when taking children, so parents must also pay attention to this event.

The doll will be covered in dirt. The doll's immunity will deteriorate. Dolls often get sick. The doll will not speak very fluently. The moral qualities of the doll will deteriorate. Dolls are prone to injury. Dolls will be spoiled.

It will spoil the child too much, and it will also make the child become very willful, will let the child eat junk food, which is not conducive to the development of the child, will instill bad ideas in the child, and will also make the child become very casual.

Children will be arrogant and proud, will not be close to their parents, will be very naughty, make their parents very angry, easy to make children sick, easy to make children bad.

will spoil children, there is no way to teach children correctly, affect children's growth, make children very arrogant, and sometimes become very disobedient.

Nowadays, many families will hand over their children to the elderly because they are dual-income families, and the elderly have advantages in bringing children, but there are also many unscientific behaviors, such as having to hand over children to exercise too early, which will affect the healthy development of the baby, and parents should avoid these behaviors.

The baby's body is to develop gradually according to many stages, and some elderly people think that the faster the child learns this professional skill, it proves that the baby is very intelligent. Although it is also a good heart, this way of exercising too early will affect the healthy development of the baby's spine, so Bao Mom and Dad still have to discourage it in time.

The tall nose bridge is visually very beautiful, and some elderly people will often pinch the nose bridge of the newborn in order to better let the baby grow a tall nose bridge. This method is also a mistake, due to the number of the bridge of the person's nose, which has been determined after the birth of the baby. It is impossible to pinch twice to get higher and higher, and it may hurt the baby's nose bridge, because the newborn's nose bridge and skin are all relatively tender, and it will hurt the baby if you are not careful.

So don't do it.

After the baby is born, there is a layer of vernix on the body or on the top of the head, and the top of the head accounts for the majority. Some parents or the elderly think that this kind of vernix is very dirty and not good-looking, they will think of some ways to forcibly get rid of it, this method is also quite incorrect, it is easy to make the baby infected, the operation is unreasonable, and it will continue to hurt the baby's skin and affect the baby's health. In fact, this kind of vernix does not have to be put in the heart, with the growth of the baby, gradually they will fall off, parents should not be in a hurry.

If there is indeed too much vernix to get rid of, it is recommended that parents use some vegetable oil or body lotion when washing the baby's hair, and check and treat this vernix slowly, it is best to divide it several times, not to get rid of it at one time.

In the past, it was a compulsory course for every elderly person to take a baby, and in the eyes of many people, it was all in the past from top to bottom, and I didn't feel that it was a problem. However, due to the development of society, authoritative experts believe that giving feces and urine to newborns too early is not conducive to the healthy development of babies. But in the hearts of the elderly, I feel that this is also the ability to exercise the baby's metabolism, which not only saves the money of diapers, but also makes it difficult for the baby to be covered.

In fact, this is not the case, today's reliable diapers, the ventilation is very good, it is not easy for the baby to have diaper rash, timely dismantling to ensure environmental hygiene, most of them are not easy to have too big problems.

They will yell in front of their children, and they don't care if they do anything wrong, especially spoil their children, swear in front of their children, and give their children some coarse grains.

It is easy to let the baby go and sit too early, often pinch the bridge of the baby's nose, forcibly dispose of the vernix, give the baby feces and urine, spoil the child, and gossip about the parents in front of the child.

Pay attention to cleanliness and hygiene, do not pay attention to daily education, and often have some bad habits that are learned by children, this education model is wrong.

When the elderly take children, especially in summer, they will often blow air conditioning for the baby, and in the summer, the elderly will shave off the baby's hair, and some elderly people will often bring diapers to their children in the summer, and some elderly people will add complementary food to their children too early, and the baby will not stop it when he eats his hands.

I don't think it's as bad as I imagined for the elderly to take care of the baby, and sometimes I will ask the old man to help me take care of the child, because the old man has his own method when taking care of the child. Some parents are unable to implement the education of their children because their careers are on the rise, so they can only hand over their children to the elderly to take care of their children. Even when the phenomenon of the elderly taking children is more common, we can also see that they are doing very well, knowing that the children should add clothes when they are cold, and they should dress for the seasons when they are hot.

There are also some children who are also chubby in vain when they are raised by the elderly, not only know how to be polite, but also can speak well, and their personalities are also very good.

There is nothing wrong with not looking closely, but if you look closely, you can see that it is only a small problem. There is a difference in the concept of parenting between the elderly and young parents, and at the same time, everyone has to admit the fact that if you take care of your children in the way of the elderly, the children will not develop any bad appearance.

As the old man said, many young parents nowadays have grown up like this. Although there are many principled problems with the two views on parenting, just a change in concept will not actually have any impact on children. And I think that some elderly people are more comprehensive when they are raising children than younger parents, they know when to add complementary foods to their children, and they know when to let their children improve their lifestyle.

If the elderly show signs of doting on their children, they can also use their own ways to change and solve it. Because this method itself needs to be observed, as long as the education concept of the elderly is changed, then there will be a breakthrough in this matter. And don't underestimate the influence of the original family on yourself, you must learn to give your children some space, so that the elderly and children can form their own education methods while getting along.

Sometimes the children educated by some young parents are not good enough, and they actually do the same thing as the old people now. Learn to forgive the elderly for the idea of taking children, so that children can grow up healthily.

It's not so bad for the old man to take care of the baby, but I won't let the old man take the child for me, because I still want to educate the child myself. I want my children to be by my side.

The old man with the baby is not necessarily very bad, although the old man's thinking is very broken, it is very feudal and old-fashioned, there is no modern youth text to keep up with the trend, but the old man brought out the child, there is a certain thrifty heart, although the old man in the child, some health knowledge is not particularly good, we as a young man, can give him the right guidance, so that he in the future, but the child life has a correct and correct understanding, if it is me, I will let the old man help me take the child.

Maybe it's more because of the different educational concepts, my mother-in-law is very delicate with children, and he will listen to my ideas and respect my opinions, so I am more relieved, my mother-in-law helps me take care of the children, which may be related to everyone's acceptance of new ideas in behavior, you should communicate more with your parents.

It depends on what kind of person the old man is, if the old man knows how to educate his children, he will not be particularly bad with his children, if the old man is not particularly reliable and does not know how to educate his children, he will be very bad with his children, I will let the old man take the children, and it is a little tiring to take the children alone.

Yes, it's really very bad for the elderly to take care of their children, because the education concept of the elderly is relatively old-fashioned, and it will not let the children have a good character, and I will not let the old people take the children.

Yes, because there is a big gap between their educational concept and our educational concept. No, they are not particularly good at educating their children.

Yes, the way the elderly are educated is particularly incorrect, and I will definitely not let the elderly bring their own children, there will be a lot of generation gaps.

The thinking and education of the older generation is different from ours, and if they are allowed to take care of their children, they may fall behind a little bit, thinking and education.

Generational parenting is an unavoidable problem for most Chinese families. According to statistics, only about 20% of parents take full care of their children. About 50% of parents give their children to adults and babysitters during the day and bring them back at night.

30% of parents entrust their children to their grandparents and see their children once a week, a month or even a few months. Most couples are also on the rise in their careers in the first few years of marriage. After having a baby, most of the time you don't have time to take care of yourself.

If the elderly in the family can help take care of the children, it is as reassuring as a nanny, and it is also the most economical, economical, and reassuring way to give parents peace of mind, and the love and affection of ancestors for their grandchildren is unmatched by any childcare agency, nanny, and child-rearing wife. But in real life, young parents often complain about the shortcomings of the elderly in taking care of their children. Most parents are "disgusted", "inseparable", "intergenerational parenting", "the elderly have backward parenting concepts, love children too much, can't feed scientifically, eat sweets and salts, don't pay attention to hygiene, often wear too many clothes, afraid that their children will catch a cold."

> provide opportunities for mothers to continue their professional development. "If someone helps take care of the children, I don't quit. "How many women choose to be stay-at-home mothers are forced.

Because the children are small and have no one to help, they can only sacrifice their career development. Due to the fierce competition in the current society, the most direct benefit of the elderly with children is to provide us women with the opportunity to continue their professional development after becoming mothers, and at the same time reduce the burden and financial pressure on young parents. It can allow the child's personality to develop more comprehensively.

If the parents are strict, most grandparents are very good to the children, let the children be spoiled unscrupulously, and the elderly have enough time and patience to take care of the children comprehensively.

It is a very difficult thing for a person to be good to his children, to be serious about his children, and to carefully arrange every detail of his children's lives. It can be supplemented according to different family members and roles, reducing the conflict between roles and making the child's character more comprehensive. It is said that most of the children who live with the elderly are sensible, humble, and filial.

Let the elderly have a great sense of value. Many elderly people don't have their own hobbies, so they don't have much to live on their own. They used to always put all their attention on their children.

Now that their children are married, they don't need to care so much. When you retire, you'll be bored and worthless. After giving birth to a grandchild, the elderly enjoy family happiness and, on the one hand, make themselves valuable in the process of raising children.

Grandpas and grandmothers have various advantages in raising children, but psychologically, problems arise if parents entrust their children to adults. Because a child's affection for his parents is not a substitute for any other affection. Even if the old man pours all her affection into the child, it still cannot replace the mother's love for the child.