What should my boyfriend do if he always likes to run away from things?

1. Find a family member or friend, tell him his mentality to seek help from foreign aid, accept the help of positive energy from the outside world, encourage, and boldly do what he thinks he can't do, in fact, after taking the first step bravely, you will find that things are not as difficult as you think, and you will slowly become confident, so as to find your own value of existence and face life bravely.

2. When encountering problems and contradictions, don't worry about whose fault and responsibility it is, in life, we will always encounter some troubles, if we can reflect on ourselves more, treat others more tolerantly, and at the same time not be confused by external things and interference, treat everything rationally, and do not avoid contradictions and conflicts, which can help to achieve inner peace.

3. When you feel pain about something, you should find a way to channel these bad emotions and don't accumulate these emotions in your subconscious.

Once too much is suppressed, the subconscious mind will faithfully follow the message and implement some avoidance behaviors when the situation comes, so as to free itself.

4. To establish the concept of lifelong learning, improve their ability, make themselves more competitive, rather than sticking to the old ways, because they are not accustomed to social changes and avoid competition, become withdrawn, this bad attitude will make themselves fall into an unsatisfactory situation, give up efforts, is not conducive to personal growth and progress.

5. When encountering misfortune, we must face the reality, do not escape, turn grief into strength, people live, happiness is a lifetime, pain is also a lifetime, it is better to laugh at life, live with dignity and vitality.

Suggest that your boyfriend needs to overcome his inferiority complex and believe in his own abilities. Don't care what others think of you. Just do what you want to do, don't hesitate.

Many times, I like to avoid it, which means that I am not confident enough in myself. Encourage him to face it bravely, he can only move forward and not backward, and develop this habit. This habit of avoidance will change.

The character is so gentle.

Duoduo can encourage him.

Let's face it together.

People who always like to escape when they encounter things are more gentle and less willing to be hard-handed.

Or maybe it's timidity and doesn't dare to conflict with people.

It's not a bad thing either, he has his way and you can encourage him to save the country.

This should be due to the individual's personality, and this matter should be made clear to your boyfriend.

This is determined by one's own personality, and it is not something that can be changed if you want to.

This is very normal, because people are just your boyfriend, not your husband, and they don't have to solve the problem for you.

Tell him what a man should do, and if it's always like this, what to do with the person he needs to take care of, and what responsibility should be taken.

1.The boyfriend indulges in reticency, only knows that something is going on, runs away, and pretends to be okay afterwards. If you mention it again, it will be endless, and it doesn't make sense.

The solution in your eyes is for both parties to talk about things, find a solution, and then yell at each other and get back together; The solution in his eyes is only five words: pretend it didn't happen. But you also know that contradictions that have not been properly resolved will accumulate in the bottom of your heart, and sooner or later they will erupt, and there is no room for redemption.

So, when you come up with the seemingly impossible choice "Should we break up?" ”。

2.But I can also tell you clearly: you don't have to break up.

At least before deciding whether to break up or not, try to change the status quo. The situation you described opened my eyes to several facts in him: not good at solving problems and not interested in solving problems.

When you ask him to "work harder", he is not more motivated, but thinks you will dislike him. I'm not going to stop your breakup. If you only focus on his superficial behavior, it is easy to be misunderstood.

His motivation is: he is lazy, doesn't care about your feelings, and doesn't want to change for you. He is not willing to plan for your future.

He is not afraid of losing you, and he will not be sad even if he breaks up. But if you think deeply about the essence, you will find that the above three points are actually cause and effect.

The motivation behind it is not as ruthless as it seems.

3.If your boyfriend runs away when she encounters something, is such a person worth marrying? Based on the preliminary judgment, your boyfriend has pathological personality disorder — "avoidant personality disorder."

Boyfriend is taciturn, doesn't like to communicate, avoids problems, should I break up? Avoidant personality in interpersonal relationships.

Performance? Avoidant personality, which already looks hateful. Because what they do is not only difficult to understand, but also easily misunderstood:

The passive party in the relationship will never take the initiative in something that he feels is "thankless", unless he believes that you like him very much, and he will never blame him.

4.Not brave enough, sensitive and shy, only seeking "stability" in everything, rarely breaking through oneself, fighting for it, often feeling boring and boring. Arguments and disagreements are avoided, but the temper is usually not small, and the temper is usually ** anger that he is incompetent in some way.

Low self-esteem, things will shrink back at the slightest challenge, and if you feel that you can't do well, you will simply run away. Be negative, always prepare for the worst, because this negativity discourages yourself and those around you. Extreme thoughts, then, you will find that, in fact, his real motivation for you probably:

He avoids arguing, stops communicating, and is indifferent to seeing you suffering, which is essentially a habitual avoidance.

5.If your boyfriend runs away when she encounters something, is such a person worth marrying? He had no intention of confronting the problem at all.

He feels troubled or miserable. This problem can only bring a bad emotional experience to both parties, so he chooses to run away. He tells himself that you don't like him, essentially just revealing what he thinks:

He is so unconfident in himself that even if you euphemistically present his expectations, his first reaction is not to improve, but to leave. To put it bluntly, he really thinks that it is you who abandon him, not just expecting and demanding.

Understanding the reason why the other party is angry, many people choose the Cold War because they are afraid of quarrels, which may be related to his original family. So he will try to avoid-for-tat, in fact, the quarrel does not have to be noisy, if the other party likes cold violence very much, and you like to quarrel very much.

You can take the initiative to communicate with him, tell him not to escape, escape will not solve the problem, let him not escape the two people to communicate well, so that the problem can be completely solved, as long as the two people do not escape, talk calmly, the problem will be completely solved, and the problem will never be solved if you have been evading.

I think you should take the initiative to communicate with your boyfriend, and you should often chat with each other, and you should also talk to each other in a way that is acceptable to the other party, and you should also take the initiative to guide the other party. It is also necessary to deal with the estrangement between the two people.

I met a man like this before, he deliberately made me jealous and the next day saw me angry, let the girl come and explain to me that she was hiding behind the glass door to watch, when I called him, he ran faster than anyone else, I went to cut it before he came to ask me if I was jealous, I was not angry, because he would really hate him to death, so cowardly.

Don't take the initiative to find a way to solve problems. It all depends on the character that he has developed in the living environment in which he grew up. Growing up under the care and pampering of my parents, I have to stretch out my hands for clothes, open my mouth for food, and my parents are always in charge of my own affairsIn fact, most women are not like this!

If you are really good to her and really love her, she is willing to accompany you through the ups and downs from scratch. It's not about how big a man is, how much money he makes....

Although a man does not take the initiative to find a way to solve things but chooses to escape, although he cannot define whether this man is good or bad, it can at least show that he is not a mature and stable person, thinking about finding a way to solve it, and is a person with weak psychological tolerance, especially the ability to withstand setbacks, everyone's living conditions and family environment are different. If you want to determine whether this man is good or bad, you must first think from the perspective of this man, and look at a certain aspect of his family conditions or what is the reason for it, so that a man becomes like this and does not want to solve it.

There are many roles for men: husband, son, father, breadwinner, breadwinner, main contributor to society, main defender of the state, ......, I won't list more, but no matter which role you play, you can't escape, there are always more ways than difficulties at any time, and once you choose to escape, it's not just irresponsible.

When you meet such a boyfriend, you should spur him, and you can't run away when you encounter problems, otherwise you won't like him even if you are useless.

A lot of people have problems at times. The first reaction is not how to face it, solve it, and overcome it.

Rather, it is to avoid the problem and not want to face this opportunity, which shows that the person's heart is not strong enough.

It also shows that this person's words will not have much development in life or career.

This kind of boyfriend is very irresponsible and not responsible, he is not worthy of being a man, he should solve the problem when he encounters it, how can he avoid it, or break up.

If your personality is like this, there is no need for the two of you to be together, because your personalities are different, and it is good for each other to be separated.

In front of oneself, there should always be a place to be left alone. Then go to love. I don't know what it is, I don't know who it is, I don't know how to love, and I don't know how long I can love.

Just waiting for love once, maybe no one will ever be. However, this kind of waiting is love itself.

Human feelings are always complicated, and sometimes couples can be a little confused in the expression of feelings. Just like a man who is very good to you, many times, even better than your parents are to you, and is willing to pay a lot for you, you will feel that every time with him is very good, and you will have the idea that this life is his thoughts.

This is also a good time for you to hold the service, but once there is a problem in the relationship between you, maybe his goodness will be hidden by the answer, and the mood will become extremely anxious. Perhaps the first thing he does is to stay away from you and not want to have any communication with you, apparently because of his inner anxiety that causes him to avoid the problem of avoidance. So, why does the other party behave this way?

It's not hard to guess the answer, and that is the point where the emotional problems between the two of you are beyond the capacity of his heart.

While he was giving, he couldn't help but have broken thoughts, feeling that he had given too much, but he had not been able to get the corresponding return. This doesn't usually show up until something goes wrong with the two of you, and the emotion is infinitely magnified. After all, he is also an ordinary person, how can he be such a saint and feel that his contribution is deserved?

Secondly, perhaps your relationship situation is not very positive to him, and even pessimistic. He is too mediocre and self-disturbing, and always feels that this relationship may not come to an end, even if you get along well now, but one day, the breakup will still come. Once your relationship is about to take a step forward, he will retreat, his heart will be extremely uneasy, and he will also be pessimistic and think that he has paid so much, and the result is not good, which is really tragic.

At this time, if you show great expectations for the future, his psychological pressure will increase violently.

Of course, in the face of this problem, you don't need to worry too much, anyway, as long as you accompany him well, tell him with practical actions that you will never leave, you will also pay, two people communicate seriously, and the emotional situation is bound to move in a better direction.

Men and women can respect each other's differences and express their love in the way that best suits each other, and communication will become smoother and more harmonious.

It has been said that men are from Mars and women are from Venus.

The innate difference in thinking determines the difference in the perspective of each other.

If we want two people in an intimate relationship to communicate smoothly, we must try to understand the other person's thinking patterns and balance the cognitive differences between the two people. Reduce misunderstandings when communicating and enhance understanding when there are differences.

Whether in love or marriage, when men and women get along at a certain stage, women will always find a phenomenon: why are men always used to avoiding problems?

This "problem" does not refer to a problem that needs to be solved urgently in life, but a "flammable and explosive point" that is very easy to cause quarrels or unhappiness when men and women get along.

In other words, they are usually happy to solve life problems for women, but when they encounter situations that are prone to disputes with women, they often change the topic to avoid disputes. And this kind of refusal to respond positively, in the eyes of women, has naturally become a typical manifestation of "love avoidance".

This can't help but remind people of a scene that Xie Na recalled in a variety show some time ago:

A few years ago, Xie Na proposed to Zhang Jie in **, hoping to hear a positive answer from the other side. However, what is very dramatic is that at the critical moment, Zhang Jie on the other end of ** said that when he entered the elevator, his mobile phone immediately ran out of battery, and the signal was not good, so he couldn't hear what Xie Na said. Then ** hung up, and then called it and turned it off, until the afternoon of the next day, the two got back in touch.

The signal is not good, understandably. But the shutdown for most of the follow-up days, everyone understands that this is a kind of euphemism for the "marriage proposal" issue at that time.

According to Zhang Jie's recollection, he did feel a little abrupt about Xie Na's proposal at that time. In his opinion, he should have been more stable and capable in his career before formally proposing to her, rather than making such an important decision when he was not very satisfied with himself.

At the same time, he is well aware that a direct reply of "not yet the time" will disappoint the people he loves. In order to give himself a space to think calmly and carefully think about the content of better communication with the other party, Zhang Jie chose to temporarily shut down the phone and did not give it immediately at the moment.

For men, when they encounter a problem, they are more inclined to find a "best solution" to solve the problem. In this process, they need to have a certain amount of independent space to think calmly without being disturbed.

For women, the way to solve problems is more inclined to "direct communication". They are eager to understand each other's thoughts through "talking" and "listening", to find differences, and to balance differences.

If this man is willing to communicate with you in the first place, it is naturally the best. But if the other person needs to have their own space, give them a chance to calm down.

If you use the method of persecution to ask a man for a response, even if you get an answer in the end, the process will inevitably be a lose-lose situation.

But in real life, there are too few men who can calm down a little and take the initiative to find a partner to continue communicating afterwards.