How to improve your emotional intelligence and maintain a good mood

1.Take a deep breath, when you encounter something angry, nervous, or worried, and your mood suddenly becomes excited, Lima takes a deep breath to relieve the tension in your body.

2.I don't want to. Sometimes when you encounter some angry things, you always think about the other party's angry actions, the more you think about it, the more annoyed you become, and eventually you will feel like you're going to explode your lungs, it's not that the event itself will make you so angry all of a sudden, it's because you're constantly thinking about it, and every time you think about it, you will increase your anger, resulting in accumulation to the point that you can't bear it, so as long as you don't think about it and don't let yourself "accumulate anger", you won't be "**".

In fact, this principle can also be generalized to other things and emotions, all of which are the same. For example, when I was a child, I ate popsicles and felt delicious, but my parents didn't buy them for 1 week in a row, and I always thought that popsicles were delicious this week, so the more I thought about them, the more I slandered, resulting in always staying in a harrow, and waiting for my parents to buy popsicles again, I tasted it carefully, but the taste was not as good as expected.

3.Divert attention. How to not think in your heart, diverting attention is the best way, because people can't really think about anything in their hearts, we are not saints, we can't reach such a high realm, so since we have ideas, then think of something else, use other things to occupy our own energy, it can also play the effect of "not accumulating".

4.Calm, rational, and thoughtful. When encountering things that make their emotions fluctuate, emotional people often do not consider the merits of the matter, and are infected with emotions wholeheartedly, while rational people tend to be very calm and rationally think about the essence of things, and after in-depth thinking, they will find that the thing itself is not what it shows on the surface, and the essence of things is hidden.

Therefore, emotional people are blinded by false appearances, and emotions are driven by others, and rational people, finding the essence of things, can not be encouraged by the other party. Everyone has both rational and emotional sides, and those who are laissez-faire are always emotional, and those who can be self-reliant can learn to be rational.

5.The above four points are to control emotions in a shallow and deep way, and they can also be grouped together, that is, when something happens, first take a deep breath to stabilize the mind, and the emotional person will "don't want to" or "think of something else" to achieve the purpose of "not accumulating", so as to control the emotion, and the rational person will think deeply after stabilizing the emotion, find the source of the emotion, and solve the problem from the root.

Don't be at home! Make more friends! Exercise more! Read more books!

And, get more sun!

Someone has said it, it's that you read less and think more. So you get the idea.

Listen, people have an emotional cycle, and emotions will inevitably have ups and downs, so good emotions should refer to: don't hesitate to do anything and do it seriously; Don't regret getting any results, it's a big deal to do it all over again. Then, unconsciously, you will find that life is really interesting, and you will become open-minded.

Here's what I did.

Face the world happily every day.

Read your I Ching in a week for the first time, in a month for the second time, and in a year for the third time.

When a bad mood occurs, count in your mind for 10 seconds.

Improve self-control and remind yourself all the time.

In other words, I have just changed from a person who is easy to get angry to a calm brother. Teach you a trick, do things and speak 2-5 seconds slower You try first.

When you are in a bad mood, remind yourself to endure or do something else to divert your attention, and it will become a habit after a long time. Slowly, you will have good habits.

Read more books, sometimes your willpower is not enough, just learn to control yourself!

Go out for a walk with friends. Stay in a good mood.

When encountering things, you should be calm, not impatient and do not show your feelings at will.

Do more happy things and leave your worries behind.

There are a lot of people who have studied politics and are emotional, so you can see for yourself.

Listen**, travel, see those on the brink of death.

Listen often, run and read books.

Smile in the mirror every day.

Ways to effectively improve your emotional intelligence.

1. Self-monitoring improves emotional awareness. When emotions are caused by the external environment or accompanied by some of your own perceptions and beliefs, self-monitoring can reinforce these emotional perceptions. Keep a diary of daily mood changes and analyze what beliefs and activities cause mood changes.

2. Self-regulate and manage sadness. For grief, avoid sad situations, try to focus on the aspects of difficult situations that don't make you feel sad, and challenge grief decisively; For anxiety, challenge threat-oriented thinking and exercise courage by entering dangerous situations, and use coping strategies to reduce anxiety; For anger, avoid situations that cause anger, try to focus on the less bothersome aspects of difficult situations, and decisively ask the person who provokes you to be less inflammatory, self-restraint, and empathy.

3. Communication. Communication skills.

It is the basis for empathizing with others, understanding what others are saying, and establishing a foundation for solving problems between people. When listening, only listen without judgment, and retain your own opinions and emotions; Summarize what you hear others say and check that your summary is correct; When speaking, decide on your main points, organize them logically, express them clearly, make sure that the other person already understands you, state your point without aggression, blame, or anger, and repeat it if necessary.

4. Problem solving. In our lives and work, we not only need to use communication skills to achieve mutual understanding and empathy, but also need to use problem-solving skills to develop and achieve effective cooperative actions. In real life situations, it is necessary to break down some large, vague problems into many small, specific problems; Define these issues in terms of solvable conditions; Treat things not people; envisage possible solutions; When all the solutions are thought of, check the advantages and disadvantages of each method, choose the final solution, and implement this method; Review the effectiveness of the planned completion.

5. Cultivate your own emotional sensibility. In the process of life and work, students learn more cognitive, emotional and behavioral experiences that produce specific situations and experiences, so as to improve their ability to identify and manage their own emotions and those of others.

Emotional intelligence refers to a person's ability to recognize, evaluate and regulate their own and others' emotions, as well as the ability to deal with emotional problems, which is a comprehensive ability. Emotional intelligence is an important human resource that is of great significance for the development of both organizations and individuals. Emotion is a complex physiological and psychological phenomenon, and people's emotional experience and behavioral response are not only affected by individual physiological and psychological factors, but also restricted by social and cultural factors and family education.

Regarding the trend of "practicing the mind and eye" set off on social **, I personally hold some skeptical and cautious views. While this practice may have some benefits in some ways, I don't think it really improves emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence refers to people's ability to recognize their own emotions and the emotions of others, as well as their ability to build and maintain relationships with others. It includes aspects such as emotion management, social awareness, self-awareness, and relationship management. However, the emphasis on calculating interests, mastering psychological tactics and self-centered thinking patterns is different from the development of real emotional intelligence.

Improving emotional intelligence requires more introspection and deep thinking, as well as authentic interactions and emotional connections with others. Through listening, understanding, and empathy, we can develop sensitivity to the emotions of others and build mutual trust and good relationships. This deep emotional interaction and intimacy is cultivated through practical experience and face-to-face communication, not just through the superficial way of practicing the mind.

In addition, the environment and dynamics of social networking are somewhat different from those of the real world. On social media, people can hide their true identity and emotions, as well as selectively show their side. This virtual nature can cause people to exhibit different behaviors and emotional responses socially than they do in real life.

As a result, it is likely that the practice that relies on social** will not fully reflect real-world emotional interactions and social skills.

To improve emotional intelligence, I think it's more important to focus on real relationships and emotional interactions. Through face-to-face interactions, social engagement, and deep connections with people, we are able to better understand and manage our finger plexus emotions, and enhance social awareness and empathy. In addition, reading, participating in emotional management training, and seeking psychological counseling are also effective ways to improve emotional intelligence.

To sum up, while the social practice trend may have some kind of benefit, it doesn't really improve emotional intelligence. To truly develop emotional intelligence, we need to focus more on authentic relationships, deep emotional interactions, and introspection for personal growth.

So what is emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence, also known as emotional intelligence, was developed by Salove of Yale University and Mayer of the University of New Hampshire, and refers to "the ability of people to monitor their own emotions and emotions and those of others, and to identify and use that information to guide their thoughts and behaviors."

Emotional intelligence includes the following aspects: First, recognize one's own emotions. Because only by knowing oneself can one become the master of one's own life.

The second is to be able to manage their emotions properly. Signifies are the ability to adjust and control the emotions of one's posture; The third is self-motivation, which can enable people to get out of the low ebb of life and start anew. The fourth is to recognize the emotions of others.

This is the basis for normal interaction with others and smooth communication; Liang Hewu is the management of interpersonal relationships, that is, leadership and management ability.

So how can you improve your emotional intelligence?

The first point is to first learn the ability to recognize and accept one's own emotions;

The second point is to develop the habit of analyzing emotions;

The third point is to improve the ability to manage one's emotions.

1；Emotional stability between family members should continue to learn, and cultivate one's own heart of great love, tolerance, and understanding. When a person has a big heart, a big heart, and a big vision, the troubles and pains will disappear. The stability of parents' mentality is an important factor affecting the stability of children's mentality.

2；The same sentence to the child, 10 is language, 35 is expression, 55 is emotion, the different states of parents, the effect of saying is very different.

Having a good mood will make the environment you are in comfortable and comfortable, and will make the family harmonious and warm, and children living in such a family will have a healthy physical and mental development, and will also contribute to the development of children's personality. Emotions are the logical starting point for a person to make a mistake. A person who has a peaceful mind and emotions is a wise person!

So be a wise parent, don't let your bad emotions affect your children's health, and learn to cultivate your own good emotions is the best education for your children.

Introduction: Children's emotional intelligence is very important, if you want to improve your child's emotional intelligence, parents need to observe their child's development. If the child also cries at the sight of an unfamiliar situation, parents should tell the child what to do.

Children will cry because they are very afraid of the surrounding environment, parents should learn to comfort their children, so that children can be effectively expressed, and do not let children cry all the time. If the child is always crying, it may also have a certain impact on the body, parents should control themselves, to attract the child's attention, to help the child to distract, if the child is always crying, it will also affect the child's entire emotional expression. If parents want to improve their children's emotional intelligence, they can buy some facial expression cards for their children to correct them, so that their children know how to face their emotions and let them have some correct actions.

If the child's crying is very sensitive, parents can also adjust the child's state, so that the child can better face his emotions and not let the child always have symptoms of crying. Some children are more sensitive when they are young, and parents can also accompany their children appropriately, and do not let their children stay at home alone, which will have a great impact on children, and children will feel that their parents do not want to accompany them.

If parents want their children to improve their emotional intelligence, they should let their children learn slowly, help children control their children's emotions, and parents can record their children's expressions when they are happy, so that they can slowly distinguish what emotions are, so that children can have a systematic understanding. If the child's emotions are relatively high, parents can also let the child control his emotions, don't get angry casually, let the child know what the disadvantages of anger are, let the child sort out his emotions, so that the child can know what to do, how to observe others, to take the child to learn appropriately, let the child express, know what the meaning of emotions is?