What would you do if your parents were always urging you to have children?

Many young people in this society are facing a problem, that is, their parents are always urging them to have children. Because today's young people want to enjoy a longer free life, they are reluctant to have children, after all, having children may take up their leisure time, so that they have a lot less time to work their careers or to enjoy life. But as parents, they are also very eager to see their grandchildren.

If our parents are already very old, the more we should accommodate some of their wishes. After all, if they don't see their grandchildren in their lifetime, they may regret their lives. And for young people, when they look back on it when they are old, they may understand the mood of their parents at that time.

Therefore, in order not to leave regrets for yourself in the future, or to fulfill one of the wishes of your parents in your life, you should still accommodate them. <>

There is also a situation where my parents are not in good health and are not very old. At this time, it is necessary to look at your career or family life, and you are not allowed to share your time to take care of your children. If you really don't have time, you can explain it to your parents according to the actual situation, or think of some other ways, in fact, your parents are just idle every day at that time and have nothing to do or see that their friends are taking care of their grandchildren.

They are just envious. Or maybe I want to find something for myself to do. <>

Having a child is not so complicated, if you have the time and energy to take care of the child, you should try to do it as early as possible, if you really don't have the time or energy. Parents can also help to take care of themselves. After all, the greatest wish of the elderly is to be able to enjoy the joy of family as soon as possible.

If there is really no way, it is important to understand what kind of mentality the parents have. In this way, we can solve the problem fundamentally, blindly dragging them out or deceiving them. It doesn't make any sense.

I think about my feelings first, and then I think about my financial situation. Because after the child is born, it is best to bring it yourself, if you don't have the idea and conditions to take the child, then it's best not to have a child.

If this were the case for me, then I would definitely talk to my parents about it. I just want to work well now and have a baby in a few years.

If my parents urge me to have children, I should listen to my parents, after all, my parents are anxious, I should be filial to my parents, all kindness and filial piety come first, the son wants to be close to the family, and the tree wants to be quiet and the wind does not stop.

It is necessary to communicate more with parents, express their position, explain why they want to have children later, and what are the disadvantages of having children early, and what are the advantages of having children late, you must communicate with your parents well, and do not have a positive conflict with your parents.

When you reach a certain age, you should have children, which is also for your own physical consideration, and your parents will always think about you and listen to their opinions appropriately.

At this time, I will refuse my parents' request and tell him that he is very busy at work and needs to put all his mind on work, hoping that his parents will understand.

This should also be decided after thinking about it yourself, after all, they can understand it by blowing themselves, but they are too stressed.

I would tell them that I wanted to put my energy into my work first and wait until I had a certain foundation before thinking about it.

If you have the ability, give birth, I think parents are the biggest, if you don't want to have children, then tell them that you are now in a period of struggle and are not able to raise children.

You have to be calm yourself!! You're going to get married, you're an adult.

Whether or not to have children is something that needs to be carefully considered, not something that should or should not be done. If you are not ready to have a baby, it is inevitable that you will feel in a hurry, which is not good for the mother's mood during pregnancy and the birth and growth of the baby. In the face of parents' "giving birth to a baby", you can do more empathy and communicate and coordinate with your parents.

First of all, we don't want to wronged ourselves for having a child early, nor do we want to have unnecessary disputes with our parents, so we need to empathize more at this time. Parents may be about to retire from work, their children are married, their careers have been stable, in their parents' opinion, they should have a baby step by step, they think that all the conditions are ready, some parents feel that they can still help with the child, and if they get pregnant at an older age, it may be very risky for the mother, etc.

From your own point of view, you may feel that the time to have a child is not ripe for various reasons, such as an unstable job, income, not adapting to married life, not being psychologically prepared to have a baby, worrying that you will not be able to raise a child in the future, etc., these may be the reasons why newlyweds do not want children. Because everyone's situation is different, we should take the initiative to communicate with parents to understand the reasons why parents want to have a baby, rather than parents refusing to reject and not giving parents a chance to speak as soon as they mention having a child.

Then, after understanding the parents' thoughts, we can have targeted conversations with the parents and use some communication skills.

First express your understanding of your parents' thoughts, so that parents can listen to your own words, and then state the reasons why you don't want to have children, for what considerations, if you want children now, what kind of problems may exist, and see if it is possible to get some solutions to the problems through discussion, so that parents can rest assured and believe that parents will understand their children.

Taking a step back, even if you don't have a reason to say, you don't need a solution, you just don't want to have children, so you can talk more about your parents and talk about what happened when your parents had children, which can also give you a lot of insights and may help you.

Let's change the topic as much as possible, or don't speak.

I usually talk to them about the current housing prices and prices, and tell them that it is too difficult to have children now.

I usually pretend I don't hear and pretend that I have something else to do and run away as soon as possible, otherwise you're bound to be pestered by these people, and you're going to be very upset.

Nowadays, many young people choose not to have children after getting married, one is that raising children is a big burden for two people, and the other is that after having children, two people seem to be shackled and no longer free. But as the divorce rate becomes higher and higher, children can sometimes become a lubricant in marriage, which will make the relationship between two people stronger. Therefore, it is still necessary to have a child after marriage, but you must think carefully before having a child, because the impact of divorce on children is too great.

Although children are the lubricant of the relationship between husband and wife, you must not rush to have children, after all, the influence of the original family on children is too great, so you must be responsible for your children's lives. Under the influence of traditional Chinese culture, many elders will feel that after their children get married, they should have children immediately, and after having children, it seems that they have completed a big task in their minds. But if you're not prepared at this moment, there are plenty of ways to deal with it.

1. Speak your heart.

When the elders give birth, you don't have to be too entangled, if you don't know what to say euphemistically to refuse, it's better to tell your inner thoughts to the elders. Speak your inner feelings, and the elders will definitely understand the hardships of their children.

2. Appropriate choice to escape.

When faced with the madness of the elders, it is sometimes a good way to choose to escape. If you don't respond to the question of having a baby every time, the elders will also know what you really have in your heart, and they won't be giving birth over time.

3. Tell parents exactly when they want to have a baby.

If you plan the time of your future birth and tell them that they will give birth to a reassuring pill, they will not be giving birth.

In fact, after having children, the husband and wife have a deeper sense of responsibility and cohesion for marriage, which will also make a marriage more complete, after all, life without children is always imperfect. Although there will be many difficulties in the process of raising children, when you have children, the sense of happiness in your heart is irreplaceable by other things.

No, the way parents give birth is endless, knocking on the side, regular ** inquiry, the suitcase stuffed with a small lack of teasing clothes, hints and explicits, and all kinds of conversations are always inseparable from the topic of having children.

The same world, the same pair of parents who gave birth, which also makes many young people distressed and helpless.

In real life, there is such a couple, Mr. Yu and Ms. Wu, who have been married for many years and have never had children. The parents of both sides are on the same camp, and all kinds of births are born, but they didn't expect it to backfire.

The parents' step-by-step method of giving birth made the couple very helpless, and the parents were in a hurry, and the couple who had not planned to Dink decided to dink in order to deal with the birth of their parents.

Although it was decided that Dink had an element of anger with their parents, the couple's attitude of not wanting children was firm.

Mr. Yu and Ms. Wu's plan to dink further aroused strong opposition from both parents, and also caused a quarrel between the two families.

Mr. Yu and Ms. Wu fell in love at first sight on the train, and the relationship between the two was very good after marriage.

His wife, Ms. Wu, set up a stall in the night market, and Mr. Yu opened a restaurant, and he was doing night business, closing the store at three or four o'clock at night every day, and sleeping until five or six o'clock, not to mention having children, and even sleeping time was not enough.

F&B outlets have just started and have not yet reached a stable period. So, the couple decided not to have children in recent years and wanted to work hard in their careers.

It will take at least two or three years for restaurants to open and stabilize from opening. Young people are so busy with work that they really don't have the time or energy to think about having a child.

The parents of both sides felt that while they were in good health now, they could still help bring their grandchildren to them.

My husband and I are both 30 years old and have been married for less than a year. The family especially wants to accompany the scum to have children, as if we will seriously hurt them if we don't want children, and I feel that giving birth to children is completely for the family. As two only children, my husband and I feel that we cannot afford to take on the responsibility of raising children for the time being, and we don't want to have a child and throw it to our family to raise, which is unfair and not good for children.

Married for less than a year, it is a bit early to have children. Human emotions need to have a period of incubation and maturity, and some people like to compare marriage to a bank, where you have to keep saving money in the early stage before you can pay interest later. Marriage needs to have a good enough experience, which is like savings.

It is relatively safe to have children after 3 years of marriage. However, parents are from the past, living in different eras and have different understandings of marriage, for them, children are the cornerstone of a strong marriage. It's normal for them to urge you to have children, it's a concern, and if parents ignore it, it will seem angry.

You say that you don't want children to hurt your parents, or that having children is a bit extreme for your family. In fact, parents love you, even if they love their children, they want to extend their love for you to your children. If I were your parent, I would probably talk about having a baby because you're 30 years old.

Physiological science research believes that a woman is 20 to 28 years old is the best age to raise a child, and raising a child after the age of 35 will increase many risks and reduce the chance of conception.

I couldn't agree more with you, "When you can't afford to educate your children, you don't want to have a child and throw it to your family to raise." Psychology generally advocates that when a woman gives birth to a child, she should give up all social work and concentrate on raising and accompanying her children at home.

At the age of five or six, this is very important for the mental and physical health of the child. I often think that for the future of the country, every mother should receive an allowance from the state, and the greatest preferential treatment and priority should be given to women who return to work in society after raising children, so that Lu Liang's mother will not have so many worries about raising children at home. In an ideal welfare state, women who have children but are unwilling to give up social work and sacrifice for their children are despised and selfish.

In today's society, when there is a lack of protection for women, many women delay raising children due to career development and economic conditions, which is a helplessness rather than a right one.

In fact, in life, it is normal for parents to hope that their children will get married as soon as possible at the age of trial marriage, and they will feel that they will have an idea when they see that other people's children are married, and their children will not be married, but it also depends on the actual situation, most parents still do not agree, and they are going to get married not long after they first meet, which may mean that parents are too anxious to see that their children are older, and they feel that the other party is suitable to let their children get married, such parents are still a minority, after all, marriage is a very important thing, they will let their children contact each other for a period of time, and only after understanding the situation can they choose to enter the palace of marriage, because to see the essence of a person, at least in a year or so, they can see through, parents are all from the past, and they all understand, unless it is the kind of person who has a relatively simple idea.

I think that my parents let you get married does not mean that I am the same when I get married immediately, it is free love, but my parents still respect my choice, I may not agree too much at first, I think my husband is not reliable, but he saw that I repeatedly emphasized that it was my own choice and agreed, because it is true that my idea at that time was to marry my husband, but I didn't listen to my parents, and then I really regretted it, because only people who come here can see a man's true thoughts, Or whether he will have his own career in the future, so it is right to listen to his parents, but it depends on what the situation is. Because my marriage is very unhappy, so I chose to divorce Shiqing, and my parents didn't complain too much, I just felt that I was living happily alone, and he still wanted me to find a boyfriend again, in fact, their idea was also right.

In this case, most parents hope that their children can live happily in the future, and they can communicate well by understanding more.