Even talking has become a luxury, what is that feeling

If even talking becomes a luxury, it can feel very lonely, helpless, and frustrated. In this situation, people may feel isolated or neglected and unable to communicate and share their thoughts and feelings with others. This can lead to a deep sense of loss and loneliness, making one feel forgotten and helpless by the world.

Also, if a person is unable to express their thoughts and feelings, they may feel very frustrated and helpless. They may feel that they are unable to communicate and communicate with others, unable to express their thoughts and feelings, which can lead to a deep sense of frustration and anxiety.

In conclusion, if even talking becomes a luxury, it can make people feel very lonely, helpless, and depressed, which can have a negative impact on a person's mental health.

The more I grow, the more mature, the more mature, the more silent, the more silent, the more I will find that finding someone to talk to has become the most extravagant thing in my life! At work, because of the need for efficiency, it is best to speak simply and clearly;

In terms of interpersonal communication, some people will be annoyed if they talk too much, and they are too lazy to listen to other people's nagging for a long time, and they always feel like a waste of time.

Friends? It doesn't seem that all of them can complain, everyone is busy with their own things, with a husband and children, it seems that they can never go back to the era of girlfriends, you can sing k until two o'clock in the middle of the night, you are in a bad mood, you can be on call 24 hours a day, and suddenly I found that the life of an adult is so difficult, it turns out that there is a person around you who is willing to listen to your nonsense, and I am really happy! On call, accompany you to buy drunk wanton ...... late at night

This must be a bad feeling! Even talking has become a luxury, so what's the point of two people being together? It's better to separate it sooner.

Even talking becomes a luxury, what does that feel like? It feels like it's white when you open your mouth, and it feels very uncomfortable.

Of course, everyone is busy, especially if a guy is very good, then he may have a lot of time to devote to his studies and career, so it is inevitable that sometimes he will be slower to reply when you send him a message.

But if he always delays a long time every time he replies to your messages, and sometimes even every day or two before replying to you, then there is no doubt that his commitment to you is very limited, and the extent to which he loves you is obvious.

But pay attention to one point, it doesn't mean that the boy doesn't love you as soon as he replies to your message, don't be like some girls, the boy doesn't reply to himself after ten minutes or an hour or two, and he will be entangled and wonder if the boy doesn't love him.

I'm talking about the time that guys don't reply to you for a long time, sometimes even a day or two, and this frequency of replies has become the norm, which is a sign that guys don't love you.

"Millennial waiting" chat.

In addition to the length of time a guy replies to your messages, the frequency of his initiating contact with you is also one of the important indicators to assess whether he loves you.

If you're chatting with a guy, it's always you who take the initiative to start a topic, and every time you take the initiative to talk to him, he responds to you.

And the number of times he takes the initiative to chat with you is very small, and it is simply "once in a thousand years" Then he must not love you enough.

So, take out your phone, flip through your chat with him, check the date, and see if it's always you who starts the conversation every time?

It means that I used to be able to see each other every day, but now I don't have the opportunity to meet at all, and even wanting to see each other again has become a very luxurious thing.

It turns out that chatting is anytime, anywhere, and will reply to your messages no matter how late it is. Now, maybe the message sent in the morning will be replied in the afternoon, and the last second is still replying to your message, and the next second it will disappear, and it is hard to wait for your message to be replied, but it ended in a hurry before a few words of chatting. I can't tell you what it feels like, but maybe only I can understand it.

That is, chatting with you is a waste of time, so luxurious.

It's that you often don't talk to him, and you talk less.

Sometimes, love is far from being as sweet as we think. Live a life, understand each other, trust each other, and support each other. If he really doesn't have you in his heart, just leave, he is not qualified to threaten you, maybe he doesn't know how to live, how to be good to a person...

It shows that there is a conflict with her current boyfriend, and there is usually no common topic.

Feelings are not compatible, there is no common language, there is no way to communicate.

It's the same as what you mean when you talk about it. The meaning of this sentence: It is that you usually talk too little, and others think that it is a luxury to be able to talk to you.

And the above means that the other party is very busy, and it is a luxury to have time to chat with you.

The monthly income of 30,000 or 40,000 yuan still depends on what kind of city it is in, such as first-tier cities like Beijing and Shanghai, the monthly income of 30,000 or 40,000 yuan is actually not too high, you must know that even if it is such a monthly income, the monthly salary can only be to buy a square house, and it is not a high-end community, and many white-collar workers still have to live the life of house slaves.

Xiao Li of our unit is a college student who has just been divided, and now it should be about 32,000 a month, and the old family heard that Xiao Li can have such an income, and he is really envious, but he can't be happy for Xiao Li, because when he reaches the age of marriage, the basic condition proposed by the woman's family is that there must be a house, and there is no way Xiao Li set a three-bedroom house a year ago, and the house price was 41,000 yuan at that time, and 120 square meters is 4,920,000 yuan. Xiao Li made a down payment of more than 140,000 yuan, and the rest is all loans, 20 years of installments are now nearly 10,000 yuan per month, and the salary minus his own will save 6,000 yuan, and he will have to pay living expenses, rent, and save money for decoration after delivery, so life is also tight, of course, if you don't live in a first-tier city, the income of 30,000 or 40,000 yuan per month is of course very comfortable.

First, when you need to use money, you don't have to worry so much, as the saying goes, you have enough money, you have such a high income every month, you can basically resist all kinds of risks in life, you don't have to worry about panic because of no money, you can eat what you want to eat, you can buy what you want, even if the oil spill incident is in a uproar, it is estimated that you still can't stop you from buying luxury cars.

Second, when you have a monthly income of 30,000 or 40,000 yuan, your social circle will be more extensive, after all, you are not bad for money, you always count it when you have no money, and you are reluctant to go out to eat, even if a friend invites you, you will also think about whether to go, whether to invite back, and you have a high income, you will definitely not have so many worries, after all, the cost of social interaction is small money.

Third, if you get used to high income, you will become better, and the level of contact will be different, and you will find ways to make yourself stronger, have a higher income, and develop in a better direction in life.

In general, with an income of 30,000 or 40,000 yuan per month, he must have a certain social status of his own, and he will have a certain pattern of seeing things and behaving as a person.

The monthly income of 30,000 yuan is twice the average monthly salary, which basically belongs to the high-income group before Shanghai. It is difficult for the salary of ordinary sweeping aunts to reach the average salary level, and it is impossible to reach the glamorous life of the middle class with personal efforts alone. What if, this sweeping aunt's family has four suites in Shanghai?

The result was completely different.

Is it hypocritical to be anxious with a monthly income of 30,000?

With a monthly income of 30,000 yuan, you will still be anxious, this is not hypocrisy, it is a real social reality. Take, for example, buying a school district house

At the beginning of 2016, a Beijing white-collar worker with a monthly income of 50,000 yuan (more than 30,000 yuan a month) changed his school district house in order to send his children to school. Her previous house was in the East Fifth Ring Road, a small three-bedroom apartment of 100 square meters. In order to change a set of school district houses for key schools, she sold a comfortable three-bedroom house for more than 4 million, and took out a loan of 300 to buy a second-hand "old and dilapidated" school district house of more than 7 million, the house is very old, the decoration is very broken, the area is very small, less than 80 square meters, but it has to be squeezed into three generations of five people, and the quality of life is greatly reduced.

This female white-collar worker with a monthly income of 50,000 yuan not only has to repay the mortgage, because the new house is far away from the company, the cost of driving and maintaining a car is not low, the family has daily living expenses, and there are children and the elderly to raise, plus the child's extracurricular tutoring fee. She didn't dare to change jobs, she didn't dare to lose her job, she didn't have the money to travel and enjoy life, and she was anxious every day, afraid that the house would be taken away by the bank. She is a standard middle-class income, but she lives a life without happiness.

This is the reality of a middle-class female white-collar worker, worried about whether the huge housing bubble will collapse, and at the same time has to buy a school district house for the sake of her children. Their pressure is not something that a sweeping aunt who holds four suites and holds a salary of thousands of yuan, but can sit on tens of thousands of rents can understand.

With a monthly income of 30,000, what are they anxious about?

The monthly income of 30,000 yuan sounds very decent, but in fact, it can be enough to live in a high-consumption city like Shanghai - buy luxury goods, travel abroad, give birth to a second child, ......

The most ordinary house in a first-tier city has a down payment of about 2 million, a monthly salary of 30,000, and 7 years according to the annual savings of 300,000, how many 7 years are there in life? What's more, what will be the price of the house in 7 years?

Most of the people with a monthly salary of 30,000 yuan have entered the year of establishment, starting a family, children's education, from milk powder, diapers, early education, kindergarten, cram school to various parenting costs during the period, because the cost elasticity is too large, it is simply a bottomless pit to say that it is high.

So how much money, how much assets, and how much annual income must be the hard indicators of the middle class?

I don't know how many middle classes there are in the country, because there are many people in the country who can't count. In the author's impression, the middle class is probably the kind of person who can have no worries about food and clothing without doing anything in this life, with their own luxury cars and mansions, and they don't worry about money. Although this vague impression of the middle class, I don't know whether it is in the rich class or the middle class.

But in general, it can be roughly summarized into three main criteria: material standards, living conditions, and spiritual culture.

Let's talk about the material standards first, at least you must have a big house in the city, and you must have a car when you travel, which is a basic material basis.

And living conditions refer to social status, living laws. For example, nine nights.

5. Stable job, good income, plans for the future, busyness and leisure. There are air travel and vacations, at least one fitness card, and are good at a type of high-end sports, such as golf and horse riding. I have to say that love sports are definitely one of the important labels of the middle class.

The last type of spiritual culture means that the middle class has begun to go beyond the material threshold and pay attention to the nourishment of spiritual culture. They are happy to take part in cultural events, go to the theater every week to see a play, listen to a meeting or an exhibition. The pursuit of spiritual culture by the middle class is, to a large extent, the benchmark for the vitality of the entire social culture.

What is it like to earn 30,000 yuan a month, it depends on who you are. For those of us ordinary wage earners, who only have an income of 3,000 to 5,000 yuan per month, if you are suddenly given an income of 30,000 yuan per month, I think you will be excited for several days and can't sleep, wondering if this is real, or dreaming, the degree of psychological happiness can be said to be self-evident. And if for Ma Yun and others, there is only 30,000 yuan of income per month, I think he feels the same as you, he just can't sleep, but he is so annoyed that he can't sleep, because this income may not be enough to pay the salary of the bodyguard.

Therefore, the same income is different for different people, and everyone feels different, so it can be said that it is normal for someone to feel unhappy.

In fact, for these people who have such a high income level and still feel unhappy, the root cause of unhappiness is that they have too high requirements for the quality of life. For those of us ordinary wage earners, some people have to support their families with an income of 3,000 yuan a month, and they can only keep everything simple in terms of food, clothing, housing and transportation.

For people with an income of 30,000 yuan per month, most of them have relatively high requirements for the quality of life, and their lives will be relatively petty, and it is normal to get together from time to time. Regardless of one's own personal expenses, the payment for children's education alone is not comparable to that of our ordinary wage earners. For example, last summer, he spent 20,000 yuan on a 10-day study tour in Europe, and spent nearly 10,000 yuan on piano lessons, Olympiad mathematics, and English cram school for his children, and spent nearly 10,000 yuan on a summer vacation, and for him, the income of 30,000 yuan per month, after deducting living expenses such as mortgages and car loans, there is not much extra money at all, so he feels very tired and unhappy.

Happiness comes with a high income, which has always been a false proposition. Many people with low incomes think that if I double my income, I will feel very happy, but in my own experience, when my income doubles, I will want to double it again, in fact, I am always anxious. From this point of view, there is no necessary link between income and happiness.

If it weren't for a rich person or a rich second generation like Ma Yun, who could reach this income and still feel unhappy, he could appropriately lower his consumption standards, and if he had time, he might as well go to the poor mountainous areas to see what poverty is, and then he would feel how happy he was living.

To sum up, everyone has a different definition of what constitutes happiness. My parents are very old, and it is happiness to be able to go out and square dance every day. Parents with children are happy to be able to see their children happy every day.

Most of the time happiness has nothing to do with money, and different people have different understandings of happiness.