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First of all, you can tell your leader that you really can't drink, and you may behave out of control after drinking, so you can use tea instead of wine to show respect for the leader.

Point 1, if this is the case, you can drink a little bit appropriately, point 2 but you must emphasize that you should not drink too much, and point 3 is the best way to deal with it, that is, you should use salt to prevaricate.

For such a situation, we should first accept the requirements of the leader, and pay attention to giving the leader enough face when making a transition.

Clause.

1. Learn to do what you like.

When chatting with the leader at the dinner, young people must remember to learn to empathize with each other, and do what they like, you will find that the leader will also begin to recognize the way you speak and the content of your speech, because you understand the leader in public and meet the needs of the leader, the leader will feel very happy, so no matter when and where, everyone must learn to cooperate with the leader, and make all kinds of preparations before participating in the dinner, you will see that the leader's vision of you will also change. Because you have learned to understand and cooperate, of course, the leader will not have more resistance to you, on the contrary, he will take the initiative to respect you in public.

Drink and chat with the leader, master these three ways of speaking, and improve the charm of speaking.

2. Consider the feelings of the leader.

No matter what occasion you speak, you must learn to maintain the leader's sense of interest, consider the leader's feelings, and the leader will also consider your opinions and give you more help. However, in real life, when many young people first enter the workplace or participate in dinners, they will make a lot of confused mistakes when they speak due to a certain amount of pressure, such as when toasting with the leader, they don't take the leader seriously at all, but very directly target the leader, such behaviors and habits will only make you offend the leader in the workplace, and will not be reused by the leader.

Drink and chat with the leader, master these three ways of speaking, and improve the charm of speaking.

3. Say more words of praise and gratitude to leaders.

In fact, in this case, young people must say more words of praise to each other, because whether it is an employee or a leader, they want to hear some words of praise, so they must exercise their eloquence after work, and say some words that impress the leader when communicating with the leader, you will find that the leader will communicate with you attentively and take the initiative to help you.

1. Show respect: Presumably, at a dinner with leaders, no matter how high or low your position is, you must inevitably toast to the leader. When it's your turn, you can say:

I salute the leader first, thank the leader for taking care of me, I will do it first. "I believe that no one can find a thorn in the thorn in such words.

2. Aim at the guest and the host and grasp the overall situation: Most sprinkler banquets have a theme, that is, the purpose of drinking. When going to the banquet, you should first look around at everyone's expressions, distinguish priorities, don't drink for the sake of drinking, and lose a good opportunity to make friends, let alone let some grandstanding drunkards mess with the host's intentions.

3. Thank you for the leadership for your usual care for me, although I am not strong enough to drink, but I hope to always follow the leader, one and a half, feelings are not dispersed, respect you! "If you can't drink very well, maybe you pour a glass or rarely drink, at this time, you still have to look at the occasion to toast, and you don't know what to say, so you won't be wrong to say this sentence directly.

Talking about heroes with alcohol, it's okay for people who drink a lot, but it's difficult for people who drink a lot of alcohol, and sometimes they persuade them to drink excessively, which will completely destroy the original friendship feelings.

A drinker is not afraid to talk less! The reason why you can't find something to talk to when drinking with the leader, it is recommended that you toast to the leader more, once the wine is drunk, even if you are restrained, you will not be so nervous, but the leader is generally very good at talking, you just need to climb along his pole.

When drinking with the leader, try not to talk if you don't know how to speak, and after a long time of mixing, you will slowly learn how to speak!

If you can't talk or don't talk nonsense, pay attention to a few points:

1. Take the initiative to arrange your own suitable position and choose the distance and distance with the leader.

2. Constantly confirm what the leader said and affirm it during the dinner speech.

3. When toasting with the leader, the quilt should be lower than the leader.

4. Don't interject when the leader speaks.

5. Figure out the leader's intentions, see who the leader wants to drink more, and you take the initiative to drink a few glasses.

6.Look at what the leader likes to eat, intentionally or unintentionally, transfer the leader's favorite dishes to him.

Hello! If you don't know how to speak, you can drink it!

The words are in the wine, I salute you!

Judging by your description, it should be the company team eating and drinking together. Because you have just joined the company and have not worked with the leader before, he doesn't know how much alcohol you drink, so under normal circumstances, he will let you drink some wine: on the one hand, there is no banquet without wine, and drinking can mobilize the atmosphere of eating and let you integrate into the team faster; On the other hand, it's also about seeing how much you drink.

In this case, if you don't want to drink or the amount of alcohol you drink is limited, you either say that you can't drink too much; Either there is an objective reason to refuse alcohol, such as trying to conceive or there are other reasons in the body. But you say that you don't know how to drink, this reason is untenable in the drinking field, this is your subjective reason, not objectively not to drink. It's because you don't know how to drink that the leader wants you to practice more, and it will be a kind of ability in the company in the future.

Based on my observation of many newcomers in the workplace, and from the perspective of leadership: in this scenario, as long as you are not physically able to drink alcohol at all, I think you should drink some first. Even if your face is flushed after a cup of belly, this can only mean that you can't drink enough, but your drinking courage and straightforward personality are still there, and the leader will let you drink less after seeing it, and he won't persuade you more.

If you don't drink at all, you will seem to be too restrained, your personality is not bold enough, your execution is not enough, and the leader is of course unhappy.

Therefore, from this logical point of view, you need to do two things: a. If you don't want to drink, you should have sufficient reasons to refuse alcohol, so that people can't find fault with it, rather than refusing half-pushing; b. If you can drink something, you must participate as a newcomer, but you must also have a strategy and not hurt your body. According to your situation, in order to let you understand the relevant routines of alcohol persuasion and rejection in the workplace wine culture, the specific situation will give you the following analysis and suggestions:

As a newcomer to the workplace, if you really don't want to drink, then you have to give an objective, credible reason why no one can persuade you to drink at the beginning. Don't use some subjective reasons to make others think that you are pushing.

As a person in the workplace, it is also necessary to participate in various social activities: your colleagues, your own customers, your own friends' gatherings, etc. There are many rules in the wine field, and the same is true for dinners in the workplace:

Drinking is either you drinking, drinking more and drinking less is your own level, and now no one is trying to persuade you to drink; Either you keep showing that you can't drink, and people won't say anything if they know your situation; Don't say you can't drink, you can't drink and you can't drink are two different things.

If you encounter this kind of workplace situation, you can actually drink a little bit, but don't drink too much, and try to avoid participating in this kind of drinking party next time.

Before drinking, you can tell the leader, such as "Mr. Liu, I am a newcomer, I don't know how to drink, and the amount of alcohol is limited." However, as a new employee, I do need to make a statement, but my alcohol consumption is really average. If I get drunk for a while, don't mind.

First of all, I will pave the way for the leader and lower my psychological expectations, so that even if the leader comes back to persuade me to drink, there will be a reason to shirk it. That's all that goes for the general leader.

You can try to drink a little bit, or find another excuse, such as going home to drive, there is a sick person at home, anyway, it is an excuse that no one can't be violent.

That must mean I'm allergic to alcohol, and if you let me drink, I'm going to die, what should I do?

After being persuaded to drink by the leader, you can tell the leader that you are not feeling well and that you are currently taking medication. At this time, the leader will no longer persuade everyone to drink, because once you drink alcohol, it may also affect everyone's body. At this time, it will affect everyone's work, and it will also affect the development of the company.

I believe that in the process of work, you will inevitably encounter a dinner party. At this time, there are some leaders who like to persuade employees to drink very much, and after encountering this situation, everyone does not know how to refuse the leader. Because many people can't drink alcohol, they may develop allergies once they finish drinking.

If the allergy is very serious, it can even lead to life-threatening conditions. So at this time, you can tell the leader that you can't drink. Because everyone is allergic to alcohol, after drinking, you may have to go to the hospital for infusion or go directly to the hospital**.

At this time, the leader will no longer persuade everyone to drink, because this will also affect the next day's work. <>

After encountering such a situation, you can also tell the leader that you are not feeling well and are currently taking medication**. This will not make the leader feel embarrassed, and at the same time, the leader will stop persuading him to drink. Because everyone knows that drinking alcohol after taking drugs can have a particularly big impact on the body, and even cause many people to lose their lives.

As a result, many people will no longer try to drink in this way, because it will also have a particularly serious effect. And after drinking, it may also affect the next work. <>

Many people are reluctant to drink alcohol during dinner parties, because everyone knows that drinking too much alcohol will also have a great impact on the body. But after being persuaded by the leader to drink, everyone couldn't bear to refuse, because everyone was afraid that their behavior would make the leader feel very faceless. But in the process, you can try to say no in a different way.

If it's a girl, you can also make it clear that it's inconvenient for you to drink. If it is a boy, you can also tell the leader that he is currently preparing for pregnancy.

You can tell the other party that you do have allergies if you drink alcohol in your life, and if the other party is not afraid of your allergies, you can drink it yourself.

You can tell the other person that you are allergic to alcohol and can't drink a sip of alcohol, as long as you take a sip, you will go to the hospital immediately.

You can say that you are allergic to alcohol, or you can say that your wife at home is pregnant and needs to go back to take care of her, etc.

Clause. First, first of all, thank the leader, and through some excuses to euphemistically refuse some employees when they are invited by the leader to participate in the dinner, the expression will be very angry, because they feel that there is nothing good to participate in the dinner with the leader, if the leader does not relentlessly invite these employees, and even lose his temper with the leader, the leader is very dissatisfied with the performance of the employee, because even if you do not participate, there is no need to show the angry expression. Employees with high emotional intelligence will first thank the leader, and through family or friends, make up some excuses to politely refuse, and the leader feels that it is understandable that you will not participate, and naturally will not threaten you again.

Clause. Second, tell the leader to participate in the last time Some employees actually feel very uncomfortable when they participate in the dinner, so they will want to refuse directly in their hearts, but they are embarrassed to say it, but Sun Ling is a capable employee and the leader has a good relationship, can know how to rent under the other party's steps, give the leader enough face, and when refusing the leader's request, he will also show a more regretful expression, and finally will claim and make a promise to tell the leader that he will definitely go to the dinner with the leader next time. After refusing through such euphemistic methods and words, the leader will naturally be able to forgive you. Clause.

3. Tell the leader that you have a physical problem, in fact, the leader will also consider the physical and mental health of the employee, because if the employee always frequently asks for leave or has no way to perform the work task because of drinking, then the impact on the company is still very large, so young people should actually tell the leader that they are unwell before they don't want to go to the dinner, and thank the leader for the kind invitation. Clause.

Fourth, there are many employees in the company after the work, every day is very busy, when invited by the leader to participate in the dinner, you can also through some additional work in the company to euphemistically refuse, because when everyone is performing the task, if the progress of the work is delayed, then the company's superiors and leaders will naturally not give up, so when everyone refuses to drink, in fact, through similar reasons as a shield, some leaders of the company will naturally not continue to make things difficult for you.