How should we change to become people with substance?

If you have not been very patient with the input of knowledge and reading directly, I suggest you start watching movies first, I wanted to read more books at the beginning of my freshman year, but I found that I couldn't read at all, and I liked the history of the Third Reich in Germany, but I only read two volumes. After that, I began to try to watch movies first, such as The Shawshank Redemption, This Killer is Not Too Cold, The Great Gatsby, Harry Potter series, etc., these movie classics that have been widely praised on the Internet are more valuable, and I almost started watching other movies after watching them, such as Gao Xiaosong's shows, occasional debate competitions, documentaries, etc., I learned some translation skills in the movie, and I like to write, so I occasionally write and memorize the sentences in it. After that, I started to read the original books of these movies, and when I was reading, I wrote down what I thought in my head as much as possible, no matter how naïve it was, so that it could improve concentration, and the other was to exercise my thinking while expressing, although I am not a person with connotation (I am a person with connotation), but there is definitely no big problem with reading.

Connotation needs to be accumulated slowly, and it is by no means something you can have every day if you want it today, and secondly, I think the accumulation of connotation is a long process, and you can't stop at the beginning, and don't pay too much attention to the result. I use books to add to my own content, and it really works.

First of all, we should be low-key, and we should be humble and have the motivation to learn and progress, and only by constantly improving ourselves can we be qualified to become a person with connotation.

I faced the same problem as you before. Although I am consciously exercising now, I have not yet met my expectations, so I will write down some of the methods I have figured out here to encourage you. I studied design-related in college, although it is called art, in fact, it is similar to the atmosphere of engineering, and everyone does not look down on "social experts", but students with high professional ability are more admired.

Therefore, when I was in school, I didn't feel any problem with the sketchpad computer at all, and I have always subconsciously adhered to the principle of "everything is simple", so that the one-sided pursuit of more is better than less. This is the main reason; In addition, as a design, at work, my superiors and colleagues can allow me to prefer a quiet and long-term focus on the world of one person, tolerate the lack of verbal communication with me, and when I have to communicate with people, I am used to writing down with a pen, one by one, prioritizing the cause and effect. If I need to meet people, I will definitely be prepared, and I will not need to write down.

In short, where you can use words, it's generally fine.

If a person wants to have thoughts and opinions, he must start from independent thinking. Independent thinking is to use one's own brain to think about problems, rather than simply using one's own brain to fully accept the views of others and the views of predecessors. Whether a person is doing studies or doing things, he needs to pay attention to cultivating and exercising his ability to think independently, so that he can have opinions and opinions at the moment, that is, the so-called "thinking".

Learn to think independently in order to become a thinking person. A thoughtful person is expected to become a person who can make a difference. ‍‍

If you want to make yourself a person with connotation, you should read more books, read more interesting articles, and let yourself, cultured and knowledgeable, make it possible to become a person with connotation.

The connotation is not born, nor does it come immediately, it is the accumulation of oneself in long-term life, you can try to read some books that are rarely designed, and do some interesting things that you usually do less.

Read more books, this is the most effective way, read more than 10,000 volumes, write like a god, reading affects not only our writing, but also our connotation.

On the flip side, thinking about people and things is very superficial and one-sided, thinking dogma is rigid, stereotype, self-righteous to draw conclusions and preach when you open your mouth, love to do meaningless arguments, bites, and fierce arguments with others, blindly disgust and avoid things that you don't understand, are not interested in, and don't like, and feel too good about yourself, and when you seize the opportunity, you will boast and show off, and you will jump and scream when you poke and touch it. Two books are recommended: Fang Long's "Tolerance" and Thomas Paine's "Common Sense".

In dealing with ordinary things, we can compare other people's opinions with common sense, and think about whether this opinion is in line with common sense or contrary to common sense, through such comparison, we can generally draw judgments about good, bad, right and wrong, and then we will have our own independent views on this matter.

Travel more, read thousands of books, and travel thousands of miles. This is the unchanging truth, go out and walk more, we can have more knowledge.

If you want to read more books and reach the point where you can export chapters, your temperament and connotation will naturally be there, and only what you have in your head is your own.

To think is to think; As a result of thoughts, opinions arise. At the moment, you have thought about a specific thing, you have thought about it, and finally you have come up with a little bit of thought, you have made a judgment, and you have said a little bit of truth, which means that you have your own opinion on this thing.

Connotation is not something that can be cultivated in a day or two, read more than the outside world, and broaden your horizons.

1. Read more books:

Increase your own reading, and you will be able to see a wider range of things, without so many limitations. If you want to become a person with rich connotations, it is very necessary to read more, which can really cultivate a person's temperament and broaden people's horizons;

2. Choose the right clothing:

The image on the outside can also reflect a person's inner cultivation, choosing clothes that suit you can make others feel a lot more favorable about yourself, so that others can see your aesthetic taste, a first sale makes the real rich connotation of the person, is a very good person in the appearance and inside;

3. Respect for others.

Only those who have learned to respect others can be respected by others, and respect for others is also a manifestation of connotation;

Fourth, learn to repay the gratitude:

Knowing grace is a traditional virtue society needs warmth, although life may encounter various problems, but we should be grateful to everyone who has helped us and cared for us, which is also a manifestation of connotation;

5. Pay attention to your words and deeds

Words and deeds can especially reflect a person's inner cultivation, usually people with connotation do not get angry casually, do things with their own principles and bottom lines, and at the same time will not say mean and bitter words to make others sad.

Connotation is a thing that takes time to accumulate, and if there is no certain quantitative change, I think it is difficult to have a qualitative change, and if you just want to express yourself in front of others, that kind of motivation is not pure, and it is difficult to achieve connotation. If the connotation is only the accumulation of knowledge and culture, but not the spirit, then at best it is just a high-scoring and incompetent nerd, a person's heart is very important, rather than this, it is better to strengthen the inner cultivation. It can be said that what you need is not a simple connotation, but a kind of personal self-cultivation, you know, whether a person's inner is solid or leaky, you can see it from the physiognomy.

G: Connotation is a relatively abstract thing, I think you don't just want to know what connotation is, I believe you have seen a realistic example, in fact, connotation This kind of thing can be said to be divided into innate and acquired, and it is not an orthodox method that can be pursued This can be seen from the kind of big family cultivating heirs This kind of thing is often played in idol dramas, so things on TV have a certain picture effect, and then talk about yourself, when you really have connotation, you will not be so persistent, this is like a toddler in Handan In the end, the whole person is not human, so it is very troublesome to cultivate a thing Speaking of connotation, then I have to mention that temperament Temperament is the external manifestation of this bookish temperament can be a lovely temperament The first requirement for this change is to pass the test in appearance Not to say that you look good, but to say that you pay attention to your own dress and personal hygiene treatment such as a clean face and a suitable head style These are more important So talk about the connotation This requires that there is a genuine product Even if you look at it, but as soon as you open your mouth Or an action will expose your true situation, so the connotation of the requirements is that you can naturally show it, you can also act, but who will play it for a lifetime, so it is better to cultivate it in a down-to-earth manner, of course, there is no time limit, in the process of training, you will slowly have your own understanding, so let's talk about some training methods, reading books is a more common way, of course, reading books is a bit widespread, if you don't mind, you can read something more literary, and there is to understand some common sense issues necessary for communication For example, how many people do you need to play football, in fact, the purpose of reading these is to enrich your knowledge to the point where you have something to say, and then you need to pay attention to some skills between communicating with people, which I don't know very well, if you encounter something you don't know, don't be nervous, you have to learn to be calm, in fact, a person with connotation often needs the accumulation of time, so don't think about quick success, and there is no so-called success or failure in this process, just be patient.

1 Read more books.

2. Learn more about the facts, chat with topics, and gradually improve your own opinions.

3 Learn the basics of etiquette and be polite to others.

4 Don't be overly attached to friends, family, etc., remember that you are a completely independent individual, and to have your own personal charm starts with knowing the etiquette of the little ones.

Hand the scissors to others and point the stone to themselves.

Cheers to others The cup is slightly lower than the other.

When you get on the elevator, stand on the right side of the escalator and leave the left side open for people who are in a hurry to pass through.

When you meet a friend who is inconvenient to open the door with a heavy object in your hand, help open the door.

Don't litter, obey traffic rules, and more.

And many more. Others may not be able to change it.

But first make yourself a person who knows little things.

Only then can righteousness be carried out.

Learn more and see more, I think I should enrich myself first, and of course improve my morality.

People with connotation are more temperamental, and temperament can be shown through dressing, usually wear the right suit when working, choose casual clothes when going out, and learn to wear clothes on different occasions.

People with connotations speak more slowly, often listen more than as a narrator, and the words they respond to are very refined, which requires the accumulation of culture and reading more books.

People with connotation know etiquette very well, whether they are guests or hospitality, they are very attentive to their own etiquette and image, usually communicate with others, and see how others are doing.

Having poems in the chest can enhance people's connotation, and speeches are full of literary flavor, and you can't read dead books to learn and apply them lively, and you can't be detached from reality and appear ungrounded.

People with connotation will respect people, and can have friendly exchanges with people of different classes or ranks, which is a kind of learning to deal with interpersonal relationships, and people with connotation will make everyone feel very comfortable. Travel more often and interact with different people.

1. I think that in addition to dressing appropriately and speaking in a measured manner, we must constantly improve our knowledge, moral cultivation, and constantly enrich ourselves.

2. Make more friends, make more friendly and humorous friends, often associate with such friends, and within a few months, our sense of humor will be improved;

3. Think more, in our daily life, we have to think more about everything, and we must develop such a habit every day, so our sense of humor and connotation will also increase;

4. Learn more, we still have a lot of knowledge, we need to learn, to learn some useful and correct knowledge, so that our connotation is improving all the time;

5. Go out more, if life allows, don't stay at home all the time, we can also try to go out often, see the outside world, and make our personality more extroverted;

6. Regulate our emotions more, when our emotions are changing with certain people and things, we must try our best to self-regulate, so that our emotional personality is more extroverted.

Read more books, increase knowledge, and improve taste; Cultivate their own interests and hobbies, have a skill, and people with connotation should also have goods in their stomachs; Speak less, especially if you are not familiar with yourself, and what you say must go through the brain, and you can't say anything without words, and you can't seem too naïve and tasteless; It is necessary to have good cultivation and moral character, respect others, and be virtuous.

Learn more, feel more, communicate more.

I can't tell you what the meaning of these two words is, it's very broad. Sometimes it's to describe a girl as beautiful, and sometimes it's to describe a person who knows a lot of things. There are also times to describe a person as knowledgeable.

If you are a girl, you don't need to do anything, the connotation is innate, if you are a boy, then the four famous books must be watched, less addicted to games, more learning knowledge, computers are tools, not toys, listening**, can supplement your **knowledge, watching movies, can supplement your entertainment knowledge, addicted to games, falling deeper and deeper, there is no benefit, when you are knowledgeable, healthy, and talk extraordinary, the connotation you already have.

I don't think it matters if there is a connotation in reality, people still have to focus on their careers, they must have quality, if they have to put something first, I personally think that it is moral quality, and love is only secondary.

It's half past one, and I'm a little sleepy, and I may not be able to understand what I'm saying, but that's probably what it means.

I suddenly remembered something, and I would like to add one last thing that I myself have little interest in the Dream of Red Mansions. It seems that girls love to watch Dream of Red Mansions.