Why is there such a high breakup rate in college when it comes to relationships?

Let's talk about me, I just graduated this year, I had a boyfriend in my freshman, I talked about it for four years, I was very affectionate, very tolerant He is completely self-centered, and he has been with me for four years in college, shopping, eating, I feel that he has no circle of his own at all, and he is particularly dependent on me. We often quarrel, but it's very strange, but the relationship is getting better and better, maybe we are used to being like that! We also break up often, but because we are too familiar, we always bow to the other for two days.

I graduated this year, we have been in the country for more than four years, my hometown is very far away, my family does not support it, in order to be together, he went to Beijing to develop, I chose to be with him, but the reality is like that, two people, hot days, apply for interviews everywhere, there is no time to fall in love together.

I think campus love, unless the two of you really have a plan for the future, and plan to go on all the time, although the two people are from different cities, but they are willing to work hard in the same city, the boyfriend and girlfriend of this relationship can be maintained forever, and those who have a clear goal for the direction of the two can keep it all the time, and I also support this. If two people come from different cities, but after graduation, some want to go back to their own city, and the other party is unwilling to go to your city, anyway, the two people choose different places, and then evolve into a long-distance relationship, except for a small number of people who really love each other, most of the breakup chances are quite high.

The reason is very simple, our school is that college girls need money, and boys spend money on him in the poor conditions of the family, because the boys with better family conditions will not support them, and the poorer children in the university are willing to spend money on girls to get objects, and when they go to the society to make money on their own, there will be no money, and girls have become realistic, so they broke up, and the breakup rate is also very high.

College students do not have the ability to love, because love needs to take responsibility, and friends in college do not have independent financial ability, their future is uncertain, and they are not able to bear love, but the feelings in college are still sincere and worthy of nostalgia.

Because when choosing a career after graduation, they will go their separate ways for the future, because it is difficult to be in a city, so the breakup rate is high, and the breakup makes both men and women mature and realistic, and the original mountain alliances and sea vows become illusory.

Basically, there are few pairs that are successful, most of them are to consume time in college, in the youthful age, they have not experienced the true drop of love, experienced the baptism of reality, many things will change, and there is no real value for love.

When you were in college, you thought that it was okay to fall in love and have love, and in the future, you would struggle together, make money together, buy a house together, buy a car together, and think very well, but after graduation, you will find that you are powerless. No matter how much the woman loves you, she will also hear some opinions from the family, and the man must have some money, otherwise how will he live in the future.

Campus love, many people look forward to it, many people want to find a partner on campus, thinking that it can last forever in the future, and they don't have to worry about having no object in the future, but some people don't like campus love, feel that it is not long-term, just pursue temporary happiness, and the probability of breaking up after graduation is also quite high.

College students from high school to college, the most likely problem is the problem of love, but also emotional problems, love is a compulsory course for everyone, today to love as an example, to explain to you, love is actually very simple, but each of us into college, it is very likely that just contact the problem of love, when we encounter emotional problems in love, we should face each other in the right way, the right attitude to face each other, to solve the problem together, two people quarrel is not terrible, what is terrible is to treat each other impatient, As soon as a quarrel will propose to break up and solve this problem, when two people encounter a problem, when they encounter a disagreement, when they disagree, two people should calm down and think more from each other's point of view, discuss together, a method and method that can be agreed by both people, which can not only effectively solve the problem, but also make the tacit understanding between two people work harder, so that two people get along more comfortably.

On college campuses, you can see falling in love everywhere.

Couples, but, did you know that in fact, the probability of college students falling in love and breaking up is very high. Breaking up will also be distressing for college students for a long time. So, what are the reasons for college love breakups?

First: long-distance relationships

Long-distance relationship should be the reason for the highest probability of breaking up in college love, because of long-distance relationship, the two parties are in different cities, there is little time to meet, communication is through ** or chat software, and if you don't meet for a long time, you will actually be very insecure for both of you.

Moreover, the cost of falling in love in this way is also very high, and it is normal to have a high probability of breaking up.

Second: Insufficient understanding

When you first fall in love, it may be very sweet, but you can get along slowly and get along deeply, and you find that you don't know each other well and are not enough, and slowly, contradictions appear, and over time, you break up.

Third: personality incompatibility

When two people are together, the most important thing is that the personality is suitable, if the personality of the two people is not suitable at all, and there is always a quarrel, how can such a relationship last long, and the breakup will become an inevitable ending.

Fourth: I didn't think about the future

As a couple, I didn't think about going to the end together, I felt that it would be good to have someone to accompany me during college, just to find a partner, such a love is not pure at all, and it will definitely be separated in the end.

Fifth: family reasons

Falling in love was discovered by the family, but the family did not agree with your relationship, did not recognize the relationship, and was forced by the pressure of the family, maybe after a long time, tired, there was a thought of breaking up.

There may be some other reasons, such as the love type opens his eyes to others and steps on two boats, there are many such situations, which will not be explained one by one below.

If you don't want to break up in college love, then find a like-minded person, manage this relationship well, and wish everyone's love can be as good as ever, and it will last a long time!

1.Love is complex and requires learning and experience to understand. People tend to love only instinctively. No, it's liking or appreciation.

It's not cruel at all. It's just a matter of liking and appreciating it, and it will fade over time until it's boring. So-called"College students don't stay in love for long"，"Graduation season and breakup season", that's right"Love by instinct"。

2.Love is based on life, the same three views, harmonious life interest, character complementarity and sublimation, and even the same aesthetics. These are the guarantees of love and the reliance on improving the quality of life.

These are all things that take time and process, and you can't lose your mind, obviously exposing problems in the process of getting along, but you are paralyzed and deceiving yourself, that's not okay.

If you are bored, you are dark, you lose your rhythm, you are bored, then there is something wrong with your life, and what you have to do is to solve the problem. It's not a cong ju to fall in love, and it's not a hasty love. Jumping into a relationship when you don't know enough about everything can bring you endless trouble and hurt.

Disturb your mind and shock your view of love. Falling in love is not a lifesaver for you to change your life, and it can even be a straw that breaks the camel's back.

3.Correctly handle the relationship between love and learning, after more than ten years of struggle, we have entered the hall to destroy school, and we really need to relax, so it is a good choice to talk about a lot of affection. But as a college student, our first priority should still be to study, and everything should be focused on academics.

4.Correctly distinguish the relationship between love and life, love is a major event in life, but it is not the whole of life. Only by handling the relationship between love and life can we achieve success. Correctly understand the relationship between love and the future, love is love when it is right, and youth when love is wrong.

5.Don't get too caught up in a relationship and even give up your life. Treat love sensibly, love is a process that everyone must go through, but this is not a part of it, not all, don't be too blind in the face of love, or even be carried away by it.

1. Don't have too much hope and expectation for this relationship, because the greater the expectation of another person, the greater the disappointment. And I don't have to express my feelings to her with particularly warm and energetic feelings, because it may also be a kind of pressure for the other party.

2, keep your distance, don't know anything after being together, Weibo let others know, and QQ doesn't need to be associated. Because sometimes there are some unnecessary suspicions and suspicions. And once this happens, it's hard to dissipate.

3. Don't focus on falling in love, there are more important things to do in college. A girl won't change her heart because of how much you love her. She needs to see that you have advantages that others don't have, which can be appearance, experience, and grades.

4. Don't have too many lies, paper can't contain fire.

Lies can silence the other person again and again, but this is only a stopgap measure after all. The most important thing for couples to get along with each other is trust, so you don't want to consume this trust again and again.

5. Love is unfair, the more you give, the less you may gain, the less you will be valued, and the less you will be cherished.

What you can't get is always in turmoil, but what is favored has no fear. Personal experience, when you fall in love in college, don't devote yourself to it, but also allocate a considerable part of your energy and time to study, otherwise you may lose your wife and lose your soldiers in the end.

1. The selection criteria for campus love are as simple as the opposite. Looks, talents, grades.

Out of society is to ask for money, social status. At that time, love was a transaction.

When everyone is beaten up by society every day after stepping into society, people will become very realistic.

At this time, the beautiful campus love formed because of heartbeat and impulsiveness is like a flush toilet that disappears.

2, there are relatively few campus choices, everyone is a small circle screened out because of the college entrance examination results, you are handsome on campus and can play well male gods, and you have become the bottom of the company in society.

Every day, I am beaten by my leaders, colleagues and customers, go back to the narrow small room you share, complain about this and that every day after work, I am tired from work during the day, I just want to rest after work, what feelings do you talk about?

You can't help but think for a long time that he's a piece of shit. That income has no hope in the big cities.

No one is to blame for this, society is so realistic. At this time, you are an adult, and the choice is yours.

Society has what it wants. What you have is also available to others, and what you do not have will be available to others.

Have a sense of humor, dedication, courage, take care of people, mature and steady, tall and stylish, gentle and considerate, cultivated, broad-minded, sunny and handsome, energetic in sports, perseverance, have a car and a house, you can choose whoever you want. Why hang yourself from a tree.

Not only men, but also women, when you are in college, your boyfriend will tolerate all your little faults and go out of society.

Bigger than you, beautiful, educated, independent, positive, piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, gentle and younger than you, more than you can count, better at cooking than you can even fight, or she and your boyfriend have a tacit understanding than you, why does your boyfriend choose you?

So you both feel that the other party has changed or the other party is not good, and now it is the 21st century, and if it doesn't work here, change it.

This is not only a denial of one's spouse, but also a denial of one's past self. Push back your previous evaluation and selection criteria.

Because of the hearts of people nowadays, the hearts of people who fall in love are easily shaken, such as social pressure, parental pressure, and pressure from all aspects.

It's easy to fall in love in college and break up when you graduate.

Due to the different age stages, the concept of love is also different, resulting in different attitudes towards love. In most cases, these two stages of a relationship differ in every way. It is mainly manifested in the following points.

1.The person who is in love is different. When I fell in love in college, most of them were my classmates, who could understand each other day and night, with simple thoughts, and the same age, and similar topics to talk about, so it was easy to have a good impression.

And after work, many times when falling in love is introduced by friends and orange friends, there is a lot of difference in ordinary ages, and it takes a lot of time to understand each other, and they want to really fall in love or get married. There is a lot of demand for running-in.

2.The concept of love in two stages.

It's different. When I was in college, I was more authentic when I fell in love, and I often insisted on a simple heart, not for the purpose of unreasonable needs and spending money on the other party, not to touch the garage and salary income, and not to touch the other party's parents. And when you fall in love after work, you will go to a lot of rules and regulations at the beginning, what kind of work is it, whether you can have a house and a car, and whether your parents have a pension.

Under these premises, I began to think about whether the other party was suitable for me, and I once lost the enthusiasm of love when I was a student.

3.The process of falling in love is different. When you fall in love in college, you can go to class together, eat together in the cafeteria, and play unscrupulously together, carefree.

But the orange group is in love after work, and due to the constraints of working hours and economic conditions, many things cannot be done as you wish, nor can you do it at will.

4.The result of a relationship. It's all about graduation season.

It's breakup season, which is not unreasonable, or because of a long distance, or because of parents, or even because of work, the love in student days is always not favored, and the ideal situation is indeed like this, many college couples can't go to the end. And the love after work, considering each other in all aspects, is also planning to fall in love for the purpose of marriage, so it is easier to achieve ordinary comparison.

Finally, I would like to say that if a college relationship can last until marriage, then we must cherish each other. If not, don't be a pity, there are many things in life that cannot be fulfilled, and you will eventually find the right other half for you.