How can I get rid of my shyness?

I think these problems are really not big, the point is that I don't dare to try, I am afraid of saying the wrong thing, I always think that others will hate you, I don't want to talk to you, I always feel very embarrassed. But I want to tell myself that I want to tell you, don't think about the worst-case scenario without saying anything, give it a try, read more news magazines, try to take the initiative to talk to some strangers, anyway, I don't know you, I don't know what kind of personality you are, I really can't find a topic, just say sorry, I'm a little bit of a preemptive! I know it's very simple to say, but it's hard to do, but there is really no shortcut and so-called method for this, only if you have the courage to try and are not afraid of failure, can you really make yourself, hold your head high and be a sunny self.

Participate in social group activities, communicate with others, and have the courage to express your thoughts and opinions, so that more people can understand themselves. Read some books about shyness to improve your mental state and maintain an optimistic and cheerful state.

In fact, I used to be a shy person, and when I talked to strangers, I would be nervous, keep my head down, and especially when talking to boys, I would not dare to look at each other's eyes at all, and I would blush and sweat on my forehead. I was like that before college, so I didn't fall in a relationship before college and didn't have many friends. When I went to university, I felt that I couldn't stand myself like this, and college is also an open and free environment, and I felt that it was also a good opportunity to make self-changes, so I secretly decided to change.

So I joined 3 clubs during my college years, and it was because I participated in more activities and communicated with people more that I gradually became more cheerful and lively now.

The unity of knowledge and action cannot just think and not do. Start with a smile in the morning and see a friend take the initiative to say hello, shake hands or say hello, etc. Be brave enough to take the first step, as long as the impasse is broken, everything will slowly change after that.

Improve your self-confidence. Know yourself, understand yourself, and face your shortcomings and shortcomings calmly! Take care of and enhance your self-esteem, treat others generously and dely, and dress not necessarily brightly, as long as it is clean!

In fact, when I was a child, I was also very shy, I always didn't dare to look directly at the teacher and blush, and I would blush when I talked to boys, but when I got used to it, there was nothing to do, I stood up a few more times and blushed a few times, and slowly felt that there was no big deal, and I wouldn't pay much attention to myself tomorrow in the eyes of others, in fact, sometimes I attached it to myself. Slowly you'll find out that it's really not a big deal.

The main reason why you are shy is because you are not confident enough, you need to make yourself stronger, improve your ability more, and your self-confidence will come up, then you will not be so shy anymore.

You can try to participate in a presentation, especially if there are many people, and you can consult experienced people in the process of preparation, so that you can also exercise your communication skills. Sometimes people don't know how capable they are if they don't push themselves.

Take the initiative to buy a small notebook to record the happy things you encountered that day, stick to it for two weeks, and take it out when you are in a bad mood. Slowly you will really get into it and discover your own changes.

In this case, you have to summarize all the problems of your shyness, and then ask yourself every day that if you encounter this kind of shy problem, you will not be shy anymore.

If you want to really get rid of shyness, the most important thing is that you really want to change in your heart, and if you are eager enough, you will have enough motivation to make a little bit of trying to change.

With the desire comes the motivation to change, and the next thing to do is to push yourself and integrate yourself into an environment where you have to communicate with people, it can be a group activity, a project that requires teamwork, a competition, etc.

Communicate with people more, go to crowded places more, talk to people when you have nothing to do, and slowly become less shy.

Categories: Education Science.

Problem description: I am a boy, but I am very shy, every time the teacher pumps me a question, my face will be as red as a monkey **, and my heart will beat faster. How to solve the problem of shyness?

Analysis: There is a way to overcome shyness.

Shyness is a common interpersonal communication disorder, which refers to the excessive restraint of one's own words and deeds in the process of communication, as well as the inability to fully express one's thoughts and feelings, hindering the normal development of interpersonal relationships. There are also acquired formations. There is a saying that "once you are bitten by a snake, you are afraid of the well rope for ten years."

In the process of communication, teenagers are repeatedly frustrated, failed, and their hearts are hit and unpleasant psychological experiences are generated, and psychological stereotypes are formed over time. But whether it's temperamental or frustrating shyness, it can be overcome through conscious training, and here are a few suggestions for you:

1) To establish full self-confidence, clear about their own advantages, always say to themselves, I have my own thoughts and understanding, I have sufficient reasons to convince the other party, as long as you are serious, do your best to do things well.

2) To overcome excessive self-psychology, be very cautious in what you say and do, lest you be ridiculed if your words and deeds are wrong. We must be good at learning from each other's strengths, even if we say something wrong, it doesn't matter if we do it wrong, the key is to be good at summarizing lessons and lessons and constantly improving and improving. In the process of discussing and cooperating with others, fully learn and accept the correct opinions of the other party or more reasonable practices, after many exercises, they will gradually adapt to it, mature, and speak and do things with strength.

3) Develop the habit of striding with your head held high, walking straight towards the other person, staring at the other person when you speak, so that he can feel your eyes, and his voice will be loud when he speaks, and he will be sonorous and powerful at the end.

4) When talking to others, learn to be silent at the right time to "force" the other person to talk, so as to also let yourself have a process of brewing words, and try to express your own opinions in a calm tone when speaking.

5) Actively participate in group activities. When you are together, no one pays attention to your expressions, you can speak as loudly as possible, sing and perform on stage, you choose the most familiar songs, and play in the middle time, so that you will not be nervous because of the first or last play.

6) Train yourself to use humor to deal with opposing views and opinions, and if there is an embarrassing scene, you may as well laugh at yourself and show a sudden side.

7) Contact people can be relatives and friends first, then teachers and classmates, and then strangers, which is also called desensitization**, during which you will definitely get encouragement and support.

Boost self-confidence: Self-confidence is the cornerstone of success. Only those who believe that they can overcome "shyness" and become a social expert can dare to speak, do and strive for success.

Shyness can be changed, the key is not to be ashamed of yourself, always think about your weaknesses, have self-confidence, and speak and do boldly. The more you pay attention to your shortcomings, the more you can't improve.