How can we stay away from pain. Please, thank you

The ** that breaks the pain first is not to touch the person or thing that brings you pain a little bit. Don't be alone, spend all your free time with good friends or family, and forget it after a long time! It's a great way to heal!

Suffering stems from ignorance. Ignorance refers to the erroneous understanding of people, things, and things. As far as human beings are concerned, they think that there is an independent and constant existence of "me", and then they develop attachment to this "me", and then they develop attachment to "my".

In the case of things, it is believed that there are things that are independent, absolute, and inherently existent. The reason why such a view is wrong is that it is contrary to the real state of people, things, and things. Everything in the world arises according to dependence, and is generated, changed, and deteriorated with the aggregation and change of conditions, and there is no attachment.

The deviation of insight from the truth puts us in a state of ignorance, distortion, and unease. Mistaking the original impermanence for being permanent, and taking the attachment of selflessness as inherent, we are repeatedly disillusioned and lost, unable to ask for it, and unable to feel at ease.

The phenomena of causality and harmony, including ourselves and everything outside of our body, are inseparable from the nature of suffering. Take each of us as an example, there is life and death, between life and death, there are impermanence, old age, sickness, all kinds of shortcomings, this body and mind are just a similar succession of changes, **What is really reliable?

Outside of body and mind, if we think we have gained, we are bound to experience loss; Where there is accumulation, there will be a time for dissipation; Where there is love, there will be resentment. This is not to say that you need to deliberately look at things in a negative and pessimistic light, but you need to see the potential of loss, dispersion, hatred, and misfortune behind gain, gathering, love, and blessing. You may say, why not look at it the other way around, there will be a time to gain when you lose, and there will be a time to be blessed when you are in trouble.

It is true that it can be seen that way, but what about after that? It's still a gain or a loss, over and over again. If you pay close attention, you will slowly realize that reincarnation is such an involuntary endless reincarnation, and there is nothing to be done about it again and again.

That's why the Buddha said that the only way to be completely free from suffering is to get rid of samsara.

What can help us to stay away from our suffering? The specific method depends on each person's root device, and there is no one-size-fits-all fixed routine. As far as the root apparatus of most people is concerned, it is more feasible to treat greed and hatred as objects that need to be cut off, and to deal with them by means of impure views and other methods.

On this basis, after studying the Dharma and gaining an understanding of emptiness, one can gradually take greed and hatred as the object of purification, and by contemplating emptiness and other convenient methods, one can realize that the nature of disturbing emotions is void, and thus eliminate suffering.

It's best to follow the steps of the first step, unless it's a rare kind of uprootedness, otherwise to say at the beginning that you don't need to deal with greed and hatred, just know that they are empty, and this won't be of great help to beginners, but it may mislead them and make them think that they can be liberated from their troubles without taking vows or practicing without practice. We must not make excuses for our laziness and ignorance.

What is the author of a broken love, a tie buddy fell out of love not long ago, I want to comfort and comfort it, I can't find the words, I think the big man is out of love, don't comfort it, I'm afraid that my buddy thinks I'm heartless, and I'm still struggling with how to speak.

Don't dwell on all the lovelorn women in the past, in fact, to put it bluntly, the pain is not regret for losing that person, but for the entangled mentality of that relationship.

Don't magnify each other's advantages There was once a female colleague who fell out of love, and as long as she was there at every party, the big guy would definitely be disappointed, because she had to get herself drunk in the shortest possible time every time.

Directly "shooting" the other person is of course not asking you to do something illegal, but to completely clean the other person out of your world, and after you say that you broke up, you will directly kill the other person in your world.

Try to find the seeds of happiness and make yourself happy.

Many things are always experienced before you know that you can't afford to gain or lose. Just like feelings, after the pain, you will know how to protect yourself; If you are stupid, you will know how to persist and give up in a timely manner. Let us learn to give up, turn away before we cry, what we exchange for tears is not reliable; Let's learn to give up, bury yesterday in our hearts, and leave the best memories; Let's learn to give up so that we can all have an easier start for each other.

Holding on to it will only make you indulge in memories and pain and become sluggish. Let go of your hand, let it pass away with the wind of memory, you will find the other side of the sky, you will tremble to the fragrance of the flowers of life, feel the warmth of the sun... Giving up is not evasion, not cowardice and weakness; Giving up is an open-minded attitude.

Think about it, how many people and things a person has to experience in his life, and if you don't know how to give up those things that have been lost and irretrievably regretted, how can you grasp what really belongs to you? If you find that the only door in your world is no longer open for you, you don't have to linger in front of the door or hit your head and never wake up. Learn to give up and turn around and look for a skylight that opens for you, where you can also see the stars ...

Trouble, thanks!

No one's life is smooth sailing, as long as you work hard, it will be wonderful! Be optimistic about anything and keep a normal heart. Just keep in mind:

Don't give up this second, there is a miracle in the next second, life will inevitably fall and wait to be brave to raise your head, the sun is always after the wind and rain and the lack of liquid! I'll give you advice, can you see it? 1.

Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, when you are walking, someone else apologizes to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you is actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day". 2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ......3.

Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down. 4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax.

5.Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale. 6.

Focus your attention on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it.

7.Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water. 8.

Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc. 9.

Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy. Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life is, I believe it is wonderful. Go for it!

Finally, I wish you a happy life ...