Why is it so hard for some people to recognize reality?

It's normal for people to have fantasies, but they can't recognize reality, it's stupid, because many people haven't really experienced setbacks, so it's difficult for them to recognize reality, just like people in a suit, be realistic, live in reality, after all, you have to recognize reality, after all, you have to accept reality, you have to face reality after all.

There are many people in real life who can't recognize themselves. Or overestimate themselves, appreciate themselves, and do things that are more than necessary. Or they look down on themselves, deceive themselves, and grovel to others everywhere.

People often say that "people are valuable and self-aware", and give yourself a clear positioning, which is the road to a wise life. With things, things can be things. If things are not things, things are not things.

The merit of the name of the thing, the fact that the name is not the truth, the name of the thing is not real, and the thing is nothing. Blind self-confidence, blind idealization, I guess that's why.

I've seen people say that people live on their own knowledge and cognition, and they are bound by it, and call it reality. But knowledge and cognition are vague things, reality may just be a flower in the mirror, the moon in the water, people are living in their own obsessions, this is very reasonable, may be able to explain that some people are difficult to recognize reality.

I think it's because the reality is very bitter, so I don't want to face it, but after recognizing the reality, everything can be determined, and the result can also be determined. Sadness refers to an individual's emotional state when they are psychologically oppressed by fear of an uncertain future. When the unfortunate events faced by people have a definite result, no matter whether the result is good or bad, with a definite result, the future can be planned accordingly, and life can return to a controllable and orderly normal, the anxious mood is finally implemented, the tension is released, and the psychological oppression caused by the nervousness is gradually lost, and the sad state of mind can be gradually calmed down.

Most people are not unaware of reality, but unwilling to face reality, this world is very realistic, if people do not recognize reality, then they have been living in the virtual world, or living in their own fantasy world, then sooner or later will be abandoned by the world.

I think these people may have been injured, and they began to feel the horror of the outside, the darkness of society, and they were afraid that they would accidentally become a false smile all day long, unable to see their true selves, and wearing masks for a long time, and even their faces could not be found. In dreams, you can find happiness and not get hurt.

Many people today have too weak psychological resistance to pressure, and many people can't accept the cruel reality, so they become an ostrich, bury their heads in the sand, don't accept the reality, and live in their own ideal paradise, so I think it's not that many people find it difficult to recognize the reality, but that many people find it difficult to accept the reality.

Because dreams are all illusory, they are all the world we expect, so people like to be in dreams, and would rather not extricate themselves than live in reality, I think this is the sadness of this generation of young people.

There are no setbacks, no difficulties, no failures, only beauty in the world they weave by themselves, they escape from reality, live in a fantasy, a beautiful world, and have been deceiving themselves.

I think a lot of people just don't want to think it's going to be like this. So there will be no acceptance of reality at all. They know what reality is. It's just that there's no way to accept it.

In college, you should get up early and have breakfast; Running and running; Listen carefully to professional classes; In public class, look at the magazines that you like to take a stool; Take a nap at noon; In the afternoon, participate in club activities or play basketball; Take a walk with your favorite person in the evening; Or go to the study room and read a book ...... quietlyThe society does not need a top student, nor does it recognize the president of the student union, and it does not want to see students give up their studies to start a business. As long as you can finish college smoothly and completely, find your loved ones and interests, read more books that can enrich your mind without purpose, meet a few good friends, exercise or shape your body, and learn the professional knowledge and ...... you want to engage in careerDo this, and you will be good enough to spend the years of college in a dull way. I used to like this passage very much, but then I realized that this is a person who has everything, fame, fortune and despises these things can only say it, just like Ma Yun said "Money is not important, the orange brigade should live happily".

The society needs scholars, elites, and people who want to start businesses and do the market. Xu Zhiyuan emphasized that college students must be idealistic. He emphasized that university education should enable us to be good at observation, good at thinking, brave to explore, and to build a sound personality.

Alan Bloom, a professor at the University of Chicago, said, "In just four years, he must understand that there is a greater world in the small world he once knew, appreciate its pleasures for himself, and absorb the nourishment of knowledge to support himself in conquering the intellectual desert that he is destined to cross." The former emphasizes that in the university, we should recognize who we are, our own mission and responsibility, and become a curious and creative person; The latter emphasizes the importance of knowledge. Everyone understands this truth, but there are a few who really do it.

In the end, I still graduated at a loss, I couldn't find the motivation to study, and I didn't have hope for the future. In fact, the most important thing in college is to recognize reality. If your family is not wealthy, then you must learn more other skills outside of your major, such as PS, graphic design... These are things that could become your side hustle; If your family is rich enough, of course you can squander, but your pressure is actually greater, you have to think about how to keep your family rich, if your family is in business, you have to learn the skills of talking about business, the current situation of the market and the future development of sensitive disadvantages, if your family is a scholarly family, you must think about how many books you must read and what kind of height you can reach in order to support the façade of your family... Whether your family is wealthy or not, you must have a reasonable hobby, such as painting, calligraphy, tea art, yoga... Actually, recognizing the essence of reality is something you have to know:

You need money. Poverty is really a terrible thing, it is a denial of rights, it can deprive you of your right to education, it can deprive you of your right to medical care, it can deprive you of your right to a higher quality of life.

This story comes from two friends around me who are not very familiar with each other, and the content is not necessarily accurate.

First: we are always too easy to distort reality with our subjective consciousness: a long time ago, a friend of the opposite sex was added to Jiayuan and chatted occasionally.

One day not long ago, he suddenly sent a message: Do you live in a dormitory? I didn't have him, and I knew it must have been the delusion that the message I had on duty that night had given him.

Looking back at my circle of friends, I feel that my circle of friends contains a lot of content, including my own food, work photos, and some ** taken in my own home; I kept wondering how I came to give the impression that I was living in a dormitory, not because I was angry or anything. In retrospect, I can only think that this is a twisted truth of his wishful thinking, because then he can have a sense of superiority, and when it comes to finding a partner, a man can only have confidence if he feels that he is financially superior to this woman.

However, through this person, I realized one thing, that even in the face of relatively certain objective facts, it is difficult for a person to recognize reality itself. As long as it is related to ourselves, we will make mistakes; We will arbitrarily impose our own ideas on the facts themselves, ignoring many of the obvious. So, sometimes, we really need a clear-headed outsider to help us analyze the current situation.

Second, poverty is really terrible, so terrible that you can't recognize the truth. This matter comes from a friend around me, who has poor family conditions since childhood, stumbled all the way to finish his postdoctoral degree with his own efforts, is usually very studious, and is also very motivated, but he is afraid of Bo Gu Tong Jin, although he has made small achievements, but his current income is really not proportional to what he has paid over the years. Like me, I entered the currency circle because of my desire for financial freedom, but I can clearly feel that it is precisely because of my poverty since I was a child and because of my incomparable desire for wealth.

makes him not calm enough in the face of a skyrocketing investment project like Bitcoin. It stands to reason that as a person with a lot of knowledge and a high level of self-awareness, I think he should have the ability to do better than the average person in terms of investment, or at least better than me, but I saw his gains and losses in the whole process. The arrogance that is manifested because of the sudden explosion of assets, and the loss and pain that is manifested because of the sharp increase in assets.

As an outsider, I can see all of this for him, but he can't.

Therefore, if a person is too poor, some things related to money will consume a lot of his cognition, and he will not be able to recognize the truth of the matter. You say that poverty is not terrible, it is really terrible.

All in all, there are many things that affect our cognition throughout our lives; We should be self-conscious and vigilant about things that may affect our perceptions. to be able to live clearly.

<> "The Underlying Logic of Business Cognition.

Recognize the present quietly and realistically.

Many people spend most of their energy learning things that they don't use. Human energy is limited. It is clear what kind of knowledge should be spent on learning.

Even if you don't need any logical reasoning, most people know that

I can go to college as much as I can. If you can go to a prestigious university, try to go to a prestigious university. The same hens, but some hens lay golden eggs.

So why do people still go to junior college? The conditions are not allowed.

As we've said before, everyone starts from a different place. The role of the school is to provide you with a learning environment, and more importantly, to nurture talents for society. It is to raise you to be a person who is needed by society.

If you want to be who you want to be, you have to take the initiative to learn, and you can only learn actively, and passive learning is difficult to excel. Many people who have graduated from college are essentially no different from canned food on the production line.

No matter how good a teacher is, you can't think for you, and real learning is always self-learning (active learning). Self-taught people know what they are learning and what they should learn, and they know how to balance the ratio of knowledge structure to implicit (applied knowledge and meta-knowledge). The school has a school plan, and those who are self-taught have their own plan.

Is the world fair?

In my opinion, it is unfair. The biggest unfairness is not the difference in starting points. It's the people who participate in this race, it's not a species at all!

This is a good and representative question, which shows that you have thought it through.

Who am I? What can I do? What can I do?

This is a common problem that plagues most people. I can't find myself, I can't find my location.

Yes, in the vast world, there are so many living beings, if you can't find yourself, you will run into walls everywhere, you will be irritated, and you will go from an invincible cry to a secret cry of no one.

So. How do you know yourself?

First of all, you need to have a good mindset. To have:"I am who I am, I am the only one"of and"I'm just a very ordinary member of this society"This double mentality. The former, which is a kind of self-suggestive self-confidence, gives itself motivation; The latter gives himself self-humility and is able to face this society cautiously.

These two aspects should not be neglected.

Eternal self-confidence can only be unbeatable pride, conceit, and arrogance; Eternal humility will form cowards who dare not move forward and are afraid to move forward

Secondly, you need to test yourself how to test it? If you have work experience, carefully find out what you have gained and what you have lost in the work you have experienced, what you have done well and which ones are worth recalling, and what you have done badly, so that you can be ashamed; If you do well, how much is the subjective factor of your own ability, how much is the external objective factor, which is your true ability, and how much can you account for?? In this way, with a few objective cases, you can know how deep your water is and how powerful it is

Third, we need to return our own frivolous mentality to zero Just like a spring scale, if the pointer cannot be returned to zero, it will not be able to weigh things The same is true of mentality, thinking that oneself is omnipotent is called arrogance, and thinking that oneself is useless is called inferiority; Arrogance and inferiority are two extreme mentalities that do not return to zero, or overflow or bottomless, and both of these mentalities are mentalities that can't do things and can't do things.

If it is overflowing, it cannot be contained, and if it is bottomless, it cannot be saved.

Fourth, find the nearest point of major, occupation and hobby. It's a little triangle. We know that in geometry, triangular structures are the most stable; Quoting to the practice of work, the same is true:

If you can achieve the most perfect combination of your major, your career, and your hobbies, it is undoubtedly stable and wonderful!

Hehe, Luo instigated some of his own feelings, I hope you can help.

Wishing you a prosperous New Year!!