How to effectively cope with parents other people s children are better than you?

If my parents always say this, then I will definitely directly refute it, so why don't you compare with other people's parents? Other people's parents are so powerful, so why are you not as good as others?

When my parents say this, I won't interject, just let them say, and I will show a more aggrieved expression in my heart, and my parents will think that they may hurt my self-esteem when they say these things, so they won't say it again.

For this kind of parents, I feel really speechless, they have been there to compare and go, but I feel that it is better to avoid getting along with them as much as possible, and you can do your own thing.

You should be honest with your parents, tell them what you really think, and if they insist on going their own way, you can also compare the shortcomings of the neighbor's children with your strengths to show your parents, or compare the strengths of the neighbor's children's parents with the shortcomings of your parents, so that they can also experience your state of mind.

When we were young, the most feared thing should be other people's children, because parents always say, you look at other people's children, so in order to cope with this, you need to work harder to make yourself better than other people's children.

In the past, my parents often criticized and educated me, saying how good are other people's children? But I want to say to parents, in fact, your children are also very good, but you don't see their shining spots.

When my parents say that you are not other people's children, I will echo and say that other people's children are really good, and I also hope that like him, I will study well and be sensible and smart, and my parents will not say it again.

I have been told by my parents many times, you see that other people's children are better than you, you see how angry you are, I will say this many times, then you go to be the mother of other people's children, you can't be that you can only use me, if you only have me, don't talk about me like this, every time my parents will not talk about me.

There is no good way, just give him back, you can say that other people's children are so good, but unfortunately you didn't give birth, you gave birth to me, so you don't ask too much, because the more you ask, the more you suffer, I also suffer.

You can talk to your parents about other people's children, don't they do bad things? Haven't I done something good? Each one is a different leaf and has its own sparkle of light.

Not feasible, in daily life, there are always many parents who hope that their children can get ahead and become the dragon and phoenix among people, of course, it is inevitable to compare their children with other people's children, which is actually a very harmful practice for children.

It is always said that parents are the best teachers for children, if parents compare with other people's children when their children have achieved a little achievement, maybe the children at that time will feel that they are better than others, and there will be a sense of satisfaction, but when they are slightly inferior later, parents will compare themselves with other children again, which is undoubtedly a huge harm to the child, will hit the child's self-confidence, produce a strong sense of anxiety, and have no way to face their own failure and unsuccess.

Everyone's life is different, just like the old saying goes, "ten fingers stretched out are long and short", how can everyone be the same, maybe their children are not so good in this aspect, but in other aspects, their children may be the best. In fact, everyone has their own shining point, so why always compare their children with others? Maybe doing so will ignore the shining points in your own children, isn't that a thing that hurts your children very much?

In fact, everyone hopes that what they do can be praised, rather than blindly comparing and blaming, which will not only hit the child's self-confidence, but also alienate the feelings between themselves and the child, especially in the rebellious period of the children, the more you hit him, the more he will want to do that thing, educating children is actually a very complicated thing, rather than constantly envy other people's children, it is better to find the shining point of their own children, and constantly strive to maximize his shining point, In this way, you can not only maintain the relationship between yourself and your child, but also give yourself a sense of accomplishment and make your child happier.

This method is not feasible, because if parents do this, it will cause the child's self-esteem to be damaged, and it will also cause the child to lose self-confidence, become introverted, not like to talk, low self-esteem, and even have a rebellious mentality, which is extremely detrimental to the child's future development.

It is not feasible, this situation will only make the child have an inferiority complex, which will affect the cultivation of the parent-child relationship, and will also make the child become negative.

Parents always compare their own children with other people's children, this behavior is very incorrect, each child has their own advantages, and there is no comparison between children.

This is not a good practice, so that the child will speak ill of others behind his back.

In the eyes of parents, other children will always do better than you, in fact, this is a very common phenomenon. We all know that in the eyes of parents, they want their children to be better, so they will let their children know their own shortcomings by comparing them with others. But who knows, such behavior will cause the child to be very disgusted, and it will also cause the child to be very uncomfortable.

At this time, we can choose to talk to our parents and tell them that we have worked very hard.

There are many parents who always feel that as long as they belittle their children, their children will be able to know some of their own shortcomings and then make good changes, which is very wrong. If we always educate our children in this way, it will also cause the children to be very uncomfortable, and it will also lead to the relationship between the children and their parents becoming worse and worse. We must know that every child has certain advantages, and if we educate children in this way, it is also likely to cause children to become more and more introverted, and it will also lead to children becoming worse and worse.

We can choose to talk to our parents and tell them that this phenomenon will make us very uncomfortable, and if the parents show their understanding, then they will change their own education methods. But if our parents can't change it, then we have to calm our minds, don't take this matter too seriously, or often have certain pretended quarrels with our parents, and tell our parents that we have worked very hard.

I hope all parents can know that educating children in a way that belittles them can really make them very uncomfortable. And our approach is also very easy for children to develop a habit of comparison, which will lead to children hating their parents more and more.

I think you should choose to talk to your parents at this time, because this kind of thing is a big blow to you, and it will be a problem with wheels, and the damage is relatively high, which is not conducive to your future growth.

You should change your mentality, do your own thing, you can also talk to your parents, tell your parents what you think, and quietly let your parents change some education methods.

To calm your mind, you must strengthen communication with your parents at this time, let your parents understand your thoughts, and don't feel inferior at this time.

Communicate with your parents. If you are compared by your parents with other people's children, you can tell your parents about your feelings, so that your parents can respect you and stop comparing yourself with others.

Work hard, and make yourself better, and strive to be someone else's child in the eyes of your parents. To be compared with other people's children, generally other people's children are better than themselves, to admit the excellence of others, and to work hard, so that one day you can become a child who is compared with others, not a child who is compared with other people's families.

Reason with your parents, reason with your parents, tell them that every child has each child's strengths, and they will definitely have their own way to go in the future, although they can't become as good as other people's children, but they will be filial to them in the future.

If you can't change that, let yourself be optimistic about macros. Parents compare themselves with other people's children just to make themselves as good as other people's children, parents hate iron and steel, are for their own good, so we must understand the good intentions of our parents and maintain an optimistic attitude.

So you don't have to care, they say theirs, it's not that others can hurt you, it's that you don't have enough concentration, if you don't care, who can hurt you? What's more, their original intention is that their children are as good as they are, and they are just giving you reasons.

Perhaps we have all had the experience of being compared to other people's children by our own parents. The question is, why do some parents like to compare their children to other people's children?

In fact, in the hearts of some parents, they hope that their children will set a goal and direction for themselves by comparing themselves with other excellent children.

Other people's children, Tang Hu Wei, bear more on the power of role models. Such a starting point is originally good, but parents always ignore some things in the implementation process, resulting in a certain gap in the relationship between children and parents. When comparing other people's children, the parents' practice may also be considered.

Parents always like to compare themselves with other people's children, which is a kind of comparison psychology that wants their children to be better than others because they are not so strong, so as to satisfy their own show-off psychology. No matter who they are, no matter how good their parents are, most people's life experiences, especially in childhood, are always like to mention "other people's children". "Other people's children" are everyone's shadows, because "other people's children" always seem to have advantages that they don't have.

However, when parents make such comparisons, they rarely consider the psychology of their children, and their starting point may be to motivate their children to further improve, but they do not take into account the psychological damage to their children. So, what should parents and teachers do if they like to compare themselves with other people's children?

First, you can treat others the way they want to be treated. In other words, when parents like to compare themselves with other people's children, they can compare their own parents with other people's parents in the same way. Don't think it's rude or guilty of doing the following.

In fact, children and parents are equal, and when parents are asked like this, they may realize their own problems and realize what psychological problems this will cause to their children.

Secondly, you can also start from yourself, if you really have any problems that can be improved, you can choose to study hard or improve yourself, which can also achieve the effect of leaving parents with nothing to say. Because, since he is already very powerful, he may become a "child of someone else", and at this time, ordinary parents have nothing to say.

Therefore, when parents always like to compare themselves with other people's children, first, you can try to treat others in their own way, so that they can feel your psychological and emotional search, and second, you can try to improve yourself and make yourself "someone else's child".