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It is difficult for a Qing official to decide family affairs, and in this matter, it cannot be said that the mother-in-law consumes excessively, nor can it be said that the daughter-in-law manages it leniently, but it is just a different position and a different view of consumption.

From the mother-in-law's point of view.

It is not an exaggeration for the elderly to raise children for a lifetime, and it is not an exaggeration for the elderly to grow up, become independent, and start a family, and the elderly want to enjoy the rest of their lives. What's more, her husband still has a certain ability to make money, and naturally the elderly have the right to enjoy life and consume according to their own wishes.

Moreover, the modern living conditions are good, no one wants to be looked down upon by others, not to mention that there is a group of rich little sisters in the circle of friends, this mother-in-law naturally does not want to make herself appear so cheap, and it is understandable that she has a certain sense of comparison.

From the daughter-in-law's point of view.

Perhaps due to the family growth environment, or perhaps due to the concept of consumption, the daughter-in-law prefers to uphold an affordable way of consumption. Especially now that the children are still young, they are in the stage of relatively high education consumption, and they also have plans to send their children to study abroad. And because the father-in-law had promised in front of his relatives that he would bear the cost of the child's study abroad, the daughter-in-law would naturally have an expectation.

When I saw my mother-in-law's bold consumption method, I couldn't help but be a little worried about whether my in-laws could set aside the child's study abroad expenses, so I complained a little and wanted my husband to remind my mother-in-law.

This does not mean how narrow the daughter-in-law is, just as many mothers-in-law today are not accustomed to the high consumption of their daughters-in-law, and there is no need to go online. The reason why the old saying that marriage should pay attention to the right person is also to make the two parties in the marriage as close to the three views as possible.

Of course, objectively speaking, the in-laws have the right to choose their own lifestyle. It is their love to be willing to contribute money and efforts for future generations, but it is also their duty not to want to contribute. As a daughter-in-law, if you want your children to study abroad, the most important thing is to rely on the efforts of yourself and your husband, rather than pinning your hopes on your in-laws.

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After understanding the ins and outs of the incident, I think it is indeed the daughter-in-law who is too lenient. Everyone has their own way of life and values, and it is impossible to ask others to be the same as themselves and live according to their own standards.

This daughter-in-law complained about her mother-in-law on the Internet, saying: In order to compare with the rich little sisters, the mother-in-law with an average family spends money like running water, and she spends more than 10,000 yuan on brand-name clothes and brand-name scarves at every turn, and she drinks thousands of yuan a pound for tea, and spends at least 100,000 yuan on buying clothes and traveling in a year. And she herself is the kind of person who is very frugal, except for sunscreen and lip balm, she never buys cosmetics or luxury bags, and carries ordinary bags of several hundred yuan.

Because I have always done it according to such standards, I feel that my mother-in-law is too good and extravagant.

Let's not talk about anything else, first of all, it is wrong for this daughter-in-law to complain about her mother-in-law's behavior so much on a public platform like the Internet. You can not get used to your mother-in-law's big moves, but publicly accusing your mother-in-law on the Internet is not a sign of disrespect. If it is known by the mother-in-law's family and seen by people who know it, this will make the mother-in-law very faceless and dignified, and her life will also fall into an embarrassing situation.

In addition, we can also understand that the money spent by the mother-in-law is earned by her husband, and does not spend a penny of her son and daughter-in-law, not to mention that the children should honor their parents. The father-in-law didn't say that his mother-in-law was spending lavishly, so why was it the daughter-in-law's turn to point fingers at her mother-in-law. This is a serious cross-border act.

It is impossible to say that you are thrifty and do not buy brand-name bags and clothing, so you ask your mother-in-law to be the same as you, the original mother-in-law is the kind of life she lived, her life circle and quality of life are like this, do you have to change your habits according to your way as soon as your daughter-in-law comes! Obviously, I can't say it. So netizens don't pay for it, it's true that the hands are too long and the tubes are too wide.

The real reason for the daughter-in-law is not that she is not used to the high consumption of her mother-in-law, but that she is worried about her father-in-law's money and thinks that the old people will bear the tuition fees of their children in the future. Just because the father-in-law once said at the dinner table that their granddaughter's overseas tuition will be covered by them in the future, the daughter-in-law has always recognized the father-in-law's words, and feels that the father-in-law should fulfill his promise when he says it, and when he sees his mother-in-law's high consumption, he is worried that his daughter's future education funds will be gone, so he is unhappy. Do your in-laws have the obligation to support your children?

They give money out of love and should be grateful, and they don't take the love of the elderly as a responsibility and obligation, and it's normal for them not to give it.

Parents have worked hard all their lives, and it is their right to spend the money they earn to enjoy life, and their children should support and encourage more, rather than obstructing or even worrying about the money of the elderly.

I think it's the daughter-in-law who is too wide. Because it is not just a matter of 10,000 yuan windbreaker, the daughter-in-law said that her father-in-law promised to be responsible for the expenses of her daughter's going abroad, so her mother-in-law is now squandering her daughter's money to go abroad, so she will feel that her mother-in-law bought a 10,000 yuan windbreaker to compare with the little sisters.

In fact, what does your mother-in-law wear and what does it have to do with your daughter-in-law? Even if your own daughter goes abroad, even if your father-in-law promises to give you money, she won't just hold on to the money of the old couple. It's a bit too much.

First, people's mother-in-law didn't spend your husband's money, what does it have to do with you when people spend their husband's money? What does it have to do with you that people are willing to compare themselves with their little sisters? What does it have to do with your husband being willing to spoil his daughter-in-law to buy such an expensive windbreaker?

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Second, your father-in-law promised you to cover the expenses for your children to go abroad. Then it is out of affection for you, and it is completely reasonable not to give it to you. You are a young man who doesn't know that he works hard to earn money to support his daughter, and he just sends his daughter to study abroad, and his eyes are always on the pockets of his parents-in-law.

This kind of character, I don't know how to stay in this family.

My father-in-law said that sending his children to study abroad is entirely for the sake of his granddaughter and son? To put it mildly, what does it have to do with one of your daughters-in-law?

Therefore, it is too important for people to put themselves in the right place in family relationships. If you don't pay anything, you think that others will pay for you, selfishness has become a habit, and it feels like everyone in the family is spending your money.

If your mother-in-law uses the money you earn to buy a windbreaker, you complain casually, but goose, you yourself can't live a good life, and even your own family is red, it's really rare to see low emotional intelligence.

I disagree with most netizens.

Most netizens think that the daughter-in-law is too lenient, saying that the mother-in-law's money can be spent as much as she wants. But I think that the daughter-in-law is not particularly lenient, and she does not start from her own interests, but the family consumption values of the two people are different.

Frankly speaking, I think this mother-in-law's philosophy of life does have some deviations, she herself is not particularly wealthy, but she likes to make some rich friends, and then deliberately buy a lot of luxury goods in order to show off herself or satisfy her vanity. An elderly person, so old, is still very immature in his heart, and he doesn't know what his actual situation and his life positioning is? I feel like that's problematic in itself.

So from the perspective of the daughter-in-law, the news introduced that the daughter-in-law has been a relatively frugal person since she was a child, and she does not use cosmetics much. I think this kind of daughter-in-law is very good, and her consumption concept is more correct and in line with personal reality.

Although it is said that the mother-in-law's money is her own and she does not spend the daughter-in-law's money, what if the family gets sick in the future? Or do the elderly need money? Who do you think the money should be spent?

The mother-in-law has already spent almost all her money, so isn't that just going to use her son's money or her daughter-in-law's money?

So I think that this kind of complaint by the daughter-in-law is actually in consideration of the future situation. And she didn't criticize her mother-in-law in person, just saying it on the Internet can arouse so much anger among netizens? Could it be that in this day and age, excessive consumption of luxury goods has become the right value?

I am strongly in favor of the daughter-in-law, and I think that although the daughter-in-law does not have to criticize herself, as a son, she should give some reliable advice to her mother.

After all, in China, a family is not just a matter of two couples, but between elders and younger generations.

The concept of Chinese society is different from that of Western society, it does not mean that you will not affect others if you live alone, in China, your life must affect family members, so I think this mother-in-law not only has a biased view of value consumption, but also does not consider the situation of family members.

Recently, a daughter-in-law complained about her mother-in-law on the Internet, wearing a windbreaker of 10,000 yuan, drinking tea for 1,000 yuan, and often traveling. The daughter-in-law is very unaccustomed to her mother-in-law's style, and hints that her husband is in charge of his mother. But the opinions given by netizens are almost one-sided, and they all feel that the daughter-in-law's is too wide.

First of all, the daughter-in-law is very calculating.

This daughter-in-law must be calculating, her father-in-law is very good at making money, and if her mother-in-law doesn't spend money so lavishly, she can save a lot of silver, except for the father-in-law's promise to bear his granddaughter's tuition, the rest of the money saved is the son's daughter-in-law's. This daughter-in-law is still protecting her own interests.

Although it is said that the mother-in-law can't earn money, her husband can, and the wife spends her husband's money, as a matter of course, and she doesn't reach out to her daughter-in-law and son to ask for it, what is there to look down on the daughter-in-law? Parents have raised their children, do they still have to provide for them? <>

Secondly, under the conditions of economic allowability, who doesn't want to eat better, dress better, and improve the quality of life.

This daughter-in-law has been saying that her mother-in-law is influenced by her little sister and has a comparison mentality. People are in pursuit of enjoyment, do the elderly have to wear a round-neck shirt and dance a square dance, which is a normal state of life? Wear good clothes, drink some expensive tea, and enjoy the pleasure brought by material things in your lifetime, which is probably the pursuit of many people.

Third, maybe it's because of the work of my father-in-law.

Imagine, the father-in-law is a person who can make money, and there will probably be some entertainment, maybe some occasions are for the wife to attend together, and they should dress better, or maybe those little sisters are the partners of the husband's business and need to be deliberately maintained. <>

Clause. Fourth, the mother-in-law did not dislike the daughter-in-law, and the daughter-in-law should not dislike the mother-in-law.

The daughter-in-law said that she was very frugal, the bag she carried was a few hundred yuan, and the only cosmetics were lipstick and sunscreen. Compared to the mother-in-law, it is really simple. But different people have different views on consumption, thrift and waste are relative, but he doesn't spend your money, it doesn't affect your life, and they are okay.

The daughter-in-law is too lenient.

The daughter-in-law has become a mother-in-law for many years", in the past social news, there has always been a lot of evil mothers-in-law, but I didn't expect the times to progress, and the daughter-in-law actually pointed fingers at her mother-in-law, which is really unreasonable.

Respond with an Internet saying: "Eat your rice?" Spent your money? ”

To put it bluntly, the daughter-in-law must feel that her parents-in-law's money is her own, and even if she is not now, she will (leave an inheritance) and become her own in the future, so she has accusations and dissatisfaction with her mother-in-law's consumption.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to get along with, and most of the reasons are because they have crossed the "boundary". Too much management and too wide management, there is no "you" and "me".

To understand what happened, it turned out that this daughter-in-law complained about her mother-in-law's high consumption and wearing famous brands, "It costs 100,000 yuan to buy clothes a year, and I am not willing to spend so much ......money."”

An expert once said that there are only three things in this world: one's own business, other people's business, and God's business.

This daughter-in-law didn't distinguish between her own business, other people's (mother-in-law's) business, and God's business, so she complained about her mother-in-law.

You must know that the mother-in-law spends her own money, and she has the right to dispose of her own money. As a daughter-in-law, what qualifications do you have to complain and blame? It's really "idle to eat radish and worry about it".

The concept of consumption varies greatly from person to person. This daughter-in-law is probably very frugal in her family education since she was a child, which is actually a good thing, but her mother-in-law has her own concept of consumption. A daughter-in-law can't hold her mother-in-law to her own standards.

You think that "the quality of more than 10,000 windbreakers is about the same as that of 5,000", and you think that more than 30,000 disposable underwear is about the same as 30 yuan, but others don't think so.

You will never understand the world of rich people. "Even if the mother-in-law is not rich, how she spends is her business.

As for whether the mother-in-law's money can be saved as the "education fund" for the grandchildren, it is also the in-laws who have the final say, openly thinking about it, showing a roaring appearance, and looking really ugly.

As the saying goes, "If you don't like others, you don't have enough self-cultivation".。This daughter-in-law still looks at herself, makes herself and her husband more able to make money, and buys a windbreaker of more than 10,000 yuan for her mother-in-law, showing the true character of a modern daughter-in-law.

Otherwise, it's better to keep your mouth shut.