How to fit in? I m an introverted girl

First of all, don't be afraid, because everyone's personality is different, and it is normal to have people who monetize like this. Hehe, I'm such a person, but now I've changed a lot, and I'm sure you can too.

1. Don't feel inferior, face yourself bravely, regardless of your strengths or weaknesses. First of all, you have to have the right positioning for yourself.

2. Be generous and decent, hold your head high, make eye contact and smile when talking to others, and dare to face the other person, even if he is malicious.

3. Common sense takes the initiative to communicate with people you don't know.

4. Take the initiative to do something to help others, such as giving up your seat to the elderly in a car.

5. Cultivate a few intimate friends who can speak their hearts and make progress together.

6. If you have the opportunity, you can participate in more public welfare activities and the like.

A large number of surveys have shown that children who are gregarious are significantly better than children who are withdrawn and do not like to socialize in terms of knowledge range, language expression ability, interpersonal skills, etc. However, due to the long-term pampering or indulgence of many parents, their children (especially some only children) are very willful, like to be alone, and rarely think about others. It is difficult for such children to cooperate with others in the future, and therefore it is difficult for them to adapt to society.

Unsociable children can be broadly divided into two categories: one is taciturn, withdrawn, and afraid of strangers; The other type is manifested as crying, troublemaking, recklessness, and troublemaking.

To nurture your child's gregariousness, parents should first set an example and create a good family environment for their child. This is mainly manifested in the harmony of the whole family, adults care about children, children care about elders, do not take children as the center, revolve around children everywhere, let children override parents. At the same time, parents should also respect their children, avoid reprimanding and scolding at will, and let children form a gregarious character in a family atmosphere of mutual respect and love.

Parents should also allow their children to participate in group activities. Living in a group of peers from an early age, children will gradually learn how to live, how to get along with each other, and how to play. Many parents are afraid that their children will "suffer" in group life, so they ask their children to take care of themselves and not associate with other children, which seems to love children on the surface, but in fact, so that children can not get the exercise of group life, which will inevitably affect the healthy growth of children.

For children who love to make trouble, love to be reckless, and love to cause trouble, parents should educate him: "If you continue like this, no child will play with you, and the teacher will not like you." In kindergarten, the teacher should take advantage of the child's "herd mentality" to make him see that the whole class is united, disciplined, troublemaker, undesirable, and the child will gradually assimilate into the group.

In the Chinese Psychological Counseling Clinic, we often guide the parents of their children in this way:

1) Reinforce the act of "accepting an invitation". Children who do not fit in like to accept the invitation of other children, if parents find that their children occasionally accept the invitation of individual children, even if it is very reluctant, they should give encouragement in time, if they find that the child accepts the invitation of other children and expresses their willingness to participate, they should be greatly appreciated and urged to participate.

2) Reinforce the act of "inviting others". Parents should encourage their children to welcome children who come to play at their door, provide children with places to play and toys they are interested in, and should also take the trouble to encourage children and play with them enthusiastically.

In short, it is not an overnight thing to make a child go from being unsociable to being gregarious, and you can't rush it. After a period of hard work, you will be able to raise your child to be a person who can cooperate with others and adapt to society.

Let it be, people don't know and are not ashamed. Don't embarrass yourself, introversion is a kind of temperament, there is no harm in itself, it has the advantages that extroverts do not have, we must give full play to our strengths, rather than blindly trying to change ourselves, pull out the seedlings to help grow, and harm yourself.

Being a maverick is not a bad thing, and you have to be strong in life, not weak. To be gregarious for the sake of being gregarious, I have wronged my own will, and I have to strive to become an important person in the eyes of others.

Don't get lost for the sake of change. Be yourself! I don't believe that you can experience a course of treatment, and that your own shortcomings are better than others' strengths is the most tiring thing in the world.

The root cause of your problem is that in the period before you were in elementary school, when you were a child, your parents never praised you, encouraged you, and never found the best in your life. On the contrary, Huaifan always finds fault with you and says that your advantages are also disadvantages. It causes you to feel that you have no strengths, which leads you to be extremely unconfident in yourself, resulting in low self-esteem and autism, and everyone has strengths and weaknesses.

No matter how perfect a person is, there will be many shortcomings. No matter how bad a person is, there will be many advantages. Some people's shortcomings may be their strengths in the eyes of others.

From your description above, I have found that you have several advantages that are commendable.

1. Other girls are babbling all day long, but you talk less, in the eyes of others, you are a quiet and elegant girl.

2. When you encounter problems, you always look for the cause from your own generation first, and do not complain. (although some things are not your fault) are rotten.

3. Some boys like girls like you who talk less, well-behaved, and tender.

Therefore, I suggest you take a good look at the two books written by Carnegie, "The Advantages of Human Nature" and "The Disadvantages of Human Nature". These two books will help you for a lifetime.

Try to speak and communicate with people as much as possible, otherwise people will treat you as an alternative and will exclude you.

It did not affect others.

It also did not affect her own Li Xian's life.

This is the way she chooses to live.

What's not sensitive?

In order for teenagers to get rid of this abnormal emotion, get out of the introverted hut, and build harmonious interpersonal relationships, they must pay attention to it"Involvement"Actively participate in social activities and group activities.

Because social and collective activities are the most common social practices, among these practical activities, first, whether it is organization and implementation, or contact, conversation, and cooperation with people, they can increase knowledge, accumulate experience, enhance talents, improve courage and confidence, gradually change bad personalities such as loneliness and introversion, and alleviate the psychological contradiction between increased activity ability and lack of knowledge and experience;

Second, participating in these activities is not only conducive to satisfying the psychological needs of adolescents' spiritual life, but also can dissipate their excess energy, thereby reducing the inexplicable restlessness of thinking about what is wrong when being alone, and alleviating the contradiction between sexual needs and social morality.

Third, only by contacting, talking and getting to know each other can feelings sprout and friendships can be found, and confidants can be found. When people devote themselves to collective activities, the friendship of comrades, the warmth of the collective, and the excitement of entertainment will make people forget the troubles and pressures in life, and there will be no sense of insecurity and loneliness, which is not only conducive to mental and physical relaxation, but also will establish a virtuous circle of emotions and promote Danchai's mental health. In conclusion, participating in social and group activities is an important way to promote and maintain mental health, which is the first condition for building a harmonious interpersonal relationship.

Girls are introverted. The reasons are manifold. Some are introverts by nature.

There is the influence of the hand, the family. So we live and work. Take the initiative to associate with this kind of person.

It made him unable to change. Quiet, he changed his introverted personality. On the other hand.

Introverted girls are more professional. Feelings are more professional. Be more faithful.

Be self-motivated in your career. Handed over as serious and steadfast. If you like such girls.

You should take the initiative to associate with him. Not bad. In work and life.

Mutual understanding. Mutual respect. Support each other.

Accept each other's shortcomings. Understand the other person's shortcomings. Help the other person to become a qualified person.

Promote the other person to grow into a good person.

I'm also a person of a similar personality to you, and I hate noise, I like to be alone, and I enjoy the peace and quiet of being alone. In fact, others say that I don't fit in, although I agree with it, but I don't want to change, I think I am who I am, and after the change, is it still me?

If you have to change, try it step by step, make friends with the same person first, then slowly increase, and it will always be okay in the end.

Also, remember, read more books, knowledge changes the world. Don't be discouraged by what others are saying! Because, you will eventually have your own success!

I don't know how to help you, but I've said something similar to you before, so I'll tell you about my experience

When I was in elementary school, I was just like you, I didn't like to talk, I didn't study well, and I loved to cry, and no one dared to talk to me.

I got a lot better at the beginning of junior high school, I had good friends, I played together, I watched anime together, and I felt very happy.

But suddenly I changed schools, and all of a sudden, I couldn't make friends in an unfamiliar environment, and everyone hated me, a bad transfer student with no characteristics.

I was isolated, and sometimes I would talk to my classmates, but then other students would ask him how he talked to me, and I felt very uncomfortable.

So I felt more and more inferior, I felt that I was useless, that there was no point in living, and that I had thought about extreme thoughts.

The turning point is after graduating from junior high school, and everyone doesn't know each other in a new environment, so I made new friends in a daze, and after getting along for a long time, I found that I was not as wasteful as I imagined, and many aspects were covered up by my inferiority complex.

At that time, I just came into contact with these things such as sticking to Weibo At first, I only dared to dive silently and didn't dare to speak, but then I slowly tried to integrate myself into it, at least it didn't hurt I met a lot of good friends The Internet is not as restrained as in reality, so I can show a more real self I found that I am always more cheerful than reality and more popular with everyone After having a little bit of self-confidence, I try to bring this feeling into reality Slowly there will always be a little change.

Maybe you can make a few friends with the same hobbies on the Internet first, show the most real side, anyway, you can't see each other on the Internet, there is nothing to be afraid of, if the relationship is good, you can ask out to play together, slowly you will always become cheerful, believe me

In fact, I am the same, my mother always talks about me, compares me with others, and says how sweet the old man is and how good he can talk. Especially recently I met a boy, I have a little feeling for him, he is the kind of smart and joking, cheap but good-hearted, but every time he jokes with me, I can't get up, my friend is quite compatible with his temper, can make jokes, are more extroverted, they are a good match for you, I feel like a good match, I really want to become an extrovert, can afford to joke, talkative, can be gregarious when there are many people instead of always trying to hide.

It feels like you're an otaku. Love reading Japanese manga? In fact, your mother cares about you because you are old I'm afraid that no one wants your character I can't get married If you can't change it, don't force yourself The country is easy to change and the nature is difficult to change How good it is to find an otaku to be with You have a common topic As for interacting with aliens, don't be too afraid treat him as if he was chatting with his family Just be casual and don't be nervous.

It's not a big deal, you're a girl, it's a big deal.