Why do elders think that adolescent love is wrong?

In many cases, the elders will think that adolescent love is a mistake, and they will think that we are still too naïve in adolescence, and have no sense of responsibility and responsibility, so often at this time they will feel that it is a very wrong choice for us to fall in love at this time. In adolescence, we are often more susceptible to the control of adolescent hormones, so when we choose our partner, we are often impulsive, and we don't really ask ourselves what you like about this person, but just because of an impulse.

The elders are all from the past, they understand that we are often more impulsive in adolescence, we are often curious about falling in love, sometimes we are not mature enough, and they are also afraid that we will do something at this time that is not suitable for our age, due to the control of hormones, we will have a sexual impulse to the opposite sex, as boys we like to watch some small Japanese movies in adolescence, because we are very curious about girls' bodies, So in reality, we will want to understand girls, and we will often make mistakes. And most girls are also fascinated by youth love idol dramas, so they are also very eager to fall in love.

A very important reason is that we do not have the ability to take responsibility, we can often see some news like this, students who are still in high school they begin to fall in love, but at that time they do not have the ability to bear the consequences of things, but they have an incomparable curiosity about the opposite sex, then sometimes these curiosity will harm them, we can often see such a situation, high school girls are pregnant, and then boys have no money for girls**, and then these farces emerge in endlessly.

So the elders know these things, because they are afraid that we will do bad things, we have no responsibility to bear these things, if such a thing happens to a girl at a young age, then her life will be ruined, a boy will do such a thing at a young age, then he will be good when he grows up. In fact, the elders are all from the past, and they have also been young, maybe some of them have also encountered these things, and they don't want such a farce to happen again.

When we are still students, our most important task is to study hard, even if the elders are not thinking about those bad things, they don't want us to be distracted, after all, we can all see that people who fall in love in adolescence often do not have a good end, and the reason why they disapprove is also so that we can study well. Therefore, elders often think that it is wrong to fall in love again in adolescence.

I think it's because the elders have gone through this period, and they know that people at this age are very naïve, but the main reason is that this period is the period of learning, and they don't want to think that falling in love is delaying the right thing, so it is naturally wrong.

First of all, let's talk about the relationship itself, I actually think that adolescent people are impulsive and naïve, and the elders think so, the vast majority of adolescent people who are together do not have good results, and the breakup is all good results, and there are more extreme. In adolescence, impulsive and naïve are not yet able to control their emotions well. You think, as elders, they know that adolescent love does not end well, and of course they don't want to watch their children waste energy and time on this kind of thing, so naturally this mood turns into them feeling that this thing is wrong.

As for the impact on learning, no one can deny this problem, really, falling in love will affect learning more or less, some people may have a small influence and some people may have a while and then recover, but as an elder, who wants their children to be affected by this? In other words, would you watch your children fall in love with their own future? You're not in a hurry?

You will also get angry and see adolescent dating as an enemy. Moreover, if you think about the things that you know are useless, your children are still using their own future as a bargaining chip to do it, how can you not be in a hurry and how can you not object?

Although we all feel that adolescent love is meaningless, but for me, a person who is at the tail of puberty, I still miss my youth, I miss that innocent and simple era, in that era, love is true love, it is true love that will not be surpassed at any time, the purest and most heartfelt love. However, compared to your future, this is not mentioned from the perspective of your elders. In fact, I don't think this is really right or wrong, if you love it, you will regret delaying your studies, and if you don't love, you will regret that you have not simply loved.

Let's go with the flow.

In the eyes of our elders, our adolescence should be used for learning.

For our elders, our adolescence is simple, ignorant, ignorant and rebellious. First, they believe that adolescent love can affect learning. The elders all believe that people in adolescence should focus on their studies, should study hard in school, study in their free time, and should devote all their energy to study and life, rather than falling in love.

Secondly, the elders all believe that adolescent love will not last long. It is normal for people who have just entered adolescence to have a good impression of people of the same age and the opposite sex, but because they are too young, they do not know what true love is, they have not experienced ups and downs, they have not entered the society, they have not experienced the hardships and difficulties of life, and their feelings are established on the basis of nothing. <>

In the end, the elders think that adolescent children are too naïve, and love is just an impulse of children, not real love, which will hurt two people in the end. Adolescent children are young and frivolous, and they just want to do something rebellious, but they still experience too little for feelings, after all, the elders are all from the past, maybe for our elders, most of them are married to the kind that may get married through a few introductions, so their thinking is a little conservative.

In any case, everything is for our good, after all, we are still young, and there are many worldly things that we don't understand, so listen to the advice of our elders. Although their ideas have not yet kept up with the trend, they are worthy of our respect. No one can say bad about adolescent love, just don't let yourself lose yourself because of love.

Because adolescence is a rebellious period for children. And they are not mature in their thinking, and they can't correctly judge what is like and what is love. And because their minds are not mature, they will be relatively simple in thinking about problems.

Unable to solve emotional and learning problems well. In this way, the personal future will be delayed, what a wrong thing it is!

In real life, there are often many junior high school students and high school students who fall in love, and they will often quarrel and split up because of some trivial things in life. It's like a child playing at home, just like a child playing at home, a little fight. And it will affect learning because of emotional problems.

There will also be a lot of troubles, and if not handled well, it may lead to serious accidents. At this time, they are more rebellious, disobedient to discipline, and have a serious rebellious mentality.

And parents feel that adolescent people are still children. It's not suitable for a relationship, and they feel that children have experienced too little, and they may have other options when they grow up. It may just be a temporary liking, and it won't last long.

It's a waste of time and money. Rather than this, it is better to resolutely prevent adolescent children from falling in love.

They feel that the most important thing for children at this stage is to learn, and they can't delay learning because of this. Because of the delay in studying, it may be a big thing for a lifetime. If it's a girl, Mom and Dad will be worried.

will be afraid that his daughter will suffer a loss and delay her studies. They hope that when they grow up and mature, they have a certain material foundation, and then they will find a boyfriend, which will take a long time.

In the case of boys, parents may feel that they will meet a better one when their son grows up. Don't fall in love because of a momentary pleasure, it's too irrational, and there is no economic foundation, so you can't take responsibility at all.

These reasons lead them to believe that adolescent love is wrong.

Because adolescent love is still immature, and I don't understand human feelings. Falling in love during adolescence will also affect the academics of two people, and the elders have seen too much of the final development of adolescent love, so they will feel that adolescent love is wrong.

Generally speaking, boys and girls in adolescence are still developing physically and mentally, and their minds are not mature enough to do things without seeing the consequences. At the beginning of love, I don't understand what love and responsibility are, once I like someone, I like to die and live. If you start a relationship during puberty, there are generally only two results.

One is to wait until the two of them are mentally mature, only to find that all aspects are not suitable, and they will choose to break up, and at this time half of the youth of both people is gone. Another result is that in the end, they get married and have children together, and when both of them are fully mature, most people will regret it and live an unhappy married life. The elders have seen too much of such an ending, and of course to persuade them is also for adolescent teenagers and girls to avoid detours, as the saying goes:

If you don't listen to the old man, you will suffer in front of you. ’<

And most of the adolescent boys and girls are still in school, with poor self-control, and only care about playing. If you fall in love at this time, it is easy to affect your studies and your grades will decline, so teachers and parents are very opposed. In addition, adolescent boys and girls don't understand anything, and if they continue to develop, if they delay the studies of two people, they may ruin their lives.

At this age when you don't know anything, it's best not to try the taste of love easily. A person's life is not long, it is not short, and if you make a mistake, you will not regret the medicine you can take. So this age is not suitable for falling in love, be cautious.

The elders will think that adolescent love is wrong, because adolescent children are immature, and the love born under impulse is not enough to support the life of firewood, rice, oil and salt in the future. And the main task in adolescence is the all-round development of morality, intelligence, physical fitness, aesthetics and labor, and it is a beautiful mistake to experience love too early, which will delay the entire academic plan, resulting in a poor grade in the entrance exam, a small step at the beginning, and a big step in the future, no one likes their children to be inferior, so it will be considered wrong.

In adolescence, the child's heart is uncertain, there are great variables, the fragile love between two people can not withstand any ups and downs, lack of stability, the investment output rate begins, adolescent love is the largest investment, the return is indeed the least, children will not think so much, but adults will think for their children, from this point of view, such love outweighs the loss, it is better not to.

The adolescent child is more rebellious, and he may make this decision because his parents said that he would not be allowed to fall in love, and simply wanted to resist the parent's discipline, and the love produced under this immature motive is of course also immature. In the eyes of parents, these are pediatric things and not worth mentioning. Parents think that marriage is correct, adolescent love is 108,000 miles away from marriage, and adolescent girls are easy to read people clearly, it is easy to go astray, originally a flower-like age, has not bloomed, should not experience those messy things, resulting in the poor development of this flower.

They will think that adolescent love is unreliable, and it has always been incorrect not to do business, but this is also an experience, as long as you can grasp yourself and grasp the measure, it is nothing, and parents should also change this concept, after all, the healthy growth of children is the most important.

Theme class meeting: How to establish a correct view of love for middle school students.

1. Purpose of the activity: 1. Cancel the mystery and shyness of students entering adolescence to classmates of the opposite sex in a timely manner, and overcome the anxiety and tension of interacting with classmates of the opposite sex. Promote healthy, moderate and adequate interaction between male and female students. 2. Guide students to appreciate the advantages of students of the opposite sex, learn from each other, learn from each other's strengths, improve their enthusiasm for learning, and strengthen the cohesion of the class.

2. Activity content 1: Discussion: The standards of "good female classmates" and "good male classmates" in my heart. 2. Discussion: How can boys and girls interact to promote learning progress?

3. Discussion, singing, sketches, and reading aloud in the form of activities.

Fourth, the moderator.

5. Preparation for the activity 1. Arrange the blackboard and other environments. The theme should be distinctive, prominent, and beautiful, and famous quotes related to the theme should also be arranged, such as: everything about people should be beautiful, face, heart, clothes - Chekhov.

2. A letter from all male students to all female students and a letter from all female students to all male students. 3. Invite students to learn to sing "Big Husband" and "Diary of One Thousand and One Nights". 4. Invite teachers with experience in psychological counseling as guests.

6. Activity Procedure 1, Host: Our class has been established for three months, and with the joint efforts of our whole class, we have achieved good results, which is inseparable from the efforts of all students. However, during this time, there was a lot of friction between male and female classmates, and once it even developed into a fight.

2. Discussion: Activity (1) "Good Male Classmates" and "Good Female Classmates" in My Mind Activity (1) Draw a vertical line in the middle of the blackboard, write "good male classmates" and "good female classmates" on both sides respectively, and choose two volunteers to be responsible for the record. (2) Free speech:

Explain the qualities or behaviors that you think should be of a good student image of male and female classmates