The family environment is normal, and the younger brother is withdrawn and introverted, what should

First of all, things like "withdrawn, introverted, and dead house" don't necessarily lead your brother to become a failure.

There are many famous people in history who have achieved great things, and these are also the cases.

Albert Einstein, for example, suffered from "autism" since childhood, but he created the theory of relativity and became a great physicist.

For example, Daniel Tamant of the United Kingdom, who, like Albert Einstein, suffered from "autism", but he was immersed in numbers and languages all his life and achieved great success in this field, he founded a memory skills company that specializes in teaching people how to learn mathematics and languages faster and more effectively.

However, I am not using these examples to affirm the demeaning terms "withdrawn, introverted, and dead".

It is just to say that in the absence of any particularly negative reactions (such as school boredom or even self-harm), there is no need to force too much change in the "nature" of these children.

However, there is nothing wrong with making your child optimistic and cheerful, so it is okay to take some steps to make your child happy to socialize with others.

If you want your child to change his introverted personality, the first thing is to put him in an environment that interests him.

Only when they are exposed to something of interest will children be curious and take the initiative to learn about other things and others.

You can get involved in your brother's "dead house" hobby first, and if you have a common language with him, then come up with other interests that are not "dead house" to draw out his interest.

The second is to form an incentive mechanism.

For example, if you want to train your puppy to do some simple actions, you naturally need to use conditioning to give some rewards when it meets your goal requirements.

So when your brother starts to be less introverted and starts to communicate with others, don't let him suffer setbacks too quickly, growing up is a gradual process, if something happens because he doesn't understand well, the friend simply leaves him and doesn't take him to play, it will easily hit his self-confidence and make him get used to being "withdrawn". ‍

This is how it is to see a psychiatrist; If the person feels that he has a problem and needs to see a doctor, he will go.

Those who think that they are okay are normal, even if everyone thinks he has a problem, he will not look at it.

There are not many people who are truly mentally healthy. Most people have more or less psychological problems, and some people will go to the doctor, because she attaches importance to her mental health and wants to improve the quality of her life. Some people don't go, either because they don't have money, or because they don't think there's anything wrong with them.

Your brother must have a lot of knots. In terms of mental health, he definitely needs to see a psychiatrist. But he didn't realize the problem himself, so who could stand it?

As an older brother, I suggest you buy a few books or magazines on psychology and give them to him. Don't just say that he has a problem, but try to make him realize that some of his own deviations make him unhappy and not as happy as others. Don't judge him from the perspective of his family and relatives, but start from him and make some changes with the aim of improving his quality of life.

In fact, the best way to improve your withdrawn personality is through hobbies. Especially sports. Pull your brother to participate in some large-scale sports programs, such as marathons and long-distance running, sports make people happy and cheerful, and you can also meet equally happy friends, which can change your mentality, broaden your horizons, and change your life.

I used to be very withdrawn, pessimistic and negative. Later, I participated in mountain climbing, played for a few years, and met a lot of sports-loving friends, I feel that they are really living happily, and I am inspired by them, and I have become a cheerful and happy person. In recent years, I have been seeing a psychiatrist because I want to solve some knots in my childhood, improve my quality of life, and expand my potential.

I'm happy now because I've been trying to make myself happy.

I have a lot of psychology books at home, I can recommend them if needed.

If you go out on a long trip with him, you will have the opportunity to communicate together, and if you don't communicate with him, even Da Luo Jinxian will not be recruited. You don't even know what he thinks, so why is it all nonsense to be busy?! Good luck.

Maybe it's misanthropy. I'm pretty much like that myself. The difference is that I talk to my family and everything is the same as usual.

Well, have you had a long talk?

I think you should be the person who understands him the most, according to you, he just doesn't want to deal with his family and relatives, and the relationship with his classmates and friends is normal.

First of all, he is already an adult, parents and you, the brother, can no longer nag in his ear, and do not reinforce the word his loneliness, just as if he is a normal person who can communicate calmly and calmly say your opinions, if he avoids it, he can only wait for the right opportunity, don't say anything else; At the same time, you should give him the care he deserves, and you can consider arranging for the family to go out and play together (if it happens, just play, not anything else). Also, if he has a girlfriend, you can learn more about his mental situation through his girlfriend or friends, so that you can grasp his heart more accurately; If he doesn't have a girlfriend yet, it's time to give him a look...

A person's personality does not matter whether it is absolutely good or bad, he may not be able to talk to his family since he was a child, and he gradually became a way to avoid some problems by not speaking.

Understand him, care about him, tolerate him, persuade him if he has the opportunity, let him slowly adjust himself, at least when he becomes a father himself, he will definitely understand the difficulty of being a parent.

I also advise your mother, he is this personality, don't think too much, in fact, strong self-esteem is not a bad thing.

In fact, this is what I have been in my heart since I was a child. You can try to let him find a hobby he likes, such as **, or sign up for an interest class to let him participate in cooperation with others. The withdrawn personality has changed.

Or you take him to some parties, class reunions, etc. Slowly let him adapt to this life of communicating with people.

The formation of a personality is not a matter of a day or two, and the change of personality is even more difficult. If you want to hurry, you can't reach it, communicate with him more, eat a meal and drink wine together and tell the truth. His future wife can change him for the better, he had better find a good wife, and a nagging wife will ruin him.

I'm pretty much the same, I'm a girl, my parents are honestly a bit patriarchal, and if you look closely at their upbringing, you can see that it's true.

My mom replied. The three younger sisters and younger brothers, all of whom have boys, and my father's older brothers and sisters are also boys.

Why? Because my grandmother gave birth to a boy after giving birth to three girls in a row, my mother dropped out of school early to take younger siblings.

My father is a Hakka in the south, and the patriarchal environment led to my aunt giving birth to a third child, and now she is old and ugly.

My parents love me very much, but when I was a child, they were busy with work, and when they had a second child, their attention was on their younger brother, and they were estranged from me, and they didn't know what my personality was. When I was in primary school, I moved from my hometown to Shenzhen, and the change in environment almost turned me into a withdrawn and introverted person.

I usually pass the time reading books.,The game is also played.,It's just a stand-alone.,I've only loved lol online games.,It's a pity that the rank is bronze (a district),In addition to the auxiliary other positions are very vegetable.,When the dog-type assist.。

lol I'm quitting because I'm working.

I didn't want to go to high school anymore, I was fragile and dependent on my parents. The only thing better than you is that your family is better than yours, and after a few years of decadence, I found some hope for life from **. Now I plan to live and work seriously for a few years, and do promotion in my father's company, with little money, but I don't have to pay rent and utility bills outside.

Still introverted, but it's okay to discuss work with colleagues. ps: I'm actually scared when I go to work, I'm afraid that people will say that I came in by connections.

You have to adjust your mentality, you have to maintain a positive attitude, even if you are at home, you have to make achievements at home, and I am born to be useful.

Wow, I think you're good, it's just that you lack confidence.

The house can also be an otaku.,In the final analysis, life is lived by yourself.,The otaku or the dead house is purely the heart's desire.。

Do more of what you're good at and spend time with friends who appreciate you.

Don't be too busy getting angry, being angry won't help you. Try to communicate with him on an equal footing, go into his world and ideas, and be his friend, not deliberately, because you love your brother. When communicating with him, don't talk about your reasoning and educate his ideas, just play with him, just chat and play with him.

You will naturally understand what he likes and what he thinks in his heart. Hope you succeed. There is only advice, not overnight, do not abandon, do not give up.

It's very simple, depending on how you think about this problem, you can do this, how old is your brother, I need to believe in the age and the reasons of his family, heart disease needs heart medicine, but you have to be optimistic, it may just be the rebellious psychological period of teenagers, there will be this situation during development, but it depends on how old your brother is, how old you are, this is very important, after all, family reasons, and his age difference is too much, he may not listen to it, you need to help you in detail, you reply to me, tell me in detail, I will help you solve the problem.

Usually, the family should talk to him more, talk more about their hearts, open the knot, and encourage him more.

Listening to what he had to say, I was sure he would have been ridiculed at school! Listen to what he has to say and help him solve his current problems! Don't use big reasons to communicate with him, to find the place where he has problems to communicate.

1.Integrate into society, force yourself to the end of the road of extroversion, force yourself to participate in activities, talk more, and you can get used to it after a while, but it is not easy, after all, your personality is difficult to change.

2.Choose to accept Use your introverted personality to give yourself enough space to do what you like Good for research Good for learning is suitable for technical work But this kind of personality is more difficult to start a business.

It's great to be aware of this problem, and I was as aware of it as you were when I was a child, and I was as aware of it as you were, except for the determination to try to change, which is to pretend to be cheerful, to learn the traits of those who are lively, to imitate their way of speaking and even to pronounce them, and over time it will be difficult for you to say that you are withdrawn. Of course, it's also good to recognize the reality of the family environment when you are young, and many people with quirky personalities don't want to admit it for the rest of their lives. There will always be people who are worse than your environment, and others are not living well.

Who are you still lonely for?

Adjust your mindset and have more contact with people.

You can read some books called several aspects.

The important thing is that you don't think differently and you won't be withdrawn.

Adjust your mentality, try to fit in, and if it doesn't work, you have to force yourself to fit in, there is no way.

Have the courage to admit your own shortcomings, work hard to correct them, and get along with others more.

Reach out to people. Go out and have fun. Relax.

You are **, no matter what the reason, let yourself come out first, see the world more, and make more friends.

It's okay not to think too much, I feel the same way as you, don't care too much about others.

Make more friends and be able to talk to you, that's what I'm doing, it's very useful.

Find a place to relax and divert your attention, and it is recommended to develop some hobbies of your own.

Those who are content are always happy, control their insatiable evil thoughts, and ordinary people's lives are also very good.

Give him more care and warmth, and guide him correctly.

Change the environment, change the mood, change the unfamiliar place, the unfamiliar work starts again, and it also starts from the heart.

Now that you know it, if you want to change it, you can slowly try to change it.

It's the same as me, this one may need an antidote.

Go with the flow and find a girlfriend and you'll converge a lot.