Should we be more selfish than he should be to the selfish person or should I influence him?

I don't think it's okay to be more selfish than him, people don't change their nature so easily, and it's hard for a person who has always been unselfish to be more selfish than someone who has always been selfish. I don't think it's realistic to influence him, a selfish person is very difficult to be influenced, and he or she may feel that there is an opportunity to take advantage of it and intensify it. I think the best way to do that is to stay away.

Summer insects should not be associated with ice, and it is better to have less contact with different concepts. If it is a relative who cannot be broken, maintain a superficial peace; If it is a boss who can't be avoided, take more precautions and protect your own interests. My uncle's family is very selfish, in my mother's words, it is not prosperous, you can give him things, but if you want to take advantage of him, there is no door.

Sometimes I borrowed my tools and never remembered to return them, and then my mom never lent him anything again.

Personally experienced, a selfish person will only be more selfish, and it is impossible to influence him at all. I also had a so-called friend who was out of town and used to work in the same department as me. Because it was not easy to see him leave his hometown and come out to work, I couldn't help but feel pity for him.

Therefore, whether at work or in life, I took special care of him, and every time I went out to eat and have fun, I inevitably called him. Even later, for various reasons, he went to another unit, and we never broke off contact. I'm a bit big on weekdays, and I don't want to calculate with my friends, but when I think about it later, it's chilling.

I'm afraid you don't believe it, but in the years I have been with him, I have only eaten one meal from him, which is his wedding feast. Whether you eat or not, it's all a trivial matter, but the angry thing is that he always takes you seriously, looks for you when he has something, and stays away from it, again and again, which is annoying.

Particularly selfish people are generally very campy. He will approach you on his own initiative and make you feel good about him. In the beginning, I just helped him buy a glass of water and a meal.

Over time, they began to ask you for this and that. If you give it to him, he will not only not be grateful, but will take it for granted. If he doesn't do what he wants, he will have a bad face and tell right and wrong, as if you owe him everything.

Selfish people are nothing more than self-interest, no sense of teamwork, always put their own interests first, will not back down, if anyone blocks his interests, he will definitely turn his face and deny people, unless that person is a leader, even if it is a leader, in private he is also scolded ugly.

The key to getting along with others is to be honest with each other. If you have the mentality of taking advantage, it is not a friend, it is a benefit. Since we talk about interests, we must share them clearly, and our brothers have to settle accounts clearly, not to mention people who can't be beaten with eight poles.

There was once a classmate who was like that. I fell in love with a table in my room, and no matter how hard I had to move it, I asked for it. Rejected him, he was furious.

said that the table is also public, why can't he use it if I can use it? Listen to people who are particularly selfish and you will find that they are high-sounding and do not think that they are at fault. You help him pay for dinner today, and tomorrow he still forgets to bring his meal card.

One time he stopped paying for him, and he said you weren't a friend enough.

When you meet such a person at work, it is better to keep your distance and not to socialize. And be wary of selfish colleagues you encounter at work. Because you don't know when he's going to sell you out for his own good.

Selfishness is human nature. Everyone is selfish. Even without an acquired character, it is normal for people to have a selfish side.

It should be nature, because everyone will have a selfish side, that is, when there is a conflict of interest with others, they will be very selfish.

I think it's human nature to be selfish. When little children are hungry for something good, they can be selfish and reluctant to share it with others.

Everyone has a selfish mentality, after all, people live, not for anything else, but also for food. The difference is only a matter of degree. But some people are extremely selfish, and associating with them makes us extremely uncomfortable in our hearts.

Often, this kind of person has fewer friends. But no one is born selfish. Their selfishness is often a self-interested mindset that arises after a certain experience.

So what kind of experience can lead to selfishness?

1. Parental education.

Some parents are afraid that their children will suffer losses outside, and then if their children suffer losses outside, they will educate their children, why don't you take them if others take them? He won't share it with you, and don't share it with others, don't be stupid all day long. So the child learns to be selfish.

This is a protective mechanism, in order to prevent parents from lecturing him.

2. Spoiling. Children are the treasure of the palms of parents, so we have to buy the best food and the best clothes for our children. The child has a request, and we have to satisfy him. Then in the end, it caused the biggest ending for the children in the family.

If it doesn't go well with the child, he will be noisy and noisy. In this way, the little master, the little princess was born. It is precisely because in the child's mind that I am the biggest in the world, and everyone wants to be good for me, selfishness arises.

3. Unwilling. It is very common to have a selfish psychology because of unwillingness, and we often treat ourselves unfairly in life. For example, I was nice to him, but he was not nice to me. Or they have been treated unfairly by the higher level (parents or superiors) for a long time, and they are unwilling to be psychologically unwilling, and selfishness will arise.

4. Short-sightedness.

This kind of people are actually very sad, they don't know the truth of their daughters coming back after they are gone, and they don't understand what benefits selflessness will bring to them, usually this kind of people are also poor people, and life will not be rich, and such people can't keep up with education, so naturally they don't understand too much truth, and selfishness is a form that can be seen on the surface and will not be lost.

The most fundamental cause of selfishness is actually the lack of heart.

How can a person who doesn't even love himself feel his love for others.

Taiwanese female writer Jin Yunrong wrote in "Fill Your Own Cup First": "Don't wait for others to fill your own cup, and don't blindly give selflessly. If we can fill the cup in front of us first and be happy with our hearts, we will naturally be able to share the overflowing cup of blessing with those around us, and we will be able to happily accept the gifts of others.

Filling one's cup first is not a sign of selfishness, but a sign of self-love, and a person who loves himself will never become a selfish person.

The reason why a person thinks of himself in everything is because of his inner scarcity, they are sensitive, and a person who has nothing in his heart will always think of striking first when facing the gains and losses of interests.

If you have been stuck in the thinking of scarcity, from selfishness to extreme stinginess, it is actually very sad, a person who is used to scarcity, every effort feels like he is exploiting himself, and finally he is so stingy that he doesn't even have a smile, life is a mirror, if you don't smile at it, it won't smile at you.

Selfish people are self-interested. He hasn't really understood what to do for his own benefit. A person who knows what to do is really good to himself will not be selfish. Because selfishness will not only not benefit oneself, but will harm oneself.

A person who is truly good to himself, he will be kind to the world, be kind to everyone, respect every life, care for the environment, and not waste resources. Because the world is one with us, everything we do will come back to us.

Since ancient times, sages have been selfless and altruistic people, and people who serve the society and others wholeheartedly will be recognized and respected by the world, and the result of this will eventually achieve him, and he can become selfish because of his selflessness.