How to get along with selfish people, how to get along with selfish people?

Have an honest conversation with them: Find an appropriate time to be honest about how you feel and affect their selfish behavior. Express your point of view in an "I" tone instead of blaming or criticizing them.

Don't make excuses for their selfish behavior: Don't make excuses for the actions of selfish people or tolerate their selfish behavior. Hold on to the expectations of a fair and reciprocal relationship and let them understand that you will not accept unfair treatment.

Seek support: Share your concerns and challenges with others and seek their support and advice. They may be able to offer different perspectives and experiences that will help you better deal with selfish people.

Don't compete with them: Avoid getting into competition or feuds with selfish people. Stay calm and rational, and look for ways to work together to solve problems.

Maintain a sense of self-worth: Don't let the actions of selfish people affect your self-esteem and sense of worth. Remember your worth and strengths, and don't let their selfish behavior weaken your self-confidence and happiness.

Choose intimacy carefully: Choose intimacy carefully, especially with a partner or close friend. Make sure you share similar values and perspectives with them.

Most importantly, maintain self-protection and self-respect. If selfish people continue to cause harm and distress to you, and your efforts can't change their behavior, consider distancing yourself from them or seeking professional help.

I encountered a very bad thing some time ago, and now I want to complain about it, maybe I can give you a hint and reference in the same situation. Because of work, I often live in a small remote county, where the customs are very simple, friendly, and the law and order are good.

Fourth, simple and scheming people are particularly friendly! There have been two times when I forgot the key on the lock after opening the door, and I found it the next day (and we live on the first floor), and there was no break-in; Bicycles and motorcycles generally don't need to be locked, and it's okay to put them in the yard! I thought that in such a good atmosphere, people must be good!

It wasn't until we got into trouble with the drain in our kitchen that it was blocked three times ......The biggest trouble on the first floor is "dampness", and the second is "easy to block the water"! When I got home from work that time, I saw oil stains all over the ground, red and yellow soup mixed with the sewage of chopped vegetables, and I instantly felt like I was devastated! I started to buy the tools and products that go through the sewer, although it was time-consuming and laborious, but after some hard work, I was able to get through!

Who knew that just a few days later, it was blocked again! This time the sewage is even worse than the previous one! Hurry up and grind the lead to inform the upstairs neighbors not to use water first, and we will try to get through the water!

But the sewage continued to pour out, I knocked on the door from the top floor to inform, but it didn't work, and the upstairs still didn't stop using water! And this time, I tried my best to use all kinds of methods, and then I found someone who specialized in going into the water, and after checking, I concluded that "the main pipeline below is all blocked" is no longer passable! Only a new pipe!

Since it is the main pipeline, it is not my family's business, the group explained the reason, and said through the water master's **, seeking collective opinions. Unexpectedly, I had to bury two responses: "Your house is blocked, hurry up and find someone to get through, what are you talking about here"; The rest of the occupants were silent ......for several daysAngry and chilling at everyone's response, I feel that this is not the way to go, even if we are responsible for changing the pipeline this time, what if it is blocked again in the future?

Simply solve it at one time, we install independent sewerage, do not share the pipe with the upstairs, there will be no follow-up trouble! After being informed in the group, no one responded to ......I immediately asked the master to start the construction, and after half a day, I installed the independent water, and of course I also sealed the downstairs in my house! Hum!

The next day, someone knocked on the door and came down to accuse, "Why is the water blocked to his house, causing their kitchen sewage everywhere"! He also said with red lips and white teeth, "You live on the first floor, and you are responsible for drainage, and the residents on the first floor of other units are like this!" Your house on the first floor is cheap, and you have to bear the cost of drainage!

The output that shattered my three views made me speechless! How can you put up such a selfish and scoundrel neighbor!! After this incident, I put away all the thoughts of "it is okay to do a good job in the neighborhood, and it is okay to suffer some losses"!

Resolutely defend your own interests! Later, it is said that it was not until the sewage was blocked on the third floor that the personal interests of some people were finally touched, and they raised funds together to replace the pipes! That's the end of it!

Later, every time I met this neighbor, I never said hello again, just like a passerby!