Why did the early morning of an 11 year old boy in Japan sting most Chinese families?

Reflection must be reflective, but it is necessary to look at this phenomenon from multiple angles.

First of all, we must praise this child for being so independent, able to live alone and even take on part of the family work, can help parents share a lot of housework, so that parents have more experience to think about other things. We need to reflect on how much of our education can be done by themselves, and parents help them do it for various reasons, and over time, children's consciousness feels that these are what parents should do, not what we should do.

What is the reason for this phenomenon, because parents think that they can't do it, and the child will be overwhelmed without their parents, will not be able to live, and will not even support themselves--- which is just wishful thinking on the part of parents. The child watches his parents do it at home every day, although he doesn't do it, but subconsciously has mastered these life skills, if he can be given full trust and freedom, the child can do it, during which there will definitely be confusion, fatigue and even injury, but always take this step. The difference between a Chinese family and a Japanese family is when to let the child take this step, and when to make the child feel that he is no longer a child.

Secondly, there is the influence of the social level, which is the concept that most families in China have the idea that the child should be managed until he graduates from university. Many children also begin to realize that they are no longer children and have to bear some responsibilities for their families after they reach university. We cannot say that this statement is wrong, because the vast majority of families are like this, and under such family education in our country, the overall number of talents is not necessarily less than that of foreign countries.

My father told me more than once that after the children in the United States are 18 years old, the family will no longer give money, and they will work by themselves to earn money to pay for tuition and support themselves. What I want to say is that this will not work in China, at least most children can't do it, not because they don't want to, but because the social environment does not allow it--- vast majority of enterprises do not have this sense of social responsibility, and can provide jobs and benefits for this part of the population.

In fact, instead of letting them learn more life skills early, it is better to use the concept of our ancestors to cultivate children's ---kindness and filial piety, teach by word and deed, lead by example, educate children with kindness and filial piety from an early age, think more about others and parents, and not only pretend to be yourself. Instill this concept in your child and wait for him to realize for himself what he is going to take on and when, sooner or later, he will become the child you want him to be.

Because this child can be completely independent. Now we need to rethink the way we educate. Spoiling is not necessarily a good thing for children.

Because this 11-year-old boy's early morning is self-disciplined, industrious and organized, and the early morning that makes the most of the time is in stark contrast to the early morning in our Chinese family.