What are some of the actions of a dad in family life that can inadvertently ruin a child s life?

The famous British educator Spencer once pointed out in his "Spencer's Happy Education": "The characteristics of the father's body, temperament and thinking are easily regarded as idols in the hearts of children."

Children also gain confidence in the outside world from their fathers. The father is the guide for the child to the outside world, and the good and the bad have a huge impact. ”

The following 3 types of dads are easy to ruin their children's lives if they are not careful, I hope you don't get hit!

1. A father who doesn't talk much.

For children, Dad is like a majestic tree, reliable and warm. They trusted their father 100% and believed in his father's words.

Every time the father misses the appointment and every time he regrets it, he is grinding out the child's trust in the father little by little.

Benjamin Franklin once said, "If you stumble, you can get back to standing at once; You may never be able to recover your trust. "In the process of your child's growth, parents must not repeatedly break their trust in him, otherwise the child will no longer trust you.

2. A father with a wrong outlook.

As parents, there are two kinds of so-called three views, one is to instigate or acquiesce in the abduction and abduction of children to do bad things, which is obviously wrong and does not need to be discussed.

The other kind of "three wrong views" is much more hidden, and it is a common mistake that countless parents make unconsciously, that is: narrowly and stubbornly telling their children that those things they can't get are the best.

All education is embedded in everyday life. Parents' attitudes towards every detail of life, every word, and every most subtle and specific behavior may affect a child's life.

3, the father who is not visible.

In fact, there is an obvious phenomenon in today's society, that is, the "widowed" family, the mother is very hard at home to do all kinds of housework, busy with the children, but the father is busy working outside, rarely involved in the children's education and companionship.

Through the survey, it was found that children who grow up with their fathers often tend to have the following characteristics: tenacity, decisiveness, bravery, and independence.

Mom's education of children is more in life, more emotional, while Dad's education is more "rational", he plays a very obvious role in the development of children's thoughts and ways of thinking, and even establishing a good "three views".

As a parent, you must not rely on your own assumptions to educate your children, but more importantly, you must continue to learn, cultivate, and improve yourself.

May all fathers be a good father who is loved by their children.

Ignoring the hard work of the family will make the child feel that no matter how much he pays in the future, he will not get the reward or approval of others, and gradually lose interest in many things, his self-confidence will also be reduced, and he may develop bad habits.

Ignoring mom and disrespecting mom. If the father does not respect the mother, it will have an impact on the child's psychology, and it is easy to be unfavorable to the child's married life and affect the whole life.

In family education, some families may have fathers who are busy with their careers, and they are in a state of absence for the company's companionship and children's education. Some people will even say that this is the so-called "widowed parenting", in fact, hearing this word makes us feel very sad, maybe the father does not have time, maybe the father does not have this mood, but now that he has realized the problem, the father should try to let himself put some time in the family, more time with the child.

Every school has a parent group, and I believe everyone will realize that there are more mothers in the parent group.

Today, when the social group of the network is very convenient and developed, almost every class in every school has its own network contact group, parents and teachers of various subjects are in the group, and the standard of looking at parents is generally whose mother is more, it should be that some mothers have resigned to take care of their children at home full-time, or mothers are looking for jobs that are relatively easy to take care of their children for convenience, so that they will have more time to manage their children's learning and life.

Some fathers feel that taking care of their children is a woman's business, and they are doing their own business.

Even if some fathers have time, they may feel that their children should be mothers, and they are big men, and they should not do such mother-in-law things, but should work hard for their own careers, so they are always absent from their children's education work, and feel that it is not something that they must participate in.

Children will also have their own opinions on the absence of a father.

In fact, in the hearts of children, although father and mother are people they trust, but the love of the two people is different, the mother's love is more gentle, and the father's love is stronger, especially boys, in fact, they should have more contact with their fathers, so that their fathers can take their children to play more boys' games, and experience the strong character and strong physique of a little man. If the father is always busy with his own affairs and ignores the child, the child may also have some opinions about his father. Therefore, even if you are busy, you should try to find a little time every week to communicate with your children.

It is not a good thing for children, because this will have a certain impact on the growth of children, and there will be certain harm to children's growth, and children's hearts are also very eager for father's love, and the education of fathers and mothers is also different.

I think it's not good for children, in family life, fathers are always like a mountain, and fathers can help children to be independent and strong.

Bad, of course. Education without a father is incomplete, and it will also lead to insecurity and lack of love in children.

Many behaviors of parents will affect the future of children, parents think about problems, the way to deal with problems will affect children, parents' usual treatment of people, children in the eyes, will also affect their future life. Parents' love for their families, their commitment and dedication to the family, their hard work, and their persistence in learning will become an example for children to learn and have a profound impact on their children's lives. Overparenting is when parents do not consider the age and stage of their child's development, and arbitrarily impose what they think is right on their child.

These are not saying that my parents are bad, this is their way of education, I can look at it rationally now, but I didn't understand it before, and I felt that everything I did was wrong, so that now I am not confident and want to change, it is really difficult. For me, denying a child too much will have a long-lasting effect on the child's personality. Children are trained to become selfish and arrogant.

There are many examples in my circle of friends, where the children who are affected are exactly the same as their parents' misbehavior and practices, without any education. When you grow up and enter society, no one can get used to you.

Don't be a knowledgeable and uneducated parent. Some people have a high degree of education, but they are not necessarily literate. If a parent does not know how to live, does not know how to be kind to others, or even knows how to be kind to his own children, no matter how high his academic level is, he is also an uneducated person.

Do three things with your child on a regular basis: eat with your child, invite your child to fix toys, furniture or clothing, and occasionally ask your child to help with a problem at work. The third is to tell stories to children and invite children to tell stories themselves.

A pair of parents with good cultivation, family harmony and good living habits, children will also grow up healthily under the influence of their parents. In an unharmonious family, parents will also have all kinds of bad habits, which will bring all kinds of bad influences to children...

One is to spoil children excessively, so that children are always self-centered and do not consider the feelings of others. The second is that parents often quarrel, which makes the child's temper become irritable and irritable, and the child gradually cannot control his temper. The third is that there is no sense of responsibility in doing things, which will make children become irresponsible and lack a sense of responsibility.

These behaviors of mom and dad can ruin a child: they complain and often criticize the shortcomings and problems of family and friends; Addicted to mobile phones and computers every day, giving children a false example; Something that attaches too much importance to the appearance of material; I like to compare; Love to quarrel.

For example, parents spoil their children too much, always feel that their children are not well fed and sleeped, and do not let their children work, which will discourage their children's enthusiasm and make them feel that others will serve themselves as a matter of course, which is not conducive to children's growth.

Parents' greed for cheapness, parents' selfishness, parents like to complain about work and life, parents often quarrel and even do things, parents are fierce to others, parents are too strong to children, etc., will ruin children.

Mom and Dad usually have some negative education methods, ignoring the inner needs of children, ignoring the cultivation of children's learning habits, ignoring the time for children to exercise outdoors, and ignoring children's emotional expression, which will ruin a child.

The first is not to let the child do anything, but after the starvation, the parents are too eager to pursue appearance, such scum, the child will also pursue the appearance excessively, the parents have been swearing, the parents are irresponsible, the parents do not have the concept of time with the lead, these behaviors are actually a destruction of the child.

The first is disrespectful to the child, the second is a quarrel between the husband and wife, the third is not giving the child independent space, the fourth is snooping on the child's privacy, and the fifth is overprotective of the child.

Disrespecting children, casually looking through children's diaries, randomly scolding children, hitting children at will, and often saying sarcastic things about children.

Always playing with his mobile phone, not loving to go home after work, thinking that raising children is a woman's business, a father who doesn't play with his children, a father who always quarrels with his family, etc.

Those who have a particularly bad temper, especially like to smoke, drink, play games, and often beat and scold the child's father, will hurt the child.

A very selfish father, who doesn't care about the child's father at all, is very disappointed in the child's education, and the father feels that the child is not a particularly good father.

Although the child is generally taken care of by the mother from childhood to adulthood, in fact, it is the father who has a greater impact on the child in a family, because in most cases, the child can take the father as a role model and will also take the father as a bend of the arm, therefore, it is difficult to be a good father than a good mother, therefore, as a father, you must consider the child and must teach by word and deed. The actions of these fathers are easy to hurt the child, but they must be corrected quickly.

1. Dad who often loses his temper.

Some fathers are emotionally unstable, coupled with the pressure in life, they will lose their temper with their children at every turn, but the more the father is like this, the child will be very alienated from the father, and the child's personality is very bad, which will make the child's personality growth and development very extreme, or the child is easy to be timid, or the child will become bold and rebellious, and it is easy to deal with the orange bush thing in an extreme form when he grows up, so the father's tantrum is very bad for the child. It can affect your child's physical and mental health.

2. Dad who often drinks and smokes.

Most men smoke and drink, but everything needs to be controlled, smoking and drinking are the same, if the father's smoke smell and alcohol dependence is particularly large, at home is often not controlled at all, this will not be very good for the child's development, it is easy to endanger the child's physical and mental health, slowly will make the child avoid the father, and there are boys at home, it is easy to follow the father's actions when he grows up.

3. A father who despises his wife.

Some fathers subconsciously do not attach importance to the concept of their wives, and yell at their wives for no reason, and judge or support their wives casually as a family nanny, which not only makes their wives very hurt, but also affects the children, which will make the children especially disgusted with their fathers, and will also make the children's hearts very insecure, and will also make the children not learn to respect others since they were young, and cultivate bad psychological habits.

Fathers who often lose their tempers, some fathers are short-tempered, coupled with the pressure of life, they will understand whether they understand or not to inspire their children's tempers, but the more dads are like this, the children will be very estranged from their fathers, and they will be very bad for the child's character, which will make the child's character development very extreme.

This is a frequent beating and scolding of the child, and a frequent blow to the child's self-confidence, which is easy to hurt the child.

A father who often quarrels with his mother in front of his child's filial piety, or a father who often scolds his child, these behaviors are very stupid and easy to hurt the child, but they must be corrected quickly.

The following behaviors of the father will have a great impact on the child, the first loves to smoke, the second is to keep the mobile phone in his hand, the third loves to play games, the fourth is more irritable, the fifth is not honest, the sixth day is not able to see people, and the seventh makes the mother angry.

These situations should be avoided, do not swear in front of your child, do not drink, smoke and gamble in front of your child. I didn't get hit.