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I also feel the same as you, so for several years I have been trying to look for so-called communication skills from the Internet and books, and after a few years, I found that there is nothing at all, because the content above is about the content, and it is already the communication skills of people with good communication skills.
It doesn't help those of us who are not very socially good.
In the end, I realized that the root cause was whether I dared to take the first step, and it was better to practice it at once than to read a hundred books, and after trying the first step, you would find that it was actually fun to interact with people, and it was not difficult at all. Although sometimes it doesn't have the desired effect (for example, you want to talk to someone and they don't pay much attention to you, and later you find out that this problem can happen even to people with good social skills), the overall development is still good.
If you have to be brave to do something, you are not afraid to do it wrong, because to be honest, not too many people will pay attention to you, just like you will not pay attention to too many people, when things are done, you will have a sense of accomplishment, more willing to do it, and you can learn from experience if you don't succeed.
No inferiority, inferiority is just that you don't know yourself, everything is best with this.
In fact, I have many advantages (for example, I was good at math in high school, but a classmate always scored a lot higher than me, and I thought he was the best in math in the class, and then once I told him that I envied him, but he said, "He envied me, he just reads books every day, and I just read them when I have time, and in the end he is just a few points higher than me").
I thought about it, and it seemed like that, and then I thought I was the best in math in the class, and then the test results were indeed like this) So if you think you're bad, you're going to really change, so you have to think you're good.
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1) Praise others more and don't speak ill of others. (Praising others is equal to praising oneself) 2) Don't be too serious, don't get angry about small things, it's not worth it.
3) Be generous and always think about others, so that others will also know how good you are.
The relationship between people is very delicate, and it is reciprocated with a peach. You have to put down the shelves, and don't always think about what others should do to you. Only if you respect others, she will respect you in return.
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The answer to this question is complex, because the feelings of getting along with each other are complex and diverse. While some people may feel happy and comfortable because they are very comfortable and relaxed with you, the middle hole does not mean that everyone will feel the same way.
First of all, how people feel about each other depends on many factors, such as each other's personality, interests, cultural background, occupation, family background, and so on. If you're very comfortable and relaxed with someone, it may be because you have similarities in these areas, or you're both easy to get along with. However, for others, they may not have the same background, experiences, and interests, so they may feel different with you.
Even if you are very comfortable and relaxed with someone, it does not mean that the other person will feel the same way. Some people may feel upset or uncomfortable for a variety of reasons, such as they may feel inferior, anxious, or nervous. Or they may feel uncomfortable or disliked about slowing down your behavior or language.
So, even if you feel comfortable and relaxed, it doesn't mean that the other person will feel the same way.
Finally, getting along is a subjective feeling, and everyone's feelings are unique. Even if you are very comfortable and relaxed with someone, it doesn't mean that everyone else will feel the same way. Therefore, we need to respect each person's feelings and personality differences, and not try to guess at other people's feelings, but try to understand their thoughts and feelings.
In conclusion, being comfortable and relaxed with a person is a subjective feeling, and each person's feelings are unique. We need to respect everyone's feelings and personality differences, and try to understand their thoughts and feelings.
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Nowadays, it is very important to have good relationships. Only with good popularity, many things can be easily solved. Therefore, when we interact with people, we must treat friendship sincerely.
So. How do we relate to others? Here are six good ways to get along with people.
Proactive communication.
In the process of getting along with others, when there is a difference of opinion between the two parties on a certain matter or unnecessary conflicts and contradictions, both parties should take the initiative to communicate and exchange with each other, so as to turn hostility into friendship. Different people should have different opinions on the same matter, and as long as they communicate in a timely manner, opinions and even contradictions will become "good things" that promote people's feelings.
Learn to accept the opinions of others.
For others' humble advice on some things, we need to accept it seriously from the heart, do not go in the left ear and out the right ear, take it as a side wind, because the other party is willing to teach you, it is enough to show that people are willing to make you a friend, only with people who are better than themselves, and get along better with people who are better than themselves, can they become better.
Helpful. People need care and help, especially cherish the care and help they get in their own predicament, and regard it as a "charcoal in the snow", and regard the helper as a true friend and best friend. Helping others doesn't have to be material help, but a simple gesture or words of care can make others excited for a long time.
If you can help someone who has hurt you, you will not only show that you are broad-minded, but also help to "turn enemies into friends" and create a more relaxed interpersonal environment for yourself.
Learn to be honest. Be honest with each other, treat each other sincerely, communicate with others, get to know each other better, and by the way, better understand yourself. Of course, if only verbal communication is far from enough, more is actually the exchange of some micro-expressions such as eyes, movements, etc., as the so-called, no matter who or what, we must learn to observe words and colors.
Witty and humorous. Everyone likes to associate with people who are witty and humorous, rather than with people who quarrel with people at every turn, or who are depressed and boring. Humor, so to speak, is a magnet that attracts everyone; It can also be said to be a lubricant that turns annoyance into happiness, pain into pleasure, and embarrassment into harmony.
Look at people's strengths. No one is perfect, everyone has shortcomings, if you always stare at the shortcomings of others, your relationship will definitely not be good, on the contrary, learn to empathize, look at the advantages of others, you will find that the more you look at others, the more pleasing to the eye, you can get along with people, you will know how to use people's strengths. A lone branch is not spring, a hundred flowers bloom in spring.
Only people who know how to get along with others can succeed. If you know how to use people's strengths, you will have the quality of a leader.
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It's actually quite simple to get along with others, it's easy for girls to talk about a beauty star TV series or something, and it's easy for boys to play a game and smoke a cigarette together, eat barbecue, drink or something.
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Man must first learn to love himself.
Believe in yourself, talk more and communicate more with your heart, so that you can slowly learn to get along with others.
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You must be good to yourself before you can get along well with others.
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I would like to send you a quote that I admire: to be tolerant of others is to be kind to yourself.
There is a relationship of interest between people, because people have selfish desires, who will not love themselves, are people on earth like this, as long as you have a tolerant heart, do not worry about others, how can others get along with you, you must learn to forget, and remember, good at forgetting the bad of others, remember the good of others, so that you will have a beautiful heart, if you remember the bad of others every day, try to ask your brain memory is so big, care more about helping others a little, If you have less selfish desires, others will treat you equally well, I don't believe you try it in your future work and life, it will definitely work, if there is still no progress, then because you don't care enough about others, you don't do well enough!
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Since ancient times, human relations has been a very important discipline.
The differences between people lead to problems in the relationship between people.
Let me help you answer with a few common relationships.
Needless to say, true friends should treat each other with sincerity. and elders to be respectful and humble. And the younger generation should be tolerant and teachable. Men and women should be courteous. and the villain is treated with caution.
In general, raise your hand and don't hit the smiley person, as long as you are polite and always smile. Everyone will want to be with you.
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When dealing with people, remember these 6 pieces of advice.
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You have to be good at finding your own problems, you have a hard time getting along with everybody, that's your own problem.
Whether you are not comfortable making friends or getting along with others, I think you should be brave enough to find your own problems and try to correct them.
Nowadays, many people are generally more homely, and there are indeed difficulties in making friends, as long as you take the first step bravely, in fact, it will become much easier later.
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It may be influenced by your personality and you are not very good at getting along with others, but your heart desires to get along with others, and in the process of getting along, you don't know what you should do to maintain interpersonal relationships. As long as you can slowly open the knot, take the first step bravely, treat others gently, and spend some patience, you can naturally get along with others easily.
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Schopenhauer said that communication is the source of suffering, and the difficulty of getting along with each other is that they cannot understand each other, and people can never understand each other. Therefore, if you want to get along with other people properly, you must first fit other people, and through observation and conversation, you can understand each other in a real sense and empathize with each other in order to get along better.
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Maybe you're a little introverted, it's because you're too shy, you sometimes care too much about things, and you're very sensitive to what others say about you. I often push myself into a state, so it's hard to deal with people. Because you are afraid of the other person, you will feel disappointed.
Another reason is that you are too strong, and most people don't like to be around people who are too strong.
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Maybe it's because of your personality, I think it's that those people in your family have been more introverted since childhood, so they have cultivated you to be the same kind of personality, and I don't think it's good to be a little more extroverted than others. People get along very well with each other.
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Listen more to your friends' opinions, when you interact with friends, when you chat, if you say that the topic is gone, the scene is very embarrassing, if this number of times is more, then you should listen carefully to your friends' opinions, think that there are problems with your communication methods, what are the problems with your behavior, and then face these problems to solve it in order to gradually make your circle of friends wider and wider. Sometimes we are limited by ourselves and can't see what our own shortcomings are, so it's important to ask for other people's opinions.
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Of course, it's to get along with people with your heart, and exchange your sincerity for others' sincerity.
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Think more about what others care about, and you will know what you should do.
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