Regarding the psychological obstacles given by the elders, how to counsel the elderly psychologicall

You all have no problem.

If there is a problem, then your uncle has a problem. His problem is role dysfunction (bringing the role in society into the family), he is just an elder at home, not a leader, scolding juniors, and not a subordinate in the unit, scolding is not right.

Your feelings about him are known in psychology as the "halo effect", also known as the "halo effect". It is a tendentious perception that his power becomes an aperture of light and is exaggerated, and other advantages or disadvantages are withdrawn. It has an oppressive effect on your psyche and will affect your normal performance.

This feeling will disappear as you grow up and learn to evaluate others objectively. There is no need to see a psychiatrist.

I recommend that you read a book on the theory of object relations. Maybe your strange reactions and patterns are gone. Why do you need the approval of your elders?

It's clear that your uncle has a tendency to power in relationships, and you have a tendency to dependence. You are not confident and always like to ask for other people's opinions, ostensibly to ask for guidance, but in fact you want to get closer through inquiry, while your uncle likes to control people, always control others through opinions and suggestions, and belittle others. He may not have thought it that way, but that's how he behaves.

Therefore, many of our problems and confusion lie in not reading, low experience, lack of clear understanding of the world, and confusion by the emotions in front of us.

First, I watched the confrontation between you and @ lonely but not a flower, and it was very interesting. I think you're still a more confident person with self-judgment. But @loneliness is not a flower, and there is indeed the right place in it.

You say that he and she are partial and I agree, but at the same time, you yourself are a little partial and completely negated him. From this point of view, there are traces of the conflict between you and your uncle. If you sometimes ignore rational analysis because of emotional disgust, it may be easier to reinforce this "hate-fear" pattern in your communication with your uncle.

What you can do is that when he scolds you, listen carefully to every sentence, use your own reason to think about whether his words are reasonable and absurd, and then take what is available and ignore what is nonsense, so that you will not hate him (because you have taken what is available) and you will not be afraid of him (ignore what is nonsense). If he is still constructive in some areas, that's the best; If not, don't worry. Your uncle may be more rigid, and it will be difficult to hope that he will suddenly become clear.

First of all, it is necessary to classify them according to their level of education. Those who have a level of knowledge must be reasonable, and those who have a low level of education must be told in an easy-to-understand way.

Every Chung Yeung Festival, the children will think of expressing their gratitude to the elderly. The gifts that can be bought with great effort are not necessarily as good as talking and taking a walk with the elderly.

Depression, anxiety, somatoform disorders, and sleep disorders are mental illnesses that almost all young and middle-aged people have, and older people have. Older patients exhibit a wide variety of negative emotions and often interact with physical illness. Reason: Inability to adapt to retirement life is prone to psychological disorders.

As well as the lack of care and support for their children and society, it is also an important factor affecting the mental health of the elderly.

Suggestion: Adjust your mentality by yourself and care for your children.

Cultivating a hobby, before and after retirement is key.

Gong said that the period before and after retirement is a critical period for the prevention of mental illness. Some retired elderly people may not be able to adapt, especially those who have been leaders, have a high level of education, and have many social activities in the past, and the gap between retirement and retirement is large, so they should be fully prepared in advance.

The so-called preparation is not only the gradual relaxation of the mind, but also the cultivation of hobbies. Doctors suggest that hobbies should be more recreational and sports, and outdoor activities can be more, but they must be beneficial to health. At the same time, hobbies are not confined to individuals or collectives, as long as they are suitable for themselves.

Routines also need to be regular, as reversing day and night will only further aggravate physical and mental illness. Adjust your mentality, let go of what you should put down The body should be well maintained, and the mind should also be able to let go. Gong Meien said that some elderly people like to drill the horns of the bull, and they have to seek politics when they are not in their position, and they always can't let go of their previous work and life, so that they often compare themselves with others and others.

If you are too serious about family trivialities, you have to take care of this, and you have to interfere with that, not only your children will be disgusted, but you will also be unhappy.

When you start a new life, you should say goodbye to the past. The consequence of being too persistent is often more lost in the heart. Gong Meien said that the elderly should accept the changes in their lives. Seek medical attention in case of psychological problems.

After the occurrence of psychological problems, do not make too many excuses for yourself, if after a period of adjustment, it is still difficult to adjust the mood, you should see a doctor in time, if necessary, medication**.

In addition, attend regular medical check-ups.

So that if there is a problem with the body in time**. Children should be given adequate care.

From the perspective of children, the first thing is to give the elderly better economic security. With a certain economic foundation, the old man will also put down a big stone in his heart. Spiritual comfort is even more important.

Take time to visit the elderly who don't live together, and make a ** from time to time, eat and chat with the elderly, so that they can feel that they are concerned and loved.

There are many benefits to living with children, but if older people are unhappy, don't force them as children, even if you think they will be less lonely. Gong Meien said that some young people call their parents to take care of their children and enjoy family fun by the way, but as a result, the elderly work too hard, or do not handle family conflicts well, and are prone to quarrels with their children or in-laws, hurting their bodies and hearts.

Sense of decline: As we age, our body and energy are not as good as before, and some elderly people will have a sense of self-consciousness and aging. At this time, if you can often participate in social welfare activities or do some housework as much as you can, such as ball games, calligraphy, grocery shopping, sweeping the floor, taking care of grandchildren, etc.

In this way, it not only increases the spiritual sustenance, but more importantly, alleviates their sense of self-aging.

Loneliness: In old age, you often encounter some unexpected things, such as widowhood, serious illness, the life and death of relatives and friends, and children living alone away from each other, which will cause psychological loneliness. As a junior, we should be considerate and take care of our lives, and give certain comfort and compensation emotionally.

Even if the widow remarries, the younger generations should understand and handle it correctly.

Impatience: With many years of social experience and insight, they have a sense of self-esteem, always regard themselves as masters, let their children obey them everywhere, and refuse to let go of the economic power they hold, and will be impatient when they encounter unsatisfactory or trivial matters in their children's lives. In fact, the elderly should strengthen their own control, restrain their worries, be open-minded, and leave the housework to the young. Children should respect and honor the elderly, be patient and persuasive in case of trouble, be tolerant and generous in non-principled trivial matters, and give priority to forbearance, so as to achieve harmonious and harmonious family relations.

Feelings of hopelessness: In old age, physiological changes increase, such as hearing loss, poor vision, especially in public places, unable to hear clearly, often feel embarrassed. If you encounter the unfilial piety of your children and the rejection of your family, you will be too sad and angry, and it will easily cause depression or disorder, especially when you are sick, you will be more likely to have a sense of hopelessness.

At this time, the younger generation should try their best to give them spiritual and life thoughtfulness and comfort, so that the elderly can enjoy their old age.

A series of psychological problems in the elderly are caused by a variety of reasons. For example, changes in the living environment, changes in relatives and friends, etc. After years of research by psychologists, it has been found that the causes of psychological problems in the elderly are mainly concentrated in the following aspects.

1 Psychological problems caused by job changes According to China's policies and regulations, people will retire when they reach old age, no longer work, and enjoy their old age in peace. Having just retired from a job they have worked for decades, the elderly can feel at a loss and at a loss. At the same time, the decrease in economic income, the separation of work partners, and the change of social roles and living environment will cause psychological problems for the elderly, and they are also prone to disappointment, confusion, frustration, sadness, anger, suspicion and other negative attitudes.

2 Psychological disorders caused by family problemsAfter retirement, most of the elderly spend their old age at home, and their spouses, children, and families have become their first objects of concern instead of work. If there is a conflict in the family and the relationship between members is strained, it will cause the elderly to have a serious feeling of loss, sadness, and depression. What is even more unfortunate is that if one of the old husbands and wives dies suddenly, it will cause serious mental blows to the elderly and cause them to fall into extreme grief.

3 Psychological problems caused by changes in living environmentSome elderly people have children who are not working around them, and they may have the idea of taking them with their parents after they retire. Suddenly changing the living environment, from the countryside to the city or changing to a new city or moving abroad, the unfamiliar environment, unfamiliar people, cultural differences will make the elderly unable to adapt for a while, resulting in huge psychological pressure, seriously affecting their mental health.

4 Economic and reputation problems: If the elderly are financially constrained due to various reasons, they will have a heavy psychological burden, and if they are accidentally cheated or stolen, they will be annoyed or even miserable. And the elderly who have worked hard all their lives, if they do not get the respect of others or have their reputation damaged in their old age, they will have a serious psychological imbalance, feel that they have lived in vain for so many years, and have a serious feeling of being abandoned by society and the people around them. All of these will cause great psychological harm to the elderly.

5 Natural and man-made disasters The physical function of the elderly has been seriously reduced, and they should not experience the big wind and rain like the young people, but should enjoy their old age in peace, and live a plain and fulfilling life, without major waves. Therefore, they are most afraid of encountering natural and man-made disasters and social unrest in their later life, which will also bring them serious physical and mental harm.

1. Empty nesters generally have a strong sense of loneliness.

Factors such as social lifestyle, absence of children, and increasing age can all contribute to loneliness among the elderly. It is not surprising that some empty nesters have been living a life of "one lock and one light when they go out", and have nothing to do but eat and sleep every day. For the loneliness of empty nesters, it requires a joint effort of society, ** and individuals, and the personal aspect:

Participate in more community activities, enrich your entertainment life, and form pairs with the elderly in the same community to help each other and take care of each other. **Aspect: You can improve the pension mechanism and give more support mentally and psychologically.

Social aspect: social forces can be mobilized to raise social funds and mobilize social volunteers to help the elderly.

2. Empty nesters are prone to depression.

Depression is an affective mental disorder characterized by significant and persistent mood depression, and depression among empty nesters is one of the most common mental illnesses among the elderly. Survey results show that the proportion of empty nesters suffering from depression is much higher than that of non-empty nesters, and the occurrence of depression among empty nesters is obviously very related to their environment. Empty nesters are prone to depression due to the lack of companionship of their children and their retirement at home, with nothing to do for a day.

3. Empty nesters have a strong sense of loss.

Most empty nesters have no job and no career, and are particularly prone to a sense of loss, which will be even stronger for those who are in a position of power before retirement. At this time, empty nesters will feel old, useless, and depressed. For this sense of loss, the elderly can find some jobs within their ability to make their lives more fulfilling.

4. Empty nesters are prone to aging.

The feeling of aging for empty nesters refers to the feeling that the elderly feel that their physical strength and energy are not as good as before, and they are unable to do things. When the empty nesters have this sense of aging, they should have a correct understanding and face it calmly, and they can also appropriately strengthen physical exercise.