It s useless to put in a lot of effort

Brother, you must have never been in love, to be honest, falling in love at this age, there is really no result, instead of finding one you like, it is better to find one that likes you, remember my brother's words: falling in love and getting married in the future are completely 2 concepts, My brother is a person who has come over, and my brother also likes beautiful women when he was studying, but beauties are often vases, and they are not useful in looking good, so it is better to spend their energy on learning, and when you get out of society, you will find that money and strength are the real foothold you are in society. Based on a key factor among women, and appearance is just a very one-sided thing, maybe I say that you don't feel it now, but as long as you study hard, you have a good job, stability and a good income in the future, and you are afraid that girls will not come to you?

I also think it's very unfair, but emotional matters can't be forced, you don't have fate.

She doesn't like you, even if you are good to her, maybe you can't move her, maybe you have no fate, don't be inferior, maybe, if you are good to other girls, others will be moved by your heart, will be with you, and the two of you will be very happy, not necessarily the girl you liked in the past. So, have faith in yourself.

You don't have such low self-esteem, you don't care what others say or think, just be yourself. If you think about it, there are ugly people in the world who have all kinds of defects, do they have to worry about these problems every day? Many of them are not the same and live happily every day!

With a little patience, you'll find someone who likes you.

I've seen it. From a man's point of view, it's okay, but it's a little special.

I'll give you a suggestion to be fatter, don't pretend to be cute, be mature.

And show what you're good at, don't learn any bullshit trends, choose what suits you, you are you, believe in yourself, and you'll be great.

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In the journey of life, we will encounter a lot of things that do not go our way, and we will meet many people who we find incredible and unreasonable. But so what, life is not sweet to us like marshmallows. We should learn to complain less and understand every grind it brings us.

Because there are too many desires and too many unwillingness, we will struggle desperately and try to make ourselves go higher. If you don't understand this, I think most of your life will be occupied by complaining.

Many people say how unfair the world is, you will feel unfair because you are not working hard enough, and life is definitely fair for people who work hard.

When they see that others are better than themselves, many people will think about how rich their family is, how many connections they have, and then they will start to complain about why they can't be like him.

However, you must understand that everything he has must have been obtained through struggle. Maybe it wasn't through his own struggles, or maybe his parents created it for him.

But so what, you only see the brilliance of others, but you can't see the bitterness and tears of others. If you don't work hard, you will not live well, I believe in the benefits of hard work, and I believe that life will not be bad to those who work hard.

Category: Annoyances >> in love.

Problem description: I loved him so much, I loved him very much!

But. I really worked hard and really gave in!

If there is no result in the effort, then all the previous efforts have been in vain?

Analysis: 1. You have paid to love him, and success or failure does not have to be yours;

2. Not every relationship has a beginning and an end, and flowers do not necessarily have results;

3. An infatuated person will love what he loves all his life without regrets or complaints;

4. Your contribution is to love him, not for a simple purpose;

5. The highest level of loving him is to make him happy, if you can't finish it, just let it be;

6. There is no such thing as worthiness or not, and love should not be utilitarian;

7. There is no saying that your efforts are in vain, then your love will deteriorate.

There is a great law in the universe called the law of giving. It tells us that as long as you give, you must gain, and if you don't get enough, it means that you don't pay enough, and if you want to get more, you must pay more.

There are a lot of people who don't understand the law of giving, and they always want to get something, but they don't get it, because they never want to give something first.

When you keep giving and don't care about the return, you will find that a lot of gains come naturally.

As long as you can give first, and keep giving, so that others can get what they want, others will definitely pay you back what you want, you can make God owe you debt, and one day God will repay you.

Pay is always proportional to the gain, the more you give, the more you get.

But sometimes you will find that the pay is not proportional to the gain, that is to say, you pay more, but receive less, at this time, you must not stop paying, because in the end there may be one day, you will pay less, but gain more, time will prove that your pay is not in vain, just accumulate with time in inverse proportion, but it is still in line with the law of pay, unfortunately 99% of people have stopped paying at this time.

You have to know what others want and help others get what they want.

If you are a salesman, give to the customer first, and he will make you reap. Your job is not to make money, but to give a lot to each customer.

If you are a leader and constantly give for your subordinates and help them get what they want, you will still get what you want in the end.

If you are a parent, give first to your children; If you are a teacher, give to your students first.

No matter how you give, your job is to give for the sake of giving, not to get for the sake of getting.

Success is a matter of what you're willing to give in exchange for what, not what you gain unilaterally.

Do you know why a garden is full of flowers? Because pollen is constantly spreading. Do you know why pollen spreads?

Because the bees are collecting nectar, the bees spread pollen, and the flowers have a way to get the continuation of life because they give pollen to the bees, and the laws of nature tell us this truth.

As long as you keep giving, you will find that you will become richer and more successful in life.

You always have to pay more than you get, for example, the boss pays you 500 yuan a month, if you only do 500 yuan of things, you have no way to succeed, you have to do more than 500 yuan of things, if you do things worth 5000 yuan, I think you should get a raise, this is the secret of success.

If a customer buys 1,000 yuan of products from you, and you return 10,000 yuan to him for service, you will have the opportunity to sell more, but you still need to pay again, and so on, and you will enter a virtuous circle.

Remember, it's not that you give because you get it, you get it because you give it.

Self-analysis:1What price am I willing to pay in exchange for success?

2.Who in my life needs my help?

3.What are three things I can do to the people around me at once?

4.I'm going to do it right away.

Generally speaking, the effort is rewarded. Sometimes the payoff will come a little later, and sometimes the payoff may be so small that you don't realize it.

Because it is destined that there are some things that you are trying in vain, and it should be yours that others can't rob you no matter how hard they try.

Not all hard work will pay off, and sometimes mistakes will make things that should be yours pass you by. Leave regrets in life, but if you don't work hard, there will be no hope at all, a person can't be useless, there is always his shining point, to be good at discovering yourself, pay may not be rewarded, but there will be gains. No matter how big or small the harvest is, it is your own effort.

Then it can only show that the direction of efforts is wrong.

If you think about it this way, why do you have to give you something in return? Why, others are also paying, why should they give it to you? You give more than others, you help, that's just your ego feeling is an illusion.

I definitely don't feel like I'm right. Even if you pay more, why should you give it, do others have to listen to you? Others also have the right to make their own decisions, whether to pay or not to pay is your business, and whether to give or not to give back is someone else's business.

You are equal.

Pay may not necessarily be rewarded, in most cases it is planting beans and getting beans and earnest, planting melons and getting melons, what kind of pay and what kind of return. But some things are called to change the basis that no matter how much you pay, it will not give you the same answer as you think, sometimes on the contrary, as the so-called some things are unattainable, it will not be transferred by your personal will at all. I think that when looking at relationship problems, you should hold the saying that only by giving can you get the return you want, and it is impossible to get a return if you don't pay, because you don't give so there is no return at all.

As for how much to pay, how long will it take to have the result you want, it depends on what you personally think, as long as you feel that after paying, the answer you get is that although there are regrets but no regrets, it is also good, because we will not know the answer before paying, only if you really experience it will be full and there will be no regrets, and getting it is "pain" is also an answer, because it is at the same level as the "happiness" you feel after getting the answer you want, and it is two sides of the same thing. There is nothing wrong with suffering or happiness, as long as you really give and live a fulfilling life.

Hard work may not be rewarded, but also the right method, which is the right way. For example, learning to slow down the sedan car is not that the harder you work, the better the time, the better the results, but also the right method.

--- do a good job in concrete work step by step in a down-to-earth and unremitting manner.

1. "Putting in as much effort as anyone else's Iwawa Trouble" can be said to be the core of learning at "Moriwa Juku".

1. People who continue to make good results are all people who have put in more than the usual number of efforts.

2 There is no genius in the world. There are only "hard-working celebrities".

3 No need to work on it secretly. These celebrities did not deliberately hide in the shadows and work on secretly. It's just that when they're trying, the people around them are sleeping, eating, playing, and that's it.

Beginner. 1 The result of life and work = way of thinking * enthusiasm (hard work) * ability.

According to this formula, to get a better result than others, the more effort you put in, the better the result under the same conditions of "ability".

2. Learning, awakening, and practice.

No matter how good we learn, if we don't form our own understanding and practice, that is, if we don't apply what we have learned, it will be completely meaningless.

Intermediate. 1 Why should we "put in as much effort as anyone else."

1) The law of squares.

For example, the result of "10:10" squared is 100:100The ratio of the two has not changed.

But the square result of 10:12 is 100:144, and the increase is not 20%, but 44%.

If you want to get 2 times the results, you need to put in twice the effort (root number 2) for 3-5 years; If you want to get 3 times the results, you need to get double the effort (root number 3) for 3-5 years.

Why do you have to continue for 3-5 years, because the efficiency of the effort and the depth of the study vary from person to person. Therefore, 3 years for the fast and 5 years for the slow will definitely be effective.

2) Geometric multiples.

The development of the enterprise is not in accordance with a straight line straight forward, its speed is accelerating with the development, showing a rapid upward trend, is a geometric multiple level of development.

Don't expect to achieve it overnight, even if you make a little bit of progress every day, the results will still be amazing in the long run.

3 How to practice "putting in as much effort as anyone else".

1) When you feel "That's it, hold on for another 10 minutes."

3) Provision of health care capabilities (physical version).

a jEat less, eat only seven or eight full at each meal.

b Fasting If there is something in the stomach all the time, the body will not get a better rest, and there will be no time and energy to kill germs.

c Let the body consume more good and beneficial foods. Such as clean water, vegetables, fruits, etc.

Note: I read the book "Twelve Articles of Management" every day, and by the way, I will divide the notes into sheds and enjoy them).

Japanese entrepreneur Kazuo Inamori wrote "Efforts No less than anyone's efforts". Just listening to the title of the book is already very touching.

Everyone is trying to live and work hard. The results were very different. What is the reason for this?

This book makes a difference in this sentence. Nu Liang's fluid strength is also graded, and he feels that he has worked hard, whether he is doing his best or just working hard within the scope of his cognition. For example, if it is just a simple sales product, promoting products is a general effort, and a deeper effort is to explore potential customers, maintain existing customers, and even more powerful, that is, not only to learn product knowledge, learn to learn sales skills, but also to understand the hearts of customers, and some will also learn related psychology, want to learn more long-term development and learn management knowledge and so on.

There is nothing you can think of and nothing you can't do.

The group of people who have done well in each industry, don't think about what shortcuts she has taken, and look at the effort she has put in that you can't imagine.