How to overcome the loneliness you are born with?

Humans are social animals! So loneliness is not innate!

Why is there loneliness? Take myself as an example, I have never felt lonely in elementary school, junior high school, and high school, because I have parents and elders at home, and I have brothers and friends outside! So I won't be alone!

Since I went to university, the university in my imagination is completely different from the university in reality!

It's okay to start first, I'm in a different place with my ex-girlfriend, I chat and fart with my roommate in the dormitory every night, I go to class together during the day, and I play with my roommate on the weekend, and I live a lot of life every day, and later, there are more and more elementary school students who cross the line of fire, and we give up the line of fire! The roommates threw themselves into the arms of League of Legends, and the embarrassing thing is that I don't like to play League... Slowly, there were 8 people in the dormitory, and I didn't play games, they were talking about the fun of the game with great interest, but I couldn't interject!

That's when the loneliness comes and it gets stronger ... At this time, my girlfriend became an ex-girlfriend, and 8 people in the dormitory gave up one by one, and the other 7 people in the dormitory were doing the game, but I had nothing to do, although I didn't play together in addition to the game, the dormitory relationship was OK, but the loneliness was also very uncomfortable! Because of this, I had nothing to do, and I was depressed for a semester, and later, I felt that I couldn't continue, so I slowly cheered up!

During this time, I also tried to fit into their gaming circle! It's a pity it failed! If you don't like this game, you don't like it, the circles are different, don't melt hard! And I feel more and more that playing games is really a waste of life, and I think my life has become more meaningful!

So I started planning how to keep myself from getting bored!

Let's start with my hobbies! I love watching movies, so I've watched all the movies I've been collecting for a long time! Watch a movie, grab a snack in your hand, and watch it while eating!

It's a little day and it's quite moisturizing! But you can't watch movies every day, can you? Watch up to two movies a day, what to do with the rest of the time!

I've always wanted to go to the gym minus**! Just do it, get a fitness card, and go to the gym after class every day! Follow the tutorial on Keep to practice, although I haven't lost much fat, but the loneliness is gone! I also met some friends who love fitness at the gym! <>

Later, I followed the teacher to make a micro-film to participate in the micro-film competition, and took portraits with my classmates! I think my university is fulfilling!

Be yourself, do what you want to do, do what you love, and don't let yourself be idle! In my spare time, I went to practice billiards, and later cultivated billiards as my hobby!

I conclude by myself that only when there is emptiness in my heart will there be loneliness!

As long as you fill the emptiness, there will be no loneliness! It's okay to spend a day idle, and it's okay to be busy for a day, so why not make yourself a little fuller?

If one day you are also idle, I suggest you go on a trip, or to cultivate a hobby, people walk in the rivers and lakes, how can you not have a skill!

In college, it's not good to be too gregarious, learning to be lonely is an excellent start, and when you adapt to this kind of life, you have a certain ability, and your heart becomes strong, and you will enjoy being alone!

Loneliness is a very distressing thing, in fact, everyone lives in the heart of a lonely little person, if you let it grow, then he will become extremely strong, and finally develop to the point that you can't control it. And it will control you, control you, and make you feel like a loner and unusually lonely all the time.

Everyone's loneliness is a little different, some feel lonely because they can't integrate into the collective, and some are indeed the loneliness of missing their hometown after leaving home, in fact, loneliness is not innate, it is all because of the acquired family environment, the surrounding environment of their own situation. This feeling sometimes makes you feel inferior and makes you feel that the whole world is against you. It makes you distressed, but you can't overcome it, in fact, you won't be unable to overcome it, you're just afraid to express yourself, people need to be sincere in their interactions, you take someone sincerely, and others will treat you sincerely.

If you want to overcome loneliness, you need to speak, and then become active, participate in more social activities, contact some people, don't close yourself off, talk to people more, for example, you like basketball, and your unfamiliar classmates also like basketball, then you can start from basketball and slowly extend other aspects of your meal, so that you start to become good at talking, once you become good at talking, then you can make more friends, and slowly your loneliness will disappear. Another point is to participate in more activities so that you can fully release the stress within you. Going out and exercising with your classmates is the key to overcoming your loneliness.

After these aspects, you will gradually make friends who are sincere to you, and the kind of friends who can help you when you need it. Don't be ashamed to express yourself, don't let yourself be closed, talk more, and within a while, the lonely villain inside you will get smaller and smaller. And you'll have more and more friends.

Find a spiritual support. It can be reading, it can be fitness, it can be drawing, it can be work......You're lonely anyway, and you can focus more on your own thoughts. Spend your lonely time on a hobby, and over time, you'll find that you feel good about being friends with yourself.

Present your own ideas in a way, which can be written, drawn, or poured out in a ** way. You'll find out how wonderful this feeling of loneliness is, because people who are busy socializing don't have as much time to understand what they're thinking like you do. Loneliness is a very good and rare state of a person, and the person who is happy in loneliness will have his unique charm, not to cater to the affinity of the public, but also to be maverick and mysterious.

I'm also a person who has always felt like I'm lonely. There have been many friends who are like passers-by, they are all very good and very good to themselves, but with the passage of time, the space changes, and there are very few left. I'm not good at communicating.,I don't like to take the initiative.,So every time I recall the hurried past of passers-by, I feel that I'm lonely now.。

Slowly, I seem to have lost some of my ability to communicate, so it's hard to make any friends in a new environment. There are still a lot of people around me every day, and I no longer know how to pick up stubble, but I am in a daze in the crowd, and sometimes I feel helpless in a trance, and then I get used to it. There is a lyric that describes it very well: "No matter how many people are around, it still feels like one person."

After a long time, you feel as if a wall has been built in your heart, and very few people can walk in it again. Did you actually take the initiative to build it? No, it's like a road that has been stepped on, and there are more people stepping on it, and you think it's a road, but after a long time, no one comes back, and the grass grows as lush as ever.

If you want to overcome this loneliness, you have to invite someone into your heart, show him a clear path, let him understand you, let him see your sincerity.

Enjoy it or beat it.

Personally, I think there will still be loneliness, but if you want to overcome him, it will be better not to ask others to do everything with you, but to do it independently.

<> 1. Focus on one thing, and you can forget loneliness.

Many people have a sense of loneliness, and this loneliness is innate. When you are in an unfamiliar environment, when your ideas are not accepted by others, when you are alone, you will feel lonely. If you want to get rid of this feeling, the best way is to make yourself full, keep busy, although it is a bit hard, but it will also make you forget loneliness, and you will feel extremely down-to-earth inside.

Second, if you are confident and can get the admiring eyes of many people, you will be able to overcome loneliness.

When a person has no friends and no one pays attention to himself, he will feel a little lonely, and he is like having nothing to do with the ** environment, and no one cares about his existence. At this time, you can work harder to make yourself confident, and when you are very good, there will be many people who pay attention to yourself, and even these yourself, and at that time, the loneliness will naturally disappear from your heart.

3. Make friends, and with the company of friends, you won't feel lonely.

Some people feel lonely, mainly because they are too introverted, have few real friends, and are not even willing to deal with others. After you are idle, you will only feel that you don't even have someone to really talk to, and the loneliness will arise spontaneously. Although it is often said that it is enough to have a confidant in life, if a person only has this one friend, he will still feel lonely in his heart.

Therefore, whether it is in daily life or at work, he should try his best to make more friends, even if he can't become a confidant, he can talk, chat, and pass the time in his spare time. At least you can drive away the loneliness in your heart. In fact, many people want to wrap themselves up so that others don't see through their hearts, and in the dead of night, there seems to be a sense of loneliness from the heart.

It's just that one should try not to let this loneliness affect you too much.

Loneliness refers to negative feelings such as emptiness, loneliness, pain, sadness, etc., when you are alone, and loneliness may be something that everyone has to face.

1. You can accept your loneliness, sometimes loneliness is just some of the same feelings as happiness and happiness, only to accept it, not so anxious, can you slowly come out.

2. Get out of your personal circle and communicate with others sincerely.

3. You can actively participate in some beneficial things, such as participating in some volunteer activities and so on to help others, which may reduce your feelings of loneliness. Then go out for a walk, go for a run in nature, go for a walk, and so on.

4. It is also necessary to determine the goal of life, think about what the goal of life is, so as to cultivate and choose some interests and hobbies, a person has love in life, and the pursuit will alleviate this loneliness.

No one likes to be alone, but loneliness is also a very normal emotion. There are many reasons why loneliness can occur, such as just losing a loved one or friend, arriving in an unfamiliar city, etc. Long-term loneliness can have serious health effects and can also lead to psychological problems such as depression.

If you want to get out of loneliness, you need to change your lifestyle and participate in more social activities. If you feel lonely, don't be silent. The first step to escaping loneliness is to talk to people more.

If no one is around, or don't like chatting with friends or family, it's important to make a change. Share your true feelings with friends and family, and help others so that others will be happy to talk to you. Everyone has their own interests or hobbies, and if you're feeling lonely, try to find someone who shares your interests.

Engage in activities that you are passionate about, go through certain groups or interest groups, and find people who share your interests.

Try to develop hobbies that you can devote yourself to as much as possible and distract yourself.

When you feel lonely in the process of studying or working, do what you want to do meaningfully and do meaningful things interestingly.

Socialize, chat with people you can talk to, get together to discuss things, feelings, worries, etc.

This is what I saw when I read Chen Guo's book before.

In normal times, you should develop a good living habit and eating habits, and then you should also make more friends and expand your social circle, so as to overcome the loneliness of life.

Focus on the development of a career, persevere, continue to strengthen yourself, let yourself grow, and strive to expand your circle of friends, so that you can achieve something.

Chat and communicate with friends more, travel together, concentrate on doing things, have a wider circle of friends, be confident, and don't run away.

Everyone has to learn to be alone and learn to self-regulate.

There will always be a moment when you are alone, and no matter who is scattered around you, your parents, beloved lovers, or siblings, you can't stop your loneliness. You will start to think about life, you will start to be confused, you will not know where you belong, you will feel unknown about everything. It was the most splendid age of life, but I began to have the idea of returning to my roots.

In fact, everyone is an independent and lonely individual. Perhaps truly understanding loneliness is the real growth, we are born to adapt to this society, according to its underlying mode of existence, and live according to the step-by-step pattern. When we were children, we felt that when we grew up, we could change the world and fantasize about ourselves as the protagonists of TV series, but when we grew up, we were still the original selves, the most inconspicuous self in the class, living silently, a dispensable person, losing the value of our own existence, and began to feel lost, desperately squeezing into a body that did not belong to us, just to win a place for myself, and finally was silently abandoned, still alone.

There are no two leaves in the world that are exactly the same, and you may not be able to find someone who is perfectly compatible with your soul, but there will always be people around you who really care about you, people who really love you, who may not fully know or even understand you, but will always give you strong shoulders. When you feel lonely and alone, you might as well drink some wine alone, get slightly drunk, close your eyes, and quietly feel your surroundings, just like every pore has been enlarged, and explore your own nuclear life in a hazy cognition.