In the current era, what are the most reasons for young people to get divorced?

Now the divorce rate continues to climb all the way, and divorce has become a normal phenomenon. Among these divorced groups, young people are increasingly represented and have a high weight in the divorce army. Nowadays, there are many young people, no matter what the reason, always choose to divorce, especially more and more people divorce within a few years of marriage.

So why is this happening? What is the reason for the high divorce rate among young people now?

Traditional Chinese culture advocates Confucianism, and Confucianism attaches great importance to and strengthens the importance of the family, such as "self-cultivation, family harmony, governing the country, and leveling the world", "starting a family and starting a business", "filial piety is three, and if there is no future, it is great". , all of which emphasize and exaggerate the importance of family. In this unique cultural tradition, the status of the family is elevated to a certain height, just like the popular folk "Ning".

The formation of everyone's conceptual consciousness is inseparable from the influence of the objective environment. In the old society, people spent their lives under the influence of this cultural concept from birth to adulthood, and they could not get rid of these ideas. Naturally, a common solidified sense of family cognition has been formed, which is deeply ingrained and passed down from generation to generation.

Due to the limitations of history, people were unable to break through the established traditional ideas at first, even if it was difficult and extremely difficult, it seemed that people were.

If there is any violation, it is unacceptable and will be condemned by society. In this way, few people will give up the family easily, so the family structure can be stable and continuous. With the development and progress of society, people's concepts have undergone substantial changes, including the concept of marriage and family.

The old traditional ideas began to fade, and the old family concepts became less and less restrictive to modern people. Especially today's young people, who have lived in a new era since childhood, have been educated by the concepts of the new era. It can be said that they grew up in a completely new social environment.

Even if it is influenced by some of the ideas and consciousness of the previous generation, it is very small and has little impact. In addition, young people are active in their own minds, very independent, believe in my ideas, and happiness is my decision. They don't blindly insist on it in order to guarantee a long-lasting marriage and a stable family.

In the past, even if the marriage was unhappy, they would not divorce easily, but now young people are not. If they can't, they can't compromise, so when things go wrong in their marriage, they may choose to divorce.

Most of them are because of the discord between the two people, and there are some people who divorce for financial reasons.

Most of them are because there is less communication, they can't tolerate each other's shortcomings, and they often quarrel, so it leads to divorce.

It is because young people nowadays are very focused on their careers, can't take care of their families, and ignore the feelings of two people, so they will divorce.

Odds and ends. So don't slack off in marriage, and don't be lazy just because you're married and have children. As soon as you are lazy, the pressure will be borne by your other half. He or she will be very tired, and after the days are long, it is time to leave.

It is because many young people are relatively blind when they get married, and the relationship time is not particularly long, and they do not choose a reasonable solution after the conflict arises.

is because the personalities of the two people are not very suitable, there are often some contradictions, and they will not tolerate each other.

I think it's because parents and elders often don't understand the type of kids they like.

Parents and close relatives who care for us and love us. , always think that they know their children very well, know what they need, what kind of partner they like, in fact, they are according to their own preferences, in other words, they think their children like the way they go, to find a partner for their children.

But in fact, when children become adults, their communication with their parents and relatives begins to be stylized, that is, they are very close on the surface, live together, and seem to see each other often, but they rarely communicate effectively. The words are simple communication in daily life, the kind of thought communication that is deep and touches the soul, and it seems difficult to achieve with parents and relatives.

First of all, there is a generation gap between the two generations, different values, and different views on many things.

Therefore, it is difficult for young people to open their hearts to these elders, and their true thoughts will not be confided in them. Because they don't understand it, they are likely to interfere in their own lives. Therefore, parents and elders are always wishful thinking about their children, and they think about it with their own ideas.

The same is true for emotional matters. And this kind of speculation is often inconsistent with the child's real thoughts and actual needs.

Many times, parents will feel that they have taken some detours and stepped on some pits emotionally when they are young, and they don't want their children to fall into them.

It is precisely because he was young that he had those wrong thoughts and wanted to help his children correct them in time, so he is likely to follow his current age of thinking about feelings, and feel that what kind of person is more suitable for marriage and life, to shoehorn into his children, and also hope that his children will fully accept his emotional values.

In the past, there was no one in the village who was divorced, and now the relatives and friends around are divorced everywhere, and I have to admit that the divorce rate is high now!

Nowadays, there are many people, whether they are old, young, or flash marriages, some have just known each other for a few days, or they got married in less than a month, and the two of them don't even know what work they do for each other, let alone understand each other, because they met at that time, they were attracted by each other's appearance, he thought she was very beautiful, and she thought he was very handsome. Some may also be because one party was forced to marry by the family, and it happens that the other party is also in this situation, and the two people coincide and take what they need. It may also be that they feel happy to talk to each other, to be able to talk together, to feel comfortable together, not to hate it, etc.

So they thought that if they had these, they would be fine, and as soon as the two of them discussed, they got married, catching up with the fashion of flash marriage, and didn't think about it so much at all.

After they get married and live together, they will find that there are a lot of insuitables between them, his temper is more short-tempered, she can't stand it, and the two of them quarrel every day. She is very lazy, and he doesn't allow her, he feels that he can't live like this, he marries a wife to live, not to find a princess to provide. He often works overtime, she can't see anyone every day, she feels that she is a fake marriage, they don't even have a chance to communicate with each other, as if they are strangers, and gradually she becomes insecure, etc., they find that each other is not suitable, they made a wrong decision at the beginning, so they divorced decisively.

It can be said that it is both a flash marriage and a flash divorce.

Now people are more and more open-minded, unlike in the past, when everyone got divorced, they all talked about it, and they all talked about it. Just about to get a divorce here, before they left, relatives and friends came to persuade them to consider the consequences of divorce. The parties feel even more ashamed to file for divorce, and they find it unacceptable to meet other friends or colleagues, who feel that such people are unreliable.

Some families have asked for generations that if there is no divorce in the family, they must be responsible for the other half. Besides, no one wants to marry a divorced person. So at that time, even if it was not suitable, most people would make do with it, and it would be a lifetime.

However, divorce is not a big deal now, everyone advocates the pursuit of their own happiness, as long as two people are not happy, divorce when they say divorce, never want to solve it, always hope that the next marriage partner they find will be suitable, not like the previous one. Even if two people have children, they still want to divorce, they don't think it's more important to give their children a complete family, they feel that living unhappily like this will hurt the children.

<> modern times are also a very volatile era, if you want both of you to go to work, there is enough time to be motivated after work, there is time to provide conditions for promotion and salary increase, there is still time to do housework after it is over, and there is still time to take the baby to educate the children after the ......It's a fool's dream.

But many people prefer to think that their family is superhuman, and they feel that they can do two things in their family (it may not be self-confidence but forced, after all, it is a thing of the past for one person to go to work to raise 2 children, and now there are many people who can't afford to raise a baby when two people go to work). As a result, the dispute came. In the end, they divorced.

Expecting too much from marriage before marriage. Some couples get along for a short time before marriage and do not understand each other comprehensively, and personality differences gradually emerge after marriage, which eventually leads to irreconcilable contradictions.

More and more young people are starting to break off their parents, and there will be the following effects in the future:

1. Shift in personal values: Young people are more focused on personal values and choices, and they tend to be more centered on their own wishes and well-being, rather than bound by traditional customs. They pay more attention to their quality of life and the achievement of their personal goals, and are not willing to be too limited by traditional culture and customs.

2. Changes in social structure: With the development of social economy and the acceleration of urbanization, family structure and family relations have changed. While young people are pursuing personal development and independence, they are also facing work pressure, financial pressure and life pressure.

As a result, they are more focused on their own interests and economic independence, rather than being burdened by the traditional practice of being a fierce man.

3. Protection and transformation of traditional culture: The change of young people's attitudes has a certain impact on traditional culture and customs. On the one hand, this shift may lead to the gradual disappearance of some traditional cultures and customs, as young people no longer follow traditional codes of conduct and norms.

On the other hand, it has also prompted traditional cultures and customs to change and innovate to adapt to the needs of modern society and the younger generation.

4. Influence on social and family relationships: Changing attitudes among young people may have an impact on social and family relationships. Some traditional family and social relationship patterns may be impacted, such as the concept of marriage, parent-child relationship and family values.

This can lead to a change and redefinition of the family and society, requiring adaptation and response by all parties.