I m disgusted with a colleague s dinner, and I don t know what to say at the dinner, how to deal wit

When you are a student, you are a natural person who can do what you want to do. But once you enter the workplace, you are a person in the workplace. What you have to do is do work-related things, and having dinner with colleagues is also a very important means of maintaining work relationships.

But I'm disgusted with a colleague's dinner, and I don't know what to say at the dinner, how to deal with it? Colleague dinners aren't something you can't go without if you don't want to, so even if you're disgusted, learn to adapt to the occasion. If you really don't know what to do or what to say, then let yourself be a silent person, a listener, learn to smile, and follow table manners.

Then even if you don't say anything, you won't make others think you're out of place.

It is essential to have dinner together in daily work, which is an important measure to maintain the relationship between colleagues and work. Whether it is a dinner party organized by the company or a private dinner party organized by colleagues, I personally feel that as long as someone invites me, it is best to participate. Because it's not that you don't like it, you can't participate, in most of the workplace, we don't work alone, but the whole company works together to be able to go further.

If you're in a company and you don't attend any dinner parties because you hate them. It may make many colleagues feel that you are not social, so naturally there will not be too much communication with you at work, and this will directly affect your career.

So if you really don't know what to say during the dinner, we just need to learn to be silent, learn to listen, listen quietly to what others say, and smile when others look at you. To be generous, when it is time to socialize and drink, raise a glass to drink with others, and smiling is the best way to show friendliness to others, and it is also the best way to integrate into the team. Therefore, when you have a dinner, you must not give people the impression that you seem to be very high and want to be alone.

In particular, you show a very disgusted appearance, as if others owe you, so you will only be isolated by your colleagues and say that you are not social.

I don't know what to say at the dinner table, so I just listen to others silently and be polite.

You can talk to them about buying clothes, and you can also talk to them about some daily topics, and you must be cheerful, not too introverted, don't make yourself feel too embarrassed, and you must dare to find topics, but I think the most important thing is that when talking to others, you must pay attention to politeness and not be too proud.

You can keep smiling, choose your favorite dishes to eat, and make excuses after eating, such as not completing work tasks and returning home in an emergency.

It can't be said that people have psychological problems, Some are like this, and some are unwilling to waste time on boring things, in short, people are not happy to participate, and there is no need to force it, everyone has their own things they don't want to do, why study each other's psychology? Wouldn't it be better to have this effort to study it carefully, and earn more money to improve your life?

01. Personal personality problems. First of all, I have seen many people in the workplace, they generally do not participate in the company dinner, even if they reluctantly participate, they sit quietly alone, out of place with the crowd, whenever this time everyone will think that he is not in line with the crowd, but I didn't think that people didn't want to participate in the first place, they were forced by you.

Besides, not everyone likes to play together in a group of people, and some people are born with personality reasons, so they like to be alone and don't like to be lively, how do you ask him to join? He sat quietly on the side, but was freeDon't delve into it

02. Some people have a lot of pressure in life and have to earn living expenses after work. Company dinners are a good thing, everyone can enhance the relationship, but some people need to do a second job after work to support their own life, in this case, do you think people will waste time on eating and drinking? It's obviously impossible.

In addition, sometimes the dinner party will play late, and even colleagues will drink a lot of alcohol, and people with families or children in the family are particularly small, they often participate in the dinner party, because they have to go home to help watch the children, and people who focus on family or pay more attention to life do not often participate in dinner parties.

03. To sum up. Those who want to participate will participate, and those who don't want to participate may not go, and asking this question is a kind of ideological kidnapping, and if people don't want to go, you still have to ask people to go, which is not right, and there is no need to be more serious.

Company dinners, colleagues who often participate in this kind of dinner should think that this kind of dinner is particularly boring and not interesting, so they will not go to the party.

In fact, if the company often has dinners, it will also cause certain difficulties for employees, because at our age, generally speaking, we are old and young. And then often refuse, especially women often go to eat, there will be a big kind of right in the family, so this kind of psychology is your own, there is no family, or it is okay for men, and it is a burden for women who take care of their families.

I think it's easy to understand that this kind of colleague should have a certain fear of social aspects, so they don't like to have dinner together.

I think it's probably because I'm not good at socializing with my colleagues, or really, I don't like to participate in this kind of occasion, I don't like to drink or anything like that.

That is, people who are more introverted, don't like crowds, like to be alone, or have more people and things to take care of at home, and are too busy.

What is the psychology of colleagues who often do not participate in company dinners? There are two possibilities, first, the dinner party should be AA system, and his economy does not allow it, and second, he is not social, and there is no topic to talk about when they have dinner together, so he still doesn't go.

When you have a dinner, you will definitely spend money, and it is usually an AA system, and some people feel that spending money is too wasteful, so they don't want to participate.

Colleagues who often do not attend company dinners may not be people who like to be too busy, and they themselves like to be alone.

It may be that they have social phobia and do not want to communicate with outside people, or they may be introverted and prefer to stay at home.

It may be because I don't feel the need to participate, and I don't have a good relationship with my colleagues, and I have social phobia.

I think it still depends on the situation, each of us only needs to come to work in the new company, and the company party at the end of the year every year.

Participation is mandatory. But as we attend more and more year-end meetings, we need to figure out what kind of party it is. If the company has a strategic planning meeting or training, then you must attend this kind of gathering.

Because this situation is not so much a "party", you can think of it as a meeting, and you can just have a meal after the meeting.

In fact, most companies should have such a plan and arrangement when they get together at the end of the year, after all, the summary of the year and the plan for the coming year are closely related to the employees of each company. However, it is not excluded that some companies are held separately, and a meeting is a meeting, and a party is a party. And if you encounter a party that is purely eating, as long as you don't want to go, then greet the leader directly and find a reason not to go.

The first aspect is that the new company is unfamiliar. When I go to a party, because I am not familiar with each other, I don't think we can talk together, and in this case, even if I go, it will only increase the embarrassment. Of course, unless you want to get to know each other better by partying, you won't be reluctant to go.

On the other hand, it's just that this kind of gathering is not very interesting. Many people may say that they want to go to a party to get acquainted with each other and improve team relationships. But it seems to me that if you can get to this level by attending a few parties, you can do it casually at the company.

Therefore, for uninteresting parties, if you don't want to go, you won't go, as long as the company doesn't explicitly stipulate that you must go. Then don't go. At the end of last year, I didn't go to our company party.

Because I had something to ask for leave in advance, I simply took a vacation with the New Year's holiday applied by the leader.

Before the company dinner, the boss called ** I didn't answer, and replied directly to a message: Boss, I'm abroad, what's the urgency? Then the boss replied to me:

It's okay, you forget it abroad. Thinking about the company's dinner tomorrow, I asked if you would come? "Actually, I'm at home watching cartoons with my son.

So, if you don't have a very important meeting, it's just a dinner, so you don't want to go. Nothing is absolute, and decisions are made depending on the situation.

Our department used to have a dinner party once a month, usually on an AA basis, because our department didn't have extra money. Everyone especially likes to have a dinner together because it can enhance the relationship and communication between colleagues. So I think it's still necessary to get together once in a while.

Dinner with colleagues is very important, through which colleagues can effectively improve the relationship with each other, so as to state their common goals, so as to better maintain the relationship.

I think it is necessary for ordinary colleagues to have dinners, because this practice can deepen the relationship between colleagues and enrich their working life.

I think it is very necessary, because if you have a good relationship with your colleagues, you will be very good at your own work and improve your work efficiency.

Should I refuse to drink at a company dinner or the advice of a colleague or leader? It depends on how much alcohol you drink. If you think you can still drink and you won't make a fool of yourself if you drink it, then you can accept their advice.

If you can't drink enough, just pour a glass, it's better to tell the truth, and you have to refuse it. Our company organizes a dinner party before August 15 and before the Spring Festival every year, and there must be a wine persuasion on the wine table. I really don't dare to compliment the amount of alcohol, and it's only the amount of two taels of liquor, and if I drink too much, I will definitely vomit.

We have a rule for drinking in Shandong, the first two cups of the two halves must be drunk in six sips, and there are big leaders and two leaders leading the wine. When I joined the company in the first year, we were more realistic, and besides, I was embarrassed not to drink if the leader brought wine. Every time the leader brings one, he will say words of blessing and encouragement, and it is not okay not to drink in that atmosphere.

After a cup, the whole person couldn't do it, he lay directly on the table, and later vomited on the ground, which was a shame for the adult. Since then, I have participated in the company's dinner, no matter how good the leaders or colleagues persuade me, I will not drink too much liquor at all. Whether it's coercion or temptation, I am absolutely unmoved.

In fact, leaders can also understand that people and people have different amounts of alcohol, and the key is to drink more and not less. Our Chinese wine culture is really crazy sometimes, and the routines of persuading people to drink are one set at a time, and they will not stop if they don't drink more. But there are countless people who make jokes and have accidents because of drinking too much.

No matter what kind of drinking party you participate in, you must control yourself and act in moderation. The purpose of the company dinner is a pastime for leaders to reward the hard work of employees, enhance communication between employees, and promote the stable development of the company. The purpose of the persuasion of leaders or colleagues at the wine table is to improve the atmosphere of the table, and few people persuade others to drink for the purpose of getting others drunk.

As you have to do what you can, you must control your own amount. If you can't drink, you must learn to decide, you must know that making a fool of yourself after drinking is more ugly than refusing to drink. Truly enlightened leaders don't care about rejection, they also think about the personal health of their employees.

There is not much wine, and the meaning is in place.

If the relationship between these colleagues is relatively good, of course, there is no problem with having dinner, and even unfamiliar colleagues can enhance the relationship with each other, of course, there is a certain necessity.

Of course, there are also people who are reluctant to participate in such a dinner, which you can shirk, feel unwell, or have something at home not to participate, after all, this is just a dinner party between colleagues, not an important thing, if you don't go, colleagues will not blame you.

That should also be necessary for a dinner party between ordinary colleagues, because you can communicate with each other when you have nothing to do.

I think it's still necessary. Because a dinner party between ordinary colleagues can promote friendship and can also help with work.

Do you think it's necessary for a dinner party between ordinary colleagues?

For the dinner party between ordinary colleagues, everyone participates, which can promote the relationship between colleagues.

For the dinner party between ordinary colleagues, I personally feel that if it is, it is better for me to participate in it, which is a bridge to enhance the friendship between colleagues.

If I invite you to a party, I think you should attend.