How to take into account the feelings of both parties to properly solve the problem?

In life, it is easy to ignore the feelings of others, and since we know that this is a very bad performance, then we need to correct it. To learn to consider the other person's feelings, the most common way is to empathize. Think about what you will think and do if the other party treats you with such an attitude as yourself, consider the problem from the other party's point of view, and have a little more tolerance for the other party, so that many things will not become embarrassing and there is no room for recovery.

Everyone knows this method, but it is still difficult to do.

Second, think calmly. If both of them are in the stage of rage, then two people need to stop arguing, and when people are in the stage of rage, their emotions will not be controlled by themselves, and it is inevitable to say some unpleasant things and even fight. At this time, two people keep a distance, spatial distance or temporal distance.

Wait for yourself to calm down before thinking about the problem, which will help you find the problem and solve the problem. It can also reduce the emotional wear and tear between two people.

Then don't impose on others what you don't want to do, and don't impose on others what you want to do. Everyone's preferences are different, and many times others may not like the things they like, so if you want to consider each other's feelings, you need to understand some of each other's small habits or hobbies. In this way, you will not do bad things with good intentions.

It is difficult to consider other people's feelings in everything, because many times people are used to being self-centered, habitually ignoring others, and will be remembered afterwards without considering other people's feelings. This is a mistake that some people are often prone to make in real life. Therefore, it takes people to adapt to change for a long time, although there will be a lot of unpleasant mistakes or difficulties in the process, but as long as you cross that hurdle, you can face success.

Growing up, one of the things my parents used to tell me was, "If you want justice, turn it upside down." What I understand is that if you want to be fair and fair, you have to think from the perspective of others, not just yourself.

Now that I think about it, I am especially grateful to my parents for educating me since I was a child, so that I have developed a habit of always thinking from the perspective of others. It is precisely because of this that so far, my friendship and love experience have been relatively smooth.

Many people understand this truth and understand that it is good to think for others from their point of view, but they only have such a concept in their hearts, and they don't know how to think about others. In my opinion, this is very simple. That is to "immerse yourself in the action".

When you can now think of problems from your own perspective, and from the perspective of others, it is easy for problems to be solved properly.

To give a very simple example, when I was in high school, I was caught by the dean of students by having a fight in class during class time. The class teacher was very angry and told the class that because the two students had violated discipline this week, they would return to school four hours earlier next week. We are a boarding school, and the return time is 6 p.m. on Sundays, and when the head teacher says this, it means that we will return to school at 2 p.m. on Sundays.

As soon as the head teacher's voice fell, the whole class became agitated. After class, especially the girl on my right was more irritable, even scolding. At that time, I felt very guilty, so I shared my snacks with the more irritable classmates around me and apologized to them.

As a result, the classmate who was punished with me called me over and said that those people were scolding you behind your back, why did you still do this? I explained to him that if you behave well and did not violate discipline, but because of the other two classmates in the class, you will be dragged down, and you will have to come four hours early next week to make papers. What will happen to you?

You're going to be upset too. After that, she was silent.

This example is simple, but the purpose of this example is to make everyone understand how to put themselves in the shoes of others. It's about putting yourself in the same situation, asking yourself to put yourself in the same situation as others. This way you can take into account the other person's feelings and also control your emotions.

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1. Think differently: Think more from the perspective of others and feel how others feel, and you will know how to act without messing things up, which is the benefit of thinking from the perspective of others. Now add:

In particular, if you think about the problem from the customer's point of view and think about yourself as a customer, you will know some of the other party's ideas. 2. Two people get along: Two people get along together, in addition to the basic sincerity, more importantly:

Understand (understand each other's situation or difficulties or hardships or performances), and then do self-adjustment and improvement (that is, adjust your mentality and improve your behavior), followed by care and care (more care can bring each other closer, and more care can deepen each other's understanding). Now add: As Lianzhi said, when there is a contradiction:

1. Find problems in yourself first, don't complain about others first, and push the problem onto others. 2. To change things, first change yourself; To make things better, make yourself better first! 3. If you want others to respect you, you need to respect others first.

At the beginning of 06, a senior surnamed Liang, who had been in the supply and marketing cooperatives for decades, gave the lotus branch this sentence when chatting: things are reasonable, and the heart is peaceful! To comprehend the lotus branch more, it is really very philosophical, and I will also send it to you here to think about and comprehend.

3. Pay first: Everyone wants to be understood, cared for and loved by others, so how to get it? Hee-hee, just one word:

If you want others to be good to you, you have to be good to others first. That is to say, if you give your understanding, care and love first, you will get a correspondingly better return, believe it?! Now add:

Do you understand the concept of "giving"? Give it up before you get it. As long as you understand the phrase "giving is happier than receiving", you will understand.

Lotus Branch Lotus has been doing this, giving up its own knowledge, experience, experience and cases, to help friends who are destined, so that they can learn related knowledge, including health knowledge, and help them improve their health step by step, and Lotus Branch is the opportunity for others to understand, recognize, recognize and generate a small business. Even if there is no business, helping people is happy, isn't that good? Accumulate virtue for this world, haha...

Fourth, be a man and do things: A sage said to me: To learn to do things, you must first learn to be a man.

To be a human being is to do a good job in the relationship between people (including family, relatives, friends, classmates, colleagues, neighbors, other organizations, etc.), which is also interpersonal relationships and connections. Good connections can help you develop and help you succeed; If you mess up your connections, you'll have nothing and bear it alone.

How to solve the problem quickly, the way of thinking is very important, so what kind of way of thinking can solve the problem faster?

The first is to determine to find the right direction to solve the problem, just like solving the problem, if you are solving the problem, the direction at the beginning is off topic, then your efforts in the back are endless, wasting precious time in vain, so if you want to solve the problem quickly to find the right direction is the first premise, so that we can add good things on a good basis; On this basis, we can further think from multiple levels, consider the problem comprehensively, just like consider the problem from the positive and negative sides of the coin, there is a positive way of thinking, and there is also a negative way of thinking, so when we solve the problem, we should not bite one side, try to change the perspective of thinking or look at other people's views, which is beneficial for us to solve the problem more comprehensively;

Secondly, our mindset is very important, focus our attention on the problem and not be distracted; Solving problems is not just a simple solution to the surface of the problem, we need to study deeply and constantly improve the solution to the problem; At the same time, when solving problems, we should not only focus on the immediate situation, but also sort out the whole process and then consider implementation, which can get twice the result with half the effort and help us solve the problem faster and better.

How to deal with it quickly, it still depends on your own thinking, with a good way, your own view is active, and I believe that the problem will be solved quickly with your efforts.

We all have problems all the time, but sometimes we can't find a quick solution to solve the problem. Then we need to train ourselves to think quickly and solve problems.

First of all, you don't just think from one side of the problem, you must diverge your thinking, sometimes you don't find a solution to this problem just because you don't think in the right way, just change your way of thinking and think from multiple angles.

Second, we should not only focus on the present, but also take into account the future. You have to think about how the problem will develop in the future, and then you can solve it from his side.

Finally, the determination to never give up and ask questions from a keen point of view. A logical presentation may seem in line with a McKinsey approach to problem solving, but in reality, the higher the client's evaluation of the work, the lower the importance of logic. When I say this, are you surprised?

When you bury your head in solving a problem, it is not uncommon for your mind to run at a high speed and accelerate the solution of the problem at a moment's notice. Breaking down the steps associated with the initial flash of thought, the logic is bound to hold, but the result is not necessarily malleable. The McKinsey approach to problem solving is to create independent hypotheses, get rid of limitations, take zero assumptions, and discover the key drivers that can connect together information that would normally be considered irrelevant, and derive answers.

The decisive factor in solving the problem is not framework or logic (which, of course, is still a necessary tool), but the determination to do everything in one's best and never give up. You must not use logical reasoning to unconsciously derive answers.

Thinking about problems is first and foremost about calmness. In today's impetuous society, many people will be impetuous.

When encountering problems, most of them lose their temper, causing people to lose their ability to think. Therefore, when you encounter a problem, calm down for 30 seconds, don't talk first, just think, so as to avoid thinking about the problem too much. And the more impetuous, the less you can think of a solution to the problem.

If you want to solve the problem as soon as possible, the key point is to put yourself in the other person's shoes. If you blindly argue for yourself, then the contradiction of the problem will continue, not only can not solve the original problem, but also may give rise to new problems.

Finally, I think that when encountering problems, we should think from the perspective of fairness and justice. There can be no bias in favour of one side over the other. Now the quality of people is very high, and others can feel whether you are fair or not.

If you deal with it unfairly, it will only further exacerbate the conflict and prevent the problem from being resolved as soon as possible.