I have a heavier social phobia of 20

Read the famous book aloud at home. If you stumble, reread it immediately. Don't talk to people until you're very fluent.

Say out loud to yourself in the mirror every day, I can do it! I can do it! I'm sure I'll make it!

Then go outside for a walk or a run, exercise, make yourself physically strong, and you will be bold in the face of others.

The next time you encounter someone and you want to change your course, force yourself to meet him or her, and say loudly to him or her: Hello? Prepare simple greetings like going out (or coming home). You will find that others are not terrible. So as to improve your self-confidence.

Also, know that others value you the most. No one will just pay attention to you. You'll be less stressed and socialize with people normally.

There has been shyness, it is not a problem even if it is high, people will heal automatically when they are older, no one has ever seen a shy old man or an old lady, only shy children, just this reason. I'm also a bit of a social phobia, but I'm a firm believer in doing what I need to do, better than humans. Lao Tzu relies on himself or on the earth, others can help, the big deal is still on himself.

Thinking about this fills my heart with strength and courage.

Fearless.

Never mind. When they are cabbage good. I've been like that before. But they don't beat you or scold you. Why should you be afraid? Just say it.

Don't let me down.

Assertive. is your best psychiatrist.

I can give you some advice to help you beat social phobia :

1.Face your fears gradually: Instead of jumping into the situation you're most afraid of all at once, you can gradually face your fears. For example, start by greeting people you don't know and move on to talking to strangers.

2.Change your way of thinking: Realize that your thinking pattern can make you feel anxious, and try to change your way of thinking. For example, don't worry too much about what you say or do, believe in your own abilities, and don't care too much about what others think.

3.Participate in social activities: You can participate in some social activities, such as volunteer activities, interest groups, etc., so that you can make like-minded friends and increase your self-confidence.

5.Seek help: If you feel that your social phobia is affecting your normal life, you can seek help from a professional, such as a psychologist or social phobia**.

In conclusion, it takes some time and effort to defeat social phobia. Gradually confronting your fears, changing your way of thinking, participating in social activities, practicing relaxation skills, and asking for help are all ways to do it.

I believe that everyone has one or two friends who are very cheerful and have a lot of friends around them. If you have such a friend around you, then you can have more contact with him, let him take you to participate in various social activities, when you participate more, in fact, you will be more cheerful, after all, as long as you take the first step bravely, the back will be very relaxed. Many times, some people have not been able to solve the problem of their social phobia, because they are afraid to take the first step.

Step 1: See what you really want.

Address self-centeredness: Don't always think about what others will think of you, and don't put these thoughts of yourself on others because they are not you. Perfectionism: Be bound by your idealized, fanciful self and don't ask too much of yourself.

Step 2: Don't run away.

It is necessary to face both the life of escape and the life of yearning; We must have the courage to know that there are tigers in the mountains and prefer to go to the tiger mountains; Accept your own shortcomings, accept the negation of others, no one is perfect, and give up your own illusions; Don't imagine that as long as you don't have these symptoms of social phobia, others will like you and look at you, know that even if the symptoms are resolved, others will not all like you, and they will be denied by others; Why don't you let others look down on you, there will always be people who look down on you, and there will always be people who look down on you; Let go of yourself and go with the flow to break the vicious cycle.

Step 3: Change your mindset.

Break the ego-centered way of thinking (self-deception); Others are not perfect, what qualifications do they have to look down on me to set too high requirements for myself, deny myself if I don't meet them, don't ask too high for myself, not immortals will always influence each other in the world, what can you do if you affect others, always look at your own bad places, treat your own shortcomings objectively, find your own advantages, don't compare your own shortcomings with others (look at the problem: don't look at others with a magnifying glass, don't look at yourself with a zoom glass, others are not perfect).

Step 4: Rational Thinking + Practical Verification.

Practice: Ask others if they think the same as they think, rationality: look at the results, go with the flow to see how miserable the results are, whether they are the same as what they are afraid of.

On the way to self-acceptance, we need to break down barriers and solve problems (the biggest obstacle is self-thought, self-directed and self-acting behavior).

Step 5: Dive in**.

**: Don't let yourself only focus on the symptoms and not know how to reflect, but reflect on why you have these fearful behaviors; To discover your real problem, even if the symptoms disappear, it does not mean that it will be cured; Don't be blindfolded by symptoms, see the essence through the phenomenon; If the desire is too high, it will become a burden and produce anxiety; If you don't do it well, don't be deceived by the lies of your own mind, but find your own reasons; Your own self-motivation cannot be driven by fear, that is pathological self-motivation, and the real self-motivation is in a hobby.

Step 6: Break the illusion.

Pain comes from one's own illusions, breaking illusions (don't always think about how good you should be) A fear symptom represents a fantasy, an idea reflects a need, and we have to see if this need is real.

Precautions. Always remind yourself to have courage, without courage there is no action.

Young people will always have shortcomings of one kind or another. Don't get too entangled, be natural and make progress slowly.

Regarding the regulation of social phobia, I have the following specific suggestions:

First, in social activities, everyone will have a certain amount of tension and anxiety, which is a normal phenomenon and does not need to be too entangled.

Second, the most substantial and fundamental connotation of interpersonal communication is "exchanging feelings" and "collaborative affairs", so be natural and honest, and don't care too much about some minor details.

Third, use in and out, practice makes perfect, and habit becomes natural. When you first learn to swim or ride, you're probably nervous, but after a long time, it's like playing. Usually communicate and talk with others more (practice your tongue flexibly), experience more events and occasions, and after enriching your social experience, life experience, and social experience, your psychological quality will naturally improve.

Fourth, "failure is the mother of success", we should look at the problem from the perspective of long-term, progress and development, and do not worry too much about temporary performance, good or bad, gains and losses.

Fifth, usually care more about and greet others, appropriately learn some social and etiquette skills, common sense, and do a good job in linguistics, including learning and practicing some polite words and blessing words.

Sixth, from books, periodicals, news, work, and life, to learn and understand the knowledge and common sense of various subjects, industries, including society, life, and other aspects. If you have a wide range of knowledge, a broad view, and an open mind, you will be able to chat and discuss issues with others more well.

Seventh, there should be more outdoor activities and sports at ordinary times, release stress and anxiety, and adjust the physical and mental state.

8. Properly understand some psychological knowledge, understand and use cognition, behavior (including systematic desensitization method, token method, etc.), relaxation, etc.

9. For people with severe phobias, it is also recommended to consult a psychologist and consider appropriate medication.

Social phobia is a fear of contact with others and a reticence. This needs to exercise yourself as much as possible, communicate with others more, don't be alone, you can go out more, talk to strangers more, don't be too afraid, and go out bravely.

Hello! The so-called social phobia is actually caused by low self-esteem in the heart, without which I feel that I don't need others. This condition requires exercise.

The more you don't want to do it, the more you do it, and the more people you do, the more you make do with it. Only by pushing yourself out, you will find that you have completely changed.

Social phobiaMaybe you're just unsociable, not "real social phobia"! "Mild social phobia" may be due to our lack of social experience and skills, and this is when you consult the Central Europe International Psychological Counseling can be effective, as well as the upbringing environment, parental education style, etc.; It may also be because you are introverted, or you are a perfectionist who often worries that you are not good enough, which leads to the appearance of "phobia".

A subtype, phobias, formerly known as phobia, is a type of neurosis. Excessive and unreasonable fear of an objective object or situation in the outside world is the main manifestation, and the patient knows that this fear reaction is excessive or unreasonable, but it still recurs and is difficult to control. Fear attacks are often accompanied by significant anxiety and autonomic symptoms, and patients try to avoid or tolerate the objective object or situation that caused the fear, thus affecting their normal activities.

Common phobia subtypes include agoraphobia, social phobia, and specific phobia.

Hello, based on your description of social phobia, I think that it is not enough to diagnose social phobia, and it can be initially considered to be due to a strong self-defense. This may be due to your personal growth, which makes you have a strong self-defense mentality, because of practical reasons, so that you have not been effectively resolved, it is easy to affect your normal interpersonal interactions, making you easy to experience those feelings or symptoms similar to social phobia that you describe. Therefore, I suggest that you need to consider that what you need to consider at present is to help yourself seek professional psychological counseling in interpersonal and interpersonal relations that I provide for you, so as to help you reconstruct new beliefs in this area, effectively eliminate the psychological factors that cause you to have a strong self-defensive psychology, and enhance your psychological quality, so as to help you return to normal learning, interpersonal communication and mental state as soon as possible.

Hello! I want to help, but I don't know where to start? (Provide some methods for reference).

Let's talk about it in detail with the example of afterglow and facial distress"Drop it"。

Teach you to face the afterglow and facial troubles correctly.

If you accept it sincerely, you will realize this!

Why should we be sad and sad when the expression (afterglow) is unnatural? Because, you think that's one.

The real "symptoms" that make you lose face, the "symptoms" that need to be removed, in fact, it really has no reality.

The body, which is nothing, is said to be nothing, because:

1. If you don't reject it, welcome its arrival calmly, slowly. It will dissipate, and the more sincere it will be.

The faster it disappears, but if you reject it, it will hold you, and the more you repel it, the more it will hold on.

You. Recall your past experience, isn't it?

Your experience is easy to tell you that acceptance is transformation, and you don't have to do nothing in order to maintain a false self-image.

Considering this fact: "Acceptance is transformation".

2. Who of us hasn't had the experience of stiff expressions? Who hasn't had the experience of looking at someone else?

It's just that many of us don't realize it, or realize it but don't take it seriously, they're like you in childhood.

Feel free and easy. Actually, it's normal! And you, but you blame yourself, treat it as a loss of face, and reject it all the way, and now you freeze when it comes to someone's situation.

Notice: Once "the afterglow is excluded, the eyes are cross-gazed, the expression is stiff, and the speech is stiff......"It became a strong purpose, and it would.

There is an inner tension that becomes a conflict, a burden, and this in turn makes your expression stiffer, looking at each other.

And the afterglow is more difficult to be natural, and the speech is not fluent.

Initially, the afterglow, the eye to the eye, the stiff expression, and the stammering of the speech were individual, temporary, and the impact on the person was also.

Individual, temporary, and perhaps even non-existent, and thus ignored, so to speak, nothing. But later, because of the analysis in the previous paragraph, the afterglow, eye contact, stiff expression, and stammering speech are comprehensive and persistent.

A vicious circle is over.

Although everything is nothing, the impact on our psychology and relationships is real.

If you don't calm down and reflect seriously, it's easy to be confused by these real influences and keep going.

On the wrong path of rejection! Until it finally consumes you.

3. Haven't you been looking for a standard for when you can take your eyes off others? But ask.

Others, what is the standard? I'm afraid they won't be able to answer either. Unnatural and natural, there is no standard!

Fear, sadness, joy, fear, anxiety, loss, despair, etc., are all because we cling to "all things".

For the real, the attachment to the "symptoms" is real, the attachment to the "false self" is real, and the attachment to the "exam" is real.

Yes If it were nothing, would you still be afraid, sad, joyful, fearful, anxious, lost, hopeless?