What should you do if you want to properly handle conflicts between people?

How to deal with conflicts between people

When a contradiction arises, we must control our emotions, ease the atmosphere, and then analyze the advantages and disadvantages of the contradiction, find out the root cause of the problem, and find the solution to the problem. Here's how to deal with conflicts between people.

Life always moves forward with contradictions. As the saying goes, "where there are people, there are rivers and lakes". Contradictory situations often arise between people, often leading to unintended consequences due to improper handling. What should we do in the face of these contradictions?

(1) Between relatives

Conflicts in life are sometimes unclear, especially between relatives, which are the most difficult to resolve.

When dealing with conflicts with family members, sometimes it is unreasonable, because at this time, there may be situations such as "do you still love me", "why are you like this, you were not like this before", etc., which makes it difficult to resolve the conflict.

For the unreasonable and unreasonable, there is no better way to choose tolerance.

(2) Between colleagues

Everyone's understanding and perception is different. You think it's okay, others may think it's not. At that time, the contradiction came.

First of all, we must not let others think that we are targeting him. However, it is very difficult to do things without people.

When a contradiction arises, it is necessary to control the emotions, ease the atmosphere, and then analyze the advantages and disadvantages of the contradiction to find out the root cause of the problem.

(3) Lin Xiangru's law

Lin Xiangru returned to Zhao because of his completion, defeated Qiang Qin, kept He's Bi, maintained his dignity, and finally had a higher status than Lian Po.

Jean Lian Po was very dissatisfied with him. Lian Po even said that he wanted to humiliate Lin Xiangru in public, and the battle between the two looked like it was about to break out.

However, Lin Xiangru successfully resolved the contradiction with the method of "saying that he is sick, leading the car to avoid hiding, and not arguing with others". In the end, Lian Po realized his mistake, so he pleaded guilty, which has become a beautiful talk that has been passed down to this day.

Therefore, face interpersonal relationships.

We must be calm, not emotional, think more about the consequences, and think twice before acting.

Taking a step back and making concessions does not mean cowardice, which can both cushion and avoid escalating contradictions. Weakness is not only a roundabout attack, but an effective one.

We should empathize with each other, because only in this way can we better deal with the various contradictions between each other.

The methods are: 1. First of all, you must calm your emotions first, because talking to others with emotions is easy to deepen the conflict. 2. The second is a calm analysis, the root cause of the contradiction, if you can't understand the reason for the contradiction, you can't fundamentally solve the contradiction, and even make the other party more angry.

3. When you understand what the contradiction is, find a time when the other party is emotionally calm and use calm emotions to solve the contradiction with him.

Communicate. Communication allows people to know each other's thoughts, can enhance the friendship between the two parties, and promote problem solving.

I think that in order to properly handle conflicts between people, we must keep a clear head, calm down, and communicate with each other.

Learn to communicate. Because the contradiction needs to be solved, the solution is good communication, in order to get along with the other party better.

Tell yourself to be calm, even if you get angry, you can't do it. Usually train your patience more, and don't die or live for a little thing. You can practice calligraphy and drawing, which can improve your patience and reduce the number of times you get angry.

Our anger towards ourselves can be dissipated by running or yelling.

First of all, don't get excited and lose your temper when you encounter something, then transfer your anger, and then wait for yourself to calm down and communicate calmly with the other party.

The first point is self-reflection. When we have conflicts with our classmates, instead of blaming others, we should first conduct self-reflection. Think about whether you let the conflict happen because of your own fault, and think about whether you hurt others in words or actions.

Self-reflection can avoid the deterioration of conflicts and the deterioration of relationships between classmates, in part because we only know how to blame others, but we cannot recognize our own mistakes.

Second, don't slander behind your back. There are many such people, after having a conflict with their classmates, not only do they not want to solve the problem, but they say bad things and swear behind their backs, which will only exacerbate the contradiction and cannot solve the problem.

So we have to remember that when we have a conflict with our classmates, no matter how wronged we are, don't hurt people behind our backs.

Third, find out the root cause of the contradiction. When we have a conflict with our classmates, we should not only focus on anger and grievances, but also calm down, think about the causes of the conflict, and find out the root cause of the conflict, so that we can find a solution to the problem.

Fourth, sincerely apologize to your classmates. If you have a conflict with your classmates because of your own reasons, we must sincerely apologize to your classmates. If we really recognize our mistakes and show our remorse, I believe that our classmates will understand and forgive us.