How should he choose? What kind of choice should be made

Well, I would like to say that there are many ways to love someone, and of course the best is to hold the hand of the son and grow old with the son. In your case, even if you are not at the same university in a few months, you can still love each other. It's just that it's possible to be in a long-distance relationship.

Also, if it's worse, you go to college and she doesn't, that's fine, a lot of college students are actually very good now, and if she's good, it's probably much better than a college student who has been studying for four years. Finally, I want to say that our society is now in a state of impatience for quick success, so we actually have a certain sense of fatigue, you can really love a girl, it's good, but don't give up your dreams, your pursuits, and your responsibilities because of this, because love and these are not an either-or relationship. You can love her while reading your own books well.

Everyone will have their own path, so even if a girl doesn't go to college in the future, it doesn't mean that she won't have a good time in the future.

There must be a time in this life that people go so mad... If you love, love it... Try to pursue your love so that you do not regret it ...

Don't go to that junior college, if that girl doesn't go to that junior college, what should a boy do, waste his youth and future? He can only give her happiness if he does better, works harder in the future, and has money, and we must be the best winners.

There's nothing to do. People who can't be together can't be forced.

If you want to protect the people you love the most, you must first learn how to protect the people you love the most*

You are a very self-motivated woman, I appreciate this, I am a college student, I think the main purpose of reading is for two points: first, learn how to learn, how to see, think about problems, and analyze problems; 2. Improve self-cultivation and cultivate a good character, so as to reflect your temperament in dealing with the world and communicating.

You have to learn to know yourself, understand yourself, discover your strengths and weaknesses, compete with your advantages in society, and at the same time constantly make up for your shortcomings. People live for themselves, only they know what kind of person they want to become, and they must have the courage to follow their inner intuition, because this world is what you like, what you pursue, as long as you insist, work hard, and use the right ways and methods to do it with your heart, you will definitely make a difference.

If you have the opportunity to start a business, you must seize the opportunity, the opportunity is fleeting. As for learning, one must never stop learning, whether you are successful or not, you must expand your knowledge and increase your wisdom by learning cultural knowledge, so as to improve your self-cultivation and increase your temperament.

If you don't have a higher education (college degree or above), then you must be more modest and cautious, do things seriously, and base yourself on the society with a skill. You are only 21 years old now, you are not in a hurry to get married, first find a career that suits you, and have the ability to do a good job. People's social circle is determined according to your ability, just like college students, almost all of them are college students, so that they can live in a higher quality group, which can cultivate themselves.

The environment is very important, you must develop first, while you are young, you must endure more hardships, do more, learn culture while doing things, find your own problems in time, work hard to correct them, and strive to do better. After three or four years, when you talk about marriage, you will have the capital to find an excellent partner.

Take advantage of your period to learn more.

I think you should study well now You have a lot of ideals If you want to be a person who laughs and laughs at the master, you have to endure hardships in the hardships, so concentrate on doing one thing, do one thing you love to do, and write one thing, so that when you have a certain ability and a certain amount of capital, then you will become a strong man with your own business.

People will always face many choices, but the most important thing is to know what you want, I can't help you choose, but I hope you think about it, do you really don't like your current job, or do you have to lose to the burnout period, or simply envy the success of others.

There is a certain premise for doing everything, I think technology, capital, background wheel, these three are the most important, if you feel that your conditions are ripe, you may as well choose to start a business, but more experience is good for yourself, after all, you are now and tomorrow's you, the angle of view is the same, and the idea will not be the same.

There are such a few kinds of people in the unit who are not bullied: leaders (with real power), background, seniority (veterans), and performance. Which one are you?

If there's nothing, what right do you have to fight back? The only thing you can strive for is to improve your work performance, and if possible, try to increase your popularity (others will fight back for you).

Don't look down on the veterans, as long as you have worked in a unit for a long time, you will also be the old man of the unit in the future, and you don't like to be neglected by new employees. Why should we respect the elderly? Because we're going to get old too. It's the same thing.

So, it is advisable that you strive to do your job better, this is the premise. Help other colleagues in your spare time. Respect for leaders and colleagues, and at least superficially respect the people you hate.

Do not participate in chewing tongues between colleagues (many newcomers are not clear about the conflicts between the old people in the unit, and the person you can talk to may be another colleague's sworn enemy). The most important thing to solve the current dilemma is to have special respect for the patriarch you are talking about. The patriarch bullies the newcomer, mostly because he wants to show his qualifications in front of the newcomer, and he wants to save face, so you just give it to her.

This has at least two advantages, one is to reduce her hostility towards you and give you less trouble. The second is that the other person you see may only be on the surface, and when you don't show too much disgust to her, you may be able to discover another real her outside the surface. It's not impossible to turn enemies into friends, and this is what I've learned from my many years of work.

Empathy: If you meet a newcomer who arrives at the unit later than you, and he doesn't bird you, what kind of mood do you have, and what will you do to him?

Know how to be flexible, and the old employees are also from you.

Hello landlord:

Your feelings are the best way to judge him, and if you get along well with each other and you love him, I think that's enough, and other people's words are just gossip.

I think it's not easy for a 31-year-old woman to meet someone with similar conditions to herself, and her friends like it, so you have to grasp it well, and don't let yourself lose the opportunity because of someone else's words.

Happy every day

Hello landlord:

I think what I said downstairs makes sense, but I don't really consider that you don't want to get married from the landlord's feelings, the most important thing is because you don't have too many feelings for him, just because you are 31 years old, and your family and friends put pressure on you, so you will have the idea of getting married, you are not sure whether you really have feelings for that man, or that you are actually forced to want to get married, so, this kind of marriage gives you an unreal feeling, In the end, it is for the sake of marriage, so it is for the sake of marriage, or for the sake of love, so it is necessary to fall in love and get married.

The landlord should figure out for yourself what exactly you want, and then listen to the most authentic answer from the bottom of your heart.

You are confused now, maybe after this point in time, you missed this person, and your confusion will turn into regret. Because you think, you're 31 years old, haven't been in real love, and more selfish, when you really want to talk, maybe meet a person you are particularly excited about, but you don't know how to operate, don't know how to care about each other, and too ego, it's bound that this first paragraph is also going to be over... And then this may be another waste of your time.

Next is more blind dates, choices, entanglements, lost, and then finally feel hopeless and useless about blind dates, and even resist, how much time will be wasted, and you will be more than 30 by then. I'm afraid that the resources will gradually be depleted. What will you do then?

Then you have to find a general who is worse than your own conditions because of your own conditions. That kind of marriage is certainly not what you want. So now this is very good in all aspects, feelings are cultivated, you can interact with him first, experience the taste of love, don't miss him in confusion.

Don't let yourself regret it ...

You should have a good relationship with him for a while, and then you can get married if you can.

First, you're 31 years old, and there's no time to wait.

Second, your parents and friends are very concerned about your affairs, which also shows that your unmarried has caused them to worry. You also said that you don't know how to consider other people's feelings, and maybe your relatives are worried about this every day.

Third, introduced by a friend, there should be no problem with character, this is more practical.

Fourth, he is not bad in all aspects, and he does not force you, you should really think about it, maybe it will be difficult to find such a man if you miss it.

Fifth, you say you don't know what you want, but what you want is a home. Think about what feelings you have for your parents, you don't feel anything when you think about it, and if you think about it, you feel that the relationship with your parents is great love, why is this happening, because love has melted into life, and it is suddenly difficult to detect. You are like this at the moment, you don't seem to know what you want, but when you think about it, you actually need ...... loveDear, good thing

If you don't know if he is what you want, then think about what kind of life or man you don't want, he has more places you hate or more acceptable aspects, addition and subtraction to exclude the next first. But it's still best to ask yourself what kind of life you want, what kind of feelings. Put aside the voices of the outside world and figure out what you really think in your heart, after all, it is 2 people who live their lives.

If you want a stable life, he's a good choice, but if you want love, then he's more bland.

If you don't find a job, don't rush before you start looking for a job, look at what's in the market, see what you have, what you like, or what you can do. My opinion is as follows: 4 points:

1.Interests, for example, when I was in college, I liked to study marketing, and I would buy a lot of marketing books to read, without anyone to supervise and motivate me. When I came out of the job, it was natural for me to work in marketing.

2.Abilities, what you can and can do, and generally related to your past experiences, as well as the resources you have at your disposal now. For fresh graduates, your past experience may come from some club practice or internship experience in college.

Then your ability may be planning ability and organizational ability, please think about whether you have had a similar experience, you will always learn faster and do faster and better than the people around you in a certain field.

3.Talent, I still remember when the teacher taught the pronunciation of the number "five" in the first English class in the first grade of primary school, many people couldn't pronounce the tongue-biting sound, but I read it correctly. When I grew up, my English pronunciation is more standard than ordinary people, and because of the pronunciation standard, I don't need to memorize words when I memorize them, I just need to remember the pronunciation and basically deduce how the word is spelled, so I am much easier and easier than others in terms of word memory.

4.In summary, the most perfect job must be a combination of the three, that is, the job is not only what you like, but also what you can do, and what you are good at. But the reality is often not so perfect, if you take the next step, I suggest that at least two factors must be met, either you like to do, what you are good at, but you don't have the resources or relevant experience for the time being, you can start from low and accumulate.